Sibling Drama

#hospice #bigfamilyproblems
EDIT 4: out of the 6 kids, the 3 daughters split the funeral cost. I’m happy to have been helped, and happy to know my brothers don’t have to worry about paying.
I’ve lost my mother at a young age, and two brothers after that. Many of my extended family have passed including a favorite cousin who was murdered by her ex. I thought I’d be able to handle my father’s death since I had time to say goodbye, but it still hurts over a month later. I think I need to restart therapy.

EDIT 3: This has been rough. Thank you all for your comments and messages. The oldest daughter already started shit. She feels we need to sort out his house now. Thankfully the youngest brother told her to fuck off and that we will work on that after dad is buried.
To clarify, the 3 youngest are the ones I’m cool with. I think the 2 oldest act this way because they were adults when our mother died. They didn’t have to live less than paycheck to paycheck and watch our father struggle after such a loss. We also lost a brother a few years later and that hit us hard to stay in the house he died in.
Crazy family dynamics for certain! LOVE YOU IMGURIANS!!!!!

EDIT 2: Guys! (And gals/ghouls/gremlins) I said I wanted to vent to Usersub! But you assholes banded together to get me to Most Viral. Thank you. ?
My mother died of cancer when I was 3. Dad struggled to provide for all of us younger kids. He hated “assistance” and fought hard to not be on it. So he was unable to save. As of December, I was promoted and I now make more than my siblings. I have no spouse, no kids, and no mortgage. I owe him as much to give him a wonderful resting place when he couldn’t do so for mom.
I don’t want bragging rights over him. I just know if he could, he’d have sold anything to bury me. He’s the only parent I remembered.

EDIT: He just passed. I’m thankful he’s no longer in pain. Im going to go somewhere he’d love and toast my coffee to his memory.

I just need to vent into the Usersub void.

I’m the youngest of what was at one point nine kids. We are familiar with death and the funeral home is a familiar place, but I knew this would hit different. I’m planning on paying the $12k bill myself since my two oldest siblings are greedy and would hold it over everyone’s heads until they pass.

Plus I knew my oldest sister would claim the $10k burial fund we all agreed to set aside from the sale of our grandmother’s house was spent paying the taxes and repairs on dad’s shithole house. A house that honestly should have been condemned since 2005.

To be honest, I want to disappear from my family for a long while after dad passes. I know at least the two oldest will fight over his possessions. I’m washing my hands of them for a while.

His slow decline is breaking me and I’ve told him today he doesn’t have to fight anymore.