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I am thankful this year for being able to visit my Love in ICU. Non-covid related, but we're still dealing with the affects. Every neighboring hospital has banned visitors, he still gets 1, only 1. Thankful. Our family may have been exposed, so I have separated myself. Luckily, I am able to do so completely & safely. Thankful. He has been making progress every day (it's day 16). Thankful. He's young, so his body has a lot of fight in it and then some. Thankful. Our support system is transcontinental. Thankful. He can give yes/no responses & basic sign language for needs/wants. Thankful. His team of nurses & doctors are not only caring for him, but giving me self-care advice/ support as well. Thankful. Beds are full, but he has one. Recovery is long, but he's making positive baby steps daily. I don't know how we're going to survive, but countless people have reached out. I can't hug him properly, but he can squeeze my hand and I'm so very thankful for that. I can't wait for extubation & we can fight over orange vs. red jell-o again.
I share this for not to remind people to be thankful for the little things, but instead to remind you be kind. We're all dealing with a lot, and a little kindness makes the the world of difference in our ability to deal with it all.
Thank you.
And to my non-US friends, don't try to make sense of this holiday.
Edit- just want to add: online friends are real friends. Don't let anyone make you feel different. I have brothers across the world I've known for years, and never met. They're real ones keeping us smiling above & beyond. More than most family.
Cat tax.
Seriously, she won't leave me alone.
DeadnCold
That really sucks. Hope he pulls through ok and has a speedy recovery
iamcamp
It'll be a long road, but he's getting the ventilator out today! Thank you
ms1967
Cats are very intuitive. They know when something is wrong. I wish your SO a speedy recovery
iamcamp
Thank you. We rescued her for mental health, SO's idea. Little did we know...
kevinbaken
Watching a loved one on a ventilator is a terrible experience. @OP thinking of you.
iamcamp
This was round 2 in the last week. But he's getting it out today. Dude's a fighter. Thank you
zenule
unrelated to your unfortunate case, I can't believe all these easily offended about everything americans still celebrate thanksgiving..
zenule
it should be a day of mourning, for everyone, for all the crimes our ancestors did.
RetiredLaserMan
Can't you put the jello in the accordion looking part and squish it through? Might work.
iamcamp
The sudden cough/gagging from jello in the lungs stops me. But I think I have a new "ways I wish to die". Take me out with orange :)
Mickey421
The cat isn't leaving you alone because it probably knows whats going on and wants to be your rock for now. Or it's hungry :p
MelodiousDissonance
iamcamp
I was thinking separation anxiety but then she gives me horny meows. My kitten is confused. After he gets out, she's next. Bless her heart
kmikl
Cat is always hungry... but, Cat knows something is up. People have different smells when they're stressed.
Covidnineteen
OPs face looks tasty
TheRealFireFrenzy
@OP "some natives had so much food they shared with us so we wouldnt starve to death" isnt hard to grasp TBH the fuckywucky came later
Shigglebiggleblah
Find a hatch somewhere on the ventilator and pour the jello in. Problem solved.
iamcamp
I chuckled at the dark & twisted thought of what would actually happen if I did this.
Fauxcused
(Hug)
iamcamp
:)
NaClPlatypus
I'm right there with you @OP. She's not on a ventilator, but she's in a rough place. I hope we both get to experience a holiday miracle.
iamcamp
I hope things went well for you & yours this weekend. We got a a few mini-mundane-miracles. If you need an ear, I'm here
DobryPolak
iamcamp
MangoLassi
iamcamp
*hug received*
MangoLassi
buffalowineguy
You posted this, and I'm thankful for the perspective.
iamcamp
I am thankful for you
itzujones1
Your story is sad and beautiful all at the same time, happy thanksgiving and I send my best wishes!
iamcamp
I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving! Thank you!
chap1700
Sending you both lots of love. You sound like a wonderful partner.
iamcamp
I appreciate that. I'm holding on by a thread, but it's a fucking strong thread thanks to everyone that's reached out.
chap1700
Take time for yourself. If you need someone to vent to, don’t hesitate to DM me.
blairsette
Team red jello. I’m non American and saw my husband love this holiday because everyone comes together and cooks together and jokes and...
blairsette
Try to find enough tables weeks before it. It changed significance for me, when I saw people celebrating it in person. Wish you the best!
iamcamp
It's an amazing experience when everyone celebrates together!
CleverPixie
@op I hope he heals fully and swiftly
iamcamp
Thank you. He has a long road of healing, but positive steps are happening every day
TheYodajen
iamcamp
<3
WhereIsMyAppleQuava
Hey @OP. May your partner recovery fully and quickly. Please give your kitteh ear scritches for me.
iamcamp
Instructions unclear, gave my man scritches but results were better than expected. :)
WhereIsMyAppleQuava
Hmmm. Your man is quite lucky. Best wishes to the three of you.
Justtoberight
Even if I was allowed to visit, I honestly wouldn't do it - with covid cases rising. I couldn't bear the thought of potentially being >>
Justtoberight
>> responsible for my loved ones to get worse, or die. Or infecting someone else in the hospital, doctors, nurses, staff, other patients.
Justtoberight
As much as it would pain me to not being able to visit them, there is a very good reason for not allowing visitors.
iamcamp
I fully respect this. It's a hard decision to make, either way you choose. I cut out all other human contact to do this, it's not easy
Justtoberight
I wish you and your partner all the best! <3
pr3viso
Cat's like, umm, about the turkey...
iamcamp
She deserves all the turkeys
DataLady
12/2318 at nearly midnight my husband's lungs failed after starting to recover from pneumonia. He almost coded during the emergency >>
DataLady
Intubation and it took 2.5 hours to stabilize him in ICU. 14.5 days later they extubated and he couldn't move his arms, legs, was confused >
DataLady
But he looked at me and said "I love you". He stacked firewood with our 12 y/o last night. There's hope on the other side. All my love 2 U
iamcamp
That's a beautiful story. Keeping our heads high <3 thank you
SaladinIskander
:( Sorry to hear that, best wishes from Ireland. Be sure to take good care of yourself as well.
nezo
Orange, always orange
iamcamp
Orange is superior.
cookiesandcreams
You are giving me consolation while you need it. That's big.
iamcamp
<3 hope you have a good holiday/ weekend/ whatever you celebrate
Shinigami4th
I will be Doing the same, visiting ny family member in the ICU, im thankful for that i can see him. However the nurses constantly dont wear
Shinigami4th
Thier masks in the hall way and talking to eachother, they will just talk to one another then put a mask on and go into their ICU.
Shinigami4th
It really irritates me as im wearing my mask 24/7. I even slept with mine on. But my family member cannot wear a mask, endangering him.
iamcamp
*hugs* sleeping with a mask, I feel that one. Good luck to you and yours. I'll send virtual glares to your nurses -_-
notacanadianbutilovehockey
Stay strong, next year Thanksgiving will be back to normal and so will he. And the only lousy jello is hospital jello, except red. Red Rules
iamcamp
I'm team orange, but he's team red. I'm going to bring jello to Thanksgiving next year & it'll be our little joke.
notacanadianbutilovehockey
It's ok if you want to be wrong, I won't argue with you. Can we agree, though, that green is awful? I'm sure he'd agree with that, too.
iamcamp
#teamnotgreen I can get behind that