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5 years all for this
I don't really know how to start this things but I'm just gonna let it all out.
I met this girl at the worst possible time of my life. I was depressed, lost in the world, and really scared of my future. I had no job, no drive, or really will to live
I was introduced to her by a friend of mine and we both really hit it off when I was with her I would forget all about my emptiness and I would have that spark I ones had she made me happy And I made her happy
Everything was going great. But one night a couple months later we decided to go get drunk at this private beach. That's when my life completely changed
We where walking laughing our buts off about something stupid, then she stopped and looked at me straight in the eyes and just broke down she hugged me so tight and just said over and over "thank you"
She told me that she was going to end her life, she was in the restroom ready to just kill her self when I called her and made her come down to the beach with me
When she said that I just broke down we fell to the ground balling our eyes out. To make this short that night we promised our selves that we would make it. We will get our lives together go to school get a good job have a nice apartment over looking the city. I said she will have a nice car and I would have a nice bike and no matter what happens we will do this no excuses.
So that's exactly what we did. We got our lives together we saved up enough money to move to Newyork she went to art school and I went to NYU for business we have our apartment and a cute dog and I have my bike.
Yesterday I was going to surprise her and take her to a new restaurant for dinner so I called out for work, only to walk into my apartment and see her sleeping with another guy
I wasn't even mad I just stood there and told her exact words " to think that I thought you were the one. Thanks for being another statistic" I don't really know what to do at this point I feel like dying
Sorry for the book imgur
HiddenChicken
Damn @OP. Btw, don't believe her if she says she's "sorry" about cheating. She's only sorry that she got caught. Trust me, I know your pain.
CommanderCaribou
Bro..that's full fucking stupid. I hope you kick her to the curb
nocturnz
I think I'll give her 2-3 weeks to get out I have plenty of places to stay in the city
CommanderCaribou
you are a kinder man than I am. Id have told her out the door in 3 days and tough shit otherwise
Tundra314
Think of it as a blessing in disguise. She was in ur life the time u needed her, & possibly to meet someone new now that ur life is on track
gregontae
nocturnz
Love this gif haha thanks man :)
IReplyWithGraphicsInterchangeFormats
To the ex gf
choloeseguay
Twice this has happened to me. Do not go back.
nocturnz
I might be an emotional wreck right now but I am logical I know it's over I new the second I saw it that it was all just gone
choloeseguay
Fuck, fucking flashbacks. Stay strong man.
LynxInYourSynx
Dude. That's messed up. Sorry OP.
Menasyng
Fellow New Yorker here, Columbia University grad student message me, Op.
RWebb00000
1. you are free again. 2. you are too good for her. 3. she was gf and not wife, keep all your stuff. 4. life is too short to be sad. (1/2)
RWebb00000
so asap get over it and go have fun doing anything. in time you will actually forget her name. 5. block her on all social media and phone#
nocturnz
Thanks for this wish it was that easy. I blocked her number because she kept calling me I just don't wanna see her again
Blakpik
I had similar issues. I was happy. If a relationship ends, like this, it's better. It's quicker and not as drawn out and painful. (1/?)
Blakpik
Obviously it still sucks but now instead of wasting time with her, you can cross her off a list as a failed entry to your life and (2/?)
Blakpik
You can finally actually find someone who will be good for you to be around. It was only after I left my relationship that I realised (3/?)
RWebb00000
it starts really hard. but it gets easier. but the important thing, life is too short. get on with living it asap.
GingerlyJoe
Don't be by yourself man. Sounds like you got your shit together and kicked some ass, that was your hard work, not hers. You can rise again.
decompliance
I'd even go so far and say you dodged a bullet there, OP. godspeed!
AWolfWithShades
She knocked you down, but you got up. Already kicking off the dust.
Supprisinglybirdsinmyfruitfeeder
Hallelujah!!
Twtmoose
That chant they did when bruce wayne climbed out the pit. You got it man. If you decide to come to philly holla at cho boy!!
Bonjtheandal
rise mother fucker; like a boss - the dark knight rises - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eHFA_wEK_00&ab_channel=FintanMacAoidh
PhantomOfSaltLand
@OP Down let yourself down, Stay strong for yourself man. I know how you feel, I've been there man. It gets easier with time.
GeneralGroove
LIKE A PHOENIX FROM THE ASHES!
GeneralAnubis
I take care of my oooowwwwnnn
AGuyThatPoops
"Like the funk from Missy Elliott's pants" - Dave Chapelle
calabasa
I didn't get cheated on but I got dumped by my bf of 5 years in December. It hurt but I'm happy now! Cheer up OP! Sunshine is coming
mayonaiseanonymous
Losing yourself in another person is tough to come out of. But you're worth the effort. Remember who you are. The trick is redefining you.
nocturnz
Thank you :)
TDempsey
Thats called a long con. She used you to support her, then once comfy started doing what she wants. I doubt the suicide bit myself
nocturnz
It was deeper then that she worked her ass off as well wasn't all just me
Tundra314
Not necessarily. I don't think she knew from the very start and thought "oh I'm going to use him and once I'm better I'm moving on"
RaddRadda
Plenty of people with bad traits don't realize they have them. You can use someone without consciously thinking about it.
Tundra314
Doesn't that defeat the purpose of a con tho
iUpvoteDotsOfShame
It's sad, but people actually do this shit.
causality
Faking an entire relationship is way easier than people think.
IReplyWithGraphicsInterchangeFormats
To you sir, we stand by you
bikemerc
So she was having sex with batman?
ThatOneGuyAzazel
Good on you for not going on a murderous rampage like I would've wanted to do. You can get through this @OP. I believe in you
ballq
Have fun with the sprinklers
MiniMarimbist98
In a Batman costume?
Greenshep
Damn
iclearlyhavetissues
Hey man, could have been worse. She could have been a god damn loch ness monster askn for tree fiddy.
nocturnz
Haha I might repost this some day and change the ending to 3 fiddy :)
tattoolady1986
Sorry Op had it done to me repeatedly after 8 years, lost everything. Year on I am actually happy. Finally found love & trust again x
analdomination
I am kind of shocked that she did not ask him for 3 fiddy
dennnnnis
I had to scroll down quickly to see if it's not one of the 3 fiddy posts.
llamallamallamamoo
I checked and immediately felt like an asshole for doubting OP
Lzyluv1121
I know, imgur has ruined me so much I have to constantly check to see if it is a tree fiddy post.
DEFCONwhite
I always read yhe last line now first >:|
SarcasticAndOccasionallyFunny
I wish it went that way. Now i'm just all feels
Nccoffee
I swear to god I thought that's where this was going
RockKeits
Me dos
ThePornBroker
Ditto.
BoredInBerlin
Titto
Loahnoak
Up voted all your uploads.
kissey
I was in your shoes 4 years ago. It's dark now, but things will get so much freaking better. Being with my friends and family saved me
raddinosgorawr
Seriously bro, if she has the gall to do that, then you ate better off. You are on NY with so much better pussy than her. Go and get it!
nocturnz
Haha thanks man, I'm not a bad looking guy at all getting laid has always been easy but getting laid is the last thing on my mind right now
icameinlikeafeckingball
Talk to her about it, hear her side, find out what she feels: did she fall out of love with you? Or does she still have feelings but (1)
icameinlikeafeckingball
developed feelings for someone else as well? Is it just sex or more? Only reason I’m saying this is because you’ve just lost something (2)
icameinlikeafeckingball
that obviously was a big part of you and you’re going to spend some time trying to make sense of this. Knowing what she felt and why she (3)
icameinlikeafeckingball
did what she did will help you do that. I’m not saying you should take her back or forgive her or anything, I’d say that’s probably a bad(4)
icameinlikeafeckingball
idea. Just try to find out the truth for yourself because otherwise it’s something you’re always going to wonder about. (5)
TheNerdFonz
Never ever ever go back to her. Ever. I don't care WHAT anyone says, after trust is broken on THAT level, it cannot be rebuilt.
nocturnz
I been treated like shit most of my life I know when something is over it is really over I learned that the hard way before :(
hearthstoneaccount3
It can though you just need to redefine your relationship a little first and build on communication: I got cheated on had happy relationship
CivilizedUndead
Okay, a lot of people are saying "fuck her" and "dump her". I'd say talk to her, it may be difficult, but a lot of close couples do end up
StuckInBetweeen
Found the cheater. There is no justification for cheating and no fixing it. The ONLY "mature" choice is to forget her and move on.
CivilizedUndead
I have never cheated, ever, don't assume you know anything about me. What you're suggesting is another legitimate way, but not the only one.
StuckInBetweeen
Lite is too short to waste it on people who are willing to give up everything for a few minutes of pleasure. Can never forgive that, ever.
CivilizedUndead
A 5 year relationship, I'd say that is worth at least asking why.
CivilizedUndead
in these situations. It's not the end of the world, find out why and if the reason isn't good enough, then dumb her.
AWolfWithShades
>nor do I think OP wants to live like Michael in GTA V, with a wife the whole family knows sleeps around yet he's still there for the whore.
VivaLaSteeze
OP please don't listen to this. Once a cheater always a cheater, can't trust her. Period.
CivilizedUndead
...why, before making drastic decisions. Relationships can come out stronger than before, if these issues are properly worked out.
CivilizedUndead
...grown up relationship, built upon mutual understanding. Cheating can occur in the strongest of relationships, it's best to figure out ...
CivilizedUndead
Really? Asking him to do the rational thing, instead of acting on emotion, is bad advice? This isn't high school, they're grown ups in a...
VivaLaSteeze
1) She lost the right to get treated like an adult when she slept with someone else in THEIR own bed. There's this thing called self respect
CivilizedUndead
That's for OP to decide. My advice isn't directed at you.
ohdeepthought
Talking achieves nothing here. Her excuse will just highlight what she wasn't doing not him. The cheater is the problem not the cheated 1
ohdeepthought
they are the ones who don't talk to their SO and work on the relationship before getting to fucking someone else.2
KyleBeach
Like expecting her to do the rational thing and keep it in her pants? That part worked out.
CivilizedUndead
...asking OP to forgive her, I'm advising him to ask her why, and see if the situation is amendable. If not, dump her.
CivilizedUndead
Like I've said, even the strongest relationships can end up with a cheater, and there is always a reason, no matter how poor. I'm not...
VivaLaSteeze
2) If you take back someone that does that then they know they can do it again and probably will. There's better people out there to be with
CivilizedUndead
That's a post hoc argument. You shouldn't automatically assume they'll do it again.
AWolfWithShades
Or we can accept the fact this isn't some romantic comedy film where the guy goes back to the cheating cunt and they live happily ever after
CivilizedUndead
...sign of a mature relationship, and a mature mentality. Cheating shouldn't be the end all be all.
hobosliveinboxs
Cheating is not the characteristic of a mature mentality.
CivilizedUndead
Why do people not bother to read what I write. Where in the hell did I say that about cheating?
KyleBeach
Thats a load of shit that sounds like a cheaters mentality. Nothing happening in a relationship is bad enough to decide "hey im gonna ride
CivilizedUndead
It is not a "cheater's mentality" I can assure you of that. If you're in a committed grown up relationship, you have to treat it like one.
KyleBeach
another dick!". Based off the post we know her method of coping with an issue...stranger penis, so it shouldn't be on OP to woo her into
CivilizedUndead
People cheat, and that's unfortunate reality; Responding like you're suggesting is also bad. There is always a reason why cheating occurs...
humblegrumblebee
There is always a reason someone cheats and in many cases, trying to work it out as a couple can solve the problem. Communication is key.
CivilizedUndead
unfortunately, people seem to disagree, because they think real relationships are the same as high school relationships.
nocturnz
Why? I can guarantee it wasn't the sex and I've never really been distant to her we always tell each other how we feel we would have really
nocturnz
Deep conversations at least 3 nights a week (picking each other's brains was our thing)
CivilizedUndead
It's up to you. Sometimes, asking why can help a lot, it may even solidify your choice, leading to zero regrets. Again, up to you.
DeltaOscarGolfEcho
@op silver lining? At least you found out now, not 15 or even 50 years that she's not the one. I got cheated on, and count myself lucky 1/2
DeltaOscarGolfEcho
It was only a year to find out what kind of person she is.
DeltaOscarGolfEcho
Also this helped me a lot @Op: https://www.reddit.com/r/BreakUp/comments/43gkdh/for_the_men_going_through_a_breakup/
nocturnz
Thanks for this I think the only way to cope with this is a couple of long sleepless nights riding around the city with my favorite music
NearlyDead
Sorry that happened to you. Was this recent?
DeltaOscarGolfEcho
Yeah. About 5 weeks ago. A few weeks before our first anniversary. I'm pass the debilitating anger and sadness part. Looking forward now.1/2
nocturnz
Yesterday :(
NearlyDead
@OP know it gets better ok?. Someone who replied to you linked a great free book someone on reddit wrote. Laughed my ass off, take a look!
DeltaOscarGolfEcho
Yeah. About 5 weeks ago. A few weeks before our first anniversary. I'm pass the debilitating anger and sadness part. Looking forward now.1/2
DeltaOscarGolfEcho
Been in contact with someone who has really helped me through it all on here too. 2/2
NearlyDead
And what to look out for. Similar past exp, now I can read the signs easier and know who to avoid past three months of dating /2
NearlyDead
That's great you found someone on here who's supportive (lots of trolls) haha; I'd consider a year of lessons, knowing what you want/1
Lassannn
You nailed it with the word "statistic." That's a fucking burn if I ever heard one. The pain will go away, but I can't say how long.
Dohpaz
7 years after the fact and it's still there...more like an itch these days rather than an ache, but still there
nocturnz
It felt like it was the best thing to say I wanted something short but strong/deep their was a night a while back when we were watching
Corpsehorser
An absolutely good thing to say to drive the point home. You got this man, we believe in you! Shit eventually gets better :)
nocturnz
Netflix (think it was Dexter) and there was a guy that said "she's just another statistic" she made a joke and said I'm glad I would never
nocturnz
Be a statistic" I guess that's why I said it I new that it would haunt her :( words cut deep
TrustmeIamdutch
You kept your head and your cool together when she pulled the carpet fromunder you. It'll hurt, but you're strong you'll make it.
C0mtraya
Dude, you're a hero. With that line you brought a little bit of justice to everyone who was cheated in their life.
C0mtraya
There's no excuse in betraying someone. Doesn't matter if its in a relationship or just being friends/bros.
Lassannn
I've been betrayed. You're not alone. I had to decide to hate the slit-mouthed cunt, because I couldn't give up the pain. Had to replace it.
BiteTheHandsThatThieve
I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes it's the only way to deal with it. After a while it gets easier but at first there is no other way.
shveet
I've went through the same. Nearly 4 years and all for nothing. Im not angry she left anymore but how she left.. thats what is keeping me..
shveet
Decided to tell me she was gay (after supporting the last 4 years that she was bi). not a month later, in bed with the guy i suspected...
Lassannn
So you just say, "Fuck that bitch," and move on. That's what I did.
BiteTheHandsThatThieve
I know you get a bad rap sometimes but i honeslty think you fuckin rock.
Lassannn
You can give up hatred easily.
ChuckCarmichael
have sex with him too, establish dominance
JustARandomExLurker
Trevor Phillips style (GTA V ... Johnny Klebitz scene)
DarthKaas
Maintain eye contact.
IredeemableFly11
Lost my shit +1
Siegerose
Don't let your balls touch.
TaterLord
And most importantly... Say no-homo