The most dangerous time for a domestic abuse victim is when they actually leave.

May 25, 2017 8:39 PM

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This is potentially really important

Sojourner Family Peace Center https://familypeacecenter.org/ Domestic Abuse Project http://www.domesticabuseproject.com/ Domestic Abuse Hotline http://www.thehotline.org 1 (800)799-7233

Upvote this whenever I see it just to bring attention to it.

9 years ago | Likes 84 Dislikes 6

My boss keeps harassing me, telling me I need to come into work and such....I'm hiding at the end of a 3rd floor hotel as we speak. Ha!

9 years ago | Likes 18 Dislikes 2

TIL hotels are a safe have for the abused.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 2

If you can afford it, some of them can be so yes.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I don't have any experience with harassment or anything along those lines, but I imagine that if the person you're hiding from knew 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

2/2 you were there and the staff said you weren't, they'd probably try to push through the staff anyway. Probably get arrested, but still.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

former hotel worker, can confirm. I hid several people. Only the police could be told if the guest was there.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

+1, may actually save someone's life.

9 years ago | Likes 28 Dislikes 4

My eyes just got a little watery, both for abusive victims and how protective complete strangers can be. The world isnt all bad.

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 3

I could have used this tidbit about 5 years ago.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Hotel clerk is an entry-level job. There is no "All hotel clerks know X and Y." They just know what Dave the manager told them to do to.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Uhh I also worked front desk at a hotel for years. Never heard of this before now. But policy was to never give out guest info etc, anyway.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Do hotels ID you? I want to say it would be easier to just book with a fake name, safer too because a hotel staff might fuck up, but idk 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

2/2 tbh I work at a hotel and people are always trying to show me their ID but unless ur trying to use a special rate or something idgaf

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

At any of the hotels I have worked at when you ask for that listing we put you on a floor accessible only by key

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

I was under the impression that hotels can't give out any information anyway

9 years ago | Likes 21 Dislikes 1

If you have the guest's name you can ask to be transferred to the room, you can also ask if the person has checked in yet.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

A hotel should never give out new info but can usually verify. Caller:"Please transfer me to Jane Doe's room." I can transfer w/o giving 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Thanks for sharing, any little details that can help people on these situations should be shared.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

My boyfriend works at a hotel. A housekeeper saw a girl that her ex was looking for and told him she was there. She had to run away again :/

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I wish I'd known this a couple years ago when I left. I stayed at a hotel one night cuz there was a blizzard and the bus wasn't going up

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

the mountain to the dv shelter. I barely slept cuz I was terrified he'd come find me. Didn't help that I was in a lot of pain.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Holy shit. You poor thing, I'm hoping you are in a better place now?

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Much better. :)

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

In the case where this happens, are you staying at a no tell?

9 years ago | Likes 100 Dislikes 3

*slow clap*

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I love you.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I love you too. <3

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I'm not even sorry for this shitty pun.

9 years ago | Likes 38 Dislikes 1

i've totally heard of no-tells. aka "i'm not going to tell the cops about your potentially elicit activities."

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Accept it. Own it.

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 1

i was having a terribad day and this made me smile. <3

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Then it was totally worth it. :)

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

See also: how to have an affair.

9 years ago | Likes 105 Dislikes 14

I didn't think about this, I just thought about how I know so many people who have been abused and wondered if this would've been helpful.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

This is all I could think people would use this for when I first read it

9 years ago | Likes 24 Dislikes 1

So you could do this while you're on the run from the cops?

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

As I say every time I see this, if you say "Put me as unlisted" nobody's gonna know wtf you're talking about. Just tell us what's going on

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

and we'll take whatever extra steps we can to protect you. But being unlisted isn't a universal thing and we already do a lot of this.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

working in hospitality house keeping is always supposed to announce themselves. you can notify the front desk and security about your 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

2/3 situation but do not always put your faith on those individuals to protect you. It is easy for communication to falter and some one 3/3

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

3/3 to screw up. Put that chain or lat h across your door and use the peephole.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Housekeeping should stay the fuck away unless specifically asked to come. Anyone can knock and say housekeeping...

9 years ago | Likes 35 Dislikes 6

My thoughts exactly.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

Housekeeping can get in without needing you to unlock, so them saying "housekeeping" would just be to make sure you knew.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Except housekeeping also has a master key. They announce themselves then just enter, unless you have requested otherwise or are indecent.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Then yall would forget to ask for shit until you come back at the end of the day now housekeeping is gone and 50 people want fresh towels

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

There is usually a door hanger stating No Housekeeping along with the Do Not Disturb one.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

I was a receptionist at a Wyndham resort for a while, and we were not allowed to connect someone to any guests room based on name alone 1/2

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

for this exact reason. We would gladly connect you to a room number, but not just a name. 2/2

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I work at a hotel and this happened before. The guest never said anything to the front but when her husband came looking for her (1/2?)

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Something about his body language tipped off the front desk agent and she called up to the ladies room and had he dead bolt the door.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Can't help but wonder if same applies if a man is fleeing an abusive relationship? Especially if he is say "middle-eastern" looking to boot.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I've checked in and protected men as well as women. Once we had a construction crew staying who'd recently fired someone, and that person

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

kept trying to get into their rooms and contact them in general. So no, it doesn't matter.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Worked 3 years at various hotels and this is definitely something we're willing to do, but you can also do what one woman and I did:

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Her abusive, stalker ex was monitoring her every move and refused to give their son over to her unless she had proof she was (see next)

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Staying up in a nice hotel and not her friend's apartment (she had nowhere else to go) but she didn't have the cash for it and (see next)

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Really didn't want him to be able to find her. So, she put him over the phone while I rang up a fake transaction, (see next)

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

And made fake keys (that could still get her into the building in case he was that paranoid) with an envelope to a room # that didn't exist.

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

Anyways, I thought she came up with a damn good solution to her situation and thought I would share for others to know about.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

As a Yellow Truck rental company, we do the same. So when you are trying to get away, someone doesn't figure it out in advance

9 years ago | Likes 240 Dislikes 5

Now this is something I didn't know. Amazing!

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

http://imgur.com/vdp0u82 Not sure how its useful when you are trying to get away from someone, run them over maybe.

9 years ago | Likes 57 Dislikes 2

I wish we rented them that big. What would that cost one way to Cali?

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

Cat 797 MPG : .03 mpg Distance: 2,797 miles (NY to LA): 93233 gallons @ $1.60 per gallon: $149172

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

$1.60 per gallon?! Jealous.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Bruh, .03 MPG??? Why tho? Is that while it is empty?

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Those things are fucking huge, look for a picture of one next to a person. They also don't have a need for high gearing like cars.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

106 liter/6468 cubic inch 24 cylinder engine is why.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

What's a yellow truck rental

9 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 0

Probably Penske.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Google rental trucks. May or may not start with the letter that comes after O.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Oooooh Penske

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

We rent big yellow trucks. For moving.

9 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 0

Major Truck Rental Company. Not Uhaul or Budget

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Slightly off topic: we rented from y'all last time and will never go back to the other guys.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Hotel;the entrance is on the inside. motels; entrance on the outside. Just a fun fact.

9 years ago | Likes 1046 Dislikes 19

Not always. Been to motels with interior halls and worked for hotels with exterior ones.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

hotel motel holiday inn

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 1

If you're girl acts up at the carnival, then you take her friend

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Motel is just a portmanteau of motor and hotel. Although your statement is true in many cases, it is far from a "fact"

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 2

No-tell motel

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Unless you're a Motel 6. Then you just do what the fuck ever.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Entrance to the rooms you mean, right

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

This reminds me of the time I learned the pole spins. Somehow both smarter and dumber at the same time.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

That WAS fun!!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Not necessarily true

9 years ago | Likes 38 Dislikes 5

That was the golden rule for a long time but of course a lot of rules have exceptions.

9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 2

Just a fun myth. There's no relationship between the name and the room door location.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 5

That's true. But if I'm telling a friend, generically, where I stayed I use this distinction.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

Actually, there was once. The name motel was a short version of motor hotel. In the 20s- 30s, they pioneered pulling the car up to the door.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

That was considered novel and more convenient for auto travellers than leaving the car elsewhere, schlepping through the hotel lobby, etc.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

I stayed at a comfort inn with both!

9 years ago | Likes 46 Dislikes 0

Explain..Im VERY interested!!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

With entrances on the inside and the outside..remember..u were there

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Must have been one of your other whores

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

The one in winchester which is a dorm now... it had doors on the inside and outside

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Ho-tel, mo-tel, holiday inn! If your girl starts acting up, you can take her friends!

9 years ago | Likes 281 Dislikes 4

Say WHAT

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 1

Thanks, Now I have to listen to that.

9 years ago | Likes 31 Dislikes 1

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9 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 1

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9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

To the rhythm of the boogie, the beat A skiddleebebop, we rock, scooby doo And guess what, America, we love you

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0