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Mar 14, 2016 4:18 PM
MrDuuck
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Dudeboy320
I think I do get to decide. If your feelings get hurt by something I said, then its your fault for being a pussy.
darearkin
On the one hand, yes. On the other hand, I shouldn't have to scan every sentence and sanitize it because I might offend someone.
JamBarn
Fuck this. It's simplistic horseshit that's posted repeatedly here in an effort to seem deep and empathetic. It's inaccurate.
MadHakon
It's a pointless thing to consider because regardless if they are hurt, I have right to decide whether I think they should be.
Coltboy
What if they're lying?
ThatIsNotMeAtAll
you also get to decide to break up a very short gif into two incredibly short gifs that hurt my eyes
CerealFirstOrWaterFirst
Fuck you @OP, you hurt me.
Neegrow
It's possible that they were only hurt because they're whiny little bitches\
FartInYourMouth
Louis is dropping the sickest mixtape
ilikeimplying
>implying shit-testing people's feelings isn't necessary. You can't decide that you didn't hurt them, but you can decide it's unreasonable.
Ericht
MrDuuck raped me, you don't get to decide that you didn't. Enjoy jail.
HanShotFirst39
False. Some people are ridiculously over sensitive and everything everyone says hurts them.
Fal1enKing
... And? OP isn't saying the hurt was justified, he's saying you can't tell people how they feel.
JamBarn
It implies a lot more than that. It implies that the hurt should always be approached as if it's justified.
Rozasharon
Or get mad that they told you.
SithHaveBetterSex
But what if they are "hurt" by like you being gay or something.
JamBarn
You were downvoted but this is a 100% valid question.
SithHaveBetterSex
Thank you.
littlebitofslapandtickle
If only he applied this to showing his dick to women unprompted and then not giving a fuck
NrNone
So how does this gel with the idea that getting hurt or offended is a choice?
jasonseagull
How did that idea grow to be so popular? Communication and our reactions are visceral, instant, innate.
maxxra
You can, however, decide that other people are pussies and not acknowledge their "hurt".
Corrodias
That's kind of a jerk thing to do, usually. Depends upon the circumstances a bit, but doesn't it sound like it when you say it that way?
maxxra
Lots of people are oversensitive. My rule remains: would I get upset if roles were reversed? Golden rule.
Corrodias
That's a good rule. More important, I think, is that this offers a way to reflect upon other people's viewpoints and get to understand them.
CaptGunpowder
... So what? I also don't get to decide that something I say makes them happy; I have no say in any of it, so why is it my problem?
JamBarn
This. The whole thing is a shitsnack.
MarkWhoGivesaFukFrom93Tv
Except he's taking about actual physical pain. He was OK with the cop being an asshole.
Gymnopedies
He was also hurt by what he said. Physical pain was the last straw. It's a story, it's interpretative. So that's my interpretation
zyeager36
I don't dictate a person's emotions. You control how you feel.
Porecomesis
You don't dictate them but you do influence them. It is, at least in no small part, your fault.
SatanDoorbell
This post hurts my feelings ... you do not get to decide
BladedSpell
The URL for this page is JerkP
moneyvortex
I like this image's url
justacap
Maybe, but you can decide that their saying that is hurtful, and that you're hurt as well. *shrug* And then everything is equal and fine :P
cocoakoumori
It's really not, tho. Now it's one of you crying to both of you crying. They don't really cancel out...
rebelhead
The truth hurts, doughnut.
Angaram
Does this apply to tumblr genderpotatogenetic things?
TheNowBannedBecauseOfBullshitCommunityRulesChaoticNachos
No. It does not apply to the mentally ill.
NrNone
Yes. There's no deliberation and no Council of Hurt Feelings to issue certificates. Hurt just is.
TheBitchessOfScience
If he's posting this, then he probably thinks so
Corrodias
Yes. You can decide someone's overreacting, but that doesn't mean it's not genuine. It's a good opportunity to learn from each other.
Mdp2525
This isn't geared toward strangers but people you care for. In that respect, it is excellent way to diffuse conflict.
itsjustaduststorm
Defuse. Diffuse is to spread...and you wouldn't spread a bomb. OR WOULD YOU?!
Mdp2525
Their, there, they're. It will be all write. ;)
dbizzles
+1 This quote (a while ago) actually opened my eyes a bit to how I react to people that whose feelings I have hurt to any degree.
Corrodias
It is a good thing to bear in mind when talking to strangers, though. It gets at the core of how we rarely try to understand each other.
Zakn3fein
Longest relationship I ever had, this is what it was like. If I ever said she hurt my feelings, it didn't matter. I am now 28, and 1/2
FajitaPrinceofAllMexicans
20, seven years, year 2015 was all it was all neglect and when I told her she hurt me all she had were excuses. Until February.
ShaLovee
Then what happened?
TheBlackWind
and im 22 and 3/4!
Zakn3fein
i see what you did there lol
ydnab
I'm gonna go pedant mode for a sec: Hurt is a feeling. Your feelings can't be hurt. Just say "you hurt me", because it's stronger.
Zakn3fein
Deathly afraid of ever speaking my mind (politely) or expressing the way I feel about anything in a relationship and it is crippling. 2/2
cocoakoumori
That's an absolutely horrible thing to do.Relationships are mutual.I can't imagine dismissing my SO like that.I hope it gets easier for you!
AfraidSkeleton
Boy, I can relate to that... And now I just want to die because of it.
JamBarn
I feel that feel.
Academicindisguise
Can completely relate. My ex bf did the same. Now always afraid that expressing my feelings will make people angry or leave.
cocoakoumori
That's an absolutely horrible thing to do.Relationships are mutual.I can't imagine dismissing my SO like that.I hope it gets easier for you!
Zakn3fein
I appreciate it, thank you. I hope so to
Iamnottherealdreadpirateroberts
Maybe not, but I do get to decide if I give a shit.
Bigbadsmell
True. But hurt just begets hurt. Who hurt you, I wonder.
shedoesntevengohereimgur
Sister-in-law is certified crazy. Breathing hurts her feelings. So I don't give a fuuuuuuuck.
BattleD4d
I mean...
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Iamnottherealdreadpirateroberts
Yes, but it's ok. I'm an equal opportunity asshole, I shit on everyone
TheeKingsWit
That sounds exactly like something The Dread Pirate Roberts would say.
Iamnottherealdreadpirateroberts
Ah, so you're been to Patagonia? How is he, still living like a king?
TheeKingsWit
Meh. I'm more curious about your stance on ROUS'es.
NotNotDeadpool
Cheers mate
boywiththehappypenis
You definitely do get to decide. Some people are totally lacking in logic and their reasons why you hurt them can be horseshit.
Bigbadsmell
If you care about the people involved, dont you think you should?
TheeKingsWit
You absolutely do. That's the beauty of life. But you should always at least think about it for a sec.
EerieBarlow
It's all relative man, and it's meaningless in a cosmological perspective.
LookAtMyUserNameAndUpvoteThisComment
But always remember: you don't have to think about it for a sec.
TheeKingsWit
You absolutely don't have to but you probably should. For your own sake, not theirs.
LookAtMyUserNameAndUpvoteThisComment
Very good point. I was trying to be funny, but you've stumped me with reason. We should all try to be decent human beings.
TheeKingsWit
I'm sorry I didn't let you be funny and made it all "tumblr-y" instead :-( Friends?
myplacetosaytheshitineversay
A wise man once told me "Don't should all over yourself".It'd be nice if everyone thought about it, but it's not a moral/ethical imperative.
TheeKingsWit
Right, not imperative. Just, in my experience, a good idea for your sake, not theirs.
myplacetosaytheshitineversay
Or both your sakes, certainly. The world would probably be a much better place if people thought more and spoke less. At least I hope so.
TheeKingsWit
You should say the shit you never say more often. I like it.
LadyBith
True. But you do get to decide if their hurt was reasonable. Which it often isn't.
moxymox
#BoyfriendMaterial #BabyDontGo
IncognitoPanda
Remember that the next time someone hurts you and decides you are unreasonable. Your judgment can be wrong.
jasonseagull
So you think you get to decide what is and what is not legitimate to feel? That's pretty fucked up dude
Newthoenikker
In a way you decide everything because the world only exists as electrical signals that you interpret.
LadyBith
Did I stutter?
jasonseagull
No you're on the internet, honey, vocalization doesn't exist in sound form.
Valkyrja22
As a person who dealt with a bipolar manic depressive who was often "hurt" by the "me" in false memories...some feelings aren't legit
hardytardigrade
This is you exactly missing the whole point he is making. He said something, and you said "yes, but no".
zachwad22
1) I dunno. I've known people who were in the habit of being hurt by just about everything that happened to them and then demanding that
zachwad22
4) of people would agree isn't that big of a deal, I lose patience. At some point it becomes greed.
hardytardigrade
You can decide that someone is too sensitive by your standards, but only they know if they are truly hurt. You don't get to deny that.
zachwad22
Fair enough! But an eye for an eye makes the whole world blind, if they use that hurt as an excuse to be manipulative/unreasonable thmslves.
zachwad22
3) Louie's absolute here. I'll always apologize if I hurt someone. But if you drag it out and agonize over it when it's something that 90%
zachwad22
2) everyone else stop and utterly prostrate themselves to the fact. It can become manipulative. So I don't think it's smart to defend
Kiore
Nope. Emotions aren't reasonable by their very definition, they just are. You get to decide how you react.
JamBarn
Emotions aren't reasonable? Think about it if I frame it this way: "emotions are unreasonable." See? It's silly.
alrightalrightalrightalrightalrightalright
Actually: http://phenomena.nationalgeographic.com/2014/09/18/emotion-is-not-the-enemy-of-reason/
Kiore
I totally agree actually, 'irrational' emotions are just ones we don't understand the motivation, which is a whole different kettle of fish.
JamBarn
This completely opposes what you just said. Just sayin, bro.
Kiore
We have emotions for very good reasons, but they come before rationalizing a situation.
Kiore
Yeah, it wasn't well-phrased. I meant in the sense emotions don't come from analyzing a situation and going, "Hm, tthis warrants being sad."