Hopefully just a bad day

Notheusernamedoesntcheckout

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So earlier I posted about my weird relationship with my (now former) S/O. Basically how she used a bunch of my money and physically and verbally abused me, but I was confused of if the relationship was abusive because I (very weirdly) get emotional happiness/fulfillment from being verbally and physically degraded.
Side note: people thought that I meant like I get sexually arousal/pleasure from being degraded, but I'm not actually into domination like that, I was really just talking on purely emotional level. I'm pretty vanilla when it comes to sex actually haha.

Anyway, I went to my parents and told them my situation to ask them what they thought, and if they had any helpful advice for me. Que the 3 hour lecture on how I'm a spineless good-for-nothing mess up child that nobody would miss, and how the 'real man' would never treat a women the way I have. I guess to them I've been an incredibly cruel douchebag to my ex-girlfriend, and that I should be using every heartbeat to try and make it up to her. After leaving (more storming out really) I still went through and broke up with her, she ends up calling her parents AND my parents, everyone proceeds to visit me at my apartment (like its an intervention or something) and pretty much shout at me until I gave a verbal apology to her. I mean, they said every fucking insult you could throw at a human being for like an hour, just completely berating me.

Finally, after what felt like an eternity (my ex is crying, her dad is red in the face, her mom and my mom have the most pursed lips i've ever seen, and my dad can't even look me in the face) her parents tell me that they are going to sue for emotional trauma/ emotional abuse, and my own fucking parents are supporting them!!!

Like, what the fuck am I going to do now? Hire a lawyer and go bankrupt, or just pay the parents for the emotional trauma i've apparently caused and go bankrupt?

God, look, at the end of the day, I probably deserve all of this shit (heh, I probably deserve way worse than this quite frankly), but just wow, today was a bit too heavy.

GreenPie54

If you could sue for a breakup, this wouldn't be the first time you're hearing about it. No case. Move on and up

9 years ago |

KimJongUnceUnceUnce

their lawyer when they try to get him involved https://media.giphy.com/media/Vg0JstydL8HCg/giphy.gif

Derimas

Burn down their homes and salt the land.

VictisHonor

May You find happiness elsewhere, good luck!

Gloriously

Go back say you are sorry.

mikeatike

They don't get to sue you for being a big meanie. If your family can't back you then fuck em, your better off without that dead weight.

GoToQuirkProviderZooeyDeschanel

Yeah, that's not happening (the law suit). Screw them all, I say. I would have told them to gtfo rather than apologize

thatsuzychick

As far as i can see youre out of two emotionally abusive relationships. Your parents hurt you and you're better off without them

Moridin23

Its a very normal thing that abusers turn your friends and family against you; It's just another control they have over you. Don't cave!

ShooterMcGrabbin

haha, you still talk to your parents for real advice on your life? How old are you?

I mean, come on, they're just as fucking lost as you are man, have you not realized that yet?

Knowwon

Counter sue for the same plus the abuse. Hope you have more evidence than she does, also sounds like your parents liked her more than you.

Trickky

They can't die you. Pack your shit up and leave town. There are better things for you in the next city.

Strostkovy

Don't give them anything. Get away from your abusive family and move on.

krugle

Eh, tell them to go fuck themselves.

Seriously, (this may sound weird but) they sucked out all the fun/joy i get from verbal degradation, like how is that even possible?!?

unappropriate

It's all imgurs fault

MissSiesta

Maybe seek counselling. You need a third party that can evaluate the situation properly. Not imgurians (who don't know the details)

Notasatanworshipper

You did the right thing. No matter who cares, you should be able to break up your relationship if it's abusive. You don't deserve it.

Greymalum

I am not reading the comments. Do what is best for you. Advice? Keep good social hobbies and ignore the drama. No, they can't sue you.

Coondogg

So you listened to advice from a collective of people who live in their mothers basements?

zerovectra

Lawyer up (honestly any sane judge would throw the case out), hit the gym and maybe go to somewhere like Thailand (cheap and beautiful!) ...

For a few weeks and let all this blow over.

GreenArmySocks

Sounds like a good time to relocate. I like Alaska. It's nice.

Kafula1106

Hey! Fellow Alaskan. Yeah my family is super far away and it's expensive for them to visit. Best place to ghost your family.

sadpersonissad

Either there was something left out of the previous post, or you've clearly done what many victims of abuse do and accidentally found 1/

yourself in a relationship that mirrors the abuse you likely faced from your family growing up. If it's the latter, holy shit I'm sorry 2/

for what's happened to you and I can tell you you're not alone as someone who has done something similar. Good luck, OP. 3/3

ThisIsJustMySecondNSFWAccountMoveAlongOrPMmeIDontCare

This sounds weird. You shared your story 10 hrs ago and immediately went and told your parents/her that it was over, and now you're here?

I agree your relationship was shitty, but that's normal. All relationships have problems. You could have talked to her about it first.

Im telling you man, today was fucking crazy, I've never had such a fucking shit show go down like this

tarrbot

1/ Have you asked yourself if they think you're such a shit, why are they so involved with getting you two back together? I mean obviously

2/ something is making them think you are awesome enough to bother with all this drama right? So here's the clue. Tell them all to fuck off

3/ Your parents as well. This is some fucking reality TV shit going on. When you take their fear and shove it down their throat, it might

4/ change some of their shitty behavior. Just remember that. You're awesome. They know it but don't want you to know it. Fuck them.

ProfileBanned

Lawyer up, I'd love to see how their claims hold up in court, then when it fails, counter sue and use her emotional abuse as claim.

Trollslegur

Yes, because ~everyone~ can afford a lawyer on a moment's notice. /sarcasm.

They said they'd lawyer up. Try again, moron.

InvidiousSquid

1. They're going to get laughed out of any legal office. 2. Your family is assholes. It happens. I have a family full of 'em.

GeneralGroove

Yer, ignore the legal nonsense they say and focus on seperating yourself from your family a little bit. Space and time could help a lot.

Agreed, it would be thrown out.

PinkyToeSlayerOfTableLegs

No longer having any of my asshole family members in my life was the best thing to happen to me personally. It was tough at first but my

life is mine now.

I cut so many family and "friends" out when I came to my senses I thought I'd be alone forever. It was a good choice for me.

And get some god damned therapy.

haha, I feel okay with the rest of my life, job is fine and I can function as a normal human being

Depends on the state. Liberal state? That shit will stick. Conservative state? Laughed out of the office. Indie state? Get f-ed by big corp.

RedBeardedTrucker

That shit won't stick in a liberal state either. Don't be a dunce.

http://injury.findlaw.com/torts-and-personal-injuries/intentional-infliction-of-emotional-distress.html

https://www.peoples-law.org/suing-abuser-civil-court

http://www.injuryclaimcoach.com/pain-and-suffering-reimbursement.html

http://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/how-to-sue-for-emotional-distress.html

http://blogs.findlaw.com/injured/2013/12/can-you-sue-over-mental-stress-trauma.html

http://www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/psychological-abuse-cases.html

brannewenergy

No state will take place it seriously.

IDownvoteYourShit

Either 1: You are now free from two abusive families or 2: you lied to us and are actually the asshole your parents say you are.

Either way, no one can actually sue you for breaking up with aomeone. Also, why the fuck did you let them into your apartment afterward?

3: I am free from two abusive families and also an abusive little asshole that doesn't deserve the light of day

You leave OP's cat out of this!

Haha, I don't have a cat, I can barely take care of a cactus

I actually have no witty response to this.

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