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I lost my best friend, the future I thought we had, and can’t see his dog any more...
So instead, this is my parents cat, Katya
My sister and BIL’s cat, Mr. Meowz
Annnnnnd their custom cat portraits that I gave them for Christmas - bought on Etsy FP Edit: Thank you all for your kind words. You gave me some hope in this crappy situation....
Please be kind to others
NomNomming
Hang in there @OP — my SO from 12+ years cheated on me with someone they met for a week at a conf. She used the same reason 1/2
NomNomming
2/2 I promise you it gets better and allows you to grow as an individual. Be kind to yourself. Something better will happen.
ohthatsgood
Hey @op ... know what the other part of that gif is? you’ll be ok ?
Withoutagod
He might not be in love with you. But we are!! You always have imgur
gurglemouth
Got this same speech after a child and 7 years of marriage. I'm so sorry. It's not easy, but you will be ok.
ExtremelyHappyGuy
A person who uses emotions as a gauge for love is misled. Love is a commitment: thru the bad and the good. Feelings are a fickle foundation.
randoigno
I'm very sorry to hear that. I hope you find someone even better.
chaossloth44
For what it’s worth. I’m sorry for your loss.
FrackingBleepBloop
I think the people confuse the feeling of falling in love with consciously choosing to love your partner everyday. 1
FrackingBleepBloop
Then they come up with this bullshit reason as to why they dont want to stay together
mthrndr01
It's time to employ the only pickup line I can responsibly use: How low are your standards?
tsunamisue
I'm SO sad that happened! No words. Hang in there. Take care of yourself. I wish I could help you not hurt!
tsunamisue
And not in a creepy way. I just know what it's like to have something you thought was a sure thing turn out to not be. And it SUCKS.
ILikeGamesh
Thanks, I think I’m still in shock/denial...
bkn1129
I was dumped by a dude who said the same thing. I was totally crushed, but now I’m in grad school at Harvard and this wouldn’t have happened
bkn1129
if I was still with him. It’s really, really hard for a while, but eventually you’ll be like I was way too good to not be totally loved!
titslapper327
Could of been a little worse if they just left you without saying anything after your birthday while you eat strawberry yogurt in your pjs
ILikeGamesh
That is very specific and very crappy, whoever did that is not a good person
titslapper327
It’s alright. I think it could be worse
OlPappy
Obligatory not creepy comment.
sundaymondayhippyday
they do those now?
sekanna
When my ex and I split she was adamant she kept the dog and I caved because I still had hope I'd be back, I wasn't. Now and then I...
sekanna
Look at her IG page to see new pics of my pup, but then I saw she remarried and it hurt, but only because someone else had my dog
mumbojumbo29
Im looking to get married and have kids , lets meet up
ShiftCommand4
Hurts now. I hear you there. But silver lining, you found out now before having to go through a divorce
210CatGuy
It's better to be alone than in bad company. You deserve to be with someone who loves you completely. I hope things work out for you.
VorpalAffliction
Going through something similar right now so I know how you feel... it sucks big time. But take the time to focus on you ?
ILikeGamesh
I know in time I’ll rebuild, but being in this initial everything is open and raw stage, just sucks so much
VorpalAffliction
I completely understand. My partner of 6 yrs told me that they didn’t know what they wanted for their future anymore... didnt know if they
VorpalAffliction
wanted to get married or even have kids. Talk about ripping open your world... if you need someone to talk to feel free to message me?
ILikeGamesh
Oh wow, that is such a long time to not know what they wanted! I’m so sorry. I hope time will bring peace or at least less heart break...
catsarefab
I just got told that too on Saturday. I'm here if you need.
redsweatah
This is heartbreaking but best in the long run. A divorce is humiliating and destructive. Your life is fine tooth combed. Hearts will heal.
Ancientkangaroo
ILikeGamesh
This is what I keep trying to convince myself of, just hard to be rational right now :/
margaretolson
Lemme know if you want me to send you a pizza this week. Seriously. PM me any time.
redsweatah
You don’t have to rational at the moment. You’ve had your world flipped upside down. Let yourself go through the stages of grief.
magicalbeasts
Rationale will come in time. Grieving and getting out of your headspace will take time. The fact is you can’t make someone love you.
magicalbeasts
I’m sorry for your pain. Been there.
blueyedwineaux
It’s going to hurt for a while. It’s perfectly ok to feel that way and grieve.
BrazilianThunderPanda
Better to know now than to get married and get stuck in to an pattern of apathy for 12 years.
Deadringer45
Just went through this in November you're gonna be ok buddy
NopeHunter
Don't try and stay friends
MotherfuckingCats
I’m literally in the EXACT same boat as of yesterday. I really hope it starts feeling better soon.
ILikeGamesh
I’m still in shock I think, how are you feeling?
MotherfuckingCats
I feel empty, but also I think it was the right decision. I think I’m mourning the last few years because he was my best friend and I still
MotherfuckingCats
Love him & I want to talk to him so badly it hurts. But I’m just spending a lot of time with my cats and my friend has been staying with me
CapnMcSeeJay
Happened to me 2 months ago, we're still trying but we are doing distance and having a difficult time.
prepbatman
@Op been there. It’s rough but life goes on. You’ll find a new best friend, I promise
BattleOwlGamer
Same thing happened to me a few days ago. She broke the news, and I've been a mess since. I think the part that hurts the most out of all
BattleOwlGamer
of this, is I'm the only one hurting. Not saying I want her to hurt, but seeing her feel indifferent to the love she had the day before, I -
BattleOwlGamer
can't even begin to describe it.
Vhyson
So tired of hearing that excuse. Real love is hard and messy, and there will be many times you don't feel in love anymore. Relying on
Montanaebananae
But I also agree,we all make it hard on ourselves.Just find ur favourite person &decide they’re ur favourite person forever& chill th f out
margaretolson
I mean, maybe? I’ve been with my husband almost a decade, and while I don’t always like him, I have always felt in love. It sounds like 1/
margaretolson
2/OP dodged a bullet by having her fiancé tell her this prior to marriage. Yes, marriage takes work, but you both have to be committed
Montanaebananae
Love is a choice everyday.Especially on the days you don’t feel love.If he doesn’t choose her even on those days she deserves some1 who will
GiantEarlobe
I understand this but if he didn't want to work for it then better it happens now than in 5 years and OP get's blindsided with much more
GingerJam23
Exactly. Love takes work to maintain. Some days are easier than others. Love is not a feeling, it is the result.
BatLadyRielle
It doesn’t have to be hard or messy, we just make it that way. I think people imagine love as a thing you feel all the time, thus problems
BatLadyRielle
Love isn’t a feeling, it’s something you do, to use the old cliche. Just like happy people aren’t brimming with joy 24/7, people in love
BatLadyRielle
Aren’t heart-eyed all the time. I love my husband, even if sometimes he annoys me or I annoy him. We talk and we get through it. That’s LIFE
waffledick
Thank you. I needed to hear this.
margaretolson
“I love you, even when I don’t like you” - my husband and I legit said this to each other in our wedding vows.
SnekID87
"I Love you, but I don't like you right now" Is something said in my house.
Neptuneflyer
Yes but you are married and made a commitment. OP was in a dating relationship so it's understandable to break up if he wasn't feeling it
busydad
r u okay @thelonelyDM?
BatLadyRielle
Super okay! Currently in my way to DM my weekly avernus game.
Vhyson
Emotions that come and go with the tides is idiotic Hollywood bullshit. Stop letting fairytales dictate your fucking life. FUCK.
Fonepointfour
StumbleJunkie
As much as I agree w/you. At the same time, if this is happening Before you are married, it is probably a good idea not to marry each other.
Ismellofhockey
And it's very possible this guy has felt this way for a long time, and only admitted to it recently. Not everyone makes brash decisions.
CaspianQuix
You should probably fuck his dad.
LaMerMerci
??
CanIGetSomeExtraSalt
its the only way to assert dominance over this situation
Montanaebananae
Or you could be a little less predictable and fuck his mother? Just spitballing here.
anusBrokenInstructionsNotClear
Either way, I’m going to have a wank
anusBrokenInstructionsNotClear
Found OP’s x’s dad.
ghostfacevader
"He's Dead" "Well then it should be easy"
LoudAngryJerk
I feel like he would have difficulty getting it up.
FrenziedPhallus
Daphault1
@OP I think this is a great idea.
Montanaebananae
LaMerMerci
?
Ryann85
ROFL
IamTheNesT
CanIGetSomeExtraSalt
so you're single?
SchadenFreude24
My man asking the important questions.
LaMerMerci
Duh.. captain obvious.
ColdestOne
It's an imgur inside joke to ask if an obviously single woman is single.
LaMerMerci
I know ?
BanGurHeaD
Karen
ThisprogramcannotberuninDOSmode
Your joke
Canigetbannedagain
I mean unless you've been cloned I guess you'll always be single... Ok I'll leave now.
Dammitcyril
Or to ask an obviously taken person if they are single. It works both ways.
ColdestOne
Yeah I actually see this more often and find it funnier.
oldmate30beers69
I found it funny the first 489 times
CaldariBob
I thought the Imgur inside joke was to fill their inbox with dick pics?
CanIGetSomeExtraSalt
maybe some people. but then you get reported and strikes, and banned eventually
KnightWang
They key is to joke about all the dick pics but never actually send one
FractalShadows
Be grateful he said something BEFORE you got married. Seriously
PointsDontMatter
This post hasn't gotten a downvote in 318 upvotes and my surprise is immeasurable
Euphoria29
In other words, he loves being loved but doesn't return it.
vexxed14
Or his feelings changed and he was upfront and honest about something that simply sucks all around.
imgurscommontater
milkie688
Yep. Came home to an empty house on Wednesday. Would’ve preferred she be honest before nuptials and our child.
coffeeismyfriend
Woah
Moopahdoopah
that's rough. I'm sorry you're going through this.
TairaMai
He was man enough to say he couldn't go through with it, others find out after the vows...
RoncoSnackWeasel3001
Yeah, had the same conversation with my ex, four years into the marriage. Not fun.
Anonisfun
Yup, my first fiancee left me 2 months before the wedding day 20 years ago. I met my wife 2 years later and we've been together ever since.
dragonsluvtacos
Same. Ten years ago I was told that he was more in love with the idea of me. Screwed me up pretty badly, not gonna lie.
noctynight
It's when you see the image of someone, the version of them that you want, and not for who they really are.
RoncoSnackWeasel3001
I’ve never understood that phrase, “in love with the idea of...” How are we supposed to read that?! I don’t even know what that means.
Leithreas
We all fashion ideas of who someone is in our heads. If we don't stay aware that idea can stop matching the actual person.
LogicAndEmpathyOverGod
I'm that guy. I know what it means. I've come to terms that I should be single if I'm gonna be as selfish as to only want a perfect person
LogicAndEmpathyOverGod
And I know no one is perfect but maybe if I'm scared of being cheated on to the point I can't trust than I don't need anyone else
LogicAndEmpathyOverGod
Or more specifically, I don't need to hurt someone that I may love, even if it's just me being in love with the idea of them in my head
PaintedSlate
I'd say it's often when someone generally likes all of the other person's major attributes but not the complexity of real people.
gregariouslouganis
Yes, they prefer someone who acts exactly as they imagined instead of the normal ways people do.
dragonsluvtacos
Pretty much this. He’d built up this imaginary me in his head and when I wasn’t that (because I’m a whole & complex person) he bailed.