This morning, my amazing wife pointed out that I hadn’t marked my days sober like I use too.

Feb 26, 2017 9:52 PM

JohnDeCaux

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11 months sober and life has never been better.

The other day it marked been sober for 11 months and I didn't realise until the next day.

Since I stopped drinking last April, I had been marking each day off to remind myself that I’m getting better and stronger.
The last couple of weeks I haven’t been marking the days, not because I fell “off the wagon” but because I haven’t spent a lot of time thinking about being sober.
It’s freeing knowing that alcohol no longer controls my life. Since giving up alcohol life has gotten so much better, not that it wasn't great before but normally I was too drunk at night to realize.
We bought a house that we have fallen in love with, work has become so much easier and I'm producing higher quality work.
Something I would never have had the time to do due to drinking is to create my passion project - a cooking show! Which I’m really proud of and it’s now starting to find its legs.

Another bonus is, I've lost 20kg!
My wife has been beyond amazing to the point of not drinking to support me too.
I also shaved off my shitty neck beard to help remind myself how much things have changed.
My beard was a sign of laziness and how much I had lost focus on things.
If you feel like you’re stuck in the trap of drinking too much, just focus on not drinking one day at a time.
I constantly remind myself whenever I’m tempted that “If I don’t drink, I won’t feel like shit tomorrow”.
Today is 342 days since my last drink.
Thank you all of your ongoing support!

its a surreal when driving and noticing your not staring at the liquor stores. good job! dont get complacent.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

It's such a good feeling! It's only just started to happen. It was hard because our supermarket had a bottleshop out the front.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Proud of you, OP! We just celebrated my boyfriend's sixth year of sobriety. It keeps getting easier. :)

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

That's so amazing! Pass on my congratulations:)

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Almost 3 weeks sober ! Congratulations man

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Great work!! I'm proud of you!!!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

59 days here.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Great work! So proud of you!!!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Well, good for you @OP.

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

Thanks :)

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Every time I see one of these posts I am a little more inspired to do what needs to be done. And congrats

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

You can do it! Thank you for your support

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Ive just cone from a family program at a rehab clinic (was there for someone else). This is really positive to see. Thanks for sharing.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

The importance of supportive people around is what makes a difference. tried a few time to get sober but they were never because I wanted it

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I hope they find the help they need to realise that it's a good choice

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

power to you dude i fell off this year

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Have you gotten back on?

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

nah i stopped taking my meds at the end of last year as i thought better but things spiralled now im drinking again

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

You can stop the spiral. Just pull up on he control and level out the plane. I believe in you! Things can get better

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME YOU LOST LIKE 15 YEARS OF AGE

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Haha don't you mean gain?

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

No you lost 15 years of age, you gained 15 years of life. *smokes joint*

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

Thanks man as one that's getting sober its very nice seeing this stuff here. Keep going man and feel free to chat with me if u would like.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I'm really proud of you! Great work and thank you for your support.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Thanks man, Some really crazy stuff has happen to have me understand my life would be much better with out it.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I believe in you!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

thanks man, well its not good for me.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

that was a bad beard. Way to go on sobriety also

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

It was a shit beard! Thank you!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Keep up the good work.. im on year 6 or 7 of soberness after ten years blacked out

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Great work!!!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Did wife quit drinking too?I did it on my own the first year then my man finally put the vodka down. Its crazy how much life can turn around

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

She did it with me and hasn't had a drink since. I don't think I could've done it without her

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Awesome for both of you :) Its definitely good doing it with someone and having support and trying to figure out sober life together

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

It's been a journey but well worth it

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

but... but why are they in groups of seven?! No one knows how to count by sevens!

9 years ago | Likes 101 Dislikes 8

Think about it for a second you dickwad

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 17

Weeks

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Think about it for a second you dickwad

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 18

Think about it for a week...dickwad

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 12

They're grouped by weeks

9 years ago | Likes 138 Dislikes 0

But what if you want to know how many days?? HOW DID YOU GET TO 318 WITH SEVENS??? WITCHCRAFT!

9 years ago | Likes 42 Dislikes 4

Haha! Good question! I googled "day Calculator" and all you have to do it put in a start date :D

9 years ago | Likes 28 Dislikes 0

I see some 8 day weeks in there. What gives?

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Haha!

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Everyone drinks on sunderday!

9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

Leap weeks brah.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

What's 1000 minus 7?

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Love the reference

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

288 days dry - feels good!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Sure does!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Congrats on the sobriety, going on 2 years myself. Come down to Texas and we can celebrate over a beer or two

9 years ago | Likes 20 Dislikes 1

Haha!

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Congrats to both of you.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Honest question: You'll never touch alcohol ever again? Or do you occasionally enjoy a glass or two. I don't know how this works

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Never mean never for me

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Ok, thanks for the response. Whatever you do: keep it up! Great progress, bro!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Thank you so much!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

is this a man or a child?

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Both a manchild

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Congrats! My son still doesn't understand he's an alcoholic. He is destroying us all! I'm so so happy for you!! Huge hug!!!

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Took me a while before I listened

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I hope he comes to realise what his doing, the only person that can change it is him. Thank you so much for your support

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I hope he comes to realise what his doing, the only person that can change it is him. Thank you so much for your support

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

From your Lips to God's ears. I hope one day he is like you!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Me too

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Dude, you have no idea how proud this makes me. Was raised by a drunk. I can tell you, for the sake of yourself and family, this is great.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Also thank you so much for your support

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I so glad I made the chance before we move into the next steps of life such as having kids.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

That's what I wanted to hear. =)

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

What's the 16th month?

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Thats how drunk he was when he decided it was time to change

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Other then the US most countries write the date DD/MM/YY

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Congrats!!! We are less than a week apart on sobriety dates. Keep up the good work.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Nice work!! So samn proud of you!!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Damn*

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I'm 26 years, 1 month, 5 days sober OP. But grats to you

9 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 0

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Great work! I'm so proud of you!!

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

21 years and some change for me. Odd part is I work in the liquor industry and everyone finds it weird I don't drink

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

You must have some serious will power. That's like having a compulsive eating addiction and working in a bakery.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Jesus fucking credit man, you looked awful. Dont ever drink again.

9 years ago | Likes 64 Dislikes 3

Credit on a cracker!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I don't plan too!

9 years ago | Likes 19 Dislikes 0

I personally think you look incredibly handsome in both pictures. Maybe it's just because I am a sucker for beards, but glad you're healthy!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Haha thank you!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Why are you counting in 7 pairs ??

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Weeks ;)

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

..... oh ... :! Why didnt I see that . . .

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

It's ok, It was a bit strange

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

No, it makes totally sense! I just thought in months when I looked at the list.... so yeah

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Ok cool

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

i thought it was gonna be about how erratic your handwriting had become under sobriety … but your story is more positive

9 years ago | Likes 175 Dislikes 0

I've always had bad hand writing!

9 years ago | Likes 23 Dislikes 0

Are you a doctor?

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

I should be with my handwriting the way it is

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I should be with my handwriting the way it is

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

But you did just that... Nicely weaseled in there lol

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Also thank you!

9 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 0

Days sober: 9125. Alcohol was never really "pretty pretty shiny shiny" to me so I never really paid attention to it..

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

I never got addicted to it somehow, despite partying hard for a couple years. I still drink on rare occasion with no problems.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

First pic age 30+ second pic age 15+

9 years ago | Likes 2045 Dislikes 2

That's not even an exaggeration .

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

If I shave off my beard I look 15. That's how beards work. Reverse time machine.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Its the beard

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

Alcohol therapists hate him, find out why!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

The same thing happens on the inside! You can see how much healthier you are and how much better you feel. Congrats to all who can sober up

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Sobriety is the fountain of youth !

9 years ago | Likes 50 Dislikes 0

Wow. Who knew I'd never want to drink out of it.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

That's why he stopped drinking. He's not of legal age anymore.

9 years ago | Likes 45 Dislikes 0

Benjamin Button IRL

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Haha!!

9 years ago | Likes 337 Dislikes 2

Go with the trimmed scruff

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

He's not wrong though. You look way younger! Great going, OP!

9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

Thank you so much!

9 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

quitting alcohol definitely did you a lot of good on your appearance, you kinda looked like an orangutan before

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Haha thanks

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

At least you can grow a beard to look older! I had a lady think I was 16 last month. I'm 29!!!

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I have the same issue when shaving. Keep up the good work and congrats being sober!

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Thank you!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

11/16/12 for me brother keep up the good work!

9 years ago | Likes 55 Dislikes 0

I thought you were talking about age progression in photos since you stopped drinking. I was like whoa that's a crazy scale. Smh

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

So damn proud of you!!!

9 years ago | Likes 34 Dislikes 0

Dude Proud of you man!!!

9 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 0

Well I'm proud of both of you

9 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

Andthentheyfucked.jpg

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Proud of you @op !

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Thank you!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

16/6/16?

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Most place other then the US write the date DD/MM/YY ;)

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

He also expressed his weight loss in terms of kilos instead of pounds.

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

I was 7 months with out drinking........but life hits hard sometime and now im 12 hours with out drinking

9 years ago | Likes 238 Dislikes 4

Buddy, I spent a year drinking when I watched my wife drive away with my son and my dog in my car after she divorced me. Life gets better.

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Dont give up. Use the tools you have to find the support you need. If you dont have the tools. Reach out and find them

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

you can do it! stay strong!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Good luck! You understand you have a problem and are working to fix it. You will succeed!!!!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Drinking now and then is completely fine. The need to restrain from alcohol doesn't mean you have a problem with alcohol but yourself

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

It's not terrible to fall off the wagon, it happens. I fall off weekly, but never go on binges anymore. It's a start

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Sometimes sobriety comes in seconds and minutes. For cravings? Pray alot and eat oranges dipped in honey! You CAN do this!!!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

If you want to talk let me know. I haven't had a drink in two and a half years and believe me it gets better.

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Thanks means a lot

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Kept at it! Just get through the next 12 hours.

9 years ago | Likes 149 Dislikes 0

how do you quit drinking when it is the only thing in your shitty day you can look forward to to relax and not feel like shit?

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 2

Because I was feeling shity because I had being drinking the night before

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

You can do it, I believe in you!

9 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 0

Thanks man! This post definitely made it easier not picking up the bottle.

9 years ago | Likes 47 Dislikes 0

I'm glad it could help! You can do it, I believe in you

9 years ago | Likes 29 Dislikes 0

I'll be sober a year next month. Probably will drink again in the future though. Just needed a break

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

I hope you find much more pride in your seven months and do not dwell on one decision. Stay strong friend!

9 years ago | Likes 36 Dislikes 0

Love this comment

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Thanks! I never really thought about but it like that. Your comment really made me think twice before picking up the bottle to night

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

It's not the falling that's important. It's all on how you pick yourself back up.

9 years ago | Likes 18 Dislikes 0

That's the damn truth. Fall 10 times, get back up 11. You're not done until you say you're done.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Thanks! Your comment was just what I needed to get me through the rest of the day

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

is your nick in reference to the rap group? cuz they're AMAZING

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Haha yes it in reference to the rap group!! Im glad someone here knows them

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

bruh, Dessa is life

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Confession time: not drinking made me less social, and sitting at home alone. It's a vicious cycle...

9 years ago | Likes 14 Dislikes 2

I feel this, gotta find other ways to connect! http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/6506936

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Go to an AA meeting. You'll meet a lot of people, hear their stories on struggles & success to drop booze from their life. It's a big help.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Yeah same. Spend a lot less money though and goto the gym daily

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Definitely know that feeling, especially if all your friends drink and you can't go out with me because the temptation is there.

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

well the problem is drinking in excess. a few beers is acceptable, the real challenge is setting a limit. Isee why cold turkey or bust works

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

For some there is no excess :(

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 1

Are you the creator of the food in your posts?

9 years ago | Likes 322 Dislikes 2

http://imgur.com/user/JohnDeCaux/submitted holycow on a plate, glad I looked. Do you run a restaurant? If not why?

9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

Yep :)

9 years ago | Likes 244 Dislikes 25

You look like you smell like a dried onion flakes and flatbread. That's not an insult btw

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Yep all that food looks amazing. And screw whoever downvoted one of your creations. It all looks delicious.

9 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 0

Thank you!!!

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

What's your ultimate steak sandwich?

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

There's a post on my profile ;)

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

I looked at them and cried they look amazing.

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Thank you :)

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

How the heck did you manage to LOSE weight while being able to create such good looking food

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

He stopped drinking booze.....

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

1-congrats on the sobriety. 2- saw the food posts, wow, def gonna inspect in detail

9 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 0

Thank you! There's a ton of recipes on the YouTube channel

9 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

Awesome. Thanks in advance

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Jesus Christ man!!! If you don't own a restaurant already, you should... You could sling this shit out of a food truck in the bay, get rich

9 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 0

It's a pipe dream ;) working up to it, starting with my recipe videos

9 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

How the heck did you manage to LOSE weight while being able to create such good looking food?

9 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Not sure haha

9 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

It's getting rid of alcohol :P good on you, keep cooking!

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Thanks!!!

9 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Wow. As a 10+ year vegan I'm impressed as hell. That's damn fine looking cooking, sir.

9 years ago | Likes 66 Dislikes 5

found the vegan

9 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 8

Thank you that means a lot to hear!

9 years ago | Likes 29 Dislikes 1

Don't trust him

9 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

Ha ha

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

well atleast people know you're vegan

9 years ago | Likes 34 Dislikes 19

If he keeps dropping the KG, he won't be a vegan for long.

9 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

Don't be a dick. That was a valid mention.

9 years ago | Likes 30 Dislikes 9

*triggered vegan*

9 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 4