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Earlier today I asked him if he's happy with me.. he ignored that question for the rest of the day. I then said I loved him very much and wanna be with him for the rest of my life...he says nothing back.
Later he comes home, quiet and awkward... I then build up enough courage and asks why he's been ignoring my question. He plays dumb. I keep asking why he won't answer and finally... he says he's not happy being in a relationship with me... I asked if I did something wrong. He says nothing, everything's perfect and ideal, I mean we just moved in a great apt, have three pets, we have everything we could've asked for... yet he's unhappy with me.
We got back together a year ago after a one month break and he says he was trying to be happy with me... but I don't see why he's kept me in the dark for so long... I thought we were gonna be together forever, get married, have kids, grow old together... guess not. So I feel like the fucking idiot always talking about our future like, "we" this, "us" that, blah blah. FUCKING NONSENSE AND TO THINK all of our times spent together... MEANT NOTHING TOWARDS HIM.
My heart is in a million pieces right now and I can't sleep. I don't know what to do. I love him so much. If we broke up I'd have nowhere to go. My mom left a long time ago, doesn't even try to keep in touch. My dad has a new wife and son, he kicked me out awhile ago and won't even consider letting me back in. My sister lives with her bf and her bf won't let me stay. So where to go if my bf doesn't wanna try with me anymore? We just fucking signed a lease together... I have nothing to live for. He was my whole entire world...and he's not happy with me. Idk what the fuck to do. I'm fucking miserable with no friends to talk to about this and all I have is imgur. I don't even have any social media, just imgur.
Probably gonna get lots of downvotes but Idc... I just needed this all out. I feel like I've got no will to live for anymore. I've got nothing. I've got nobody. Sorry for posting my depressing life.
whatwverwhatever
I'm sorry OP. I think my bf and I are on the same path, he says he loves me but is unsure about if he is in love with me. Hurts.
Godo4
Give em a good ol beej that might help
GirlWithoutACape
SleeperSix
Better to sever now. I'm sorry, Imgur little-sister. take time to hurt and heal but do not doubt that there is a better guy for you.
Duke2015
sithney
I have no advice, but i hope
might make you feel a little better
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whatwverwhatever
If it's not him, then the person you're gonna spent your life with is still out there. Stay strong and cry all you need. It'll get better ❤
wolfhowlz
Sorry @OP, it's heartbreaking, but start working on an exit strategy ASAP, grief later. Good luck ????
wolfhowlz
*grieve even, dammit sc!
MazelJew92
Nothing on this physical planet can make one happy besides them selves. Maybe he's buddhist
Dombieman
My fiancee gave me the same spiel six or so months after we'd gotten our own place together too, it sucks +1 and + <3 good luck in future
YouLoveThat
Get counselling. I wish i had better advice to give, ive had a 5 year relationship end, and also a 4 year one. All i can say is be happy....
YouLoveThat
.... with yourself. If hes not the one in the end, hes not the one. It just means your destined to meet someone more special for you.
hellaqt
Hi guys, idk how to add on to my post since I'm new at this posting stuff but I'd like to thank you all for commenting your support...
hellaqt
(2) it really means a lot too and for those of you who sent me direct chat, thank you SO much. All You guys are the best..
hellaqt
(3) if anyone would like to know I'm going to write him a letter of how I feel, how much he means to me and that I deserve to know answers
emscookie
4 years... omg. Whatever it is, I hope you'll be fine and find a way to get through.
stajackD92
Keep the apartment and Get a roommate. He can move out.
ArgentXero
Him not being happy with you has nothing to do with you making him unhappy. Happiness is a choice that you give yourself.
TheMadPoopers
As a BF I was the same, quiet towards my gf. Turns out that I'm just terrible at sharing my feelings and ultimately we ended.
PluckedDuck
Ask if he will go to counseling with you.
PluckedDuck
Whether you realize it or not you have great value. Please take things one step at a time. You will get through this!
BigMistakeBigHUGE
No. If someone says they're done,after a break no less, they're done.Don't try to council that shit. Be strong.U deserve better than this OP
terrorofthederp
Be careful - sounds like you may not have been totally happy but feel that you have nowhere else to go. Trapped together builds resentment.
bringmeeAllurKrabCakes
plus side, it's much healthier this is coming up now, & not 6 years into a marriage. better to let something go than stay watch it go bad.
howuuuuudoin
You already know what you've got to do, love yourself and let the universe do the rest
Fistouille
isforwinrars
Why is her umhappy with you @Op?
hellaqt
He's not saying why and it's killing me.. apparently everything's perfect. He's just unhappy being with me and that hurts..
isforwinrars
That sucks op, sounds like his unhappyness doesnt have anhthing to do with you, hope you are able to get some mental distance, stay strong x
isforwinrars
Whhpssh
Maybe the dude is content. Long relationships ebb and flow. It can't always be perfect. Use the times that aren't to really know each other
cinemeasctha
Wait, he says he is unhappy but didn't explain why?
Azailon
@OP First I'm sorry to hear that. 2nd if you're having suicidal thoughts call a hotline in your area
Azailon
Also if you need an internet stranger to speak with feel free to send a message my way. Not sure what I can do but listen.
ZoooBug
This seriously! I was dating a guy for 5.5 years who committed suicide after we broke up. Hardest thing ever. I'm here to talk, just message
Notacoolgirl
Get over it that shit happens atleast it wasn't 10 years
cinemeasctha
OP can't be sad because your sadness is greater.
Notacoolgirl
I don't have sadness I'm happy. But people fall out of love all the time, you get over it.
Notacoolgirl
I'm just sayin look at the brightside atleast it wasn't 10 and yall didn't have kids. Imagine if he ignored her questions that long.
PamfromTheOffice
I was with Roy for 5 years before I found my wonderful Jim. Sometimes it takes awhile to find happiness but I promise you will find it. <3
LookImNotYourFather
So you could say, you got a Jim membership? Sorry, I'll show myself out.
JRRJokin
Haha that was terrible and I love it!
therealpopkiller
Thank you for doing god's work
samebruh
One step at a time OP. If its not too personal could you share why your bf isnt interested anymore?
hellaqt
He says it has nothing to do with me.. that everything's fine. He's just not feeling a connection
kaliasari
Is this a heterosexual relationship? Any chance he could be of a different orientation and hiding from it?
hellaqt
Oh no I doubt it. I'm pretty sure he's straight
Ruoyy
Perhaps the problem is that he Was your whole world. I was in your shoes not long ago. I know exactly how your feeling. Know that this isn't
Ruoyy
The end. There are always options even when you feel like there's none. But never put that much into someone where you're giving it all and
Ruoyy
They're giving nothing. I'm sorry you're going through this, but thus could be an opportunity to make you stronger. That's what my situation
Ruoyy
Did for me