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What do I do?
Today I found out my boyfriend of 5 years now fiancé (we're suppose to married in October) has been cheating on me with an employ for the past month by seeing a picture of them naked in our bed.
I'm so devastated I do t know if I truly have the strength to leave him and I hate myself for it.
I have no friends around I can talk to and need some support. Please be gentile
Edit: Thank you all so much you are unbelievable.
UPDATE: I confronted him last night and he admitted to everything. he couldn't deny it. I've had a whirlwind of emotions but i kicked him out and ended everything.
Thank you all for being here for me and your advice!
sloppythirds
Talk it out with him. But from what I have seen once a cheater always a cheater. Trust issues linger. Don't hesitate to bring it up though.
ImprovedLoungewear
Run, don't walk. You dodged a bullet. Say 'thank you' every day for the rest of your life.
feralgirl
I went through the same thing you are going through a year and a half ago. It's hard to leave but remember you are stronger than you know.
PinkyPie07
Looks like he's been ready for a month. No need to hesitate when he's clearly already moved on :/
Potatoesdanceformoney
Leave that motherfucker!!!
TorisArt
I'm at the end of the road on which you have just set foot, it's not easy and I didn't think I could do it but I have. I was married to her
TheRealDrSteveBrule
Fly you fool!
BlakeTortilla
Most of these people telling you to ditch him immediately arent being very sympathetic. But you do need to confront him.
SgtHymenBuster
Better 5 years that 10. Get out while you still can, my buddy is going through the same thing, Sorry, I love blue water too. chins up.
Itzzzel
I'm sorry to hear that OP, please, please just don't let your happiness depend on someone who doesn't respect you, change can be hard 1/2
Itzzzel
But sometimes it can open doors for even better things. Please just think about it and think about what makes you happy
joeyvelour
I know this isn't much of a bright side, but at least you found out before you got married. You have to get away, no contact with him at all
4dogMama
Cheating is bad enough, but taking pictures of it, and in the bed you and he share, is just a whole new level of asshole. Cut and run love.
SlightlyAfraid
WHY DO PEOPLE WASTE OTHER PEOPLES TIME LIKE HOLY FUCK, Like if cheating is a thing you think about, then leave, cause you're a cunt... Bitch
dolphindreamsandsatan
You have to go - I'm so sorry. Something similar happened to me. So sorry, but you have to find the strength to move on.. PM me if you want
Lysssumm
I hope you find the strength to leave him, you deserve so much better.
AnswerLady
Love yourself. Get out. He's not worth it!
themexicanwave
Marriage is difficult enough with someone you CAN trust. Do Not Marry Him. Trust is everything coz at times it's all you have in a marriage
ifeelaneedforsheeppuns
so what i'm reading here is that you're single @op?
spontaneous9
I had to stop myself from posting the same. It would almost be a joke coming from me, but it's weirdly un-funny because the love of my life is now hospitalized (since December 1, 2022) and will never be coming home. We counted 27 years together before Multiple Sclerosis finally took away the use of her legs. I'm not a medical professional so I had to give her up. So just THINKING about entertaining a new romantic interest pretty much puts me in tears for an hour. Damn, this life is hard. Peace.
brokenturtle
Leave while you still got a shot for happiness. Staying will not improve your situation
michoobles
I went through something similar when my ex fiance and I broke up. I'm sorry for your situation; but it will get better when you leave.
ozythemandias
Wait, why do you have no friends to talk to about this? That hints at underlying issues. Please don't become another victimized wife
tiarali
I was thinking this. It wasn't until I found out my now ex was committing criminal offences that I realised how isolated I was.
LuckyWristbands
Leave that zero and become your own hero. Us men are dumb and need to lose precious things to understand our dumbness. (don't take him back)
cmholsten
Unless he's rich. Marry him. Stay with him for some time. Hand him divorce papers. Keep that picture. Show the judge. You'll get it all
SageSalven
I hope you get top comment. That was brilliant and hilarious!
cmholsten
Thanks for the support. I doubt I'll get noticed. But I mean hey fuck him right. I'm a guy no need for scumbags giving men a bad name
Hahandfuckyou
BE MAD FOR YOURSELF, @OP! Check your state about common law, maybe contact a lawyer, check HR policy on relationships. Burn his world down.
IidentifyAsATomatoTomatoIsAGenderRight
Your username is so apt!
Hahandfuckyou
I try.
Muttmutt
Been married ten years to a cheater. Please! You will thank yourself later, he has no respect and NEVER will. You deserve a faithful partner
Leeloothedog
wait, are you still married?
mycrazylife5891
Married ten years too. Been dealing with this pain in my chest since year one. Sorry you're dealing with it too, I know how much it sucks.
tanner77
This breaks my heart.
Aibell125
Cheaters will continue to cheat. If he breaks it off with this woman, it'll just be another down the road
SageSalven
Not to mention he could pull STDs into her bedroom.
dougbea
Better to break your heart now than to break it an entire family later.
tanner77
Amen. As a child of a cheater my family is still crippled over 30 years later.
ObiWanJakobi
You need to get away from him ASAP. Nobody should have to put up with that
megariz27
What they said!
FartyMcPoopyButt
Get the fuck out before lawyers need to be involved.
makemesmilerightnow
Brief and to the point
deepbullet
Wait until the wedding day, then right before the "I do's" project that picture on a giant screen for all to see.
Hahandfuckyou
Ooh actually this, unless you'll have to waste a fuck-ton of money. Still satisfying.
deepbullet
But totally worth it. Vengeance so sweet and cold it will last a lifetime.
Hahandfuckyou
Mmmm especially if both cheats are in attendance.
deepbullet
Better get a really good photographer (or photographers) to catch the looks on everyone's faces! >:-)
Hahandfuckyou
...also so we can see. Schadenfreude concentrated.