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When you accidentally click on Witcher 3.exe and have to play the entire game for the nth time...
RIP social life
Jan 3, 2020 5:08 PM
FakeSympathy
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2941
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When you accidentally click on Witcher 3.exe and have to play the entire game for the nth time...
RIP social life
NomDeImguerre
That's like saying any computer can program itself.
MammaMak
Damn! That’s good stuff right there.
DisgruntledFerret
The problem is you're the architect, but also the building. That said, I don't approve of the people who give up and wallow in self-pity.
ferretwrestle
But, but, then I can't blame anyone :(
swannye30
Listening to that book now. Some pretty solid advice as long as its implemented. Build those new neural pathways!
tremendousasshole
I can't respect a calendar that's too much of a pussy to say "fuck".
jofo97
hammersquirrel
Libertarian free will does not exist. Your self-generated matrix of reality is the outcome of electrochemical processes in your brain >
hammersquirrel
that you can't control and can only indirectly influence. Drugs help here though
HankHell2400
Just complete the tutorial area. The rest of the game is that repeated for 60 to 100 hours, just with different dialogue.
mullinsmark007
Just started my 3rd play through. Might have to change my build. It's so op right now the game isn't as fun.
LogicAndEmpathyOverGod
"Every emotional state is a self-generated matrix of reality" = The way you feel. "No one is making you do it. You are the architect"= Stop
WineIsNoice2
shame that this isn't correct
summershank
I bought this same calendar for my gf
KindaSilly
How about someone who is a sex slave?? Or being molested by a sick relative, etc
TakeTheStairs
that is horrible, what about it?what makes you think that's what the text is talking about
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KindaSilly
The architect... I was a prisoner.
KindaSilly
I’m saying this from personal experience. I was raped for 5 years as a child. I wasn’t the
KindaSilly
I wasn’t the architect.... I was a prisoner.
zenmaster11
I like these posts. Going through a rough time and they help a bit :)
Wearegrid2
Don't get me wrong, take responsibility for your actions and feelings, but that also means recognizing what influences come form outside.
CaptAmazo
People don't have control over their emotions. They have controls over their actions.
CrusherOfCities
I bet you could make yourself really sad if you tried. While it's silly to say things like "stop being sad", there are legitimate skills 1/2
CrusherOfCities
2/2 in mental and emotional resilience people can practice to help keep emotional moments from spiraling out of control.
gassersdontmakeaccidents
madeinmemphis
Cure your mental health problem with this SIMPLE trick. What a bunch of shit
Skumbo
TakeTheStairs
who said it was about a "mental health problem" ? everyone deals with emotions all day long
MyBigMouth
NotAHugeSpider
PoopyProblem5
Can someone change this so that all the screens are upvotes? Thank you in advance ?
JupitersWitch
Emotions are a chemical reaction to your environment. Not everyone's pistons are firing correctly.
AntigravityHamster
And sometimes they're firing perfectly fine and it's entirely valid for them to feel what they do.
blarglebrle
How many times can an asshole punch you in the face before you admit the asshole made you mad, and that there wasn't a choice to not react?
TheRicM
I agree with the boxing guy
TakeTheStairs
there certainly is a choice of how to react and whether or not to react. this post doesn't say you CANNOT react.
TakeTheStairs
do you think boxers get "mad" every time they get punched? how many times have you heard that anger clouds judgement?
jellybeandaddyjl
Ooh, this should be one of those hard pill memes. Folks just love being trainwrecks and do little to change lol.
Occationalrickroll
GodsFoot
Not if I have anything to say about it
YesImkazuma
Determined defeatism. "I will fail. I must fail! It is MY DESTINY!" *Bombs test with anime eyes*
mmonk
People that share shit like this should have their kneecaps broken, only to be told that pain is just in their head.
Grimdude
It's to appeal to people who haven't really struggled. It makes them feel superior while reinforcing that other people don't try hard enough
copperdomebodhi
Emotions are instinctive. You can regulate them some. "You're sad because you choose to be sad, not because your dog died," is B.S.
LogicAndEmpathyOverGod
In other words "Just don't be sad". Isn't that the biggest ass hole statement that anyone with depression hates to hear? But in nicer words
bigassballs1
I don't think that's the message at all. It is a true statement. Whether chemical or by virtue of external forces that form that matrix.
danamania
Kind of. It used to feel like it was only complete cunts who'd say that. Then I experienced it and was all "oooooh ok it does work that way"
MokiYoki
I don't think most people can do it though. We have access to the control panel. But most never will.
BorgClown
Guys, you don't have to be mentally ill to have negative attitudes; like not asking out someone you love out of fear of rejection.
NightmareHorrorStoriesForAdultTypePeople
Eh, the above is a gentle reminder that it can be done. "Just don't be sad" implies that it is also easy.
NightmareHorrorStoriesForAdultTypePeople
This is why English pisses me off sometimes - just because two phrases are nearly synonymous, doesn't mean the intended message is the same.
NightmareHorrorStoriesForAdultTypePeople
For example: "You're shit!" / "You're the shit!"
GreenNotTheColor
it's like saying "Your parents are dead? Hey, no one is making you sad but you."
EF5Cyniclone
Since it says "No one is making you do it", I take it more as a reminder that other people aren't responsible for your emotions. I know 1/?
EF5Cyniclone
a few people who have some pretty unhealthy tendencies in relationships to hold the other person responsible for how they feel. Sometimes 2/
EF5Cyniclone
it kind of borders on, or slides over into emotional abuse/manipulation, but I'm not sure it's conscious. 3/3
SephReed
Thought is a reaction to feeling, not the other way around
Wearegrid2
Your thoughts don't exist. Your brain is just tricking you into thinking they do. True facts. You even have two people in your head.
TakeTheStairs
thats not at all what theyre getting at
Renafoxtrot
Yeah it is. Hey don't be depressed, pick yourself up by your bootstrap. you control the chemical doses in your brain, don't you?
bookslap
It’s really not. His book/work is coaching for typical adult problems, and it’s not meant to address mental disorders.
Thefluffernutter
Then maybe he should stay away from absolutely like “EVERY emotional state”
bookslap
Fair enough. Colloquialisms do get people into trouble.
LogicAndEmpathyOverGod
"Every emotional state is a self-generated matrix of reality" = The way you feel. "No one is making you do it. You are the architect"= Stop
TakeTheStairs
I feel like your "=stop" is completely out of place in this example. how is reminding you that you are in creative control, i.e: a call 1/2
TakeTheStairs
2/2 to action. how is a call to action the same as "just stop". its the opposite
ElectricAEsahaettr117
Very interesting way to look at emotions. I feel like your mind has to be aware of it's power to control them, but it's still hard though.
SonOfSanguinus
First you have to accept the idea that you're able to control them, a lot of people tend to deny it, next step is to make the mind aware
BigMack
No fucks to give!
YOURFRIEND2010
Disingenuous way to look at emotions. This attitude kills people with suicidal ideation. It's mostly chemicals with coping mechanisms
Karelmakazi
When viewed in isolation maybe but backed up by philosophy, and mindfulness it definitely helps you avoid holes you'd have fallen into.
Karelmakazi
Also the fucking hardest thing you'll ever do, and that aspect gets overlooked when in aphorism form.
gluttonygreedpridewrathslothlustenvy
I can rationalize my emotions and I can control my behaviours, but I have no way to influence when the waves of emptiness roll in.
SonOfSanguinus
You can control what you make of them and whether you work to change from them
VikingZoidberg
Yeah, no. You don't have that kind of control when you have pathological lacks of signal substances making you feel like shit most of time
attofreak
It's nice and all, to see things this way. But when you are dealing with assholes on a daily basis, or petty office politics, it is not>
attofreak
a given that "controlling ones state of mind #zen" is going to solve anything. World is much more complicated and messy than these>
attofreak
excessively idealistic _hypotheses_ we construct about reality with little to no statistical backing.
bookslap
There’s a great deal of research happening on mindfulness as an exploration of this very thing.
attofreak
It was even being used to help kids who witnessed 9/11 to learn to calm their minds. That's science. This kind of post is just empty words.
ElectricAEsahaettr117
I agree. Trying to control reactions helps though. Btw, I'm a bit of an attofreak too bc I work in attosecond science.
attofreak
smellsmiketeenspirit
Except it's totally wrong. You can't totally control your emotions but you can control what you make of them.
ElectricAEsahaettr117
I know several people with bipolar. Mood their swings can't be controlled. And you can't control the sadness from a death of a loved one1/ 2
ElectricAEsahaettr117
But many situations like when someone is snappy to you, you can choose to not get angry over the petty behavior, or you can react. 2/2
ProfitMajin
Surely on a chemical level the reaction is the same, it's the response which is being controlled
operasally
Once an idea enters focus chemicals start to take over. I think the difficulty is chemistry.
TakeTheStairs
but you can control that. that's what the post is talking about. it takes some practise/will, but its entirely possible, ppl do it everyday
operasally
Please read my response to Greeze. I think it might help people understand my thought.
NdotGreeze
You need to realize that every thought you have conception-beginning-end is all just neurochemistry. Youre really just a bag of reactions
TakeTheStairs
but you can control that. that's what the post is talking about. it takes some practise/will, but its entirely possible, ppl do it everyday
operasally
I agree with you. Time and practice cures it. The issue is conditioning. Many people suffer from traumatic life events/upbringing ...
operasally
Reactions to situations can be automatic, fierce, & debilitating. Practice can be a herculean exercise. Misery is awful and prison-like.
operasally
To everyone who reads this and suffers, know that the very act of thinking about your pain is commendable. You are strong and wonderful.
ThailandExpress
Grimdude
THAT'S the word I was looking for. Thank you.
attofreak
A dirty band-aid, if you will
Skumbo
TakeTheStairs
"you are the architect" i.e: you are in control of the design...hardly sounds thought-terminating
bookslap
This guy’s work is not about mental disorders or abuse, it’s for more typical daily meditation-style processing.
bookslap
It would be dangerous if packaged as a treatment for depression, PTSD, etc. But it’s not, and people shouldn’t confuse it as such.
bikergeek6249
"Have you tried just ... not being depressed?"
Cheomesh
It's your fault that you are upset when I abuse you. You are in control of that emotion.
TakeTheStairs
the short statement never discredited emotions. it just pointed out that they happen in a space that you, solely you, have control over.
smellsmiketeenspirit
If you had control over that space they wouldn't "happen".
TakeTheStairs
to not have emotions would not be human. Everyone HAS emotions, its what you let them do to you that you are in control of. read up on 1/2
plaguegremlin
Not when the chemicals happen.
TakeTheStairs
if I feel I am getting angry, and decide its not worth it, and I stop being angry, I am controlling those chemicals.