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So. My little sister, 18, died after heart failure resulting from her 3 year struggle with anorexia. My girlfriend calls me three days after the funeral obviously angry. She starts crying on the phone claiming that I ignored her and didn't talk to her as much during the funeral and the time after. All I can think: What the fuck.
*Edit
Damn. It has been incredible to receive this amount of support from the Imgur community; Thank you guys. As an update, and as many of you suggested, I'm sitting my girlfriend down to sort through the shit and likely severing ties. It's fucking hard letting someone go who has been in your life intimately for three years you know? But the worst thing is I can't really bring myself to give two shits about her because the only one who has my heart right now is Maggie (my little sister). Thank you guys again for the messages, advice and comments. I have no cat, so I cannot afford the cat tax, so send me some of yours. Cheers!
thigibufra
Ex GF mad at me for ignoring her at my brother's funeral. A breakup and a funeral on the same day wasn't the plan. Good luck @OP.
FreaksOnWheels
why wasn't she there supporting you?
pontiacgirl75
she was at the funeral but felt left out since he didn't pay attention, that definitely makes her a cunt for wanting attention at that time
pantsforcats
CaffeineManic
I've ignored red flags like that in the past and always regretted it later.
mandlesrule
I had an ex that did something like this. Was in a bad car accident and she came to the scene and was hurt bc i was "acting weird"
Magistra1346
TMW you realise the relationship for them was only ever about how you made them feel.
pikapoof
Wow, as an extremely jealous girl.. thats a bit much.. time to move onto better things @OP
nervesatme
There is a dumpster with her name on it, dump her in it.
thegriffin88
Use the one in my neighborhood, the one behind the Korean BBQ that got a B from the Health Inspector.
TheRealPurpleNurple
You should really dump her. That's some red flags OP. She sounds insecure and controlling.
hamadahiro
Unrelated but this is a wake-up call for me. I'm anorexic (ever since 13 and now 20). OP, pretty sure you saved my life. Thank you.
fudgesicles34
My best friend has struggled with bulimia for a long time. Different ED but it's an ED. Best of luck to you friend.
Kleinstlebewesen
it would be a shame to spend most of the youth torturing yourself and fading away.
scarredhero
Seek help. Wishing the best for you
Kleinstlebewesen
my wake up call : in treatment a girl in really bad condition told me that she spend most of her time in hospitals withering away
Boopbeepbeep
I hope so. Good luck to you and cheers to a healthier future
themadscotsman
Fuck me this blew up! Thanks for the support from you grand folks out there, it's meant a heap. You've given me a clearer head.
VodkaReindeer
Just remember than imgur can't literally give you head if you listen to their advice and dump her.
NarcanAnomaly
You're dating a crazy person. It's not complicated at this point. Give your sister and yourself some respect and break up with her.
NarcanAnomaly
Don't date someone who gets jealous that a dead person is getting more attention from someone in their mourning period.
VenerableInheritance
Don't wanna be pushy, but I think people would be interested in status update on how you managed to settle things with her. Be well.
icomeheretobedistracted
Update! Dump her first though.
OliverClothesoff70
Free advice: Selfish people will suck the life right out of your soul.
philcollinsdrumbreakdown
Truth! Like when u nut and she keep succ
craaaaaaaaaaaaig
All the top comments say dump her. Lol
tooomanysteves
How long have you been with your girlfriend? She may be hurting too and needs your support, but doesn't know how to say it.
westparchment
Even if she is hurting she shouldn't take out on him especially considering the circumstances.
tooomanysteves
People don't deal with grief rationally.
buddha1313
People don't deal with grief rationally.
CloakerJosh
I'm so sorry for your loss. On an unrelated note, dump that cunt.
GoBears55
My thoughts, exactly.
CloakerJosh
Okay @OP, now that you've sought sufficient feedback you should ask her for her advice on what to do, and show her this post.
wherearemyfries
Calling her a cunt implies she has warmth, depth and purpose
LiarLiarPantsForHire
Oh mAN I AM USING THIS LATER.
gnocchtastic
I think this is my favourite comment on this damn website
JUDDINGTON
I'm inclined to see I understand that reference but I can't remember what the rest of it was
tizme
CloakerJosh
Bwahaha, nice.
enderite
Need..... more upvotes.... to .... give
BugGrizz
Touché
Satherian
DAMN SON
random6690
Shots. Fired. Brutally accurate and precise shots.
Smashingtorpedo
All I have is but a humble upvote to give.
RevelSketch
bigdog1983
oh buuuuurn!
thatDnDNERD
All these loud ass oooohhhhs I think a simple fuck would suffice.
tmedina
Made an account just to upvote this. Also, daaaaaamn.
tmedina
Yeah, imagine my surprise when it posts with a user name I didn't select. Ooops - apparently I really don't remember 2014.
rarelamb
but your account was made august 22nd, 2014...
radas86
2 year hiatus on commenting. Weird.
AbyssinianRem
That is amazing as hell... but isn't cunt in reference to the outer genitalia?
CloakerJosh
The cunt I was referencing was in truth entirely outside of the genitalia.
sureasyourebornyourenevergoingtoseenounicorn
I'm so sorry for your loss op. Could it be that she was close to your sister and also dealing with some grief (though inappropriately)?
HinataxUzumaki
As a woman all I can say is run
kristinawina
Everyone is right.
WhyDontICare
I had much the same at my Aunties funeral. My ex knew almost everyone there but got dirty guts with me for leaving her all alone.
philcollinsdrumbreakdown
DIRTY GUTS
WhyDontICare
After she had a go at me in front of everyone my sister asked her to leave. I really wished I had dumped her there and then.
PurplePixieUK
You've got a good sister.
ponynamedpony
Dump. Her. IMMEDIATELY.
motherhoodlum
I'm very sorry for your loss, it must have been hell watching your sister go through that. Also, enjoy being single!
nola225
hescottbeats
TopBunBoy
You mean ex-gf, right?
KennDeDeDe
Seriously OP time to dump this crazy bitch
walkingredditor
@op
myteenyverse
Hey.. so what happened?
YellowSparrow
My son is beginning to realize he's been dating someone like this. Your friends & family are secretly cheering for her to go. End it!
NuttierThanAJarOfGoobers
Dump her. You can do it. Here I'll help. "You aren't the person for me." There. Done. Doesn't that feel better.
youaresoverywrong
MadDucks
you mispelled "Ex-Girlfriend"
ShadowHuntress1
Dump that bitch!! That is completely uncalled for
SamaelTheVenomOfGod
NicePlaceYouHaveHere
Invite her over, yell at her and tell her you have the high ground and then sever one arm and her legs. Then kick her in lava.
RayLynch
Guess what OP? With a crazy bitch like that, it's only gonna get worse.
Raven2785
Time to dump her.
davidattenbruva
Quoth the raven "Dump the whore"
TheyCallMeEL
Yup
triedtothinkofausernamethatwasntalreadytaken
Huge flag right there
HorseMcFucker
@OP Fucking dump her ass. If she can't see that you suffer, she's *no one* you want to be acquintanced with. Red flags.
HisRoyalSighness
DataLady
Yeah I'm usually not on the "dump her" train bit someone that self absorbed will only get more so as life goes on.
SlumberJackson
Truth.
jhnwllms1984
True dat, drop that problem.
Zippla
100% this. No excuse.
HuntingtonBrown
For the sake of your sanity, end things. If she cannot deal with events like this without making it about her, you'll be in for disaster.
BaronessVonMlem
Really sorry about your little sister. As for the gf, you have enough grief on your plate w/o trying to fix that kind of broken, too.
icedmcfurry
Kessobahn
Do yourself a favor and break up with her. Have some respect for yourself.
iwrotethisonthetoilet
And for your sister.
TinaRuthBelcher
Yeah. You need someone on your team. Not someone working against you.
Geeknip
Yup, time to get out.
Corrodias
@OP I don't know if this is an "immediately jump to dumping" situation, but you'd better at least get on the communication train and ask »
Corrodias
her why she thinks you didn't give her attention and why she thinks she should have been getting it in that situation. If it turns out »
Corrodias
that she can't empathize, as you apparently find that distressing, it might be best to end it, but hey, maybe she'll realize she's a dick.
princessfakecake
FarFromBitten
Yup yup, she is supposed to be there for you in bad times not make it worse and about her...... "better to be alone than in bad company"
nominaltoactual2
Totally..Do not marry her she will turn into a monster bitch..Let her be someone else's mistake not yours.
theditchableaccount
Listen to this bird
slickdickricktherockskippingchampionoftheworld
yes and ditch her
knownidiot
High maintenance, unable to empathize, not supportive... not good.
knownidiot
Also, sorry for the loss of your sister. :(
BurgerExplosion
*whisper* red flag
AppleBitesEve
*sees red flag band wagon drive by...leaps with all his might onto the pile*
NevermindThatShitHereComesMongo
Tsar bomba red flag
sadro
That flag is so red it put to shame the USSR and China combined.
KittenMittonsMeow
Seriously OP. My friends ex got mad at him for going to the women's march...and asked "why can't you go to a man march instead?"
GlennBecksChalkboard
Yeah... GF of a buddy of mine complained that he spent more time with his dying father than with her. The reddest of flags.
patotheduck
kinslayers0
Is this bad acting or ridiculously good acting that leaves me confused?
triedtothinkofausernamethatwasntalreadytaken
Yep bitch has got to go
Luluk89
http://imgur.com/2u7YXsJ
BobKelsoDoesntGiveACrap
If you see a future with her, do yourself a favor and shut that shit down. You'll never have a better reason to than now.
CheshirePhoenix
That's not just a red flag, that's a giant flashing neon sign that reads "CAUTION: DECAPITATION HAZARD"
JonathanCrane2
Danger zone
PAGlNGDRFAGGOT
*ahem* PAN! PAN! PAN! WE HAVE A RED FLAG, RED FLAG!!
Sirustheworst
Dudes right. If she is being selfish during this difficult time she will continue to be selfish. Also I'm sorry for your loss.
Gr8b8satgr8r8s
'When you look at things with rose-tinited glasses, all the red flags just look like flags' -BillJohn Horseface, probably
SeeTheNumbersTasteTheViolence
The sound of tiny sirens
Prometheus134
ᴿᵉᵈ ᶠᶫᵃᵍ
totallynotaghost
Op's ex gf
TeamOneE
*pulls out tiny red flag*
sword23
rencartu
*it screams with adorable ferocity*
ResetButton
*wave it around to get an ambulance-going-by effect*
Boopbeepbeep
She is telling you clearly who she is. Dump her.
HappyTheKangaroo
So she's in a relationship with you and you shut her out when she wants to be there with you during a hard time?
thelonepig
It's HIS grief, and she needs to let him process it in HIS way. If ever there is a time it's not about HER wants, it's now.
datsgoood
It doesn't matter how he chooses to deal with it. He's not out fucking someone else or doing illegal self destructive stuff.
HappyTheKangaroo
Look at it from her perspective.
shelete
Maybe he just wants time alone to grieve and she should respect that. We don't have both sides of the story though
HappyTheKangaroo
But 3 days?
HappyTheKangaroo
There is a potentially interesting correlation between those who complain about being alone and those who say "dump that cunt"
shelete
You still get upvotes for bringing up a valid point though
supercalifragilisticexpealidocious15
Roaring red flag
Imgoingbacktobednow
That's a screaming red flag there
CatBlaster5000
RED FLAG!!!
Azerai
RED! FLAG!!
LandonSlayz
Screaming in a bullhorn red flag.
Loutrezilla
No, that was a crying red flag. Can't you read ?
youroldfrienddarkness
Oh, I can hear the red flag. It says," AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGHHHHH!"
FuzzyNutSak
This
reclaimingrequiem
Now let me see your real warface!
justthoughtyousholdknow
Yea op if she can't realize that the funeral wasn't time for you to give her full attention who know what else this could bring down the 1/
lauraborealis12
The funeral was the time for her to be giving you her full attention and support.
justthoughtyousholdknow
This!
EDarwin
Exactly!
justthoughtyousholdknow
2 line. Imagine sitting in the bathroom trying to pass a kidney stone and her being upset b/c you aren't paying attnetion to her.
Kalid19
Ohhhh kidney stone is way too little for this type of pain. Try "run over by a truck". And not complimenting her hair while in ICU.
Krynaion
Are you aware of the pain of a kidney stone? A truck sounds better
AxelYamanaka
But a truck doesn't produce beautiful children.
Kalid19
Acute pain vs life-threatening.
Krynaion
A kidney truck