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Dec 3, 2016 5:53 PM
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moderatbothsides
This is in no way a confession. If anything this is you bragging about a nice thing you do. Why use confession bear?
OhBabyATripple
This post made me remember that my friends are assholes
AntennaDibb
I've already accepted that I have so little social presence that the moment a third person enters the room I just leave the conversation.
NotASaint
Lamest confession bear ever. Come on. Give us something good.
Brickthedummydog
Me too. It's respectful and empathetic. Good for you!
Mattiks
echo5
I would do that but it's normally me no one was listening to
ElaineCoyle
I do this too, if there's anything I hate it is people talking over others.
damnjulicious
There !!! Someone said it. I always do this. I've been in the same situation,I know it's a bad feeling. No one deserves that.
AudleyEnuff
You're empathetic
Bighead2696
That's not really a confession, but kudos
GrizzlyWicks
depends if he was part of the group or not
boywiththehappypenis
On the one hand -- this can be awesome, but on the other hand -- if the entire group is ignoring except for one dude who is just staring 1/2
boywiththehappypenis
I may think that this guy is just staring at me antagonistically, like ~ 'Look at the dork tell his story.' 2/2
iwakuralain
Good guy OP. But do you actually listen, or just stare them down?
laceywy
This is not confession bear, should have used good guy greg
AWitlessIdiot
I used to be that guy.... you know how i fixed it? I shut the fuck up and only spoke to the entire group's interests.
Ameatyloaf
I'm not sure if you're aware of how much people appreciate this.
deeviralbuzz
chocomallow
Was at the first charity dinner at Blizzcon. Metzen introduced a few guys to a small group of people were chatting with him. No one ....
chocomallow
seemed to care so I turned around and started talking with them. Got some great stories that were far better than hearing about future lore
comfortableshoes
I do this too, and I also am a super attentive and responsive audience if someone is giving a talk or something. I feel so bad if they are 1
comfortableshoes
2 up on stage and no one is paying any attention to them. It must be horrible for them, so I always make eye contact and laugh at jokes...
comfortableshoes
3 and stay attentive and interested, even if it gets a little uncomfortable for me; the speaker might latch on eye contact like a life raft.
drewbs86
Yeah I'm with you on this
booknerd42
amop
"hope im not the only decent human being in the world"
puddinhead2U
And then they concentrate and start talking only to you. Fuck that
yzrocketman
Agreed, sometimes people arent listening because they have nothing good to say.
Sylviastout
Haa depending whom I'm taking to, I'll wait for them to finish then stand up whilst finishing what I'm saying & excuse myself for a minute.
JudgeRhymehold
Yeah I've learned from that. And just focus one the others ignoring
SadTadpole
Real shit tho
killmizer
I do this too. We are the unspoken heroes of social awkwardness, defending the verbally weak from the injustice of apathetic whoresons!
LemmiwinksKingofGerbils
Whoresons? I know where menfolk use this word, I'm afeared
killmizer
Aye! School of the Wolf or bust!
spookyu
Yeah, real human connection is awful. I'm only being half sarcastic to be honest....
Sacurason
Eh. If your group isn't shitty everyone participates pretty much equally, and those that have trouble talking feel comfortable.
Sacurason
Source: I dropped off communication with a bunch of shitty "sort of" friends, and my close friends and I have 0 issue with this sorta thing.
SpacemanSpiff1000
Nah man, everyone feels left out every now and then its nice to know you arent excluded.
ThumbDunkTheDirtstar
Happens all the time.. I feel obligated to make "I'm totally understanding" facial gestures and nods to complete the exchange
Anonawesome
I mean if it's a girl I like, then yeah I'll make sure she feels like she isn't ignored. Otherwise yeah fuck that.
vashery
I do this too I hate anyone feeling left out
zoey238
I wish someone would do this for me. Sometimes I feel like I don't exists.
wagnus
Wow what a confession...
SnailsAgainstTungstenSpheres
He's a fucking monster
OldEricCool
Ooh good confession
YoungJackZer0
"Once I saved someone's life, but I don't tell anyone about because I don't like to brag."
afartnSpartan
This is way more fitting to be a good guy greg, especially if OP doesn't mention himself to humble-brag.
SaltCollector
"I want to be rewarded for not being piece of shit" bear.
zenmaster11
MarvaNipp
Would it help you to know that this is a repost?
CheezburgerApocalypse
That just makes it worse!
FergalHB
This bear is misused more than the ones Russians used to make dance
YoungJackZer0
I think the biggest misuse goes to the awkward Pinguin. It has lost all of its meaning.
diggetydug
I'm always that guy that doesn't get listened to. So thanks for that. You the real MVP.
DesertGecko
I wish someone would do this. I'm always the guy that is ignored is a conversation even when I start it.
LordoftheBanana
You could be that, or you could just be thinking you are the victim like most people, myself included
DistantArray
I know those feels, always happens to me :(
DetectiveSherlockHolmes
Woah, who said that...
Mrhappytrigers
Diddo
number1keeper
Crack joke. No one laughs. Someone cracks same joke 1 min later. Hilarity ensues
Ulgoroth
I have the same problem with my family and people in my class, well, with every talkative group.
Iwas17whenMyLastBabyToothWasPulledOut
also maybe you guys need some better friends. I never trust a person who lets me wait 3mins till it's my turn, but won't give me 30secs
Iwas17whenMyLastBabyToothWasPulledOut
telling y'all, they ain't worth it.
Iwas17whenMyLastBabyToothWasPulledOut
Do what I do, "hey, I'm not finished!" or "lemme finish first" (of course not in an aggressive way) works 80% of the time.
Luckyblue13balls
Maybe you should stay home..
nightray7
This happens to me all the time. Now I just wait for momentary pauses to speak.
Lillae
I get talked over in voice chat every time, to the point where I have to start repeating myself louder and louder until someone responds.
Assfullofbread
Just pull your dick out
DesertGecko
Never not heli-dick
mocockblock
I'm sorry. I wasn't listening.
SoftwareChef
Same, until I learned to force myself into the conversation. Now, unfortunately, I speak over people, but I also repeat quiet comments.
Alphatronx3
Sometimes I honestly feel like I'm a little bug or a ghost when talking. It gets to me sometiems
leeuhnotlayuh
I feel the same way. I feel like people are just completely ignoring me most of the time.
Alphatronx3
I can't imagine people doing it purely intentionally, but you just need the right crowd, those that listen to you . You'll find them soon
whatstherush
People like to hear themselves more than listening. Look for those that pay attention. They're the 1s worth speaking to.
Alphatronx3
Thanks. That really opened my eyes and made my day happier! Thank you!
whatstherush
No problem! Be well :)
RackaDishiprine
Happens to me a lot. It's really hard on me. I feel like I don't matter.
Alphatronx3
Guys, it's ok. We just have to find the people that listen to you. Stick with them. They'll be hard to find but its worth it
choloeseguay
same
Alphatronx3
Guys, it's ok. We just have to find the people that listen to you. Stick with them. They'll be hard to find but its worth it
Alphatronx3
I said the same thing to the other guy but that's because wi mean it. Strive to find the group you belong with not think you should be with!
speedman
Try shouting while having your head on a swivel.
rochamochaman
shawnemack
This is why I don't talk. Then it's all "why are you being so quiet?"
Zerkk
This. So much this. :(
DesertGecko
I get the same thing at times. And I can tell they don't do it intentionally it just happens.
DreadPiratePoptart
Fucking this. But if you say something about it you're suddenly the asshole and overreacting
Neijya
Talking in a group is exhausting. I need alcohol to make it bearable. But then I become exhausting as well, I'm pretty sure.
shmekie
You're with the wrong people mate
PennFifteen
Exactly. Good friends will listen, even when drinking
SuckMyGif
YES! I'm the same way! I hate when people ask me that.
XxXeuropaXxX
When I get this response I call them out on not listening to me when I talk. I think this is why I don't have friends anymore...
BigisDickis
eh. they are overrated anyways. fuck em.
HorsesAreLikeWalkingCouchesWithAnxiety
Well I mean... Fucking your social circle tends to make you about as much of an outcast too...
raidleadergutts
They don't sound like friends at all.
XxXeuropaXxX
Well, more like distant friends I would see not as often as I would have liked, but I'm ok without them
rochamochaman
JustEngineeringPuns
Guys, to be honest, I see that happening to literally everyone. It's about knowing how to break through.
JustEngineeringPuns
Repeat yourself and speak up. It's hard, but most people I've met do not ignore people on purpose.
MostIndeedlySo
"HOW ABOUT YOU FUCKING PUMPKIN SHUT THE FUCK UP WHEN I'M TALKING BEFORE I GO APESHIT ON YOUR FUCKING WORTHLESS ASS YOU PIECE OF SHIT!"
MostIndeedlySo
Or something to that extent.
AceofShades
"i'm sorry, did the middle of my sentence interrupt the start of yours?"
LadyNetrex
Please don't talk shen I interrupt.
kindsoberandfullydressed
yeah I can't compete with people who like to shout for attention, cause I don't like shouting lol
Flashys
Even worse, when you start talking, out of nowhere someone in the group starts aswell and all the atention goes to him. hate it
RogueMachinae
I've learned to just get up and walk out. I'd rather be off doing something by myself happily than surrounded by ppl who treat me like crap.
Imseriousguys
If there is a common denominator... it's probably the problem.
ssssssssssssssKABOOM
Definitely. And once you've created that image of yourself in the minds of others it's not washing off. First impressions count big time.
Muddskipper2
Yes, Maybe they're the issue and need to speak up and be heard
BlueZed
Same for me as well. It sucks.
mousemarie94
Tip: make sure you're saying something of substance, in a concise manner, at a good volume with purpose.
NorthmanoftheNorth
Plot twist: everyone feels the exact same way, and that's the one and only reason we pay attention to anybody.
NorthmanoftheNorth
... During ANYTHING
OhMyGodTheyKilledBrianYouBastards
I'm a loud boisterous person but I get completely ignored in group conversations. People will just start talking mid sentence like I wasn't
OhMyGodTheyKilledBrianYouBastards
even there...
MrAwesomesauce101
The key is to honestly be more assertive and know your audience. It takes time as I was in this spot for a while.
DonaldTrumpImpersonator
Same! Should we all just start our own group, where everyone is included?
FunkyDGroovy
Yeah same, which is strange for how loud I am
Blodgarmpls
You might be a ghost. Try to walk through something
DesertGecko
I have it, it hurts. Either that or I'm in the Ghostbusters trap.
Blodgarmpls
Hmmm you might be in the trap
DesertGecko
That would explain a few things
flexOnEm
Be my friend I'll actually listen to you
racl101
This is what you call gut check time. When you realize you are the loser of the group either that or the most boring person in the group.
quantumgemeraldi
Seriously, I get that. Everyone ignores me. Even my own family will interrupt me and act like they didn't hear me. I wish anyone would (1/2)
quantumgemeraldi
Pay even a little attention (2/2)
youmoron
are you actually saying anything?
RegisteredAirplaneDoctor
*Stares at ear*
DarkSideOfImgur
the pain is real my friends, I've gotten so fed up with it that i just start to get slowly louder until they hear me.
number1keeper
Crack joke. No one laughs. Someone cracks same joke 1 min later. Hilarity ensues
luciusnexx
Oh, I know that pain well.
Flashys
Even worse, when you start talking, out of nowhere someone in the group starts aswell and all the atention goes to him. hate it
Mooninites
Be more aggressive. Get your point heard
Bmwwallace
Sorry did you you write something?
floorwaffles
Same here. Sometimes my parents do it, too.
mrpumbaa
I feel your pain they do the same with me that's why wen i see something like that happening i step in
Resident317
The hero we deserve!
thtguyjosh
especially when the person is excited about whatever theyre talking about. It kills me every time.
imwhatyouneverwantedtobe
Im the victim of this most times, I just continue then fade out. Fuck em if they don't want to hear, stop talking until someone notices
Thejunkfoodkid
I start talking nonsense until a word grabs their attention
SnowAndShadows
Came to say that's why I do it too... All I got now is "same"
TootzieRollOnFire
Thought it was only me. I don't get how some people feel like it's olay to just ignore someone because they don't think it's interesting..
bananaranga
I tend to say: excuse me, did the middle of my sentence interrupt the start of yours?
Daphault1
Uh. Did you say something?
KnucleheadFlow
I have a friend like that. One time, I wanted to show a few cool photos of Iceland I took. Soon as it was on the screen, out came his phone.
KnucleheadFlow
Was it asking too much to pay attention for 5 minutes to something that filled me with wonder and happiness?
KnucleheadFlow
Whenever there's a conversation going he just can't wait to start talking. Then won't stop. Especially if he sees you want to say something.
dunkanater3k
I personally would love to see your photos of Iceland
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KnucleheadFlow
I really ought to put an album together...
AsAScholar
That makes you a saint...bless you so much.
AIHPOS
Bless you
Anthelion
happened to me once in a meeting. I was trying to say something but was completely ignored till I shouted "WOULD Y'ALL STFU FOR S MINUTE!"
Anthelion
I was like oh shit... What did I just do. There while room got quiet. My boss looked at me and then just started laughing. Whew. Lol
TheLampning
I got fed up with this happening to me so I revolted, lost my friends and now have new ones that actually pay attention to me when I talk
FelizNavidad111
How long did it take you to find the new ones? Similar situation here. I don't even know where to find new people anymore.
TheLampning
We had a "sub group" that wasnt a part of the main. So I already knew them. I just switched over after I got mad and its been awesome since
AIHPOS
Bless you
ohnoofcourseyourright
I get ignored. And sometimes ignore the person that acknowledged me cause I wanna feel like more in the group. Then I look back and they 1/2
ohnoofcourseyourright
Look at me like I betrayed them. Then idk what to do. That's everyday in me life
Sallots
Try and notice yourself doing at the time and then apologise and listen. Fuck the trying to be part of the group by being a cunt thing.
ohnoofcourseyourright
I think I notice myself too much. Always wondering what other ppl r thinking. Think I need to try and fake it till I make i. U know?
jakefromstatefarmmmmmm
Introvert here: you have to have something to say early on, even if you don't feel like talking then, otherwise ppl don't expect you to talk
jakefromstatefarmmmmmm
All about that first energetic interaction, then be as quiet as you want. People won't talk over you
AnnaKareninanananananaBatman
I ALWAYS ask whoever gets interrupted/talked over to continue their story with me.
Bmwwallace
Sorry did you you write something?
xTRIFORCEx3
And get cut off repeatedly to the point you just stop talking
uniprocrastination
Me too. I realized I speak quietly. When I speak at a normal volume I feel like I'm shouting. Sometimes I challenge myself to speak 'loud'
TwoVhsCopiesOfGoodfellas
Maybe try speaking with more authority, if someone interrupts you just talk louder and continue, look people in the eyes when you talk 1/3
TwoVhsCopiesOfGoodfellas
To them, look people in the eyes when you speak to them aswell, just fake confidence if you need to also, then it will come naturally, 2/3
TwoVhsCopiesOfGoodfellas
I used to be mad quiet, got talked over a lot so tried a different approach, it's not about what you say it's how you say it 3/4
TwoVhsCopiesOfGoodfellas
If you engage with people on a physical level they want to listen to what you have to say more, fake it till you make it, just my 2c 4/4
TwoVhsCopiesOfGoodfellas
My bad about the double look them in the eyes, I'm fairly high up the tree and unless you have two sets of eyes this part isn't applicable
bendap
Used to happen to me frequently. Now I use aggressive hand gestures and increase my volume until I am heard.
AlkeneThiol
The glock definitely helps