I am so freaked out.

Jan 25, 2017 2:53 AM

krystColorClicker

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A few years ago, my wife and I stepped in and allowed her sister to move in with us. She has a daughter the same age as my son. The reason we brought them into our home, is because sis-in-law was a horrible mom. She cared more about getting high on opiates and benzo's, than her kid.

We treated our niece as if she was our own, we never wanted her to feel left out or unloved. Three years ago, sis-in-law has another baby and wife and I pretty much are her sole caregivers.

About 4 months ago, I wake up to find my 12 year old niece laying next to me, with my leg between her legs, grinding away.
I freaked. My wife was sleeping on the otherside. I jumped out of bed and left the room, a minute later she walks out. I told her that what she did wasn't right, she just looked at me like she had no idea what I was talking about.

About a week later as I am watching football, living crowded with family, she plops down next to me, throws a blanket over herself while covering me with it, and grabs my crotch, trying to give me a handjob. I jumped up and went into the kitchen. She followed me and jumped on me, wrapped her legs around my waist and tried to grind on my crotch. I had to physically shove her off of me.

At this point I avoid her like crazy, I stay away from home as much as possible. It's just not me, we say her sister who is 3 start grinding on one of her stuffed animals. We told her to stop, she had no idea anything was wrong or bad.
I don't know if this is just about a person discovering their sexuality, if it's a sign of abuse or what. I can't talk to her mom, she is useless. I am afraid that she is gonna do this with a guy who wont stop her and take things all the way.

I feel scuzzy, dirty and just freaked the fuck out, but it's not about me, it really is about her and I don't know what to do.

Tldr: 12 year old is acting out sexually, I am freaked out.

I work at a juvenile treatment center hypersexual little girls that come onto adults was pretty common if they'd been molested

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

please get the girl to a therapist. she might have seen something from her mother. she needs help.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Talk to your wife should be your first step. Not us.

9 years ago | Likes 41 Dislikes 0

Shit that never happened for $400, Alex.

9 years ago | Likes 51 Dislikes 13

Very definitely talk this over with a child psychologist and/or police officer, this kind of acting out is often a sign of abuse.

9 years ago | Likes 23 Dislikes 1

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Was waiting for tree fiddy is this even real?

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

https://www.childhelp.org/hotline/ this is a child abuse online hotline. They could point you in the right direction for. @krystColorClicker

9 years ago | Likes 23 Dislikes 0

you need more upvotes to reach top comment.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

If her 3 year old sister is doing it as well then it is more than likely abuse.

9 years ago | Likes 21 Dislikes 6

Well, it’s common among young kids, before they learn when it’s inappropriate, but the 12yo’s behaviour at least is likely abuse-related.

9 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 1

Yup,need to have a sit down chat with her

9 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 1

Some copy pasta

9 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 0

That could be an indication that she has been sexually abused by someone. She needs some sort of counseling to learn proper boundaries

9 years ago | Likes 22 Dislikes 1

Or that the mother didn't censor during childhood. Movies. Orgies, ASS2ASS, who knows

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 3

Be careful I live in CA and work for a criminal atty. We have molestation cases... some cases are theres a pervy handsy pedo and some cases

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

its a innocent dudes that get accused of stuff. In CA all you need is an allegation of inappropriate touching and a DA can decide to

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

proceed, especially if it involves a child. You need to notify your wife and possibly have surveillance to show you are not initiating or

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

engaging in any activities.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

We had a case where a 34 year old woman was upset at her father (money issues) and convinced her 13 year old daughter to tell a teacher that

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

her father (the minors) grandfather touched her 2xs. The DA pressed charges and even when the woman told the truth the DA was weary bc they

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Sounds like abuse. I'd consult a counselor or child protective services.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 28 Dislikes 4

Fuck man. Have you told your wife about this? Maybe your niece might need a little more eduction on how to act on sexual feelings? Good luck

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Given that op hasn't replied to a single comment I'm going to believe this is fake

9 years ago | Likes 122 Dislikes 3

It's an old story. I remember reading this one a couple of years ago or so.

9 years ago | Likes 45 Dislikes 1

Same, downvote OP

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

But what why would someone repeat the story just for Internet votes? People are weird

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

NoooooOOOOOooooo! FUCKER!!!!!

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

I saw the exact same story word for word like 2 months ago

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

i think its the plot to the movie Orphan. People usually tease this out for three or four posts before "and then we drowned her in a lake"

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I thought it sounded a bit familiar. Almost like that movie.. "Orphan"?

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Talk to your wife before it becomes a bigger issue. Like it or not later on if the truth comes out you'll be responsible for keeping quiet.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

If you just avoid her she will think its her fault sit her down with your wife and talk about it

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Her mother is probably hanging out with the kind of guys who take advantage of a 12 year old. These are classic sexual abuse symptoms.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

In the field here, please get them to see someone. Both can be signs of abuse or at the very least witnessing inappropriate actions.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

Protect your child! If she is acting out this way with you and did not succeed, there is a possibility that she could try it on your son.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Get her a therapist right now.

9 years ago | Likes 768 Dislikes 10

and you and your wife so you know what to do to help her.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Agreed, this kind of aggressive sexualized behavior is often nay even usually because of abuse. Source: 10 years in social services.

9 years ago | Likes 178 Dislikes 1

Like tomorrow kind if now

9 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 0

What about analrapist?

9 years ago | Likes 68 Dislikes 46

Damn lol

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

While I appreciate the joke, there's a time and a place.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 2

Wow people are downvoting arrested development?

9 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 5

On most other posts, they'd probably be upvoting like mad. I think the downvotes are b/c the post is dealing with real child abuse.

9 years ago | Likes 18 Dislikes 0

Probably because this is really not the time for this

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

I'm sad

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 2

Noo don't be :( I gave you a upvote

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Ah the world's first analist and therapist. No he's shit.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

When people don't get your Arrested Development reference https://media.giphy.com/media/a2G83cq7gotnq/giphy-downsized-large.gif

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 2

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Yup, this kind of behaviour usually signifies abuse. That poor child

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

It's normal for the 3 year old but you need to get the 12 year old some help, not avoid her

9 years ago | Likes 330 Dislikes 12

this needs to be the first comment

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 4

12 yo is around when sexuality should start to manifest. No so strongly maybe. Not on family definitely. But the sexuality itself is ok.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

1)no its not normal for the 3year old to be grinding....its ok if shes just making her toys kiss but not grinding. this could be signs of..

9 years ago | Likes 125 Dislikes 48

she's right.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 2

Yes it is normal, it doesnt discount the possibility of abuse but it is also normal for some young kids to 'hump' things

9 years ago | Likes 34 Dislikes 3

You clearly know fuck all about kids. Genitals feel good when they're rubbed, kids often discover this long before they discover sex.

9 years ago | Likes 18 Dislikes 4

No, you are actually wrong. It is totally normally for a 3 year old. My niece used to scoot on the wood floor ffs, obviously we said NO.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

In child dev psych this was listed as a normal phase. Boys hump everything at that age. Definitely worth checking for other signs tho.

9 years ago | Likes 49 Dislikes 2

My daughter used to grind on pillows all the time when she was 3. She eventually stopped.

9 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 1

She eventually stopped doing it in front of you.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

It's actually completely normal for kids, yes girls, to hump things without having been sexually abused. Even up until age 6.

9 years ago | Likes 95 Dislikes 5

Older than that too. It's one of the ways girls start masturbating. They just learn that it's private.

9 years ago | Likes 39 Dislikes 3

Yep

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

2)signs of her being abused possibly by the older sister since shes not getting feed back from the uncle source : i was molested as a child

9 years ago | Likes 159 Dislikes 21

My thought is that she has seen the mom doing it a lot.

9 years ago | Likes 39 Dislikes 3

I really hope that that's the case rather than the alternative.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Or she's copying her sister

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 2

Why haven't you told your wife? Tell her and then sit your niece down and both talk to her. Like you said, she might have been abused 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 273 Dislikes 2

2/2 in which case she'll need professional help.

9 years ago | Likes 114 Dislikes 1

He told his wife. He clearly writes "WE told her to stop"

9 years ago | Likes 18 Dislikes 3

That's referring to the 3 year old grinding on her toys. From the post he hasn't said anything about the older sister yet.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Yes, the 3y-old sister of the 12y-old. Wife seems to know nothing about the 12y-old yet.

9 years ago | Likes 25 Dislikes 0

Damn. You have to tell your wife asap. In great details so that she 1. Believes you. 2. Can help you figure this out. Also keep a log.

9 years ago | Likes 800 Dislikes 2

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

a log is a good idea!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Sounds like he's trying hard NOT to keep his log.

9 years ago | Likes 88 Dislikes 46

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Oh wow, have a +1 for that laugh! Sorry OP

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

It's funny, but this is not the time for this

9 years ago | Likes 32 Dislikes 11

This. Document everything in a thorough log. Then soak the log in wood.

9 years ago | Likes 87 Dislikes 3

holy shit man that got me

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

Not really the right time for that joke, but I absolutely lol'd

9 years ago | Likes 19 Dislikes 3

It's fucking Imgur dude this shit is probably fake anyway, who cares what he jokes about?

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 2

It's always the right time for a joke

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Tell your wife immediately. Then get the girls some help.

9 years ago | Likes 2041 Dislikes 5

He probably would have if this story were true.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Totally agree, please tell your wife if she finds out any other way your marriage is over. That child needs help.

9 years ago | Likes 32 Dislikes 0

What do you mean you don't know what to do?, Omg, TELL YOUR WIFE!!! Ffs, seriously

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

Why is the wife in charge of this? A man can get a girl help just as easily as a woman, i don't understand.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

Excellent i now understand the point you were trying to make :)

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

They are both responsible for the kid and work as a team, so both should he informed about odd behaviour like this.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

+1 qwertina. Also, unfounded allegations from the niece could mean a lot of headache and doubt from others. Very soon no family, no support-

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

This. Unhealthy sexual appetites in youths are often an initial sign of abuse. She might be emulating something she was witness/victim to.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

You're a total moron or you have a shit relationship with your wife if you didn't tell her IMMEDIATELY. WTF DUDE?? No excuse for that...

9 years ago | Likes 81 Dislikes 15

I don't think he said out directly but he says "we told her to stop" so I would assume he meant him and his wife

9 years ago | Likes 26 Dislikes 0

If that is accurate, I apologize. One would think that he would make it more clear though...

9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 1

That's a fair statement.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

That's referencing the 3-year-old. I don't think he's told his wife about the older girl.

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

Please tell your wife and let her handle it.

9 years ago | Likes 279 Dislikes 18

Fuck that, this is not just the wife's job! Marriage = teamwork.

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 1

Truth

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

This is a family issue, and can't be secret, promiscuous behavior in children is often the result of sexual abuse. Secrets make it shameful.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Fuck that, this needs some professional assistance, and probably some legal action against their mom to keep the kids while kicking her out

9 years ago | Likes 115 Dislikes 4

Wife first, then a counselor. It may just be a natural exploration of her self, but err on the side of caution.

9 years ago | Likes 20 Dislikes 3

Agreed

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

It these kinds of overreactions that create the system we have. Document to protect yourself, and let the women in the house have a heart2h

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 4

Treating possible sexual abuse is not overreacting, you dead stump.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Maybe so, but this is more common then your probably aware..

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 5

He said in the post he told her...

9 years ago | Likes 25 Dislikes 16

I didn't see that any where? Am I the only one?

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

He never said he told her.

9 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 0

Tell her more damnit im worried

9 years ago | Likes 49 Dislikes 1

You need to say something to somebody quickly. If she says something first it's going to be an entirely different kind of conversation.

9 years ago | Likes 3041 Dislikes 7

Indeed @OP

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 3

Promiscuous behavior in children is often the result of sexual abuse. While it isn't @OP fault he and his wife need to work to help her

9 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 0

Fuck yes @op. What this guy said.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 4

Better post on imgur. Not like my wife would perhaps have some insight...

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

Have you seen The Hunt? This is what happens

9 years ago | Likes 32 Dislikes 1

Take her to a therapist that specializes in adolescence and abuse. Tell the doctor about these incidents first. Make sure she gets help

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Just know if that person is a mandated reporter, be sure youre ready for DHS or the police they are required by law to report sexual abuse.

9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

Not to say that isnt the right way to go, just know thats whats gonna happen.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

She will be embarrassed and might lash out at you, but she needs help, and you need to protect yourself and your family.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I agree. At least he made this post on imgur. This will surely hold up in court.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

This! This you jackass! DO IT!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

Couldn't have put it better myself

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Yeah man... Hurry. No time wasting.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

@OP listen to this, do it quick. Maybe your wife first? Tell her how uncomfortable you are about it and ask what you should do, together.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Tell her exactly what has happend and maybe suggest the girl gets to see someone professional about it and then talk to the girl togheter_..

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

.._ about it. Put a lid of truth on this before a fire breaks out.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

@OP is a fag. This is a reposted story.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 23

You sure it wasn't the story about the young guy adopting his lady neighbor's daughter then marrying her a decade later?

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Just take any sentence out of this story and put it in quotes and google search it. This is the only one that comes up.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

That's your first thought after reading? False rape allegations?? The kids have probably been molested and need help first & foremost!

9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 12

I'm sorry, but bullshit. They might need help foremost, but OP protecting himself has to most definitely be FIRST.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 3

Not that the child might accuse but that the child might say something causing other adults to accuse. Once that ball gets rolling it's 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

difficult to calm people down and explain the situation rationally. It's best to get ahead of it rather than wait for shit to hit the fan

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

We, imgurians, are your witnesses

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

whoa now, i want no part of this

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Make a video. Put a discrete camera somewhere that record whenbsomething moves. It's cheap

5 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Say something, quickly. Legally. I'm so sorry.

9 years ago | Likes 20 Dislikes 0

This is not normal for a 12 yr old. Call a therapist now.

9 years ago | Likes 158 Dislikes 2

@OP YES. Call one for her and one for you.

9 years ago | Likes 18 Dislikes 1

Just make sure you take steps to get the girl help.

9 years ago | Likes 358 Dislikes 1

This is textbook behavior from a kid that has already been sexually abused and or being groomed by someone else.

9 years ago | Likes 151 Dislikes 0

Disgusting :/

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

^^ sauce:working with kids. Talk to people and get her some help... Family doctor or someone similar might be a good start.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I woke up with my mom's bf's kid with her tongue in my mouth when I was 13, said nothing then got accused of rape and was almost lynched

9 years ago | Likes 192 Dislikes 0

Damn

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

So what part of the world are you from?

9 years ago | Likes 65 Dislikes 3

Alabama.

9 years ago | Likes 62 Dislikes 6

Makes sense.

9 years ago | Likes 34 Dislikes 6

Brutal

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

I'm from Florida but this happened in Tennessee

9 years ago | Likes 33 Dislikes 0

they hang you for making out with a minor?

9 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 0

Seemed like it. She was like 7 or 8, but her family was calling for my arrest and my mom blamed me for ruining her relationship

9 years ago | Likes 19 Dislikes 0