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I love my boyfriend. I really do. This is the first time he’s traveled out of state since we moved in together a few months ago. He’s gone for 4 days and I couldn’t be more excited to have some alone time.
Not sure if I’m going to miss him. I might be enjoying this alone time too much... and having the entire bed to myself.
Let the take out, pizza rolls, Netflix, and rum & Coke commence.
*FP EDIT* wow! Thank you guys! I am so in awe of the response and support from this community. Feeling a little less lonely now. You guys are the best!
Also, currently in bed and definitely missing him already. Bed feels empty. Not sure how I’m going to sleep tonight.
TheDreaded1
We all need time to cultivate self otherwise we don't bring anything to the relationship. You-time is a good and necessary thing.
rickichick
My SO and I have been together for almost 4 years, and I absolutely love his trips. He’s gone for about a week each trip, and it’s so nice.
TheEmperorsFootMassager
Oh my girlfriend and I purposely make sure we have time apart so we don’t go crazy. It’s a myth that the happiest couples want to spend 1/2
TheEmperorsFootMassager
2/2 each waking moment together. It might work for some but even as an extrovert I need my space. And my girlfriend needs it even more haha
MrLeesGreaterHongKong
Totally get that. Been married for a while, and I still look forward to the periodic time alone.
momminainteasy
I can completely understand that. Sometimes having alone time helps
nicilaskin
15 years married , I love when he is out of town , I always gain a couple of pounds ,watch chickflicks , stay up too late , get up too late
littlemissmaura
He works mornings and is always in bed by 10PM. I love staying up late and sleeping in... now I can indulge in that for a few days :)
ProfessorMatt
It's nice to have some alone time every now and then- but for me, when the cat's away, the mouse gets lonely.
OhImSorry
Same here, wife has been out of town for a month and after the first week, i started missing her a ton. It got really boring in the house.
justanotherpervatwork
Masturbation, don't forget the masterbating.
hatersgonnahatebear
You go girl!!
Schrodingersfaggot
MetalRearSolidVThePhantomPeen
what a username. +1
Schrodingersfaggot
omgbs
I was long distance eith my bf for 3 years so I am def not at that point yet.
littlemissmaura
We started as long distance. 1000 miles apart. Only been living together a few months. Definitely a roller coaster.
ssyoda2
Right? My wife likes to get time by herself. So, I get almost zero to myself. Called in sick. Only one home. Silence. So awesome!
ratboy1896
I have Presidents’ Day off but my wife doesn’t. I love her and our daughter but couldn’t be happier to finally have a day off to myself!
crazypuppyfostermom
Felt the same way when my bf travelled. When he changed jobs, it was hard for a while. We now have an "office" that I use for alone time.
yousaidthereweredogshere
Girl you better let allllllllllll that gas out
DefundIsraelTheGenocidalNation
From one introvert to another. I get you.
DrPepper523
When he gets back
littlemissmaura
Rum is more my thing than his... so I don’t think he’ll mind. If he does, drinks on me!
BasicHumor4U
I visited family for a few days, my bf still texted me asking where stuff was and what he should eat for dinner.
NotAmused1001
Welcome to my life. 17 years later and I still get "is there any food in the house?"
ethanthecrazy
My wife and I have been together for 5 years. We both need personal time. Don't feel guilty about wanting it.
vorpalblade82
As a happily married man I understand perfectly.
lagavulin16
Just be sure to let the bf know. This shit can be a deal breaker down the road.
QueenBatman
And don't get me wrong I love my bf to death. He's my best friend
echonite
Wanting "Me time" is perfectly normal and very important, especially for introverts. Don't feel ashamed to take some time for yourself.
Kennytarmac
@op this weekend
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IAMRIGHTBEHINDYOU
needs to be more to this
welcomewagonforyou
huh
littlemissmaura
Unfortunately... not my cup of tea.
NotAmused1001
They, umm, look like sisters.
Cilvaa
JellyPandaa
It's normal and healthy to want alone time when you're in a relationship. The fact that this is a confession bear is worrying me a bit
littlemissmaura
This is my first time living with my SO. I was feeling guilty for looking forward to the personal time. I didn’t realize it was so normal!
OvariesLordRansSama
My girlfriend is currently abroad for 4 months, Idunno I'm pretty introverted but after the first 3 weeks it gets a bit tough.
littlemissmaura
Yeah, I would certainly struggle with 4 months. We used to be LD so Godspeed my friend, Godspeed.
OvariesLordRansSama
Thank you, atleast I get the chance to visit her for a week, so that's nice I guess.
DIngleberriesForBreakfast
Even the best couples can't spend every hour of every day together. Personal time is important.
Dondarian
My girl laughed her ass of fwhen she went to visit family and she asked what I would do "Gonna play video games, and celebrate your absence"
couchcomedian
"babe, you should go game tonight. I've got this Korean drama to finish" - my wife. I then proceed to round up my homies on discord.
DoofusMcGillicuttyEsq
rebeccaINgreen
AlwaysAdventurous
Just like dingleberries said. It is important. Make sure you specifically take time away from each other. It keeps things healthy
rosalynne95
My bf and I just started sharing a room, neither of us are working, and I worship the time that he goes out to run errands
DarthMaulOfAmerica
I would argue that the best couples DON'T spend every hour of every day together. It's good to have your own hobbies sometimes
Laminated
I need to get better about giving my SO space. I'm comfortable with the amount of time and space we have, but she isn't. Any suggestions?
littlemissmaura
Treat her to something once a month. My boyfriend often encourages me to go get my hair done or get a pedicure or go to the beach.
SexDrugsBirdsandRocknRoll
Make a point of getting out of the house sometimes. Doesn't have to be a big thing. But like someone suggested, get a hobby you can do solo
VashEricks
Get a hobby or have friends you can go out with sometimes. Let her know she's invited, but no pressure to come if she needs alone time.
EllieMew3
I feel like this is where my husband and I are oddballs. 7 years together, never apart and we love it.
ifavoritethingstoshowmywifewhenigethome
6 years and prefer to be together as much as possible
Scrotality
The important thing is to either find someone with the same idea, or to make a compromise which makes both comfortable. You've done well!
BegoniaNom
Same. I hate it when people make sweeping generalizations about relationships. Some people do well together 24/7.
SmallHandsBigPenis
Same here, 11 years. I think we’re both laid back enough that we’re never annoyed by anything.
stopitmom10
Same here. Have lived together 4 years, been married almost 3. We can’t seem to get enough of each other :)
agentmcgee
My husband goes away for a week twice a year for work. I love the peace and quiet. He likes it when I go in the bath so he can play games
professionalbear
Oh they can tho. They just end up sabotaging the relationship
littlemissmaura
Learning that slowly. It’s only been a few months and this is the first time we’ve both lived with a SO so it’s a learning process!
aguacatedeldiablo
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. It's not just a meaningless phrase.
ChickenFingerFingers
Married 10 years. Ecstatic when wife goes to visit her family without me for two weeks! By the end of it, I miss her.
namiasdf
It's really important to communicate this. Learning to be aware of another human being at that level 24/7 is exhausting.
tzxAzrael
consider that in your next place, you might want a "personal room" for each of you. (maybe your current place, if you have extra rooms)
TheProcrastilater
A bit cliche but a good rule is to never go to sleep angry at each other. Talk that shit out.
Epinephilim
With some obvious exceptions like not arguing at 2 a.m. when you're both tired and grumpy.
littlemissmaura
Agreed. Sometimes there can be the exception of “we’re just tired. Let’s revisit this tomorrow”. Typically goes much better next day.
LanaDelReyy
Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
JKJM
Until it doesn't and then Jody pops into the picture. Fucking Jody.
LanaDelReyy
Fuck Jody.
angryindigo
Avoid possible hurt feelings in future by having an open conversation now about both of your personal needs for alone time :)
Mimsey
And maybe check out Buddhism and research by the Gottmans. An ideal relationship is comfortable and safe even when both parties are apart.
spacemonkey127
Very good advice.
ThatShiftyMonkey
We had a frank conversation about 'me time' after our first kid. Guaranteed 3hr window each month that I can go out and do what I want, 1/
ThatShiftyMonkey
hang with friends, whatever. No phone calls, texts. She gets one too. We put them on the calendar. I absolutely love being a dad, but 2/
AsaCanadianIagreeandIamsorry
My wife works shift work and I don't. We both enjoy the time away from each other. We had lives before we got together. It's healthy.
Dyslexicbirch
My SO works mon-Fri i work Fri-Sun so we get time apart
PleasantPeasantPheasant
-Why my parents fight on every holiday I've been on with them.
DickPicEnthusiast
The best couples usually don't, because they're usually mature, self-actualized people, and that's why they have a healthy relationship.
DickPicEnthusiast
This TOGETHER ALL THE TIME SMILES FOREVER crap doesn't exist outside of poorly written tv shows, and it's a crap thing to model yourself to.
Keairan
Had a convo at work about this. People were talking about dating people they worked with. I brought this up.
angryindigo
Oh woman, alone time is sooo important, you know how much you love him and there's nothing wrong with not missing him. >
nixftw
Time to bust out the Hitachi and truly enjoy the alone time!
angryindigo
Enjoy it to the fullest and consider giving him a welcome home he can look forward to on future trips out of state ;)
littlemissmaura
I already have a banner and his favorite girlscout cookies waiting for him! I can’t wait to not make the bed and not do the dishes :)
angryindigo
Haha aww yisss
VashEricks
My wife goes on business about once a month and while I love having the place to myself, I always start miss her after a couple days
mooncoral
Mine too but she goes every month for a month
DavidBrooker
1-2 days is pretty excellent though, not going to lie.
littlemissmaura
This is day one. I’m sure I’ll start to miss him when I try to sleep in our queen size bed by myself... maybe.
Scrotality
I love having the bed to myself. I love my wife, but sleeping alone in a big bed is wonderful!
TheBestRussian
It’s worst at night. Suddenly every creak is an intruder and you panic over the tiniest of noises.
derringermeryl
So glad I’m not the only one who feels this way
Nathanfake
you want some company? get yourself a dog
SexualConsent
ikagawa
Fleaofpain
Just her boyfriend is out of town doesn't mean she has to go full beastiality
Fleaofpain
Damn. I think I a word.