DemDooBBoyz
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May 29, 2017 9:52 PM
DemDooBBoyz
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MightyGlowCloud
Girl dodged a bullet. Wouldn't want to date someone who can't enjoy friendship.
mburicao
xzhous
Someone tell the chef to go light on the seasoning because this guy is salty as fuck. All you gotta do is say the word "date" prior to going
Ipoopwhenilaugh
If I'm at a restaurant with someone I usually just buy. I'm not rich, but I don't try to leverage food into sexual obligation.
Treeman8733
When a girl plays this game, you know you're guaranteed a hand job fairly soon.
WWisLife
Wat?
Treeman8733
Wow.... I have no idea what point I was trying to make. Seriously. Thanks.
5FingerDickPunch
*We're
SomeDetroitGuy
Even in a dating situation, the traditional method is to alternate. It's a weird Millenial thing that the men always pay.
Findlayh
Fuck, I feel like you must be the lost artful troll ever.
jo3v
Its stems from old timey, chivalrious traditions.
SomeDetroitGuy
For people who don't have jobs, picnics or hosting dinners were normal. See Emily Post for details.
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SomeDetroitGuy
Except that they didn't. Look up any old etiquette guide. The idea that the man always pays is VERY new.
jwlewington
I mean I'm Gen X and the "why should men always pay for dinner" thing was already an OLD OLD ass debate when I was a child in the 70s.
TheBlackWindHowls
Pretty sure the idea of "men always pay" is as old as the idea that you need a diamond engagement ring.
SomeDetroitGuy
Go look up old Emily Post or Ask Prudie or Anne Landers. Etiquette has ALWAYS been to alternate.
jwlewington
People blame millennials for lots of weird things but blaming them for dumb traditions that started decades before they were born?
SomeDetroitGuy
Except that they didn't. It was common place up until the last couple decades to alternate. Look up Emily Post or Anne Landers.
jwlewington
They may well have recommended that. But I can tell for a fact from BEING ALIVE BACK THEN it wasn't standard and was heavily debated.
jwlewington
I mean dude they also made recommendations on which fork to use with salad but do you think most people followed them? I still don't.
jwlewington
The very fact they had reccomendations for the "proper" way to handle it proves there was a debate.
Lesbiansass
Top comments are about how this guy is rude. Shut the fuck up lol. If you're out, and this happens, casually ask for two checks. Tch.
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hardytardigrade
How does one do that? I only see 1) make your intentions clear and leave them alone if they don't want what you want, 2) rape. Which is it?
xHughJassx
Clearly leave
sunlight
Can't be friend zoned if you tell them straight up you want to date them.
TimeRyderAndTheChronoTeens
until the soda refill thing, I'm with him. If she leads you to believe it's a date, it either is or it's not. But the last part? petty. 1/2
TimeRyderAndTheChronoTeens
And if it's not, I don't see why my broke-ass college self should have to pay both bills. If we're going out as just friends, okay, 2 bills.
heyimwalkenhere
WinchesterTavern
Bretyouvegotitgoingon
Bret has it going on.
FruitChinpoSamurai
Isn't that the guy that voices Goku?
drakewarnock
No that is Sean Christian Schemmel. This gif is of Jemaine Clement, one half of the band Flight of the Conchords. He is also an actor though
DaulPirac
Ha ha, its funny because it never happened
SquanchingonImgur
Yes.
FullCrimsonic
I did this yesterday to a girl I worked with. Both the waitress and my friend didn't see the funny side. Fkn cunts. I'm funny as shit
Crimpwithyourthumb
I've done a less Blatant version of that. The, oh we're friend? Two checks. Situation
jo3v
Well.. if you arent lovers, you can't get moody if she corrects someone who thought you were.
StephNugs
Unless she led you on to believe it was a date for free food.
jo3v
You mean like a food-whore?
Findlayh
That is the best term I have ever read for this. I've had more than a few female friends admit they dated someone for free dinner.
Crimpwithyourthumb
In less you were under the impression it was a date
jo3v
Does this apply for first dates? Is she in the wrong if she corrects those who'd assume you're a couple?
jo3s
not with that attitude
719Matmat
Hi Drax, this is what humans call a joke.
DaulPirac
Great, now I need to watch those movies again
lenomdeplume
Ive done this...and worse. On a first date a woman told me she had fleas. I told her she had just cauterized my brain and 2 lose my number.
lenomdeplume
Yes those types are definitely out there...
flamingflamingo
People who post this shit really need to fucking get over it. Christ. If you don't know it's not a date, honestly it's not all on her.
ArmedSharks
Wow, that went right over your stupid little head, huh?
flamingflamingo
ok
Son0fF1ynn
flamingflamingo
no one posts this shit because they think it's funny, it's because they relate to it. not that this has ever happened to them.
brevemike
Ah, but what if you DO know it's not a date and she expects you to pay anyway? Happens to me all the f*ing time. 1/
flamingflamingo
oh does it
brevemike
Yep, and I never say anything about it to any of the people who do it, because 1) I'm a doormat :-/ and 2) I can afford it.
brevemike
Co-worker needs lift home. Says "Mind if we swing by for coffee?" No problem. She proceeds to order 3 drinks and several food items 2/
brevemike
Asks me " Do you want anything?" I figure co-worker generosity for lift home and order drink. Cashier "That'll be $28.57" 3/
brevemike
Co-worker now 20ft away at other end of counter looking other direction... >.< 4/4
shinagami091
But if its not a date, wouldnt it be reasonable to assume youd be going dutch?
WWisLife
If you invite someone out, you pay. Or at least expect to.
thatswildman
yeah, for a birthday or celebration. If it's tuesday and im taking you downtown to the french place i like because ive been talking to you1
thatswildman
for a while and i feel we have a connection, im taking you saying yes to this as an indication of romantic interest. You don't drop 200 2
TimeRyderAndTheChronoTeens
acid
thatswildman
dollars on dinner because someone's a good conversationalist and if you DO think that's how it works your orbiters are making you delusional
hifive2wifei
Your assumption is not someone else's obligation. That's the point.
xzhous
Personally, if I'm inviting a friend out and it's not some crazy expensive place, I'll usually cover the tab and have them cover the next
Larrimus1
I would do that, but I'm poor.
xzhous
Same. I'll do this for like... Chipotle. And that's no beef, no guac Chipotle. I ain't no Rockefeller
sunlight
One of the many reasons dating freaks me out... why should one person pay for everything?? Split the cost always!
evandrixx
cause they fucking
jdeman
It's either split or you alternate who pays
Thunderstorm155
This.
Rambooo
Tradition started when women didn't earn money at all or earned very little. Social norms often change slower than economic reality.
avastmehearty
I make about 3x what my GF does, we'd not go out much if we split the bills. She pays for things she can afford once in a while, me the rest
Arrrrgggggghhhh
Same with me and my GF. I know that if roles were reversed she'd do the same.
amglasgow
That's one school of thought. Another is the person who invites the other person should pay, and in an ongoing dating thing take turns.
SirWadeWilson
My fiancée and i would split it in the beginning, now we switch off, I.E. i got the last dinner you get this one.
ANapkin
It varies between my boyfriend and I based on who is currently making more. When he was out of a job I paid for everything and vice versa
DianeKC
I used to always pay for my own, even in a relationship. When I started dating again, the guys were mad that I wanted to pay my own way.
Toxicempanada
I'm female & married to a man and I have zero ish paying for our nights out 98% of the time. Fuck that noise! On new dates should be 50/50
dannikin
My dude and I have been dating for 8 months and we still split stuff, a majority of the time. Which was my idea. People think I'm nuts.
tacolandslide
I wouldn't say always. My girlfriend and I split it sometimes. Sometimes she buys. Sometimes I buy. It really depends on the occasion.
Shinotsa
Depends entirely on the way it's posed. If someone asks to take you to dinner then the wording implies it's likely that they'll pay
SomeDetroitGuy
The old school, traditional method: The person who asks first pays for the first date. Then you alternate hosting each other on dates.
jo3v
That seems fair
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SomeDetroitGuy
That's fine, too! Then the person who asked is the one who pays and that's reasonable and fair.
SomeDetroitGuy
For someone who doesn't work, that means things like picnics in the park or inviting the other over for dinner or shit like that.
baturro
And there's nothing wrong with that. I prefer more personal dates like that.
IAmTheBadW01f
Money can often be replaced with hard work....a picnic with $8 of materials can be nicer than a $50 restaurant meal
Nalianna
can be? for me it'll win every time.
AwkwardKeming
I can't order steak anymore because of what I can do with a $14 grocery store steak.
awkwardbeautiful
I always offer to pay.I don't want to feel indebted to someone.There are times the guy insists on paying and I let him.That's his choice tho
jmrex
I'm sure you try really hard, too.
thorkild91
Some dudes are pretty intense on paying.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
Yep. When I was dating, if a guy was like that I wouldn't date him again. I want things to be equal. If he doesn't, then we're not a match.
jmrex
But he figures it's a test. You should've applied your rule on the second date.
RoseFaery
I've found sometimes the guys who Insist on paying then feel entitled to things, but not always. I have met a few who were just generous.
Ryannihilation
Tbh as a guy, I always insist on paying for the first date, but after that it's a relationship we're working on and its equal.
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RoseFaery
Concept is good, reasoning is questionable
Ryannihilation
I don't mean 'long term romantic relationship.' I mean relationship as in friendship, partnership. It's two way. it's equal.
jo3v
I think its important to be able to let others do a nice thing for you... even if its too much. They'd feel better for having paid for you.
jo3v
Although, this should be done in moderation. Sometimes you should insist.
sunlight
If the guy tried to pay for everything, I would be super uncomfortable
PerlerBeads4Dayz
My boyfriend and i take turns for everything. May e ill buy lunch and hell buy beers and the next day he'll buy lunch but i'll get some 1
RedFormanIsMyHero
Me and my girlfriend do the same thing. It's much easier and keeps one person from feeling like they're financially supporting the other.
PerlerBeads4Dayz
groceries. It works as long as too much doesnt fall on one person. 2
kempper
Somebody is lying through their teeth.
MediumSizedDico
If I ask someone to go to dinner I usually try to pay since I invited them.
Honeynutkeagles
I always pay when I invite people out... Because I'm lonely...
RoseFaery
So, where you live? I like lonely people & dinners, though I also don't mind paying
Honeynutkeagles
In the "lovely" state of Pennsylvania. We would end up having a fight to the death over who pays my friend
BornToDoStuff
I am kind of far so when she drives here, I pay, when I drive there, she pays. It has worked out nicely. nobody feels weird about not paying
QueenLaQueefa
My bf pays for dinner and such but he also understands I'm still in school and poor. He makes good money. Doesn't seem to mind one bit.
RoseFaery
Well maybe he just loves your queefs, Your Highness.
iamatiger
I pay for everything on a date, and always have. No one has tried to stop me. Why would that be uncomfortable?
sunlight
I dunno... I just hate not paying my own way.
sunlight
I would be even more self conscious about what I ate and drank
jdeman
So this may be an age thing but with my crowd, it's just not expected for one person to pay for a meal. It's costly for one person to pay (1
jdeman
And by splitting the bill, you remove any sort of power dynamic (i bought you the meal). It makes dates feel more even
jmrex
Said no woman ever.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
Said plenty of women. I'm one of them. And some guys would refuse to let me split, they'd keep arguing about it and insist on paying for /1
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
me. That was my signal that they weren't getting a second date. Fuck that noise. /2
sunlight
My lady parts beg to differ
IwentLookingForWhatTheBiggestIdiotHasToSayAndHereYouAre
what? no part of this makes any sense
flamingflamingo
It's part of this fictional narrative that women lure men on dates and then friendzone them so they get free food.
jo3v
Though... those women do exist. Its uncommon
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
It's part of the "women are awful" circle-jerk.
hardytardigrade
Imagine that you are a man who resents women for not sleeping with him after he invites them to eat together at a restaurant.
IwentLookingForWhatTheBiggestIdiotHasToSayAndHereYouAre
which would make sense if they had mentioned any of that. at this point theyre skipping to the end of the joke.
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lulzbian
>friendzoned
drakewarnock
That...is the same thing just worded differently.
TheClayKnight
Hey at least his username checked out
TimeRyderAndTheChronoTeens
holy crap you're right
Corrodias
Please tag me @Corrodias if there's a response to this, because I'd love to see a rebuttal.