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May 5, 2024 5:16 PM
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LustrousShadow
Dark humor can be fine-- it can be *good,* as demonstrated above.
It just depends on how the relevant parties feel about it, and it's not a defense for humor that punches down or amounts to "but sir! Tis my emotional support slur!"
cntrfldr
A universe of horror and loss surrounding a single lighted stage where mortals dance in defiance of the dark. ā Stephen King
Freestila
When my father passes away last year me and my brother had to organize the funeral. Part of it was deciding on the music (no church involved at all). My brother said "what's about 'always look on the bright side of live'?" and i said "yes, this, at the grave when his urn is added". Laughing and crying at the same time, this " ah fu** it, what cha gotta loose, you came from nothing, you go to nothing, so you loose nothing" moment.
TumblePot
For this recipe you will need 4 eggs and a firm whisk.
busterfixxitt
Our darkest humor was when we lost our daughter at birth, we joked about putting a 'Baby On Board' sign on the hearse, which my wife escalated to "with 'It's A Girl' balloons coming out the side window". š³ Grief & anger, and a great deal of love.
Pally01
I like dark humour. What I don't like is racist/sexist/homophobic jokes using the 'dark humour' description as a way to avoid criticism.
tamalehatchet
If it wasn't for dark humor my entire existence would be so, so fucked
bhobby1212
This has extreme parallels to stranger in a strange land
intaglioguy
Sometimes the darkest sliver of humor gets us through moments no one should have to endure.
Raenon
My father died in 2015 of cancer. My family grieved him dearly.
In 2020, after months of lockdown shenanigans, I had my mother and siblings at my house for the 5th anniversary of his death, which is just before my birthday, discussing about how often we still had something we wanted to talk to him. I looked heaven-wards to address Dad... then stopped and shouted "Oh wait, Dad!" at the floor.
It took many minutes before we all stopped laughing, Dad would have been laughing hardest.
Raenon
In a few weeks we're having a memorial for Dad's older brother, who died of the the same cancer. I expect the extended family will have similar jokes and toasts to his memory as well.
geruhn
I hope the family framed the bill
FabergeBurrito
Mom never had a license, & my husband would always chauffeur her everywhere. It was a major inconvenience but he could be counted on to do it regardless. When she passed, the funeral home called to say that her ashes were ready to be retrieved. We hung up the phone & he said, as he always had said to me, "Ok babe I'll be back, I'm going to pick up your mom." & I swore I could almost hear my mom cackle. It was the last time he would pick her up but I know she would have loved the joke.
Penguinsandbroadswords
My junior year of highschool we had a ridiculous amount of deaths in the family, 4 uncles, an aunt, my great grandmother, and some random other relatives/friends. There were like 12 funerals in one semester. At some point in the middle of this my mother, sister, and I were standing in line to see the family at a wake, it was a long line and we were actually outside waiting when a car drove by loudly playing "Another one bites the dust." We had to excuse ourselves and hide in our car.
oozabooza
Grandpa should have taken the dollar, reached out and touched the godfather and said 'last tag!' and then died.
gracemadagascar
This. This right here. Amen.
Freakayou
reminds me of the funeral recording
diggetydug
Friend of mines grandfather would always joke "you got that dollar you owe me?" When I was young. Don't know why or when it started. Went to his funeral in my 20s. Put a dollar in his suit pocket.
dualplains
It's not just the humor, it's the acknowledgment and reminder at the end of their shared experiences together.
Eldibs
Sometimes, in the face of darkness, the best thing you can do is laugh.
hetherweaversmagic
Wholesome af
csargent2
One of my favorite memories of my late father in law, is the whole family sitting around, not long after his terminal diagnosis, chatting. His wife was complaining about getting older, as one does. He quickly responded with "You should try the alternative!"
2Soon4Baboon
The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.
Albert Camus
maobezw
dark humor / gallows humor, helps us keeping our mind sane when confronted with the insanity of life.
3rdoption
HandoB4Javert
Everybody dies. Not everyone truly lives. Deep friendships can be really dark AND funny.
mrsdowneyjr
While my friend lay dying in his hotel room from a drunk driver, the friends from different stages of his life met for the first time and told their favorite stories. We laughed and cried and laughed. One kid admitted he was the one who drove over his mom's flowers but Andy took the blame. His mom laughed with us.
Neednoggle
And then there's me guessing the ending would be them both dying together in a car accident
cytherians
I was expecting the grandfather, after feeling satisfied with getting the buck... suddenly making a very solemn look on his face and then passing the buck back to the godfather in a last gasp, then passing away.
Thesaya
So, always look on the bright side of death,
Just before you draw your terminal breath,
Life's a piece o' shit,
When you look at it,
Life's a laugh and death's a joke it's true,
You'll see it's all a show,
Keep 'em laughing as you go,
Remember that the last laugh is on you.
Thesaya
We had Bright side of life played on Cello as the exit music at my mums funeral. Seeing people's faces when they realised what the song was was awesome.
OnlyPositiveFavourites
I work in palliative care: gallows humour is the best, most cathartic humour in the world. You've just got to pick you people carefully.
cytherians
I'm thankful that Mel Brooks is still holding strong, due to turn 98 this June. But I'm wondering if he has some dark humor prank prepared for when he shuffles off to that great comic gig in the sky.
spookymormonhelldream
This is one of the reasons why i love Scrubs so much
Rheios
Yeah, some people just can't hang with it.
Lyconous
You just had to let that noose, didn't you?
JohnBluehill
thatiswhyyoushoulddoityourself
Same
SkamanSam
One of my dad's cousins was a hero of mine in my youth. He fought in the Korean conflict and told some great stories. He captivated everyone around with them. His stories were about the worst things, but he always found the silver lining, and I learned to do the same. I was even cracking jokes on the way to the hospital when I was shot. I've been treated for cancer recently and it takes all I have to not joke with the doctors and nurses.
Pervaroo
Let the docs and nurses hear it. I know a couple and the grim reality they deal with could use a moment or two of humor. Just don't deliver the joke when they're trying to run an IV or something.
SkamanSam
I wanted to tell the surgical oncologist to be gentle cuz he would be the first man to rearrange my guts.
dru84
hospice nurse here, I concur
oozabooza
I have a friend who's a palliative care doctor. She'll get home from work and declare "I killed eight people today!" then open a bottle of wine
OnlyPositiveFavourites
Hah! Sometimes I have to unkill them (their file) to add info in. And when I finish, I mentally say 'Sorry Gladys, gotta kill you again'
kyorsmuckers
Absolutely. Iām a nurse. Gotta be rather selective on the gallows humor.
Macewindow54
Cuz the gallows isn't selective at all. š
Habtor
I'll be there soon. Give me about a month maybe 6 weeks. Already filled out the will and started sorting out who gets the toys.
Californiajackson
I'm sorry to hear that. I looked at your previous posts and assume you've prepared an exit line in the vein of, "Let's get this bread".
Habtor
LOL funny enough I made this at 6am today when I couldn't sleep because of the pain. Japanese milk bread it's so soft and fluffy I have a hard time cutting a slice off without crushing it.
Californiajackson
I hope whatever dulls 5he pain takes effect
Habtor
Yeah I got the good stuff hydromorphone and methadone. But I'm also in that group that has stupid tolerance to narcotics so 9mg of hydro with 5 mg of methadone is just enought to take the edge off and let me get a little sleep most of the time I need an extra 4mg-8mg of hydro on top of the normal 8 hour dose. Daughter has a few special loli pops from the reservation going to try one. They apparently also have the good stuff.