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Just moved across country for a new job and to get a fresh start on life. As it turns out, I have no clue how others my age meet new people. Before in life, it was school, then it was the military. Transitioning back to being a civilian and learning how to meet new people has been one of the toughest challenges in my life so far.
But, it's the holidays! So in the spirit of staying positive, I will at least say this: I'm getting payed over twice as much as I used to, and I live in a beautiful area.
BehindACorpFireWall
Try eharmony
toyobaru
I'm hijacking this post. Just moved to Des Moines IA someone be my friend I'm so bored
dinaana
Moved to a new country 2 years ago, I know the feeling, but it works out eventually. You can do it Dave
DuskMariner
Hah! Who needs friends?
Cyynic
Hobbies.
Anfalicious
meetup.com is great.
michaelmp
Well, since you have military experience, you'll be fine. U have already been thrown into scary situations with total strangers lol
SneakEFoxxe
Hide behind a bush. Wait for a suitable subject. Latch onto leg. Never let go.
BaseballHugGuy
izmi
I'm scared of this, too. Husband and I are moving cities in 14 days as I have a new job. Leaving all our friends here. Scared, but excited.
jacksattack
Check out meetup.com. you can search for meetups of things your into. Books, drinking, hiking
misterwit
I moved across country for a new job and then didn't get it. I think you have the easier problem to solve imo.
blahtotheblahblah
I was nervous about that very thing happening, even though I made sure to secure the position before moving. Sorry it happened to you
ShutUpImWorking
that's the life..
PeacefulWarfare
I use basketball to meet new people anywhere I go. Gyms everywhere and typically meet some pretty chill people. Other hobbies work to.
Schnoe
Exactly the same situation. In a new city for just a couple of months, this lonely silly season will be quite a test. Good luck op.
AithalLion
try gym... bond with someone and invite them to hang out
jennsbern
Similar story here! I ended up moving, and you get through. Try a new thing!
BoopersMcBooperson
I'll be your friend!
ialwaysupvotestevebuscemi
What state did you move to?
MadVillainousDave
Friends will come get yourself situated and handle your shit. Good job @OP and thank you for your service
blahtotheblahblah
I suppose you're right. Hell, I'm still unpacking. And thank you for the thank you! Always warms my heart a little!
littlemirrorsatourfeet
I hear ya. Making friends as an adult is super hard/weird >.<
blahtotheblahblah
It seems like the main way adults make friends is getting drunk with other drunk people. Not too different from the military!
littlemirrorsatourfeet
Lol. True. Once I started getting out of my woohoo party stage it was harder to meet ppl
idownvotekittens
Tell me about it. I'm 27 going to university. Not an extreme age difference, but enough to make it a challenge.
littlemirrorsatourfeet
It was the same for me. A few years made a big difference. If you ever want to chat, hit me up
Proudfoots
True. I had to basically start from scratch when I got sober, not an easy thing.
Fenomkagogo
I mentioned this to another imgurian previously but look at a website called meetup.com. it's a place to find similar interest groups (1/?)
Fenomkagogo
In your area. Hubby and I also moved Cross country. we used it to find a tabletop gaming group. Best of luck to you and many blessings (2/2)
legolandhyrule
go to the local bar. spot a fun group. buy a round. get best friends
blahtotheblahblah
No local bars unfortunately. I moved to a super small town in the middle of BFE, where the nearest town is 100+ miles away. Peaceful though.
cookseancook
butt fuck egypt? I'm so glad someone else uses that expression
blahtotheblahblah
I've always heard it called Bum Fuck Egypt, but same meaning, right?
cookseancook
we're not friends anymore
lilmizmuffet
Friends complicate things love alone online we are you new friends
blahtotheblahblah
Lol, I've been loving alone my whole life!
hotdudecurator
You wouldn't happen to know the source for that...would you?? :)
jprofitt2310
Irs really hard in midwest. Even if you've been here all your life. People hate everybody.
blahtotheblahblah
.......shit
TheQueenOfTheNight
Where in the Midwest?
blahtotheblahblah
In the desert, surrounded by mountains. Beautiful actually, considering I've spent my whole life surrounded by giant ass trees.
TheQueenOfTheNight
That sounds more west and less Midwest. But I bet it's beautiful
blahtotheblahblah
Nah, it's almost exactly middle. Just more west than I'm used to, growing up on the east coast.
riggeroo
Don't move to London then. Eye contact is basically outlawed. Especially on the tube.
mugforkstaple
Wait until everyone is pissed. The night tube is a different world.
riggeroo
*except the night rube
blahtotheblahblah
Haha, living in the South East US my whole life, that would be hell to me. Our default setting is smiling and small talk.
someawesomeusername
Va girl here. I agree! I feel uncomfortable making eye contact without doing a smile and nod!
WorkerDrone9547
Cali guy here. I agree with your statement.
thebookih
@op : Community groups, networking through work friends, backpage orgies, class/sesions like kickboxing, and just other local events.
notme222
What was that middle one again?
blahtotheblahblah
Networking through friends?
blahtotheblahblah
That all sounds fun, but I don't know if kickboxing is for me...
CirB
Any martial arts is pretty good for meeting people, IMO. Other hobbies, courses etc. are good too. For example, I recently got some new (!)
GhostbusterGuy
Anything where you meet people is an opportunity to make friends. Volunteer in your community or join groups for things youre interested in.
thebookih
Well, it's not for everyone, luckily you have yoga, ceramics, escort services, painting, and plenty more ways to meet new people each week
LadyBumps
Aaand now you have an inbox full of nudes, but not the ones you really want.
blahtotheblahblah
Lol, nope, not yet. Besides, I thought only the women of imgur got nudes? No nudes for dudes.
LadyBumps
I'm guessing if you ask nicely? Anyways.. give it time.
blahtotheblahblah
Haha, not sure I need nudes from strangers on imgur. There's plenty to see on the internet already
LadyBumps
Finally, someone else who thinks that. :)
Dahlmordyth
We're all friends here Dave
youreAlizardLarry
For the most part. Except for those "up vote money cat now for..." guys. And Terence. Fuck that guy
blahtotheblahblah
Holy shit, how'd you know my name is Dave?
blahtotheblahblah
Is what I would say if my name was Dave.
HotShinglesInYourArea
HAH! Classic Dave!
JupiterJedi
Fucking, Dave! Every time, dude. Every time.
blahtotheblahblah
Dahlmordyth
Because we're our friends Dave, of course your friends know your name.
Dahlmordyth
Your*
blahtotheblahblah
Update (since I don't know how to edit posts on mobile): made a new friend! His name is Jose Antonio de Cuervo! We're hanging out tonight
evil66gurl
Play a sport? Go to the gym? College classes? Yoga? Adult continuing ed? VFW? Meetup.com for similarly minded people?
LindsyLovesLemons
I mean ... You could always disclose your general location. Maybe arrange an imgur meet up.
MackMalone
I don't have much to give as far as advice but I was in the same situation! Now I'm friends with the local bartenders and their friends!
MackMalone
Even met people in my same apartment complex just by trying to get out of my comfort zone
aaamazzzing
I feel ya! Just did the same thing, but too broke to join things & fb groups didn't help. Lmk if you find a solution!
lagerdog9109
Since so many of us seem to be in this spot, I'll go out on a limb. Anyone in Ocean County NJ feel free to PM and maybe we can friend.
coonrad
Haha silver or gold Jose? I know them both well..
IFuckingLoveGoldenRetrievers
His name is Jose Cuervo? He's my drinking buddy too!!
professorfuzz
Strangely enough, met my current drinking bud on one of the posts here where people post their country, state, city. Get one going OP.
amsh101
I feel you on this. I'm 33 - same job for 5 years, but still don't have hardly any friends. I dont live where I grew up or went to school
samwise85
I had to check the username to make sure this whole post wasn't made by me last time I hung out with Jose.
Jutubya
I too just moved crossed country with new job and no friends!
strawberryblonder
Where you at!
Jutubya
Pittsburgh, PA from Southern California. You?
strawberryblonder
Ah dang. Vancouver here
toyobaru
We should start a thread haha I just moved to Des Moines, IA
Jutubya
Lol we should!!! I'm in Pittsburgh, pa
strawberryblonder
Vancouuuuver
insaneapples
I used Meetup.com to meet new people when I moved to a new city. It worked for me. Good luck!
DavidBowiesCodpiece
Ditto. I ended up being a co-organizer for a group. It's how I met 90% of my current local friends.
amsh101
which group did you find the most success with. . . also do you live in AR . . .jk . . .I'm lonely
megapow
Hey. Can I ask you what kind of events you went to? I'm just looking for more single people because all my friends have kids and I don't.
ImJustATeenageDirtbag
go to ones that sound cool i reckon, ive never done it but the idea of it sounds neat
maladiiii
I joined a board game group and it was awesome.
amsh101
So painfully true - my last single friend just got knocked up :(
strawberryblonder
I've used it too! I find that dancers are good for it. Specifically Swing!
insaneapples
I picked several categories, but the one the generally worked for me were the happy hours because, as a introverted person, liquid courage h
insaneapples
elped. So, good luck and be patient. Cultivating new friendships doesn't happen overnight, but be open to new experiences and be an active l
insaneapples
istener (listener).