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After 34 years, I figured this out.
Jul 26, 2016 2:51 AM
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Gdan79
I wish more women made the first move.
gta19941
Dude you know how happy I'd be if women approached me first. I sucks at talking to women I'm interested in.
SwarleysQuinntervention
Just say hi. Or smile a little (not too long)
DontTazeMeBrah
I'll take whatever help I can get
monkeyputz
...unless of course she's weird...or desperate.
SuicideDog
This must be america problem. Why would you assume weirdness?
armeggedonCounselor
God please make the first move. I have no sense of my own attractiveness. I'll just assume you're being nice.
Andilee
You're not bad looking!
hitzchicky
Who thinks this?
lokishadowgirl
but me, I am both
FoeOfFauxPho
Another woman telling me how it is. Yeah, I'll stick to what I find attractive.
johnnyratbastard
If a girl is interested in me she's either weird or desperate.
JustYourLips
The only times I never made the first move were with my first few bf's and I was extremely shy when I was younger.
GGfail
Who the hell thinks this?! Every single guy I know would be ecstatic if this happened.
SeriouslyILoveCake
As a female who historically likes aggressive males, I get bummed men feel they can't be. I know why but still.
kcufuck
Wtf are you talking about?! No one thinks a woman is weird or desperate for making the first move. Most think it's hot and refreshing.
Draykun
I've never made the first move. It's not that I'm not attracted to anyone but I'm just a lazy fuck.
PrisonDonkey
It's true. I never would have met my wife if she hadn't approached me first.
volatilityshort
Smart wife. Sometimes shyer people get overlooked too easily (me included).
LetsEatGrandpaCommasSaveLives
LEAVE BRITNEY ALONE
mitochondriaarethepowerhouseofthecell
It just means she's actually into you. Mystery solved, move on to step 2: making it awkward.
AZRAELSBLADE
My partner doesn't like it when I make the first move.
LonelyBrannigan
Now convince the rest of the dating world :p
Maschinensohn
She's a keeper.
volatilityshort
She's also 6' 1" (I'm 6' 5"). Good luck finding someone else that tall again. I'll hold on.
bruhwhat069
Absolutely. If the world was full of more woman making first moves the world would probably be a much better place. Dont judge her asshole
the12thletter
Not until you're tried it out, at least.
MydeslyxiasFunnyToMe
I make the first move, because I know what I want & I go after it. If a guy wants to judge me poorly for that, then he's not the guy I want
Valkor
Weird people are fun.
volatilityshort
Weird people = best people.
Valkor
ASquirrelNamedLloyd
But I FEEL like I'm desperate and I'm DEFINITELY a pervert. Sitting next to this guy and thinking what it would be like to feel his leg
KarlMoebius
I dunno, has she actually seen me? In good light? With contact in? Sober? And she still asked? ... she's probably after my kidneys.
LumpWithaLeafHat
I would prefer a cultural shit where women make the first move because fuck do I suck at it.
LumpWithaLeafHat
***shift.......
awefulcrowded23
Myself, I like women that make the first move. Always have
sometimesipostsockshere
I don't like them approaching "dude wunt sum fuk?!" and when rejected calling me a loser or a faggot xd
volatilityshort
Same. I don't want to disrespect her or come on too strong. Makes it easy to get the green light.
combatwombat0
Hey there...
hollygoroughlly
I always make the first move now. Guys are often too afraid because they get called creeps or pervs. As a girl, I dont get judged as much.
MisterRedWasMyFather
My gf got me (someone probably out of her league at the time) by making the first move. I wouldn't have even noticed her otherwise.
SonicDay
You are the real MVP
whatspaulplayingtoday
Facts. I don't often even ask someone out just because I don't want that hassle.
Draevan13
From guys like me who've given up and will never make the first move, thanks.
theycallmeMrGlass
Yeah. I'm tired of getting called creepy or thirsty just because I show interest in a woman!
RogerSmithsAlterEgoNumber30238
That would have been great before I was married. Apparently I sucked at knowing when I had a chance.
TheUtahn
Blessings unto you.
LyonEnigma
I like this one. She understands.
33Fox
A woman that actually... gets it? Well I can't upvote enough.
MAYORofTITTYciti
Thank you
dicksniffer69
As a guy who was raised to be a gentleman, I'm terrified of crossing a boundary that I don't see. Its better to live w/ missed 1/2
stonke
I honestly feel, as a girl, if the guy is a perfect gent, that whatever I choose to initiate will stop and not be pushed anymore when I
stonke
Feel I've gone where I want to go. If that makes sense... Its been working so far! Only the dickheads cross the creepy/inappropriate line!
MrRandomUK
As a 30-something man: woohoo! you've just made me feel creepy :D
dicksniffer69
Opportunities than to live with realizing you're a cringe story or violated a woman's trust. It's a weird world, I don't wanna contribute
Bishca
Dude, that low self-worth, just stop being a doormat. Learn how to read body language, then take the initiative. If you get rejected so what
WeFoundSomethingBeneathTheIce
I'm not afraid of getting rejected. I'm afraid of getting maced.
MagicSquid
Sounds like you need kung fu classes then.
dicksniffer69
To the creepy weirdness
Rwhejek
you're doing gods work
turimbar
For real, I have to work to be constantly self aware anytime I even talk casually to a girl. It's exhausting, and erodes self worth.
AuryxBecauseWhyNot
Pretty much.
hollygoroughlly
Exactly and you shouldn't have to feel like that.
turimbar
Well, if there's more women like yourself around, it'll hopefully level the playing field a bit overall.
serenityaerin
Plus it's so much fun to make the first move and see their happy surprised face.
Zantumal
Wish someone would do this for me :/
Fumbledpersonality
Godblessyou
AZRAELSBLADE
You are doing God's work
chickenonaanairplane
God bless your little heart...from the shy ones.
DanielWeber
I'd move slowly towards you first
Themigwing
You're "thirsty"
Themigwing
It was a joke
SouperScott
And here's the judgement that OP was talking about.
GiftedGoldfish
@hollygoroughlly *sitting hear patiently waiting for the 1st move
TeenGirlSquad
Your profile says you're an introvert. Are you a high-social introvert or am I receiving mixed signals?
hollygoroughlly
When Im interested in someone I make the first move, other than that Im quite happy not pursuing social interaction.
MisterRedWasMyFather
As a guy, it's like a +3 for a woman. We've been together happily for three years.
EnthusiasticWaffles
You are the hero gotham deserves. +1 for using your powers for good
AuryxBecauseWhyNot
Thank you, miss, for understanding.
AuryxBecauseWhyNot
...and after a week or two of us talking for well over an hour a day in class, I got her number. Now, throughout this time, she never once..
AuryxBecauseWhyNot
I had an incident with a girl I had been talking with in my college English class since day one. We got along well, and enjoyed chatting...
AuryxBecauseWhyNot
Mentioned having a boyfriend at all. But agter I got her number, she texted me asking why I wanted her number, to which I honestly replied..
AuryxBecauseWhyNot
...she had told him "some weird dude" was texting her. So he said if I didn't leave her alone, he would beat my face in with a metal bat.
AuryxBecauseWhyNot
That I enjoyed talking to her (that's all I said!). I then got a call. It was her boyfriend threatening to bash my face in. Apparently...
bntli
You don't necessarily have to make a move, but a little encouragement is nice
dabadactyl
I feel like our encouragement usually ends up too subtle though, and it's easy to cross the line into thirsty territory.
volatilityshort
So true it hurts. I just need an indication that I'm not offending or being overly caveman by pawing at her.
srsfaceI8C
"Overly caveman." Great imagery, I'm dying laughing at the image I'm visualizing from that.
bntli
Glad I'm not the only one. Like if you would just use your words this whole thing would go a lot smoother and less stressful
jimbobthecaveman
While i agree, sometimes men couldnt take a hint if glued it to a fish and smacked us with it. I speak as one of those men.
bntli
True, but sometimes hinting is totally uncalled for. It's totally fine if you and your bf want to play games, but if you make a wrong move
SoMenSayThatImIntenseOrImInsane
Username checks out.
bntli
I used to hang out with a girl who I used to walk home a lot and later she told me she wanted to fuck so bad and wanted me to ask to come in
bntli
So I can look like a desperate tool and you can tell me you don't want to be friends anymore? I don't think so fam. Maybe I'll never be
bntli
Overly successful because of my caution, but I'll take having friends over a less desirable outcome any day