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reesnaw5000
Oh man. As a father and husband I am at a loss for words. This is the realist thing I've read.
dwaynetheporkchopjohnson
Damn these onions. Wish I could give the guy a bear hug
Wolfappendage
Lose your cool, and you're saved. The man has definitely experienced depression.
GirthBrooks91
PossiblyYourMother
He even looks like a little Patton =(
GirlInTheGreenDress
After reading this, I'm gonna hug the shit out of my husband tonight.
therealretto
If you both make it back...
RIPSlurmsMckenzie
Squeeze his butt too, we guys like to feel sexy along with love.
ashmenon
Can confirm, love butt squeezies.
GamingSexAndMakingMoney
This hurts my heart so profoundly, I hope time helps to heal him, from what I know he is a great man
Zatheron
His acting is so heartwarming. Love everything he's in
Menasyng
"People underestimate Bob at their peril."
PeterMerkin
So lucky to have my wife. Patton, you've been 102 days without, and I feel like I've taken mine for granted now. Best wishes to this man.
tomascco
As a husband who has experienced the same, my grief was tempered by caring for a 3 lb preemie. One never heals completely. 1/2
tomascco
(2/2) There is always a limp from the lost limb.
tyrunn
Jjtazman
I need this. I don't want it, but I need it
brr336
Almost swiped by this. Stayed to read it out of respect to the dude, and I'm really glad I did.
paininmynecrophilia
I did the exact same thing.
SubtleSuggestions
"Read it out of respect to the dude" ... Dude, I feels you.
ChucklePuss
I'm not crying, your crying.
bthighlander
Ditto.
BeeStingsAndHoney
So many of these actors are incredibly brilliant human beings who make us laugh. But rarely do they get the spotlight. Thinking of you sir.
Toderdj
What happened to his wife?
ihavequestions
Sudden death. Cause hasn't been determined yet.
clotblocker
Did the same thing
toadlily
I don't respect him as much as most do. I find him condescending. But this? This I respect.
WarDragon1984
Same.
Cooper1977
Thanks for posting this. Today, it really helps.
Incidentally
It's been 422 days since my mother left this land. I've found my legs though they ache as though unused for millennia.
TheGooey
That ache is going to be gone eventually, and you'll be back to life as best as you can live it. Stay strong, and know that people care
Incidentally
I feel as though she's moved on to one of the world's she saw and put into words. What we knew as ink on paper she saw as a living realm.
EccentricNimoy
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EndofAnEmpire
That was beautiful
Incidentally
Thank you. It was the wee hours of the morning then but I feel as though I need to write more along those lines. I might post it.
wanderingsibyl
Lost my mom eight years ago, sometimes my legs still give out.
Incidentally
Last night was not the only night this week I cried in memory. The void remains though healed is the flesh.
Incidentally
The day I found my legs again I set in stone my grand journey to the far lands of tomorrow. I left, then, kin and ken well in my wake.
EccentricNimoy
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Textuality
My dad died almost 20 years ago, and I still bawl like a baby every fathers day. :(
Incidentally
I'm dragging my birthday this year as I was born on my mom's. I don't know how to tell my friends that I don't want to celebrate.
TheGooey
This was beautiful to read. I lost my mom almost 15 years ago now, back when I was 8. You're approaching this with a really strong mindset.
Incidentally
My mind is only strong because of who she was and who she saw me as. At first my coping mechanism was shite, I became stagnant.
TheGooey
Stay strong! :) I'm not on here very often, but please feel free to message me if you ever need to talk.
TheGooey
The same thing happened to me as well, I barely left bed for almost a week. Recovery is slow, but the people you lost can help you grow.
Incidentally
When I did finally start doing things again I had to replace my foam bed topper. I'd compressed it in a body shape.
murderocket
Man, this guy can write some eloquent things!
javer80
Comedian or not, he's a true man of letters.
ICanHazSuperPowers
"Someday, someone you love will die. And then you'll realise that none of this matters." I don't know who said it, but damn...
ZombieZooZombieZoo
"oh still have time before I need to get ready, I'll open up imgur for some laug...oh. oh god."
kojenk
Depression, especially medical depression, convinces you of hopelessness even if there is. Grief is the MF where there is no hope.
kojenk
Grief is the goddamn wound you can't heal. One way or another you accept it, consciously or not as part of yourself so you can live.
kojenk
and every now and then it reminds you its still there like it happened yesterday.
kojenk
10 years after my elder brother passed, i realize i am now older than he ever got to be. Grief finds little things like this to rip at you.
Houkkitsu
as an aspie, i feel like i'm missing out - my grandfather and I were very close and my reaction was just "it was nice knowing him" 1/2
tallroses
Grief is a selfish emotion. People feel it because we rely on others and what they do for us. We depended on them emotionally.
Houkkitsu
welp thabks for that, makes sense
douchewadextreme
EVERYTHING IS SELFISH. EVERYTHING YOU DO AND FEEL AND THINK IS SELFISH. Welcome to the human race.
tallroses
I'm not sure why you're yelling at me. Aspies don't act out of selfishness because they don't use others to fulfill their needs.
douchewadextreme
Um... what? That's not what selfishness is.
Houkkitsu
and when a close friend hung himself "well he isn't depressed anymore", i always get treated like a freak for this and can't fake it yet 2/2
ITalkAboutGoats
I think it's more that people fear if you aren't broken up about death you never cared for the person to begin with. And if you don't 1
cloudstrifle
Fellow Aspie & you're definitely not a freak. Grief manifests in different ways for everyone, even as another Aspie mine works differently.
ITalkAboutGoats
care about that person, what do you feel about them? 2
kissmyassets
He already has depression, Mentioned battling it rather frequently in his specials. He said that their faces made it all worth the fight.
kissmyassets
I rarely get invested in celebrities because I don't know them. He is one I truly respect even before this. I'm glad to hear him talking....
kissmyassets
Finally talking about it. I lost my mom. My dad raised me. He buckled under the pressure and became an abusive drunk. Be strong Patton.
kissmyassets
I wish I could give him a hug. I know grief over something you couldn't control. No way to have helped. Just do the best you can to cope.
Theotokoss
365 days, and I am barely crawling. He was my best friend, not my spouse, but every word of this rings true to me
RandyMarshThoughtThisWasAmerica
http://imgur.com/gZ3A8dT
Stev757
As little as it matters, you have my heartfelt condolences.
ashmenon
*hugs*
Sortovalta
1984 days. I still think about him every day. I'm sorry for your loss. Do you think Patton is right about grief ? I found it very true.
Magistra1346
May his memory be eternal.
SLEEZYPAT
I am so sorry for your loss.
ITalkAboutGoats
My heart hurts for you
Lightlyfriedfrenchfries
Cheers to your friendship. May your life always lead to greener pastures and sunnier Isles.
Mewmus
i want to give him a hug
SoLongSaulGood
I was real worried about him, he had been battling depression for a while already and after his wife died, idk what would happen to him
Valiton
"The air caught fire around me and the sun died."
Mewmus
TL;DR: FUCK YOU, READ THIS!!!!
Korberry
I don't wanna, cause I started crying in the middle of reading :c
HandoB4Javert
102 days from now is Friday 11 November, 2016.
BlitzThunderWolf
Damn...
Chudzu
That's my birthday.
ashmenon
*sets calendar to check in with Pat*
HouseMouseMN
I could have done that math but I'm way more appreciative that you did. Thanks! +1
theyar
Right but I think he meant 102 days past?
ohmegatron
"After 102 days I'm crawling. Maybe 102 days from now I'll be walking.
theyar
Yeah but that's a poetic turn, I don't think it was meant literally.
ToShellWithYou
...that's my birthday. Shit. Now I feel like I have to do something of value. In 102 days I want to be proud of something. Crap.
samsonguy920
Be walking. That is all he would ask of you.
ToShellWithYou
I launched a website. Nothing major, but it's something more than I did last year.
ResistUnlearnDefy
Meet me here, on November 11th. Come alone.
danteismycat
Grief is something carried your whole life. My father died when I was 9, sometimes little things remind me of him and no matter what I'llcry
MongrelArchitect
My friend's dad died when she was young and one day a man came into our store that looked just like him. She had to go in the back and cry.
stygyan
I miss my mom, but I don't cry when I think of her. I'm just happy I was by her side on her last days.
Splinelock
I lost my father at 18. Hardest year and last year of highschool. At times it's still hard.
michaelmcghee22
Dad died a few years ago. When things remind me of him I'm more thankful that he was here than sad he's gone. It's helped me.
DarkAshelin
I could never understand depression. As a very optimistic and cheerful person, I would always look at the bright side and try to find /1
DarkAshelin
A solution to everything. Until I lost my 17y old brother. For the first time in my life I didn't WANT to be happy anymore. /2
DarkAshelin
There WAS no solution. I'm a very empathic person and just seeing what it did to my ever-cheerful parents was heartbreaking /3
DarkAshelin
It was the first time that I understood depression. It changed my view on life. Honestly I wish I was still more naive like back then. /end
AlmostCertainlyNotPickles
I didn't know his wife died. He spoke so fondly of her and his daughter. I can't feel what he's feeling, but it hurts.
LapisScarab
One of very few comedians who seemed to have a genuinely happy, stable relationship, it's fuckin tragic.
Huglord
There was a guy on Twitter who like a few days after she died tweet him and said that was funnier than anything he had done in years.
LiquidHandSoap
Twitter is a festering shit pile of a website now.
LokiKingOfJotunheim
There are some really strange people on there...
MommysInTheKitchen
I saw someone wrote rip harambe in a post where the op is mourning about the death of his mother. What a cunt
DiabeticStormTrooper
It always has been, friend. It's why I deleted it years ago.
DMGuy
I'm normally a fairly non-violent person, but this is the kind of thing public beatings were made for.
EinsteinsFitAsAFiddle
Sorry I almost downvoted you because that made me angry. Even from some stupid callous stranger, hearing that would really hurt.
hakunamatatas
I know this makes me an asshole, but that made me smile. It is fucked up, and I probably wouldn't have at that time. I feel so bad for him.
Huglord
yeah i laughed more of a reaction of how utterly absurd and fucked up it was.
Raysandatoms
As a father, losing my wife and having to raise the kids by myself sounds impossibly terrifying.
im2old4this
i feel you man =(
mizmoose
The bravest people are those who stand up to their fears & go on anyway. I hope you never have to do it, but if you have to, you will.
EccentricNimoy
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ABeck04
My life right now. My wife died June 9th leaving me wit a 6 and 9 year daughters! It's hell everyday!
Thalarctos
Lovely physical half-copies of your wife. Honor her by being a hero for them! You can do it! We believe in you!
thankyoujenny
Same, but it's been 4-1/2 years since lung cancer took my wife. My daughter was 11. It's true hell, but bro, if I could do it, you can, too!
youkillemwegrillem
It doesn't help now, I know, but it gets better. I haven't lost a spouse, but I lost a mother almost 8 years ago now. Love those little ones
webdevz
Amen, brother. Amen.
AliElkie
As the daughter of someone who did that, no one should have to do it, but it can make heroes out of men
dizzlemahnizzle
that is a beautiful thing to say, so many men crack under the pressure of being a parent. It's great to see you recognise this +1
AliElkie
I can't imagine how difficult it was for him, but he never made us feel like we were hard work. He made us feel like his greatest joy
Preheatedlizard
As another daughter who was raised by a single father it makes them the best men in the world
Pukako
My little bro and I were raised by my dad, by himself. We think he did ok.
ehhidunno
Daughter of single Dad here. My dad is my hero. Love that guy so much!
KharnApproves
Man I really want to give Patton Oswalt a hug right now.
trigaranus
My partner fell from a mountain in 2011. My world imploded utterly, but you get to build another one, after time. It's life, and death.
ShuffleBoars
I'm so sorry. Sounds like you are doing well now though?
trigaranus
Yeah, life is good again, thanks. :-) I was lucky, and I guess I had the right mindset to properly move on after some time.
immaturelMGURimager
Probably a leetle bit easier if you're a millionaire
Golduneye
I think at this point money wouldnt help.Youve just lost your favorite person to spend it with
WookieWookieWookie
No its not. Money doesn't raise children or help soothe grief. Fuck off.
immaturelMGURimager
Boohoo. Money can pay somebody to raise your kids, money gets your kids nice things, money makes life better when you're sad
liquidbeef
It was insensitive of him to say that but whether or not the deceased had life insurance would make a big difference for that family, sure.
immaturelMGURimager
Noir for Patton Oswalts family. Dude stays rich af. He can go on vacation, buy a small island, donate millions to charity, whatever it takes
WhosYourDobby
You can't buy your way out of grief
MartyMcNugget
Amen.
harambesghost18
I read this in his voice... Because just the sound of it makes me smile... Funny guy.. tough times.
spaghettifacebang
As a mother, I hope my family won't have to experience this for 60+ years. I don't even want to think about my husband trying to explain to
spaghettifacebang
our 2 year old son. I have to go wake him up and kiss his fat little face now.
jlynna11
You are someone's hero. Hang in there. <3
Hoop66
I'm just winging it like everybody else (my wife died 14 months ago, I have 7 and 12 year old girls)
OSCgal
Hang in there, man. Make sure you've got yourself some backup.
Hoop66
Her parents are local to me, and the community around their school has been fantastic.
McKavian
Good/Bad doesn't really matter - you are still there. That's the most important part.
madguillotine
Keep doing your best. Be honest in all things. Challenging day - tell the kids. Let them help in their own way. You're all in this together.
jiggscasey
My sister in law died one year ago, left my brother and 3 girls, 10 ( twins) and 7 years. She was one of the best humans. I've ever met.
Hoop66
Best of luck to him!
jiggscasey
And you as well.