OliverClothesoff70
100297
1504
77
And I'm not talking about the friend zone here. I'm talking about the girl who EXPECTS a guy to stay single while she does what (who) she wants.
For the curious, this isn't about me (I'm an old married guy 22 years in). It's about my nephew and the girl he's "dating." Although, I did experience a similar situation in my own pre-historic dating days.
epetuha
Yeah fuck that.
quin11
What the fuck is going on in the world.
Zyggie
Had one of these. Family posted congrats on my FB. She thought I was moving away. Decided to finally date me. Her heart wasn't in it.
Zyggie
Treated me like crap. I dumped her a month in. If they won't date you on fair terms, don't bother with them.
JCOGIRL
I know a married couple, she told him she needed her own place, is dating other men, but still expects him to be at her beck and call...
kr18
Jesus that sounds awful....
SuperAssClench
If he doesn't need your advice, then it's just a lesson he's got to learn.
KjTheLightning
depends on his age and mental state, these things can turn in real bad shit if either of the two isn't exactly "100% sane"(Evilness aside)
IStillHateMichaelCera
PSA: if ya'll are friends with benefits, remember that you're friends first, and the benefits come on top. If they want commitment from >
IStillHateMichaelCera
Someone and they find it in a lasting relationship. Just be fucking happy for them and don't try to be a dickhole cause you miss attention
DixonHillPrivateEye
As a woman, I've known chicks that do this. Trust me fellas, you're worth much more than a back up or security blanket. She's not changing.
STGxDante
It's hard... When you've never felt that way about someone before, I'm starting to realize today this is my situation. It fucking hurts.
sjbrooksy7447
I get my dating advice from rap music: thug em, love em, leave em. Jk, been with the same woman since 2002.
DasBees
I hope everyone appreciates how funny this is.
MikeReese9
Once went with a girl like this. She dumped me, then got mad when she saw me with someone else. 'That was QUICK!' "You dumped me quick.."
HULKSMASHMOUTH
Practically EVERY young relationship is ended by someone with a different lover lined up. So nakedly absurd to be sore the dumpee mones on.
mpaulson111
And you all think this only happens to guys? Believe me, low self-esteem and idiocy is an equal opportunity provider. It just sucks.
TripleLock
Oh.. that girl. Yeah I dated that girl. Broke it off when this became clear and promptly found my wife. Do't stay in this relationship.
blitzMoonJumper
Front Page. This is necessary.
StandingOutsideABrokenPhoneBoothWithMoneyInMyHand
“Weird” Al had a song about this: “Good Enough for Now”. https://youtu.be/9LsjUXMZzF8
justherefortheshitposting
The only reason to stick in a situation like that is to watch her realize that her safety net is actually an empty pit. Bye Felicia!
mormonsaretasty
This works both ways. Guys do it too.
thatsmypurse
Outrageously so.
rollercostarican
lol i was about to say, this sounds like a very unisex issue.
StoptheInfamousElGuapo
Joey Tribianni: "Maybe YOU need sex. I had sex a couple of days ago!" *flexes arms macho-ly*
pr1or1ty1ne
Off topic comment: Congrats on ur lasting marriage - I want something like that one day.
ImKindaDone
You just have to give up on sex.
OliverClothesoff70
Dude, over this many years you have your great patches & your dry patches, but I'm on three nights in a row right now. Best in a LONG time!
myusernameisnowusername
10 years married here and settled in for the long run. Never thought I'd like someone enough to be with this long.
Spadey
You could if you track down OP and impersonate him.
MrDressup
I've had 3 years or marital bliss. Been married 34 years.
StumbleJunkie
First 3 or last 3?
ShentoSama
Middle 3
Wybo
Whenever I meet a girl and then shortly find out she has one of those guys, I always feel so much pity, then run away
theonetruetom
You! Yes, you! You're nobody's plan B.
danishjuggler21
I’ve had a three different girls in the last year do that. Let’s see... we’re going on dates, we’re having sex, we’re doing romantic 1/2
danishjuggler21
activities, but no, of course we’re not dating. That would be SILLY! :-p
KjTheLightning
3 in a row? seems odd, how did you meet all 3 of them?
khavul
As someone who’s been in this situation; you need to call her up, give her a piece of your mind, then tell her to get lost.
RayCharlesBukowski
Labels not important. Ask. Can I sleep with other people? Are they going to sleep with other people? Both Yes or Both No. No mix and match.
lampgoose
Related advise. Avoid language like ‘not looking for a relationship rn’ when rejecting. Used to do this I’m an attempt to save feelings./1
lampgoose
Gave wrong impression and was interpreted as leading on. /2
KjTheLightning
for me, being the one asking, i value the situation and ask if there's a chance in the future she would give me a date chance, an answer to
KjTheLightning
that is kinda impossible to misunderstand as long as you do the right question(e.g."if you're still single in a year, mind another chance?")
idontcareifthesundontshine
I had this with a friend except it ws mutual. We didnt want to date eaxh other but wed both get pissy when the other dated
KjTheLightning
considering it's "was" i assume neither of you could stand it anymore and chose to go different routes?
idontcareifthesundontshine
I met someone and moved away and he moved, got a great job and met someone. We were holding each other back
HULKSMASHMOUTH
So who won?
idontcareifthesundontshine
We both did but only by quitting
Seeker61
My ex tried that for a while.
GoochoLibre
In Bird Person culture, this is regarded as a "dick move".
EvilToska
It sure is one of the harder life lessons.
sidarrian18
I relate to this way to much rn
PapaUbu
Girl I used to work with had 3 guys in exactly this situation... It was staggering to hear her justifying it
Imgurhasalotofusernamestaken
That's when you're supposed to throw a stapler at her face.
SundogHooray
Was she expecting it tho? I feel like there’s a difference between her asking them to wait and them deciding to w/o being asked
PapaUbu
Oh she would go mental if they talked to other women.. Was seriously fucked up
jurvela
Care to tell how she justified it?
DirtyMicrowave
.
xXCutieMomokoXx
.
PapaUbu
She sort of did a rota of who she was "seeing" and expected the guys she wasn't "seeing" to stay single because she "loved" all of them
PapaUbu
Also, she had a kid by one of them and was regularly getting gifts an money from all of them, the amount of drama was ridiculous.
PapaUbu
Oh and another kid by another guy who she was back and forth with too, but he had a girlfriend, so I didn't really count him in the 3
HULKSMASHMOUTH
Make a post. poooooost
Mythikun
@PapaUbu dis
myeyesthegogglesdonothing
.
triciabear24
.
Longinus212
.
SirBagels
.
muchadoaboutmuffin
.
KiingSimba
I’m in this exact situation, are you my uncle?
HULKSMASHMOUTH
hey, is me. yur uncle.
OliverClothesoff70
Yes. Yes, I am. Dump that bimbo and find a girl for whom YOU are her first choice. Maybe not easy to find, but will be worth it.
DasBees
Okay, speaking as a woman— did she explicitly say she expects you to be single? Or is this another case of wrong assumptions?
OliverClothesoff70
It's about my nephew. His "girlfriend" dates whoever she wants and flips the hell out on him if he even flirts with other girls. (1)
OliverClothesoff70
A little bit psycho, if you ask me. (2)
DasBees
(Not to OP just any guy who finds himself in this strange situation)
[deleted]
[deleted]
DasBees
Sounds young and dramatic if you ask me.
HanjinHanamura
While not the exact situation, my ex wanted me to only be with her while she was with whomever she wanted. I asked and she specified it.
DasBees
So she wanted an open relationship?
HanjinHanamura
Yep... but only so long as she was the only one in the "open" part of the relationship.
DasBees
How long did you stay with her after that?
OliverClothesoff70
A little bit psycho, if you ask me.
HanjinHanamura
A lotta bit psycho. She was also manipulative and abusive (used threats of suicide and self-harm to motivate me). Helluva first relationship
KjTheLightning
how did you get out of that(if that happened without legal causes o r anybody getting very badly hurt)