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It really is easy to get into the habit of saying these things and discouraging people who are trying to change. There are so many posts on here about people struggling with social situations/interactions, and I’m sure I’m not the only who has been on the receiving end of these types of comments. Help others help themselves.
taliesan
As an introvert that hits home.
MsDifficulty
always heard, "IT'S ALIVE", "this is called the living room , ok? And that's outside", "welcome to the working world"... piss off
TheRealGuyFieri
Damn
Online1234
I never though about this. I may be guilty with my daughter. Thanks for this. Ill practice it.
beaverface
I’ve never thought of it like this. I need to do better, thanks @op.
Sajer
Ah look one of the reasons I no longer interact with my family.
Totallydiggit
We should start a club...
PehhhpaPig
Well, that and Imgur
towelshop
You're not alone there.
OtterlyMagnificent
I still interact with mine, but then I live with them. I'm perfectly happy staying in my room, on my computer for hours over going out.
whyfadeadream
Happening to me rn
Imalwaysstumpedatthispoint
My youngest sister is very introverted, and my family does the first one to her all the time, despite how often I've talked to them about it
stovku
“You’ve finally decided to come out of your cave?” Nice, I’m going to go back in there now thanks.
crazybean2000
This hits a little too close to home
kodiak931155
I see you've FINALLY decided to join us. Why cant you do this all the time..... ya cunt
GentleBen1901
Are you Scottish?
CaptainGrowler
See this seems encouraging.
blacktoenail
in 7th grade I came home with my report card super excited that, despite a couple of D's, I hadn't failed any classes for the first time >
stovku
I got a solid B on my first test in college and my moms reaction when I called her was “oh no... what happened?”
blacktoenail
> since 4th grade. but when I told my dad, he said "uhh that's still a pretty poor report card." which was true, of course, but I was twelve
IKnowYouHateMeYes
I would say that's not a bad thing. There's a difference between just being a cunt and not spoiling your kids. Your father should have 1/2
IKnowYouHateMeYes
2/2 dealt with it better but he didn't do anything wrong per say
SomeOneYouMayKnowOrNot
Shit, not failing is something to celebrate. Good on you for making it through.
SoniqueTui
In 8th I got a B on a test I didn't study for and was kinda proud I absorbed so much, but was told I should have gotten an A... I gave up.
skylin05
I know that feel. I was mostly an A's student but I still got B's here and there. There was never any praise for the A's. Just admonishment
skylin05
for the B's.
skylin05
And the one time I got a D in my senior year of hs it was like I murdered someone.
ellert0
Had a brother who'd get 2 and 3s (out of 10 where passing is 5) on tests and I usually managed 8 - 10. One day after tests at school...
APenguinInATuxedo
"wow, you got up early for once! You! I never thought I'd see it! Next thing you're gonna tell me you want a healthy snack!' How to make
APenguinInATuxedo
Your kid never want to get up early it ask for a healthy snack
FilYouWithMe
Story of my life. I became a shut in because that's how it felt when I wanted to be a part of something. But then when you're an adult, it/1
FilYouWithMe
Becomes more of a bullying situation for you to socialize. I've been accused of drug addiction just because I was bad at talking to people!
Huldra
Yes this! Its why Im removing myself from some of my "friends".
eion85
Positive reinforcement: it works for dogs and people.
PleaseDisperseNothingToSeeHere
Praise Pavlov!
ImJustaDudePlayingAnotherDude
Hey, crazy things I’d do for a Scooby Snack!
CaptainQuarkk
People don't like feeling as though they are a nuisance and a failure? Crazy.
lawlschool88
The carrot works way better than the stick
theUnicornsfearglitter
And cats!
Marbra89
Ha you believe that, the cat is fooling you for fun.
RyanBlackwing
randelung
https://qph.ec.quoracdn.net/main-qimg-cf1f51b5aa205bc10e486f320c277c58-c
TheJollyGreenGiant
Yay for knowledgeable people and infographics! You wouldn't happen to be a behavior analyst?
randelung
No, just remembered this from imgur since I, too, once thought it meant something else. :P
TheJollyGreenGiant
Well cool! Thanks for spreading correct information! I love this stuff and there's tons of misinformation and misguided opinions out there
LumberZach117
I have to deal with this sort of thing all the time.. most of the time its lated out like a joke or something but it just feels bad man.
specialistobvious
Never thought of this till now... I've done it to people as well as happened to me, nice to learn things.
ImHereToExplainTheJoke
"So you've decided to join us?" I did, but now I'm deciding not to, since you decided you had to be a dick about it. - Actual convo with dad
FNHuskys
As a Dad. I gotta do better at this.
astraecat
As a daughter who felt terribly shamed by these comments, and has social anxiety, you wouldn't believe what a difference it makes.
LizardsInTheSky
Girlfriend's host sister suffered from major depression. She got up in time for school and actually started getting ready, which was really
LizardsInTheSky
abnormal and quite incredible. Her mom started lecturing her about not doing laundry right, and she went right back to bed. Didn't move all
LizardsInTheSky
day. Girlfriend was pissed at the mom for a while.
Cindex1337
Yeah DAD
HohHoho
'So finally you left your room' 'why won't you meet up with fiends?' 'why your friends are so weird?'always something wrong,deep in paranoia
nirach
I do not do well with actively seeking out other people, friend or family. It bugs me when I get this kind of response. I'm trying, alright?
jSquar3
Wow, I hadn't thought about how this affected me growing up. Or if I might be doing it to others. I'll try and be more mindful, thank you.
wikideenu
Same!
JudgeNotByTheColorOfOnesSkinButByTheContentsOfOnesDumps
My friends constantly did similar stuff. It makes you feel so small doesn't it?
battlepants
This is why I try to end every rare interaction with "it was good to see you" or some variant (and usually a hug).
JamieSmyth
My entire fucking life is like this with my parents. Why can't you look pretty all the time? You'd have a nice figure if you lost weight...
JamieSmyth
Thank you for doing the thing I asked...but I shouln't have to ask you...
IamNotFunnyNeitherIsMyUserName
Never call a shy kid shy. I hated that and it made me even more self conscious.
Islandace
Same, messed with the way I viewed myself and I ended up avoiding social things cuz that's not something a "shy girl" would do. So stupid
IamNotFunnyNeitherIsMyUserName
I still avoid social functions, not that I'm so shy any more. More along the lines of that I don't know how to carry a conversation.
EastonGirl1
I knew there was a reason I never wanted to tell my parents about the things i finally got around to doing.....
klystron2010
So when will you FINALLY get out of your cave and tell them FOR ONCE?
JamieSmyth
I haven't told my family I want to start an Etsy shop. They'll just discourage me with "realistic expectations"
EastonGirl1
Then don’t tell them! You open that Etsy shop and you be proud of yourself! And if you need anyone to be happy and root for you, I will! (1)
EastonGirl1
So stoked and excited for you to peruse this dream of yours! You can do the thing! (2)
JamieSmyth
Thank you so much! *saves gif for future inspiration*
Huldra
I wanna shove this in some of my familymembers faces. Also send it to some "friends' with shittons of stupid glitter. People dont get this.
Huldra
Just yesterday I got shit from a former friend. Appwarantly Im boring because I decided to stop with alchol and care about myself. +
Huldra
Always snarky comments like mentioned in the post and making me feel like shit. Im over it and this persom aint important to me now. +
Huldra
Hope he remembers that when he realize he got noone to help when shit really hits the fan and his stick with his dumbass drinkingfriends.
Fejerro
I hadn't considered this. My oldest turns 8 next month, getting to the age where these little things matter. Anyone got other gems to share?
Misfire5150
It's only a matter of time before they fuck something up. Beat them preemptively to make up for the times you don't catch them.
Mikeiller
Don't cuss in front of them if you don't want them to cuss.
unaskedtabitha
My husbands parents and my parents never ever swore in front of us... we both swear like fucking sailors and can’t seem to fuckin stop
AmaIthea
If you need to have serious or awkward chats do it in the car. Especially when they are old enough to sit in front with you. Mum did with us
AmaIthea
It's good cos you don't need to look at each other but had the comfort of being close; & long silences are normal in a car & they cant leave
WrongUn
Teach them not to interrupt/talk over one if people are in the middle of a conversation. It's very disrespectful
BrazilianThunderPanda
If you’re talking, you’re not listening. And make sure to actually listen. That you’re not just forming your next thought in to a sentence.
LeelasBoots
Don't be passive aggressive. Give clear expectations. I'm in so much therapy because my parents were p.a.
FemaleINTJ
My mom always says "See this is why you didn't need therapy, I raised you well." I probably need therapy, i just won't go...
AmaIthea
Or sarcastic.... unless their teenagers.
josethemailman
Make sure you say "I love you" without any attachments to it. My mom would only say it after she was correcting me for misbehaving.
AmaIthea
Husbands family would punish, then give cuddles and love yous to easy the parents guilt...and they wondered why the kids were little shits.
josethemailman
"I love you but..." made me misbehave even more because that's the only time I heard the term.
neverendingbreadstick
I got a lot of "I love you, but I don't always like you."
AmaIthea
Loving is easy. Liking is hard. But dear God don't actually say it to your kids!?
awesomeinabox1234360
Don't compare them to other people's kids or compare your parenting to other's. Because kids are different and no matter how well they do 1/
DaniBlueEyes
Yes! My cousin got pregnant first and my dad said "that's one more thing she beat you at" jokingly but still..
awesomeinabox1234360
In school or sports, they'll feel like a failure because they can't live up to your comparisons. 2
nauticalmouse23
This happened a lot in middle/high school with one girl in particular. Grew to slightly despise her over it. Mom still denies she did this.
JurassicJamie
I'd like to add since he's the oldest, don't label the kids or compare siblings to each other. I was 1/
JurassicJamie
the "smart one", my sister the "pretty one". To us that meant I was the ugly one and she was the dumb one. Takes a toll on self esteem.
complainsabouteverythingpmuch
Program them with a code phrase that, when uttered, turns them into highly skilled assassins ready to defend your honour at moment's notice.
AmaIthea
NotAnIroningBoard
When they're doing something, don't tell them to do the thing they're doing. God damn if that thing won't get done then.
Onlypostcuteness
So annoying. I don't want to do the thing after you tell me i should be doing it when I am in the process of the doing the thing.
DaniBlueEyes
Don't do something for one gender that you wouldn't do for the other. [Ex)My brother got condoms, I got a promise ring, and later an STI]
Fahargo
? Did you not know what a condom was by the time you had sex?
DaniBlueEyes
Didn't know how to put one on a dude, or be comfortable getting them or making him wear one. Didn't know how to take care of myself sexually
Onlypostcuteness
My brothers got great financial advice and training from my dad. He ignored me and let my mom teach me. She stole my money and taught habits
Onlypostcuteness
Bad habits* by 21 I had 3 credit cards one closed, sent to collections, ruined my credit, and she still took my money. She had total control
dasklaus
When they (finally) do something right, don't adjust your expectations immediately. When they worked hard to get it right, they don't 1/
dasklaus
necessarily get it right always from now on, and it's another way of punishing success. Also, take note what helps them and what doesn't. 2/
dasklaus
Not all kids work the same and you can't work from a checklist in parenting. And something more personally dear for me: listen when they 3/
dasklaus
say something hurts. A child that constantly complains might constantly be in pain instead of whiny. Don't attribute everything to 4/
subluxate
My mom: "You're such a hypochondriac!" Got diagnosed with a genetic disorder at 20 as a result. Still have to force myself to go to doctors.
dasklaus
personality when circumstances might actually be different. 5/5
PimpernelBlue
Speaking from experience, this is a huge time for the development of hobbies that'll really mean something to them their whole lives.
FemaleINTJ
When you tell them to pick a hobby, then don't let them do their first 3 choices, don't get annoyed when they dont want to go to the 4th...
PimpernelBlue
Make sure they're able to access a wide variety of enriching activities, especially stuff outside of their sphere of normal experience.
Somethingsneaky
This explains so much.
TheEdmontonMan
They've mattered for some time, most youths form about 90% of their personalities by around age 12
technicolorgirls
Your kid is going to start having opinions of their own that vary from yours,that doesn't mean they are wrong.Don't punish them for autonomy
dasklaus
Let's be fair, usually they are actually wrong. But you should still let them be wrong ("I think that's wrong because X, but you do you")
technicolorgirls
For sure! I think a big problem with todays youth that I had growing up is being more liberal- prochoice, LGBT, healthcare, etc, 1/2
technicolorgirls
2/2 That parents might disagree with- but your kid is a person! And they'll have different thoughts and make different choices than you did.
dasklaus
Disagreement should be okay. You don't have to be happy about your kid's choices, but respect them if they're not harmful. 1/
CrazyLikeEd
Teach them that feeling emotions is okay, what matters is how to respond appropriately to emotions.
DerpyMcDerper
But you also need to teach them how to respond to emotions, otherwise the phrase is meaningless
gabiinunderland
Please. This. I'm 24 and I can't express feelings to save my life, I can't even tell my mother I love her or hug her without feeling weird.
slully
how does one begin to show and respond to emotions...
Iamthemonkeymansowhatevercats
One of the biggest things my Dad taught me was that it's ok to feel / be sad as a man. Something some of my friends still haven't learned.
ecchanQueen
I wish I could give you endless upvotes. The culture of "grin and bear it" is deadening.
SheenaIsAPunk
Definitely this! My mother was brought up as "if you show any emotion you get beat" but as her child she tries her absolute best to show it.
hyperpiston
Definitely important! Like it's okay to get angry or upset or frustrated, it's not okay to take that out on others.
BrazilianThunderPanda
Please try not to associate responding to emotions with food. “Winning we get pizza! Losing we get Ice Cream!” It’s so hard to unlearn. >>
BrazilianThunderPanda
ESPECIALLY losing/disappointment. Nothing makes you feel better like the worst kinds of food. Undoing that association is terrible.
APenguinInATuxedo
Don't tell her she's wierd, even jokingly or affectionately. It still hurts. You know everyone else thinks you're wierd, but you never
Heysuckmybatarang
Eh that's case by case. My parents called me weird all the time. I was and am. But they said it in a way that was taken as acceptance.
APenguinInATuxedo
Thought your parents saw you that way
RosiePosiePuddinNPie
I was always told that if I wasn't weird they would be worried, which made me feel better about how weird I am, lol.
dragonprotocol
Let them have their privacy and don't break it unless you think they might be causing themselves harm. My parents would constantly go (1)
KellyCrazyCatLadyinTraining
My mom literally tore a page out of my journal within hours of finding out i had a journal. My mom has anxiety that makes her irrational.
dragonprotocol
I think my mother had some kind of mental disorder as well, but after some surgeries + medications she mellowed out. We get along well now
dragonprotocol
Dad on the other hand took the opposite path and got progressively more abusive and crazy. We don't talk much.
drmcfacekick
THIS. My parents were amazing but goddamn my mom would just waltz into my room whenever the hell she wanted. I'm 35 and still have bad-
drmcfacekick
dreams about never ever having any privacy, ever. Show your kid(s) the same respect for their privacy you'd want them showing you!
Onlypostcuteness
I'm 31. When my mom comes over she makes it her mission to Go in my room and look around. Even if the door is closed. It pisses me off.
dragonprotocol
Through my stuff as punishment for other deeds, then punish me for whatever they found there they didn't like. I would draw a lot and (2)
dragonprotocol
A lot of drawing is anatomy so I would get in trouble for drawing "naked" people. Always ask if you can see their stuff + explain why, I say
dragonprotocol
The experience turned me into an extremely private and untrusting person and a good liar lol
SexuallyAwkwardDonkey
A good liar? Pfft you think I'll believe that
Onlypostcuteness
Same here. Lying became another self defense mechanism. I still lie to them when I don't need to, just to avoid what they have to say.
SomeDetroitGuy
Teach them that sometimes people will be cruel to them for no reason. It happens to everyone. It's not their fault.
FriscoeHotsauce
For fucks sake, teach them masturbating is okay and a natural urge. It's gonna happen before you're rwady, don't freak out and make them
FriscoeHotsauce
Repress that shit, it can fuck up a kid for years.
SugarGliderSneezes
Never ever say "can you just grow up"
Jabberwotchi
Have the sex talk before 9-10, before his/her friends can misinform them. Right now they dont know to be embarrassed, it'll open a door>
Jabberwotchi
>that will usually slam closed when they hit teens. If they're curious or scared about something they'll come to you about it if you're open
elfearlightcouncil3000
Plus that lays the groundwork for more in depth conversations later. One of the things they did right with me.
GreenYawgmoth
Positive reinforcement is always stronger than ANY punishment. Encourage good behavior and you will hardly ever need to worry about the bad.
WhatAreYouStalkingAbout
If you guys ever have kids, and one of them, when he's eight years old, accidentally sets fire to the living room rug... go easy on him.
DragonsinGeldern
Build their life skills - cooking, laundry, etc. Be their training wheels while you're around so they don't flounder when they move out.
NonConformistFlamingo
If your kid does turn out to be an introvert, don’t try to change them. Some people are naturally more solitary, and that’s okay.
unaskedtabitha
What do you do if you’re the introvert and they’re the social butterfly??
macncheeseme
Try, for your kid :) I hated having to socialize with all the parents, but kiddo always wanted bday parties and playdates, so we did that.
dickcCheeseRunner
Gems to share?? Why are you breeding???
ThogGreatThinker
When they make a mistake, teach them to fix it and apoligize properly if they cant. Getting angry is pointless
MikaCvijet
On that note, lead by example when it comes to apologizing. I only heard dismissive "sorry"s in passing.
AmaIthea
"I'm sorry for.... next time I will....." and if you make a mistake or get angry apologise properly to them too.
Macewindow54
Teach them it’s okay to fail. But don’t reward them for it. Don’t string them along with small prizes instead teach them to push for bigOnes
rooik14
"Because I said so" should be a phrase reserved for actual crisis situations. Otherwise it'll just breed resentment and mistrust.
SlightlyMoreAppropriateUsername
Punishing hard when they come clean about something will teach them that truth I'll be punished and liying rewarded
imachikenlol
This one is a little weird but hear me out. Teach your culture, let 'em try new things and experience them. 1
imachikenlol
I for one wasn't really shown stuff because I was too white. My mom's culture sees white people as outcasts and its sad. 2
imachikenlol
I was always excluded from cultural stuff and treated differently because of that despite my passion to learn about it. So yeah, do that. 3
Fotographer2be
12 hour rule they can call & you will get them from whatever bad situation they are in & you promise not to yell/punish - create safe space
MikaCvijet
Can you please explain the '12 hour rule'? I've heard of something similar, never with any hours attached. I am now confused.
Fotographer2be
Kid agrees to call you to get them from unsafe situation and you agree not to yell, punish or even discuss it for at least 12 hours
Iamthemonkeymansowhatevercats
1/ One of the most formative experiences of my life was when I was growing up racing karts (the real, $4k, 45mph kind) and I jumped out in
Iamthemonkeymansowhatevercats
3/ got hurt and bruised his leg badly. Rather than get mad at me (I already was crying and knew I fucked up) he sat down with me and calmly
Iamthemonkeymansowhatevercats
2/ a hurry to get back to the grid and forgot to shut the motor off, here goes my kart careening towards a fence and my Dad stopped it but
Iamthemonkeymansowhatevercats
4/ explained how no matter what hurry I was in, I needed to be safe. At 11yo, that shit sunk in like a brick in a pool. Remember that.
Ladydeth68
Gratz on the great dad!
Iamthemonkeymansowhatevercats
He is great. As In my mid-20s I've realized some bad things but it's like meeting your hero. Still great, but you realize they're human
nesurame
Give your child small choices like what color plate they want,
stonedrunkdoctor
Spitters are quitters
WHEREARETHETUURTLES
Raise them to be happy. Let them have fun. Please, from somebody who never had these things growing up, let them have an actual childhood.
bizzarotime
Awards efforts and not results. I struggled immensely in math and was called stupid when I failed. After weeks of trying. I stop trying.
Onlypostcuteness
Same here. I would be in tears. My dad would get mad at me, call me stupid, and leave me to figure it out. I never did. I get panic attacks
Onlypostcuteness
When I was in math or someone asked me a simple math problem. My brain froze, and I could never do it. I felt even dumber. Even as an adult!
bizzarotime
When fractions and percentages send you into panic attacks, you know your fucked. Find X...FIND X!? ARE YOU TRYING TO KILL ME?!
Onlypostcuteness
Just trying to make change was impossible. As a cashier it was my biggest fear to have someone give me extra after the drawer calculated.
bizzarotime
Me too. Its not even the math, its the panic and self guessing.
IKnowYouHateMeYes
Award both things. The trying is great but results still matter
bizzarotime
This is true too but I believe also children need to learn failure is an outcome. And not the end of the world. To continue to try.
IKnowYouHateMeYes
Of course.
Dingus2
Your job is not to control how they are kids, it's to teach them how to become adults.
helpidontknowmyname
Don't show them how to do things. Ask them what they think might work, then keep working with them til they feel like they got it themselves
helpidontknowmyname
Obviously, not for tying shoes. But for legos, drawing, clay, exploring, hammer/nailing, creative or scientific stuff. Teaches prob solving.
MikaCvijet
3) say yes and I didn't know. Why would I lie to a parent and say yes?
MikaCvijet
2) Also tell them when they get it right. I was told "well, do you think it's right?" but never got confirmation because they wanted me to
MikaCvijet
Tip: Take breaks and offer help if it's causing the child distress. I hated math because my parents wanted me to figure it all out alone.
helpidontknowmyname
Absolutely agree. Math is not a readily self taught skill. Was talking more about critical thinking, not math probs. Frustration kills :(
MikaCvijet
It's wonderful advice. I think it could've been helpful even with math to an extent, just needs to be applied with caution.
Ramphasto
Practice redirection! If a child is doing something they shouldnt be, instead of screaming NO at them redirect them to do something you want
AmaIthea
"Positive framing" so instead of saying "DON'T jump in puddles" say "I'd like you to stay clean please"
squintish
Don't run with scissors.
IAmTheOneCuttingTheOnions
dont use guilt tripping as a way to get them to to something. My dad always conciously guilts me when I dont want something, saying things--
IAmTheOneCuttingTheOnions
- along the lines of "you'll regret this when I'm gone". like dad no i just wanted to chill in my room for some hrs before guests arrived
HappyPetunia
Varied experience is important, but so is persistence. Have them have 1 hobby/sport/whatever that they have to stick to for at least a year.
Merpower
Sometimes kids will need space. Part of the issue I have with my folks is that they never really backed off and let me experience things.1/2
Merpower
Also if your kid comes out to you, please accept them. As someone who lives a different life around them, it'll just get them to lie to you
Huevos
If your kid tells you something secret or embarrassing, do NOT laugh about it/ share it with your friends. My mother would call her (1/2)
Huevos
friends and laugh about my insecurities not knowing I was in earshot. It broke my trust and hurt me deeply; never told her secrets again 2/2
girlyli
JapAnus
Stock up on tissues and knock when the door's closed
unaskedtabitha
F mine is 8 with ADHD.. whole new can of worms that we don’t know how to manage- yet. We’re working on it
unaskedtabitha
I meant “F” as in “following... mine blah blah” sorry if that reads wrong.
stonedrunkdoctor
Yea most parents are stuck for 18 years... u might be stuck for 28-38. If u can keep em outta trouble and prevent a failure to launch u win
Hoptimonium
Lead by example: be kind, patient, loving, encouraging, be firm, but reasonable. Explain the logic of your decisions. Reward good behavior.
ClitKicker87
Don’t freak out when he tries opening up to you only to freak out 8 years later when he doesn’t open up to you
Chadderz
Telling the truth and punishment. "I broke a lamp and admitted it". They should then be told "you're being punished but remember that /2
Chadderz
This punishment would have been a lot worse if you had lied. I'm very proud of you for being honest"....
PleaseDisperseNothingToSeeHere
Learn basic psychology stuff like classical conditioning & teach them to do cost/benefit analyses on everything automatically in their heads
5tudentLoans
That failure is a good way to learn if you are committed to getting back up and trying again
BrazilianThunderPanda
W/ this, let them fail As a parent your reaction will be to fix things. But for somethings let em fail so they can see where they went wrong
BrazilianThunderPanda
*Obviously not big things or where safety is concerned.
sonofthebat
Anger is meant for problems, not people. (Most people anyway.)
MikaCvijet
Fuck. I didn't know I needed to hear this, now I'm writing it down in case I need a reminder.
MikaCvijet
Thank you.
Alicecold
Do not censor jokes/talk about alcohol, sex and other "adult" stuff.
Alicecold
I had like 2000 questions about sex between age 10-15, and someone that I actually dared to ask b/c Mum never hide how babies are made.
Assfullofbread
Don't punch your kids I think is a good one
Schneesturm
Usually, yeah.
Schneesturm
Usually, yeah.
awesomeinabox1234360
Don't guilt them for not being happy with you by telling them how much stuff you've given them, cuz then it feels they're just expenses
elfearlightcouncil3000
OH MY GOD my parents still won't shut up sometimes about what an expensive school they sent me to as a kid. Really makes the part where I 1/
elfearlightcouncil3000
2/ wasn't able to concentrate enough to get as much as they expected out of it a lot harder to think about even now, and then too.
endersjeesh
Teach your kids how to cook. Spend time with them. Give space when needed. Show up to activities & support interests. Admit when ur wrong.
down2stars
Bodily autonomy. Don't force them to hug/kiss people. Give them privacy changing/bathing. Don't tickle them if they don't fucking like it.
IKnowYouHateMeYes
In many cultures, the kiss on the cheek is considered good manners.
oggbhl
Yup. Latino here and even though I'm an introvert, I kiss most of my aunts and grandmas since I'm used to it.
NZSheeps
That includes Uncle Pete?
gabiinunderland
Especially Uncle Pete.
SomeDetroitGuy
This!!
jermbly
This! Laughing is an involuntary response to tickling. Stop if they say stop, even if they're laughing, and teach them to do the same.
dasklaus
"But you're laughing!" my father said and continued, while I cried. Then he sulked because I was angry.
Ladydeth68
You're not alone, buddy, it made owning your own body, and learning to say 'no touchie' much harder.
AlcoholicsAnonymousBYO
If you tell them "I can tell what you're thinking before you even think it" be prepared to be taken literally. Like, really literally.
shetookeverything
About time you posted this
LadyNetrex
imabigbadvisioninspace
Been waiting for you to make a contribution to the world. Better late than never
Entourage
Finally...
firekiri
theboringusername
MostLikelyNotWearingPants
@shetookeverything probably
EliMFrost
PoisonPea
manolyk23
80percentlegs
Grade A comment right here. Keep it up, champ.
VaticanCameozz
Is there a joke here? Can someone explain it?
BAzV
As in: “Finally, you decided to post this”
Fumoufu
BYERE