BardieWell
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Apparently it's a problem if you don't message back right away. Only two guys I gave my number to and boy do I regret it! (First guy said he was insecure so I told him he has no reason to be but also not to expect an immediate response from ladies. I'm talking minutes). Shit is deterring!
Dinos91
What an ass, pretty easy to dodge those bullets though, seeing as it's a huge bullet covered in red flags
Aurricles
Ugh.
besn
Hurlerontheditch10
Dudes name is Devin. That was the first red flag.
HiddenRobot
From the stories my wife tells me, wtf is wrong with my gender.
HonestCommentFarmer
IMO: societal pressure to always be the initiator, aggressor, the chaser. Some people just aren't suited for it and thus overcompensate.
HiddenRobot
That was well said.
StuckInBetweeen
Damn people like this make me feel even worse about being single. How do guys like this get girls, they're just unstable dicks.
unsolicitedadvice
You shouldn't feel bad; it's far better to still be single when a good one does come along (rare but it happens.)
suck1t0p
Seems you’ve met one of those incels
Letstriptogether
And they wonder why women don't want to date them
Xynrae
Ah, the old "You're hot, wanna date? FINE you're ugly anyway! Fatso!" turn-around.
DovvyDragon
I always think, you're the one who was hitting on me though? Lol
Dionysus187
Oof, yeah they seem pretty fragile. Shitty guys do this shit to insulate themselves from a 'proper' rejection. So yeah, very insecure.
Dionysus187
ie getting rejected for this feels better than being rejected for 'trying their best'
FatDickSpirit
This is insane
RawrLouder
I know! They are down to 15% battery.
Willifisk
When we say "fish in the sea", we need to remember that most of them are slimy weird ones who'll grab at anything remotely food-like.
BagelConsternation
This
SheIsOverIt
I had a guy “offer” to kill me and then skull fuck me for not responding in a timely manner. Actually tried to hit me up a year later! ???
vash77
Ok that sounds worse than the bots I have dealt with. Very scary
Doomgriever
wokrider
Met my GF of two years on Hinge, I never bothered her or made assumptions. Don't give up because of two random small people. Know your value
AwesomeTeddybear
Holy shit.. well I hope you get better experiences soon (and maybe report them to the platform you're on?)
Faasel524
That might be the first time in 10 years that I'm glad I'm married..
qwaszx8888
Sammieliciouss
I mean....that's sad too
pareidoliaperson
gregariouslouganis
Omfg. Some days, the fact that I never had to be on tinder or date digitally is a lot of my reasoning for staying. F that, for ever alone.
ceramicpear
Everything okay?
MeanWinchester
I'm so sorry, but I promise you there are also good people out there, I met my other half through online dating 6 months ago 》
MeanWinchester
And we've both never been happier, I'm sorry your experience has been negative so far, I hope you find the person you deserve soon
BardieWell
Thanks for the encouragement! If anything, it's easier & faster to weed out the bad so I still have hope. I'm happy you've found it :)
ThanosTheGreat
...how old are they?
BardieWell
Mid 30s!!
MajArc0
You sure they weren't 14?
TCGView
That's unsettling.
ThanosTheGreat
GnomeDeGuerre
Like a miner, wash away the dirt and search for that nugget that have a bit of shine.
Eddi3v
What is it called when u want to implement eugenics... But just against this kinda person?
obarey
Holy shit, I knew it was bad for women, but I am surprised each time how worse it can get.
ScionofOgma
What the actual fuck is wrong with people? People like this are the reason I’m not opposed to a virus culling the population.Lets start over
giley
Nah, it's 2020, so obviously the virus will only cull reasonable people, and these fuckwits will be all that's left.
YouWereSupposedToBeBulletPoints
It's hard to knock off the bad apples if nobody is willing to get near enough to pass the virus on
ScionofOgma
Maybe true, but then it’s suddenly not our problem anymore
Frappo
There's a certain kind of poetic justice in that... a hell of their own making.
Kenties
Hopefully that never happens, but if it does, id hope people like you and me are the first to go, dickwad
henrikpetersson51
They’ve read ”the Game” and think women like guys who insult them. Seriously.
BikiniSamuraiBun
Sadly the virus does not distinguish between dickheads and good guys. seeing how the year is going, only the dicks would survive.
NogoodAtImgur
Meh kill everyone! The human race sucks :D
steviedrawsdinos
You know you're part of it, right?
NogoodAtImgur
Yeah, it still sucks. The human race is a parasite.. the only reason I haven’t killed myself is because I promised to many people I wouldn’t
BikiniSamuraiBun
Hang in there buddy! And if you can, seek some help, life can get better and you can also help make it better for others.
steviedrawsdinos
Dude, no one deserves to feel that way.. there's plenty of people who don't sick, and humans were made flawed. No one's perfect.
PaulTomblin
You actually have to be close to people to get a virus, so these dicks are immune.
ButtProblemTerror
This is why im single. And my face. And my finances. Body aint so great ether. At least I gott my spelling down.
somethingsomethingusernamey
I'm* got*
ButtProblemTerror
YesSorryIAmBack
I think you might have missed the joke ...
Masterofdisgust
Some absolute fucked men ruin this shit for the sane ones
NitolaKesla
Yeah you're right, I used dating app some years ago. At the start I didn't get why I had so much low response from girls, I thought that 1/2
NitolaKesla
i was the problem. Then, after talking with some girls I realized that they're basically bombed continuously by desperate guys bringing 2/3
NitolaKesla
them to ignore private message cause maybe you look like the other moron that contacted her before.
KellyCrazyCatLadyinTraining
That’s so sad. Personally, in theory, I like the Idea of asking straight up if a male would be willing to take an oficial IQ test prior 1/?
KellyCrazyCatLadyinTraining
To meeting me in person, and sharing a print out of the results with me. Again- this is just an idea I had to help weed out the crazies. 2:?
JurgenWindcallerz
Nah mate, they make space for us ? I find it super easy once I talk to a girl, cause they're used to this shit ??
whatpassesforclever
Yep, this. If you can carry on normal conversation, you’re already in the top 5% of candidates. Met some great girls while online dating.
3P3references
I find the opposite. I seem disinterested to them because I'm fucking horrified of saying ANYTHING that could come off as "creepy".
JurgenWindcallerz
Say adios to that attitude, and revert to say anything you want. Just maybe don't do the horse emoji ???
Youhavinagiraffe
I'm similar to this. Flirty, playful and cheeky things I might say in person feel (with my considerable personal charm!) don't feel right
JurgenWindcallerz
Ah come on, just shoot her it. What can she do? Not reply? Maybe. But that's about it. Just go for it m8
Youhavinagiraffe
"Have you tried... NOT being socially anxious?"
ItaloColombianAdventuresInJapan
I heard that even in Scrabble online men write you creepy things. This is why I hate games that require you to socialize.
TrinaNew
Tried playing scrabble online, people do message awkwardly like" wow you can't be a real person!" I'm like ermmm just play your word please
sauntervaguelydownwards
I have a friend who works at a pharmacy and she has to make calls to the general public. She gets shit like this at work.
ItaloColombianAdventuresInJapan
That's horrible...I mean why would you want to hit on a girl in a pharmacy? Do people think real life is a dating app?
ItaloColombianAdventuresInJapan
Probably the kind of dudes that write "Bitch lasagna" and "bobs and vegana"
Studoku
Well that lasagna was on a triple word.
ItaloColombianAdventuresInJapan
Ghostwish
Yeah, block. But maybe before you do: remind them dating websites have age restrictions, so maybe they should grow the f* up.
EldredgeSolsong
You cant do anything about growing old but you can choose when to grow up
WillJeSuis
"Sorry, I can't go out with you, if I do, I'll get put on a sex offenders list." "Why?" "BECAUSE YOU'RE A CHILD!"
Ghostwish
Oh THAT'S GOOD.
PetKitties
I bet they self describe themselves as "nice guys"
WhatsHerDick
Well, he is! He said he would protect her, so now she owes him pussy, where have you been?
OGymruOGymro
I love the fact that this has got downvotes. Might have touched a nerve there!
Captainawesomething
I’m a massive douchebag but I’m single cos I don’t talk to anyone. I like to think.
Youhavinagiraffe
"I'm not like other guys, I'll protect you and treat you like a princess"... translates to "Hello, I'm emotionally abusive"
HeartsStarsAndSouls
"Hello U r my princess. Why U r not answering me I treat U my princess when we are married your my princess." -Don't call me princess-
secretdpp
In fairness he could be willing to force her into marriage to ensure the Spanish join us against the French
Anonymous0199846
idk man, you ever watch the netflix show "Love on the Spectrum"? There's a kid that fits this mold on the show. It's ... well watch it.
ToxicIndigoKittyGold
M'lady-Tips fedora
HideousChild
Cant spell incel without nice!
youcanreachmenow
Cant get laid as they are always being "friendzoned." Knew a giy who always ended up fancying girls who already had boyfriends...
beggingyourmajestyspardon
Because he didn't want someone no one wanted. Kinda like forbidden fruit. It's called Poaching.
youcanreachmenow
Yea I thought it was kind of odd... in fairness he was just cuckolding himself
beggingyourmajestyspardon
Pretty much. We (humankind) are our own worst saboteurs and denial is more powerful than logic at times.
PetKitties
I had a guy call me a cocksucker because I didn't want to date him. Which is weird because I assume his insult was his goal ?
DaddysRedPanda
That's like guys telling me I'm a slut for not wanting to have sex with them. Who are you insulting here?
PetKitties
Logic? Who's that bitch?
Sasurau
apeshigh
The workd just gets shitter the more shit people are put in it. Advice to people: stay single then you might not have shit kids
DeKetsendeRechter
That's nice but we all know women can be just like this, so no need for the gender shaming.
PetKitties
The post is about how 2 men are talking to a woman. It's not a blanket statement.
DeKetsendeRechter
Your post can be interpreted that way tho. Good that you clarified, no need for the downvotes.
DickDastardly404
Tbf everyone thinks they’re nice, and everyone thinks they’re smart. But most people are neither
WeirdStuffFound
Difference between being a nice guy and 'nice guys' one is described by others witnessing actions, while one is stated without evidence
ClownSteakTasteFunny
Online dating is wierd for both sexes. There are some strange people out here. The thing is to be patient and not give up. Some of my Most <
ClownSteakTasteFunny
> important relationships have come from online dating, but be prepared to shift through alot of crap.
qwaszx8888
I met my wife online dating but lemme tell ya it took TONS of losers for each of us. A lot of ppl are batshit crazy. Boy do i have stories..
l009
POST TIME!
SkaerKrowe
Same here. But I didn't go through any crazies, luckily. Well, not counting the wife. Lol
Ilove314159
Do tell. I love a good story.
jesuisgur
I guess the good ones find the right shoe and leave the forum quickly. Them that remain forever are the batshit crazy.
OddOod
met my wife on tinder in, like 30 minutes. I'm a fukkin unicorn
smittyatyou
Same. Weddings September 19th woot
LordFancypantsicus
Had a date with a girl who asked me to "describe my penis" and had a meltdown crying about her ex. Fucking bizarre.
DeansRepunzel
Same story here
PunchyFromCleveland
My husband and I met the same way. Those are the same crazies I’d automatically stay away from in a bar. You just have to ignore them.
Scout97
Who’s Sarah Jessica Parker now?
wargames
Time to post some!
Djsocar
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Goldensands
I’ve tried online dating 2. Did not meet anything near this, ever. Why? Because I don’t line surrounded by stupidity. I don’t live in Murica
windowtudawoll
This! I matched with some girls while visiting Florida on holiday and saw one at a bar dressed in the weirdest outfit I didn't introduce
windowtudawoll
Myself and as she was leaving the bar she walked by me and took a picture of me. It was deeply unsettling.
StylishFlipper
Stupidity is universal
Goldensands
It is. It’s also running absolutely rampant in a culture of narcissism. You lot glorify stupidity - go on, say otherwise. I’ll say “orange”.
StylishFlipper
i never said it wasnt true. because it totally is. the stupid far outweighs the smart people in America. AND have more power
lostlittletimeonthis
I once started a convo with a simple self depricated joke and she replied with "I'm not going to help with your confidence issues"
windowtudawoll
Boy do I like a girl who's mean though. I'd have eaten up all her meanest texts
abraxa
You dodged a bullet there.
lostlittletimeonthis
Yeah I unmatched pretty quick
Osyriss
NitroTheChampZach
.
qwaszx8888
My wife (a lawyer) did extensive research on me pre first date lol. Looked in PACER for lawsuits, crawled my social media, looked up family
qwaszx8888
She wasnt able to find much...point of pride. But i also dont blame her for doing it. And its amazing how much info is public.
qwaszx8888
You can usually find home address, previous addresses, cell phone, immediate family, email, employ, lawsuits, liens, taxes, arrests in < 1hr
WhenInDoubtC4
.
qwaszx8888
Oh okay lol. I went on a date with a very sexy lady cop who was late so we lost our table, comes speeding down main st in an audi s /
qwaszx8888
Blasting music while on (not hands free) phone with me. Tokyo drifts to a double parked stop in traffic with a green light tells me get in /
qwaszx8888
Has a tumbler full of vodka rocks in her cupholder. Offers some. We zip to another restaurant. She vapes at the table. Tells me im so /
qwaszx8888
Smart (software engi director like think not dumb, good at explaining things, well read, well traveled, so thanks...nice compliment) then /
MrChurch
I'm sorry, I can't upvote you. You're at 69 points.
itmocksme
Same but dear God the loonies. So many feet pic questions and hey wanna live we me and my partner rent free but be our sex slave?
qwaszx8888
Lucky! I never got asked to be a sex slave. They always just wanted me to support them. ☹️
EldredgeSolsong
Please go on I am doing research and would like to hear more
itmocksme
Plus so many guys posing with fish? And one guy being normal up until "Do you want to play a game?" Right around the time saw was out...
Peachcappuccino
If there's a fish, truck or bike or gun or hunting in their profile pic stay away
WhatsYourCovidStory
So hows living rent free going?
WrongUn
I was gonna say, where's the catch?
brandsilven
With an offer like that, there's probably lots you can catch!
itmocksme
Its pretty sweet honestly.
lizardbones
that blatant response made me laugh pretty hard. thanks
itmocksme
Ninjainslippers
I used online dating for 2 years and then gave up after some short term flings. 6 months later I met my fiance.
ProbablyYourAverageMillenial
That's.. unsettling.
eatassskatefaster
This is why I stay away from Grindr
YouTestedMyReflexesAndItTurnedOutFINE
Super common, too. Check out “Bye Felipe,” on Instagram. It’s full of these. This one is pretty mild in comparison.
TheSexInstructor
Like I'm a man, I've texted loads of women over the years but I will never understand what mental deficiency causes people to act like this
qwaszx8888
The internet. The fact that you dont have to do it eye to eye. There was always 10% who would. But now its emboldened the ones who wouldnt
Soifon87
Welcome to online dating - women edition. A lot of conversations end like this. If you would like to be called an ugly bitch, just say no
Quazzeh
I don't get this, I've been turned down many times and I usually just say "okay take care"
Soifon87
to a desperate male with a fragile ego.
Alyshaleesha
In my experience about 80% of conversations end like this. It's so bizarre and disappointing.
NikkiJayAllDay
Who are the two assholes downvoting this?
KrondorMocker
Mike and Devin....duh
Sagsquatch
Mike and Devin?
NikkiJayAllDay
Clearly the two people that texted her in the post
Yeeeeaaahbuuuoooyyyyy
As a guy; but why???
delpharseven
Probably every woman has experienced this in some form or other.
acceptmeplz
Being a woman looks like playing life on hard mode...
HugoArtemisRune
I wouldn't talk to someone I hated like that.. Wtf
YouTestedMyReflexesAndItTurnedOutFINE
Yup
Soifon87
Can confirm. Sadly. And imagine little girls just hitting their teenage years getting the same treatment. I'm scared of the time my
BubbleSiren
They don't even need to wait til the teens, grown ass men creep on them all the time for walking to school or wearing a dress
Soifon87
daughters have to face the fucked up society. I hope I can prepare them for this mess...
KilledbyEnnui
Yes. ALOT. Like constantly a lot.
AFrustratedTurnip
As a dude, I know we can be assholes sometimes...but damn, that's just sad. I really hope it's a small minority at least
KilledbyEnnui
It’s not. Unfortunately it’s the vast majority that act like this. At least in my experience
instanoodles
Yeah I cant even comprehend what goes on it their pathetic little brains that gets them to the point where they think that is okay.
AFrustratedTurnip
Of men that are like that. Felt the need to clarify just in case
darkwyverna
In my experience it happens a lot on sites where anyone can message you. Maybe 1/5. In mutual like sites its lower maybe 1/20...
darkwyverna
Am woman. Have had this happen to me.
albinohitchhiker
Same here.
WaffleBrat
Also woman. Has happened to me as well.
chickadoodledoo
Also woman, don’t think I have a single friend who this hasn’t happened to.
Peachcappuccino
There's entire instagram accounts dedicated to this
TheSexInstructor
Also reddit has r/niceguys
darkwyverna
I followed it once. Bye Philippe. Some of it is like this but a lot of it is also women being cruel to men. It's a two way street.
Peachcappuccino
Oh I know. Bitches be absolutely crazy. My husbands ex is clinical. Crazy hot scale relatively accurate
overlythinky
I guess uggos like me don't have this problem. How nice to finally have a silver lining.
neos501
"I will protect you... Bitch..." wtf is wrong with people?
redpandabanana
thelonepig
What's surprising is she gave her number to that guy!! The ONLY TWO she gave her number to. She's def part of the problem.
MileHighLivin
Yeah.. I'd be very curious to see the conversation which convinced her to give up such personal information. Maybe need to vet better.
mentallychallengeaccepted
How much time do you have?
storebrandproductmascot
You ugly ugly horse face that I thought was hot 5 minutes ago!!!
Studoku
He protect, he attack, most importantly he deserve a smack.
sjei282btsbsa828ehehth5he7s72727agsv2ya7a8aaksj4jr8r8d
BITCH LASAGNA
sjei282btsbsa828ehehth5he7s72727agsv2ya7a8aaksj4jr8r8d
ANSER. OPEN BOBS
sjei282btsbsa828ehehth5he7s72727agsv2ya7a8aaksj4jr8r8d
SEND VAGENE
PackedCatMeowingPowerDensity
Sadly many people use online dating as a tool to generate power. If they can control a person with the expectation of love or sex, they doit
cwhammer2
TacoPuncher
https://media.tenor.com/images/85f807e9fcd2e55d31307beed13dcee4/tenor.gif
eazolan
It's what happens when people aren't consistent. So you just start verbally flailing around, trying to find something that works.
Conboss
“I’m trying to help you motherfucker! Bitch you need help!”
PCGamingKurshuk
Make a list of what women want. But akin to a hunter who hasn't been outdoors, your list may suck if you don't understand the game.
AllisAching
Maybe he is from the Mafia and demanding protection money... Then he will protect her.
Toderdj
As a fellow Devin I apologize for the dumbfoolery.. we're not all bad I swear
aweebitbmpy
I love you biiiiiitch I ain’t ever gonna stop lovin you biiiiiiitch
MrJosh232
He ain't never gonna stop protecting you....... Bitch......
MacThunderfart
That just straight psychological disorder.
ViperMad
More like personality disorder
sjei282btsbsa828ehehth5he7s72727agsv2ya7a8aaksj4jr8r8d
Seems oddly indian BITCH LASAGNA
MacThunderfart
Ok.
sjei282btsbsa828ehehth5he7s72727agsv2ya7a8aaksj4jr8r8d
OPEN BOBS
sjei282btsbsa828ehehth5he7s72727agsv2ya7a8aaksj4jr8r8d
ANSER. SEND VAGENE
IndigoSlam
Do men no longer use, “hello” or “how you doing” anymore? Cos I think even I may be able to get laid just by being polite.
EldredgeSolsong
Really cuz I have been trying that but my ugly gets in the way
Jespergates
We would like to, seeing as thats a perfectly acceptable way to approach someone you just "met", but sadly that will NEVER get a reply.
GnomeDeGuerre
Used onlline dating 00-10, seemed that males wrote 90%+ of letters and the wast majority of those missives were..... Not fun. Which can be1/
GnomeDeGuerre
2/ exploited, since it doesn't take much to stand out positively and it's easy to make idiots show their idiocy.
AtmaDarkwolf
yea no lol, u need more than that. It helps, sure, but very often the douchebagdick who 'acts' nice (And is transparent as all fuck) will
AtmaDarkwolf
get more interest, even when everyone (the douchebags target included) see right though him. Nice guys are boring, but still needed around.
Tibelius
You'd just be one of the tens or hundreds who say hi. Not saying being an ass or a spectacle is better. Just that you get lost in the masses
Tibelius
This makes men feel like they need to overachieve immediately, which in large amounts gives the women with tons of matches lots of attention
Tibelius
Then these women become those who say "be more original" if you do try to start a regular convo, since you're just a face. It's not like
Tibelius
They're entitled to start a convo if they're not impressed by a mediocre face and a "hi". So you tend to not give a fuck online as a dude
Tibelius
Or you match, say your hellos etc and get ghosted or unmatched immediately. I'm brutally ugly though so obv my views are skewed :D
Ninjainslippers
My attractive female friends say they get like 10 or more messages a day. Basically only reply to 1-2 of the most attractive/interesting.
BattyGirl88
10 years ago I expected guys to put more effort into a first message. Now that Im still single at 31, I reply to anything.
DiedAndHauntingImgur
“You’re pretty, I’m pretty, we should get together sometime and do something pretty awesome”
Iwannaseeit
Then there's tons of girls "wow don't just start with that, interest and entertain me" ?? You matched, you're supposedly already interested
Sammieliciouss
And then they just respond with "k"
sarkonas
Ain't worth it. You may get a few messages in,then she'll just ghost and block you no matter what
GnomeDeGuerre
Writing 10 messages saying "Hi", "yes" and ":)" is difficut to respond to.
Iwannaseeit
I disagree, I answer those messages with "Hello, how was your day?"Conversations are two-way and you're clearly interested already.Talk then
GnomeDeGuerre
I haven't seen that work for me yet, people don't seem to respond with more creativity.
Neptuneflyer
As a dude using online dating. As long as you are decent looking, these guys set the bar so low that yes, you will get laid by being polite.
NotMyUsualOnlineName
Assuming you match with real people and not just bots, that is.
Neptuneflyer
Rules 1 and 2 help with that. 1. Be attractive 2. Don't be unnatractive
Tibelius
I get pöenty matches because I think they just like everyone. Then when I message they go like "eww not this guy" and unmatch. Fair game.
b0Bm3h
Well shoot, I must be ass ugly. When I used dating sites, I would always open up with something about their profile that I could relate 1/
b0Bm3h
With, most of the time, I would t even get someone to respond, if they did, it would be a "yeah". Online dating is rough and depressing.
Unravelled
Can confirm
Tibelius
I've failed step1. I'm ugly but polite, but that gets you nowhere :D i guess other ugly people feel like they gotta overcompensate though
Neptuneflyer
How you look has no bearing on shitty behavior, OP said the guy above was handsome.
Tibelius
Yes but a handsome person gets replies if they could just be normal for a second. I get ghosted or unmatched immediately after saying hello
Neptuneflyer
It's true, but even good looking guys can't just say hello. People put effort into their profiles, comment on hers.