Not how I wanted the weekend to start

Nov 19, 2021 10:22 PM

Rigby2015

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Finally got an interview in my field, great company and awesome salary. Interview went great, really hit it off with the director, he told me I all but had the job but his boss was making him interview one more person. I was super excited and started planning budgets, moves, etc. Just got the call, (which I appreciate them letting me know) that they are going with the other person. I’m normally a very upbeat person, but this one really sucks. I’ll bounce back, but just wanted to vent.

Edit: I want to thank everyone for the positive vibes and thoughts. It’s really put me in a better mood! Thanks everyone!

As the person on the other side. I almost always have a few in the end that I really want to hire. I HATE the part where I have to choose.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

Sorry to hear that OP, there will be other jobs, don’t worry about this

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

This is also why interviewers shouldn't make promises in this manner.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

@op Thank them for their time. Ask them what you were lacking and how you can develop to be a good fit for the team and the whole company

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

A $1 thank you card goes miles. They will remember that more than most of the interview. If they help you step up your game, you win

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Happened to me as well. It sounds cliche but it helped me narrow my career focus and I landed a much higher paying job a month later.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

Been there dude.

4 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

hang in there. I'm on the prowl right now too and just lost out to someone with more experience. keep trying and good luck

4 years ago | Likes 39 Dislikes 2

That's the exact story they tell all semifinal candidates

4 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Thinking of you! Do something special this weekend.

4 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Stay encouraged. Be proud you did well, it’s good practice for the next go round.

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

Same. Really enjoyed talking to me, liked my resume. Went with somebody younger with less experience. Job hunting sucks. Good luck

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

We've all been there. Take it a s a sign that it wasnt meant to be and a better path awaits

4 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 1

Can’t beat the CEO’s nephew. Tell them to keep you in mind in the future as you feel like you would be a good fit. Get em next time.

4 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 2

What if that other candidate made a *i got the job* post on here. ?

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I thought about that! I just hope it’s that they are a better candidate and not that they were the boss’ friend, which is the feeling I got

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

There's a reason managers shouldn't all-but-offer a job to someone during an interview.. sigh. Been there though, it can bruise the ego.

4 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

So, you get knocked down. But you get up again?

4 years ago | Likes 88 Dislikes 2

I needed a chuckle! Thank you random citizen! Lol

4 years ago | Likes 19 Dislikes 0

Probably a personal friend of the boss…. All about who you know…. Or who you blow if you happen to be that open minded ?

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

They could have at least asked, I would have considered it, lol!

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

?

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Once had interview where they did same, gave me bldg tour, introduced me around...then never called. I did end up working somewhere that

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

that company has to go to for services. They don't know me I'm sure & I treat them fairly & all...just funny now to me.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Don’t count your chickens before they hatch

4 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 4

This is my weekend too; so bummed I didn't get the job - but there'll be other opportunities & if you aced one interview you'll do it again!

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

You were obviously a very strong candidate. Only a matter of time until you are snapped up!

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

Same happened to me, but a month later another position just like it opened and they gave me that one. Keep the hope alive for a while

4 years ago | Likes 523 Dislikes 2

Same here, only it took a year and a half to get a call. The job tripled my salary and had to relocate 1000 miles away in 2 weeks

4 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Happened to my wife except they opened a position for her. Unfortunately it was for a lower rank and 20k less. She does more than the guy

4 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

@op we just had this happen on our team. We had two great candidates & were able to bring the 2nd on a few months after the 1st

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

If you haven't done so, I would reach out and ask if there was anything you can focus on to improve, should they have another position 1/2

4 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

come up. It shows you have initiative, that you're dedicated and willing in their eyes to work and grow- all qualities they should want. 2/2

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Very good advice.

4 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Yeah, or that person doesn’t like the job and leaves. I was very polite with the HR when they called. Things can happen

4 years ago | Likes 152 Dislikes 0

Good luck OP, one door closes!

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

You seem like a very decent and level-headed person. Things will happen for you, I'm confident. :)

4 years ago | Likes 72 Dislikes 0

Thanks! That actually really means a lot to me right now.

4 years ago | Likes 28 Dislikes 0

If you don't mind sharing, what is the field?

4 years ago | Likes 10 Dislikes 0

Facility Management

4 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 0

Happened to me too but 2 months later they closed the entire branch. Later found out that’s why they didnt hire me and went internal instead

4 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

I've interviewed for three weeks now. Always make it past the first or second interview, but never the job. I'm getting awfully depressed.

4 years ago | Likes 7 Dislikes 1

It's a numbers game. Luckily, something about your CV is good to get you first interview, and you must come across well to get a second.

4 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

I had a manager that was misleadingly positive with people. Couldn’t disappoint them to their faces.

4 years ago | Likes 201 Dislikes 1

Sounds like a shitty manager who lied to peoples’ faces.

4 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

We don't let people like that participate in the interview process where I work.

4 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Same. It's very awkward in interviews because she acts like the person would be a great fit on the team when I know there's no chance.

4 years ago | Likes 22 Dislikes 0

Non-confrontational

4 years ago | Likes 48 Dislikes 0

Typical middle management

4 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

I hate that crap. "I'm concerned with the lack of X, Y and Z skills but I'll let you know if this changes." How hard is it to say?

4 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

Depends how scarred you are from your childhood source: my childhood

4 years ago | Likes 13 Dislikes 0

"his boss was making him interview one more person" - Fix was in... he was a friend, relative, or otherwise favorite of the boss. >

4 years ago | Likes 913 Dislikes 17

A lot of assumptions in that.

4 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 0

Also my first thought. And if they do that, you don't wanna train your boss's nephew for him to become your manager anyway ugh sorry

4 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

I had this sort of thing happen to me before. Had a great interview, just short of being offered the job outright - but then, like magic,

4 years ago | Likes 28 Dislikes 1

someone from another location transferred in to exactly the position I was interviewing for.

4 years ago | Likes 19 Dislikes 1

I mean... my company's HR rules state we have to take internal candidates who need a job before we can hire externally, that isn't nepotism.

4 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Experience teaches me: I must concur with my learned colleague RetrogradeLlama, unfortunately. That was code language.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

But then why have the interview at all? And why lead them on? Just decline them if the plan is to bring on a friend or relative.

4 years ago | Likes 5 Dislikes 1

Boss could have told Dan to interview his favor after the interview with OP. Or Dan just found out and didn't wanna cancel on OP.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

some places are obliged (e.g. with govt. contracts) to do open hiring

4 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Yeah sure, but they could've just said at that point that they weren't a good fit. Why the lead on?

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

It can get you in trouble, gotta make it look like you were truly open in your hiring process and considering candidates properly

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 1

gotta make it look convincing

4 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Maybe but not necessarily. I imagine hiring people get excited and exaggerate at times. Imagine you interview a dozen shit candidates and

4 years ago | Likes 18 Dislikes 1

You 'imagine' a less likely scenario. His boss was making him interview someone else. This other candidate wasn't screened by the

4 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 2

Interviewer and not in the pool of applicants that made it to the in person interview.

4 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 2

then you get someone who seems competent and fully functional. You might speak out of turn thinking that the final candidate will probably

4 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 0

be some below average nonsense. And then that person actually turns out to be normal but slightly more qualified. Completely plausible

4 years ago | Likes 16 Dislikes 0

And while we might think it's unfair for someone "less qualified" to get a job because of connections, we must keep in mind that our

4 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 0

Value in the workplace are not summed up by skillset alone. Knowing someone has potential, is reliable and trustworthy counts for something

4 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

I don't think you want to work for a boss who would reject the best candidate to stuff his own favorite into the position.

4 years ago | Likes 152 Dislikes 2

Maybee op ducks

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Yeah, I've been in that situation with internal postings and it just means everyone else gets to do the bosses friends job for them

4 years ago | Likes 37 Dislikes 0

I actually thought the same thing.

4 years ago | Likes 408 Dislikes 0

If the recruiter called you personally to let you down, they probably felt bad about it.

4 years ago | Likes 32 Dislikes 0

In which case you maybe dodged a bullet, working in a company were the boss gets "favots" is a recipe for failure.

4 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 0

Same thing happened to me with this job, buddy, but they (the fix) failed the drug screen or bg check. Don't give up hope.

4 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

As a supervisor, I can confirm this happens constantly. My boss has done the exact same thing several times when I've interviewed someone

4 years ago | Likes 50 Dislikes 0

Yep. Some places it's a legality think forcing them to look outside their circle before going the good old nepotism route

4 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

What! But job creators are rational actors who would only hire the objectively best person for any job, surely! The Free Market says so! /s

4 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 0

Yeah, the recruiter liked you and thought you were the beat person for the job but the boss railroaded through an unqualified crony.

4 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Nepotism: It's easy to fly like an eagle when your parents are eagles.

4 years ago | Likes 15 Dislikes 0

And those who benefit from nepotism often have strong opinions about others' (perceived lack of) success

4 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

Bootstrap wearers be like that though.

4 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

I also choose to fuck this guys boss.

4 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

Follow up with them in a bit to see what made the other candidate a better fit. You might get lucky.

4 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Boss's side piece.

4 years ago | Likes 65 Dislikes 2

?1

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