theredeemablefemalecousin78
74197
2750
69
Nov 9, 2020 11:00 AM
theredeemablefemalecousin78
74197
2750
69
FierceAndAdorable
He might have hearing issues
digitist
I could speak at a very early age, and wouldn't, until about 5 when I would never shut up again.
boblefevere
https://www.reddit.com/r/SpecialNeedsJudo/comments/j4egyi/we_have_been_teaching_judo_to_a_wide_variety_of/
cactuskid1956
Most touching comment of the day
OceanDr
Your not alone. My twin 3 year olds are autistic as well and are non verbal. And the little things are so much sweeter.
kittenkatt
Seeing lots of folks with autistic kids. Please listen to autistics, not just mommy groups and docs: https://autisticadvocacy.org/resources
GotRunOverOnce
As the parent of an autistic child I wish I had done more when he was younger. I suggest you get him as much speech therapy as you can.
londonosierra2000
God does not sent this as a burden... Trust his "misterious ways" have faith. You both need this.
bandhanana
My son was the same way. Diagnosed at 4 and could barely speak. He graduated hs and is taking college classes now. Been a crazy journey.
apneax3n0n
i'd sell my soul to satan himself if i could be sure the journey will end well
Daddypenguin360
My boy is 9 now,he called me boy mom until he was 7
Morenn
My brother non verbal till 5, tantrums all sort of issues. Now almost 18 in graphic design profile highschool best in class. Great young man
r13dave4222
My son has Down syndrome and was diagnosed with Autism at 3yo. Go on Facebook and find groups for parents. There is a huge support network
r13dave4222
https://thingsunsaiddsasd.com/understanding-autism/ a piece I wrote that might help.
GotRunOverOnce
My kid has not been as lucky. Get him to try to speak as much as possible.
GiveMeCorndogOrGiveMeDeath
My kid was super delayed and everyone thought he was on the spectrum, couldn't be further from the truth. He's a smart 12 yr old today! (1)
GiveMeCorndogOrGiveMeDeath
2..people are too quick to diagnosis kids that are young. We wasted a lot of money and time to just have a delayed kid.
JustDelores
I thought the same at that age. Now at 8, my goal is to get him as Independent as possible Bc 1 day I won’t be here ?
BTWash22
Awesome! Parent of a 9 y/o autistic. Those phrases are the best to hear from a kid that barely communicates.
AlceCosmico
4 yr old son just got diagnosed, missed all milestones, he can now recognise all brands of cars in my town by their logos and has one hell
AlceCosmico
Of a memory, he can recall every single thing he did on a day 3 weeks ago. I cant remember what I did an hour ago...
DustinJL
I was diagnosed with Asperger's at 20 years old. Finally knowing made quite a difference, but it's still a struggle.
malarkey63
My son was diagnosed at 6 for Asperger syndrome. He is 20 now and in second year at university.
Combatcorncob
Those damn vaccines got another one! /s
Conkapo
I have Asperger's and was vaccinated, so with a sample size of one, I mean...
theredeemablefemalecousin78
40yearoldnerding
When I was diagnosed and told my mum, she asked if I felt she’d failed me? I responded, of course not, I’m just glad you got me vaccinated
The72ndRaven
As a preschool teacher, I have worked with children with ASD. When they have the right support, they will FLOURISH!!
voniblue
My nephew said Auntie at about 5 and gets whatever he wants when he says it on top of being spoiled by me already.
robocopvsninja
you need to think ahead of the 30yrs of support when you're dying and worrying if they can support themselves without you
HUGHgReaction
You are an ass wipe for saying that. Of course they are thinking of that. You are just taking pleasure in making someone feel bad.
wiltsjunk
You dont need to say that. As a parent of a kid w/ special needs, that thought drives me & is on my mind all day every day
CyanideBreathMint
sordatos
My thoughts exactly.
greystripe11
I've pretty much accepted that I'm going to be living on the streets when my parents die.
OutlawGerman
Myfirstgirlfriendturnedintothemoon
Yeah... my sister has a nonverbal, autistic son. It's really hard
ChrisWsrn
Autism and Mental Retardation are not the same. Autistic people become some of the most successful engineers. Communication is important.
ChrisWsrn
Once the communication issue is mitagated they are really skilled at learning new things.
snuflebluepantalones
as the father of a child in that situation, we don’t need that advice. We live with that pressure every single day. I feel you @op
Rem1976
As a father in the same situation here. I know that feeling. Good luck and stay strong!
nikiwinterset19820
People look up to and respect u guys so incredibly much. Idk y we have a hard time expressing that
kikiohearts
As a parent of a nonaustitic child who works really well right now at 8. I can only hope I can prepare her to live without me. But I think
kikiohearts
That's what most parents worry about. I'm sure my daddy at 70 worries about his 30 year old married working a good job daughter.
kikiohearts
I'll tell you what. I'll prolly get alot of recipes wrong and have to go to a non retired mechanic whenever my car makes a weird sound.
Nikolai5
I'm 27 and the first person I phoned when someone knocked me off my motorbike was my Mum, so that probably doesn't help that thought lol
kikiohearts
Very true. Hes usually my first go to STILL with most questions I have if the interwebs cant help. It does make me wonder what I'll do after
Hiboredimdad
Autism or not,I hope all parents think this one or twice.
PleasantPeasantPheasant
FYI the blue for autism has been changed to a rainbow coloured infinity symbol to signify how diverse the spectrum is.
kittenkatt
Yes! Not entirely, but yes. While we're at it, this stuff, too: https://www.assistiveware.com/blog/5-guidelines-for-autism-acceptance-month
Meowzzar
a few other redesigns centered around the infinity symbol, too. i really like this one
heeks
Maybe he's a genius : https://globalteletherapy.com/the-einstein-syndrome-sometimes-language-delay-isnt-what-you-think/
BunchaCrunchOfHuman
My 2.5yo babbles and communicates with visuals but rarely words. Ppl keep saying he'll speak full sentences one day or be crazy smart.
BunchaCrunchOfHuman
I Don't care if he is genius, I just want to stop being his mind reader. Dad and I are poet/artists so I'm trying to let him comm his way
heeks
And you're right, everyone doesn't grow at the same speed.
MyCatLikesToFruitcake
Both my boys took their damn sweet time moving to communicating with words. 1st son was 3-3.5 when he decided to start. Now he won't shush!
MyCatLikesToFruitcake
2nd one has a 3 out of 4 tongue tie (pretty bad) so its hard to understand him and can't get it fixed til 1st-2nd grade. He started at 3.
Whatwhatsomethingbutt
Good book: www.guilford.com/books/Teaching-Social-Communication-Children-Autism-Other-Developmental-Delays/Ingersoll-Dvortcsak/9781462538140
Whatwhatsomethingbutt
Good job supporting the kid. Don't know where you're at w/ helping them, but early intervention is SUPER important for future outcomes.
BunchaCrunchOfHuman
We tried speech and he hated it and it was making me suicidal. We're trying play dates with more verbal kids cause he needs to socialize too
kittenkatt
Autistic, here: I was nonverbal at that age and now I'm a professional with an office job. Don't limit your kid based on language skills.
MultiFacets
Hear hear!
kittenkatt
I get it; parents expect a neurotypical kid and they're scared. They smother because they love, but it can limit the kid's ability to grow.
kittenkatt
There are lots of other ways to communicate, and you will find the right one together. Hopefully without ABA therapy causing PTSD first.
kittenkatt
While I'm here, some basic things: https://www.assistiveware.com/blog/5-guidelines-for-autism-acceptance-month
kittenkatt
AND THE BEST STUFF, knowledge from autistics who live here every day (learn from a local!): https://autisticadvocacy.org/resources/
Biigs
A friend of mine runs a you tube channel, informative, im sure if you wanted additional help she could help you. Search 'Yo Samdy Sam'
itzujones1
Beautiful
ThePolarMole
Im 28 and got an assessment on the 19th. im happy he got that done early for himself and the kid. it really will help in the long run.
ThePolarMole
just having a solid base to work on "problems" from or routines, it may take alot of hurt away from both side in the future
40yearoldnerding
I’m 39 and just been diagnosed, I have a 7 year old daughter who is a small version of me who we’re still trying to get diagnosed
RespiratoryRandy
I am 40 and finally pursuing diagnosis. Any advice?
40yearoldnerding
Stick with it and be honest, if you’re anything like me you’ve learnt to hide aspects of your personality In order to fit in...don’t hide it
RespiratoryRandy
I am a MASTER of masking. It was a survival mechanism for almost 35 years. I appreciate the advice, thank you.
ThePolarMole
Wish you all the best with it ! And its brilliant you are trying to get this figure out for her early! Keep being you. Sounds as if you are
ThePolarMole
Doing a great job for your child, obviously alot of love and concern.
40yearoldnerding
I think it helps that she has a parent that at least understands how her head works.... especially with a mum who doesn’t get it at all
nemoutopia
My assessment is in two days on the 11th! I'm both really scared, but oddly eager(?) . It finally 'feels' right and explains so much.
ThePolarMole
No one wants a "disability" but if there's a chance it is there, you need to know to prepare for the future. Thays my feeling anyway
ThePolarMole
I totally get you. Most of the "fixing/learning" cant really be done without that solid base of knowing. You need to know where to start.
nemoutopia
I really agree I need to fully understand the premise to make progress. As weirdly specific as that test is, I aced it XD. I'm joking, kinda
EnzoWDC
@OP, my 4yo boy was diagnosed at 21/2. Gibberish tantrums pacing.. Never lose hope my friend. He now speaks and improves every day with >>
radiradi
And remember that even if he is nonverbal you can teach him other ways to communicate like ASL or assistive devices
Eli93
It's a diagnosis to figure out how to best help, not a sentence to condemn. Many people misunderstand that.
WaffleCopters
I was diagnosed at 16 with HFA, I wish I could of been diagnosed sooner, it would have helped me alot.
EnzoWDC
<< the help of therapists and specialized teachers. The love words are priceless. I hope they fuel your commitment and hopes !!! :)
WillyLaShade
Second this! Seek all therapies available to you, follow through with their programs at home. You will become a therapist of sorts too.
theriddlerxo
My little girl is almost 6, autistic, has maybe 20 words she'll say now. Each new word is like her first steps all over again. Magic! X
Spiritsue
How old was smallone when the speech came? Mine is almost 5 and nothing
EnzoWDC
3y11m. Just over a couple of weeks, bam just like that. And it’s not 3 words, it’s complex story telling and humor. When ready.
Spiritsue
I can’t begin to imagine my guy do that ...perhaps one day
EnzoWDC
I use to think alike. And i was crushed and desperate. But keep believing end showing the way, and value every small step, and every leap.
iwantkittydaycare
My son was about 4 when I hear i love you. And 10 when he finally got potty trained. Now on the verge of puberty. Im scared. When he 1/2
iwantkittydaycare
Has a meltdown he likes to throw punches. I am scared of what is going to happen when puberty hits. 2/2
sordatos
I'm sorry, but what do you mean with 21/2?
feffers
Two and a half
sordatos
Men?
Goodnewwseveryone
Haha I thought they meant 21 and a half, but it was a weird way to write it. Then I thought it was 21 divided by 2 which is 10.5 yr old
Goodnewwseveryone
But it’s most likely a date hahah
ThePeopleInCharge
2.5 years of age... I think the 2 and 1/2 got spaced too closed together for the person lol
ThePunishersVengefulBrother
2-1/2
Dormanius
1 devided by 2 is 0.5. So 2-0.5 is 1.5 there we go. I can still do math
ThePunishersVengefulBrother
You're going to be a difficult one, aren't you?
Salpinus
I think he means two and a half years old
quadralol
Clearly it's ten and a half
EnzoWDC
I meant 2.5 yo. Sorry.
Fluckers
I imagine that's 21st February
ConveyEmotionsViaGifs
10.5, did you miss fractions lessons?
Dormanius
21 devided by 2 is my guess
MidnightTacoTruck
That's obviously 21 halves. So that would come out to 10.5
ratfaceddog
10.5
Salpinus
We need an answer @EnzoWDC
ShockFist
I'd assume 21st of March, in the UK (and I would assume mainland europe) we date by [Day/Month/Year], though he might have another reason.
Salpinus
Ah, that makes sense as well
sordatos
Ah, so do we, not American, but I didn't get it was a date
ShockFist
February*
BanadecCamberbootch
They don't have February in the UK. They skip straight to March and make up for it with the month of Teacember when the rest of us have May.
marksisda
And when do they have may?
MadeYouLookAgain
Yeah so @op is full of shit and this is just shit posting for points if you take a quick look at his comment history.
theredeemablefemalecousin78
gingerminge
I'd really like to talk to you about this. I'm starting to feel real fear that it'll always be like this.
EnzoWDC
Do not despair, I promise you, guidance, framing, support, experience, exposure, repetition, eventually, your loved one will break through.
caduto11
my boy had a 5 word vocab til he was 6 and then, with the help of special school and minecraft, rapidly caught up and overtook his peers
caduto11
he now reads and writes well above his age range, struggling mainly with social skills and comprehension of fiction (he prefers non-fiction)
caduto11
this isnt the story for every child, there are many in his school with a limited vocab still, but most blossom eventually, just takes time
jamiewritesfic
My son was dx at 30 months old. Didn't speak at all at that point. By 4 years old he had a 3000 word vocab. 11 y/o now and has a vocab (1/2)
jamiewritesfic
larger than his classmates, and can hold a convo with people he's comfy with. They said he would never talk, lol. he won't shut up. (2/2)
gingerminge
I really hope to get to the point where he won't shut up!
jamiewritesfic
Don't give up! He might, might not... might happen fast or take forever. But the diagnosis and current circumstances aren't firm limits. <3
ShouldISayThisOutLoud
My daughter was diagnosed in February. I feel the same. Her words are coming in some, but I worry that the kicking, hitting, and (1/2)
ShouldISayThisOutLoud
throwing things/screaming at me, when I tell her no, will never end. It's exhausting. (2/2)
Whatwhatsomethingbutt
1. It'll be OK. 2. Find an expert. 3. Check out Teaching Social Communication to Children w/ Autism & Other Developmental Delays by Ingersol
gingerminge
That I'm definitely going to check out, thanks so much for the recc
kittenkatt
May I also suggest that you talk to autistic adults, please? Often we'd be happy to discuss our own experiences and help our kids find joy.
SchroedingersGoldfish
Do NOT lose hope. My son is now 21, dx'ed at 2 y.o. We were told he'd likely be non-verbal. He's a college student, works full-time, and -->
SchroedingersGoldfish
Is thriving. It wasn't an easy road, but, there are good outcomes. OT, PT and Speech, and Lovaas/ABA brought him to where he is now. -->
SchroedingersGoldfish
He's still "different" and tells on headphones to reduce the sensory overload, but he manages it well. His job is in IT, and he fits in well
kendoddsdadsdogsdead
My grandson never spoke until he was 5 now 7 fully verbal but with an American accent(lives in West Sussex) his mum and sister just kept on
theriddlerxo
Lol the american accent did make me chuckle. I feel hopeful for my kid reading this tho. I'd even accept a Brum accent at this point lol
kendoddsdadsdogsdead
Even if they never speak you’ll get so much honest love