TheShapeLurks
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So for those who have seen my previous posts, Jon snow crossed the rainbow Bridge yesterday. It was unexpected and there is a huge crater through me and my wife’s chest. We also have another cat who was very close with Jon, her name is Dany. She’s rather confused and anxious. The house is too quiet. So today I got cat food for Dany, and there was this 3 year old short hair, very friendly. Am I terrible for already considering adopting a new cat? Am I being selfish? If I did, I know it wouldn’t ever replace Jon, but also wondering if it would get along with Dany. Also happens to be this cats birthday today. Maybe im way too emotional to even think straight which is why I am turning to you wonderful imgurians.
Bugguts1957
Do it Jon Snow will approve
thundercatsouttakes
My rebound kittens are 5 now and still my best buds. I got two to replace one to avoid comparing them. Totally different dynamic.
WilliamWeird
You are allowed to love again ❤️ An unused heart can't be preserved while alive. It too, is a muscle that needs excessive use to be strong.
UltimateLuki
It's not a replacement. It's a new family member.
Grumpyoldgamer1119
Sorry for your loss, I just went through this a couple months ago with our cat lil gurl.
1n10didPun
Just lost our youngest cat (heart condition) out of 5. I understand, and we haven't even looked at any others.
Djtoken
If you have space give a pet a home. They will never be a replacement but they will always love you and have their own charm.
TheShapeLurks
Thanks! Definitely concerned about how Dany would interact so maybe I should foster
canucker327
I totally understand how you feel don’t rush it
zoeelane201
If you can afford it mentally/emotionally/financially, there's no reason not to.
bananaspitz
For some folks, a new friend is how they heal from the loss of an old friend
cheezeweazel
It's not selfish, just human. I think Jon would be happy you chose to help another in need in his memory. Life never gives good timing.
mystic105f3000
This also applies to cats
mystic105f3000
I sorrow for your loss of jon. To be honest it may have been jon who led you to kitty
jrabbitmusic
it’s our job to love them, out-live them, and love as many as possible while we can. Its emotionally tough but it’s all we have to offer
jrabbitmusic
it’s our cross to bare.
EaNasirsExcellentHighGradeCopper
Sorry for the loss, friend.. Just sit down and do some self evaluation before you make a decision. Do you want the kitten cause you want to
EaNasirsExcellentHighGradeCopper
fill the void? Or do you want the kitten because the merits of its behavior?
TheShapeLurks
Both I guess. There’s a huge void for sure. I know a new cat won’t fill or replace and that I still will need to grieve.
nevetsx
The other cat probably needs another buddy. I had to put two dogs down monday. I really think i need to get another buddy for the one left.
TheShapeLurks
I am so sorry. It’s never easy. I’m just feeling so much guilt and it hasn’t even been 24 hours
InspiringBadger
I lost my 17 year old bottle baby to heart failure, and thought I would need months to even consider another cat. I was wrong.
InspiringBadger
I wanted another cat after about two weeks, but didn't say anything because I thought my husband wasn't ready. He thought I wasn't ready.
InspiringBadger
We decided to just go look, and found a little shy lady who has blossomed so beautiful in her new home.
InspiringBadger
If your heart says you might be ready, be open to the possibility but don't just jump. You have to make decisions for the other kitty.
qyrriqat
My cat had cancer for 3 years. It gave me some processing time, which helped me realize I would never replace her. BUT, I could give 1/
qyrriqat
another cat the same chance that she had to have a loving home. Now I have two lovely girls (who have just received ear-scritchies in 2/
qyrriqat
honor of Jon Snow.) 3/3
TheShapeLurks
God bless you
tomatoboy
Perfectly normal for some people, everybody grieves normally. When my dog of 16 years died last fall my wife and I started immediately…
tomatoboy
*grieves differently, not normally
tomatoboy
…seeking a new small dog because we knew I’d cope better having a small dog in the house rather than just our large dog, after 16 years…
tomatoboy
…having a small dog around. And we were right, it was far easier for me, particularly working from home exclusively for the last three…
tomatoboy
…years, to have our new dog there. I never felt any guilt about it, my old dog had a great life and I know he’d want me to be happy.
tomatoboy
You’re not replacing your pet, you’re just filling their spot in your home so it doesn’t sit empty.