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Taken when I was 19: This is the only picture I have of the two of my birthparents and myself.
One of the happiest days of my life! I had struggled for so long wondering if they would ever want anything to do with me, and meeting them just seemed to heal a hole in my heart.
My birthfather and I, approximately 3 months later
He made an effort to get to know me, to spend time with me, and to eventually introduce me to my biological brothers. This is what made it so difficult to understand when he suddenly vanished from my life.
This is the last picture I have with him.
Taken a year after we met, this night is the last time I saw him. Unbeknownst to me, his current girlfriend had some serious issues with my birthmother, and blamed me for bringing her back into his life. She gave him an ultimatum, me or her, and he chose her. I've not heard from him since, though I've called him on every father's day for these five years. The only one of his children he keeps in touch with is my youngest brother (pictured on the right).
This is my wonderful and amazing dad.
I truly wouldn't be who I am without him. He's stood by my side as I struggled to find my birthfather, and then held me when I cried over losing him. He made sure I knew I was priceless and loved, even if the man who birthed me couldn't see it. This man perfectly exemplifies what it means to be a father, and proves it isn't who brought you into the world, it's who stuck around to be with you in it. Oh yeah, and happy birthday Dad! :)
Cat tax
My sister's cat Luna. She's the best thing since sliced bread.
EDIT: For those of you that want the full backstory (because I've been asked a few times and this is easier than rewriting it with a fractured wrist haha) you can go here and read it. I love you all!
http://imgur.com/gallery/5U63W/new
Double EDIT: And now I've been tasked with explaining/introducing Imgur to my Dad because I want him to see this.
ButtholeFlower
I'm not crying. I just a twig or, ya know...a branch in my eye. ; n ;
hordesofgourds
No offense but your birth father looked like a tool anyway. Forget him.
Drpurrpurrpurr
He only keeps in touch with one of his kids - it's not you, it's him. He's fucked up.
themerovingianwasthebestcharacter
Cute op is cute.
Erik604
You look like an awesome person. Your mom and pop look like awesome people. That guy other guy is weak. He's not shit else but just some(1)
Trumpsingrowntoenail
Never met my mom, she found me on FB, but she acts like she didn't abandon me for 25 years.
TheLittleBear
I wanted to comment something fucked up but I just don't ave the energy, so picture something really mean right here.
NoOneCorrectMe
100% crying right now.
DancingIMoo
You know exactly who your true dad is. You are lucky, OP. :)
MetaphoricalFox
The child was adopted, the cat was in bread.
scannmega
Little boy blue and the man in the moon.
reverendleonard
Best cat tax I've seen
peaceloveandgraffiti
I'm so glad you have a REAL dad in your life. He sounds amazing. Also, my kitty is named Luna, too, and she sure as shit is my best friend.
ritzdogg
As a father myself I could never choose another over my child, but on a brighter notr congrats on having a great man step to fill that void.
WhiskeyTangoFoxtrotSierra
I hope you don't mind me asking, but what about your birth mom? Is she still in your life?
incendiasanguis
Yes she is. She's just gone through a lot and is resisting change for the better, so it's difficult to really bond with her.
WhiskeyTangoFoxtrotSierra
=( I'm sorry to hear that. I hope that things get better for you really soon.
whatsyourspaghettipolicy
My birth father moved to our neighboring city and started a new family. So my mother became a better father to us than he ever could've been
lazertagforlife
When you said "taken" at first i thought it was a liam neeson situation
rattlesnail
My hubs stepdad is amazing great dad and papa. His bio dad wanted my MIL to abort. When she didn't he promised he'd come back for her. He
rattlesnail
Never did. Then several years down the road she met her now husband.
goesbyjohn
Bio-Dad or on the scene Dad, you don't find a child that loves as much as Leah does for either of us.
Krasla
So glad I scrolled down to see this. Good job on raising an excellent human!
incendiasanguis
THIS IS MY DAD! MY DAD IS OFFICIALLY AN IMGURIAN! YES!
bluegargoyle
As an adoptive dad of two girls, this is a great post OP.
incendiasanguis
God bless you.
FetchMy10FootPoleMinionTheresSomethingIWishToNotTouch
This was great OP. Also, RIP OP's Sister...
ramarins
It took me a while.... hahahah +1
FetchMy10FootPoleMinionTheresSomethingIWishToNotTouch
I wanted to comment about the Dad & the cat...deciding which to do was tearing me to pieces. Just like OP's sister was.
incendiasanguis
She posted a picture pretty much immediately after of her leg with a lovely little scratch down the side.
FewerNotLess
She was askin' for it.
tech66
Keep that golden smile op you're going to do great things. :)
ThegreatconjunctionistheendoftheworldorthebeginningHm
There's the guy that donated his sperm and the guy that donated his life.
helpiamimjured
Right in the feels
somekindofgiantfox
Dude.
squirtyrat
oh, nicely said Sir, congratulations.
ZippytheMuppetKiller
Well said...bravo *clapclapclapclap
counslor
Well said, I like you.
acidjuicemotel
Sorry your bio dad is so lame. How many kids did he have & put up for adoption? WTF is his deal? Keep in touch with your bio brothers?
incendiasanguis
He has three biological children, none that live with him. He's chosen to attempt and raise his girlfriend's kids while she's still married
incendiasanguis
He has three biological children, none that live with him. He's chosen to attempt and raise his girlfriend's kids while she's still married
Corrodias
I... I don't foresee that ending well. For anyone.
txronin55
Reading this, I'm amazed by his poor choices.
SlimSkeeter
You are spot on... it's not your damage, it's theirs.. You just be the amazing person you are.
Corrodias
I'd prefer that we not vilify people for not wanting to know someone (even a genetic offspring). I don't want to know a lot of people.
SaintMaceToTheFace
I'm sorry but if you chose a new gf over your children you deserve to be vilified
Corrodias
It's probably not a good reason. On the other hand, they aren't his children. We don't really have terms to describe their relationship.
Corrodias
In the general case, I think it's unfair to say they're "wrong". In this case, it was a dick move to cut off all communication, though.
iamthedoctorthisismytardis
My wife has a badass step-dad too. Her sperm donor father is a dick. I'd pick the Step over the biological every day of the week.
eatingketchupchips
adopted over biological in OP's case but i get your sentiment.
eatingketchupchips
adoptive*
MissSpelledTattoo
I pick my step over my bio who I haven't seen in over 10 years as he was verbally abusive and tried to molest me a few times as a teenager
thesquirrelapocalypseiscoming
My sperm donor was an abusive dick who landed in prison. The my mom married my dad and he's been the best ever since. :)
compd
I haven't seen or talked to my dad in 7 years now. Saw him driving while I was out for a run this week and I dont think he recognized me.
Equinox13
About three years now for me. If I saw my dad, I think I'd run the other way. Hugs to you.
vwtruckin
It's been 15 years since I last saw my mom. Shit hurts yo.
njorunn
Haven't spoken or seen my biological father for 8 years now either... I can relate!
DumbShitIsMyTrigger
I thought I had it bad. It's been a year. New wife shit
Khaaaaaaaaaaan
My biological dad got in contact with me when I was 15, saw me a few times, then never contacted me again. I'm 24 now
incendiasanguis
Whoa! I'm sure that must have been a jolt to the system.
compd
Yeah, it sucked. I kinda got over it a few years ago though, he's got his family and I've got my mom and my sisters.
MynameisRuben
Going through the same situation, he decided to make a new family, kicked me and my mom out, we had to start over alone. 1/2
MynameisRuben
But after 4 years with out him, we have are happy and financially stable. My mom and I support each other and will always do.
compd
I'm just saying I know what you're going through, and you've got to love the people in your life that are still there.
sausageseeker
I saw my real dad on google maps mowing his lawn. My brother had knocked on his door days earlier the new wife said he had never lived there
HarmlessDickbutt
damn that's cold.
squirtyrat
Post the picture to him & tell him what his new wife said. Why should she get to decide who he sees&doesn't. Let him say himself.
sausageseeker
He doesn't care. My brother remembers him as a dad & I don't. Our 'dad' constantly tells my brother that if only I would call, if only I 1/2
squirtyrat
Shit, he's got a phone, two hands for a letter. He's known about your existence for x years. Let him do it instead of putting it onto you
Katheebs
Bro and I had no contact with my dad for 7 years, saw him about a month before he died. Didn't recognize my brother at all.
compd
Damn, I'm truly sorry to hear that
Thatsbrutal
Luckily for you, you already had a real dad. He sounds like a great man.
flack9099
And his anxiety when you went searching for a birth dad. There is a hole in his heart you won't know of.
melvina
For real. It sucks for those who have neither...
incendiasanguis
He really is.
BallsackHippo
Maybe it's for the best that the other guy wasn't there to raise you. Someone who can do THAT choice, ain't fit to be an example to follow.
AntzInMyEyezJohnson
Chin up OP, we're your real family now.... One of us! One of us!
vxjedi
I'm 22 now and was adopted when I was 1. I've never once thought to look for my birthparents, because my real parents were always right 1/
vxjedi
2/ there with me. Your adoptive parents look like wonderful people and i hope all is well OP.
vxjedi
I'm 22 now and was adopted when I was 1. I've never once thought to look for my birthparents, because my real parents were always right 1/
randomchimi
To love and to be loved in return. Parents are heroes, be it adoptive or biological. Go hug that glorious man.
ForThoseWhoHaveHeart
Is your username Latin? It looks Latin.
incendiasanguis
Yes, yes it is!
ForThoseWhoHaveHeart
What does it mean? I know sanguis is blood, and I'm assuming incendia is something to do with fire.
LetsEatGrandpaCommasSaveLives
It takes a real man to be a dad even when you don't have to be. Tell your dad he's making the world a better place.
BallsackHippo
PS: Nice cat. What breed is that ? Bleu Russe, Chartreux ?
TheMonsterWithinYou
I hate women like your dads current gf. :\ they're the worst kind of people. :\ at least you're other wise happy.
autoimmunewonder
What about adoptive mom? She obviously knows how to play.
katieblu
I wish you had used :/ one more time....
myfatherwillhearaboutthispotter
I mean, her dad went with it. Takes 2 to tango, unfortunately.
TheMonsterWithinYou
Yea. I know however women and men like the gf are the worst...they're manipulative assholes
TheFirstHumanChild
Does your username mean fire blood? Been a long time since I read Latin!
incendiasanguis
Yes, yes it does!! :)
TheFirstHumanChild
Interesting choice! I like it. Any particular reason you chose it?
majanu
Yes! It's not easy to realize though. Met my birthfater after 27 years and now I know that I had a real dad all the time and it was not him.
PakitoTaquito
Send my good wishes his way!
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incendiasanguis
Too bad probably none of his associates are Imgurians!
incendiasanguis
Too bad probably none of his associates are Imgurians!
Solkanarmy
what kind of piece of shit makes someone choose between them and their kid? Also what kind of piece of shit chooses the first piece of shit?
LittleKittyMine
My mother and my father, separately with different assholes.
GTimgur
Amen.
Iamthedanis
My dad's wife.
itsybitsyspider
Mine almost did as well :(
serella
Illustrates the difference between fathering a child and actually being a dad.
incendiasanguis
Strangely from these stories we're seeing, a lot more than we think! :(
EngravedToaster
I grew up with divorced parents, best thing they ever did for us. They were always immature but both my step parents were amazing and I try1
EngravedToaster
to be like them with MY stepson, he is my child in every way and I love him endlessly. He will always come first in my life, his needs 2
EngravedToaster
before mine or even his fathers; we put him first. My bio dad was lazy and turned out to be a molesting POS who is now a felon. Never talk 3
EngravedToaster
to him and have no care to. He wont admit what he did, still denies it. Molested my stepsis, aunt as a child...so many people. Step dad was4
MindlessGuyAtTheHelm
As someone who's father never wanted him, some people just aren't cut out for it. Nothing to do with you, totally them. Glad you realized it
imachikenlol
You're MUCH better than he thinks you are anyways.
IamNOTDonKnotrs
@MindlessGuyAtTheHelm...glad you realised it too.
Equinox13
Sometimes I still have to talk myself out of being upset over why I wasn't good enough for my dad. I can't always talk myself out of it.
fattyontheinside93
I need to realize this. I still get butthurt here and there.
brickweed
Yeah, tell me about it. I tried to meet my father who wanted me to be a girl, and really try to have a father-son-relationship. But no.. no.
fattyontheinside93
Odd for a father to prefer a daughter over a son, but I'm sorry. Here's to not wasting time!
brickweed
Yeah, my mom had a small girl before me, a few years prior, she died to unknown causes at a few months old... Maybe it made him flip.. Dunno
fattyontheinside93
Most likely :/ I'm my father's firstborn and first daughter. Never had the father-daughter relationship these TV shows make look amazing
brickweed
When they don't want you, don't waste your time on them..
nikknolte35
I realized this years ago. Was the best part of moving on. Now he's just a sperm donor haha
MindlessGuyAtTheHelm
I call mine that too, except in this post because of space.
Cuppiette
Going to meet my baby, who is now 15, in a couple weeks and I'm so nervous! I can only hope that I heal wounds instead of creating them
McScuttleButt
Late to the party, but...If I may ask, how did it go? Curious as a fellow birthmom. Although, I have an open adoption relationship.
Cuppiette
Sorry, just saw this. It went well. We haven't communicated much since then, but the most important part for me was her meeting my parents.
Cuppiette
My daughter is the only granddaughter. I'm glad that I met her because now if she has any questions she won't have to wonder for years
Cuppiette
My mom thought it was a horrible idea that I meet her, but now they can start to build a relationship of their own.
imachikenlol
My mom kicked me out of her house because her boyfriend of two weeks didn't like me. I don't have parents like you. I'm happy for you OP. <3
MsLeading
My mom left me living alone to go live with a 1 month boyfriend. I also don't have parents like hers...
Patilistan
she was looking for an excuse, any excuse.
imachikenlol
She wanted me back once she learnt about child support, I assure you.
KThraceGhoulExterminator
This happened to my friend too. She had to hop from dorm to dorm in order to stay in school and eventually had to drop out.
imachikenlol
Oh my goodness, I hope she's doing okay... I know for me personally support and love was a huge help. I hope you're giving her just that.
KThraceGhoulExterminator
I did although I was away at school myself. She never did finish :( seems happy though.
imachikenlol
Ah, very good :)
spikytortoise
That's harsh. I hope you're doing OK
imachikenlol
Thank you for caring, I'm okay. My father isn't much better, but I'm planning on moving out soon!
spikytortoise
Make sure your economically sounds enough to do it! Don't make decisions you can't hold up long term
imachikenlol
Don't worry, I'm going to set things right for myself. :)
Boooooooooognish
That's so fucked up.
RancorSlayer
I'm sorry man :(
imachikenlol
Thank you so much.
hittinhedges
Yeah but dude, you were 35 years old!
methodman95
The boyfriend wanted to be called dad, so he dropped that motherfucker.
westendgrills
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westendgrills
Why do people downvote this what do you care
imachikenlol
That made me laugh, thanks for that. But if anyone was wondering I was 11 at the time.
hittinhedges
SwagOutTheAss
Oh my god, what kind of scum, I mean she is your mom but really, your own child? At 11? That's some real douchbaggery.
imachikenlol
Yeah, I wasn't really effected by it for a long time. It started to get to me though.
SwagOutTheAss
I feel for you, it's terrible that you had to go through something like that. :(
SwagOutTheAss
How old are you now?
imachikenlol
I'm going to be 17 soon. Hopefully moving out before my birthday.
SwagOutTheAss
Hopefully, wishing you a happy birthday for then fam. <3
l0serish
You need to move out and get a real job Brennan
thetonestarr
He's a chiken, lol.
darthknight
I'm 17, too. I had to leave/was kicked out at 14. I feel you, bub. Hope you're getting the support you need <3
trunks55
It's always unimaginable to hear stories like this, wish you all the best in life :3 where are you from btw?
imachikenlol
I live in Edmonton AB it's in Canada. There's about a million people here but both my parents were born in other countries.
MrFastZombie
I hope he dumps her.
imachikenlol
They aren't together, but they've been on and off a lot.
IKilledKennyAndIAmABastard
My dad kicked me out because I deleted NCIS off the DVR
imachikenlol
No fucking way...
IKilledKennyAndIAmABastard
Yes. I think he was just wanting to kick me out for any reason and her just picked that one cause cause there was nothing else
ginangu
My mom's bf doesn't like me either, he has been trying to kick me out for years when I was living with them.
imachikenlol
As long as someone is there for you, and if you stay strong everything will be okay. Stay strong ginangu, you're better than him anyways. :P
ginangu
Thank you!
peaceloveandgraffiti
With someone like that, you're better off without her. Whattacunt.
imachikenlol
It's sad but true. My mom is horrible and I honestly hate her. I just wish I had the parents who loved me, you know?
feranima
love by obligation is quite worthless, to be loved by those that don't have to is what makes life beautifull
CryloRen
My dad kicked me out once because he thought I was partying (I was sick and worn out from school and work) and once for "mumbling" (my mom
CryloRen
could hear me in the next room). But that's when he was drinking heavily.
imachikenlol
I'm so sorry, not all parents are amazing. My dad drinks a lot too. You're not alone. Stay around people who love you, that's real family.
CryloRen
My boyfriend's family is like a real family to me. His mom had alcholic parents as well so she's great to talk to.
sausageseeker
That is so horrible. I hope you are in a happy & loved place now!
imachikenlol
Thank you, I live with my father and it isn't so good, but I'm planning on moving in with friends where I can get the support I need!
EngravedToaster
Do that. Don't let your parents attitudes define who you are, or their inability to love like people should love. Everyone deserves kindness
imachikenlol
Thank you :)
Tosy120
Well wish you the best of luck then!
imachikenlol
Thank you.
AnakinSkyLurker
When all the hope is gone, at the darkest moment of your life, even a small ray of light shines the brightest, everything will be alright.