IFartMoreThanHim
182503
5811
152
Fathers are important in life.
If youre a good dad, you deserve a pat on the back.
Denamic
My father mostly just yelled at me
FarenDin
But... my father is a drug addict. And haven’t given a sound since I was 10, (25 now) :(
Athferion
Don't let these get you down. Plenty of us don't have proper biological family, so we have to create our own through friends.
picardsbeard
Nope. My dad was, is, and never will be that to me.
LoveAndCoffeeButNotNecessarilyInThatOrder
Reporting in. Not all dads are selfless and loving.
ObsceneTentacularInsertions
my father did not do that. He's a shit.
YogSoth0th
Cause you know, this is actually what a father does, rather than be a hypocritical ass who tells you how nothing you do is good enough.
caedes325
And the cat's in the craddle with a silver spoon...
Portusjacksoni
As a husband and father, I don’t have to carry the world. I just have to carry them. Some days are hard, but I wouldn’t change it.
jjc101
Ur damn right
AsianDad
There are days at work where I ask myself: whats the point? Then I look at photos of my kids. Suddenly I have energy, its strange sometime.
MightyTightyWhities
Amen brother.
scnottaken
But what if they ARE your world whoa.
DynamicWeight
owenwilsonwow.gif
CharlamagneThaGod
wutaanc
My son for sure IS my world. First person I’d save over myself without giving it a ms of thought.
matt360
Same here. I’d like to think I’d do the same for my wife as well, but with my son I wouldn’t even think twice.
Portusjacksoni
They are my world. Which is why I gladly carry them.
freechocolatechips
DpsGato
Yeah must be pretty neat to have one
Radiago
As a father: thank you.
LurkingTrout
These make me wish my dad didn't suck
sunpirate63
McFluffySundae
I'm a single mom (dad is a deadbeat abuser) so I guess I have to be both! Ill try my best little man!
DeadeicPrints
I was raised by a single mother in your position, I believe you can do it. She was my mother and father, and she was great.
ajax111
I celebrate Father's and Mother's day for my mom. Dad was a loser who left when I was 2. I know you'll do great.
PolishPancakeWithCanadianMapleSyrup
My oldest threw me a Father's day party (Im his mom) for the first time this year. I cried hard.
FellInLoveWithAGayIceDancer
My dad left 20 years ago and these still give me feels. I consider friends with dads to be extremely lucky.
Jiggsawjazz
ya, hear about poor parents and excused cause they didnt have good examples. grew up with very abusive mom and no dad and it makes me 1/?
Jiggsawjazz
just want to be an amazing a dad as possible, just too bad growing up in a fucked up childhood has left me an emotionally stunted 2/?
Jiggsawjazz
adult incapable of even being in a relationship haha.
FellInLoveWithAGayIceDancer
I was like that for a long time. Took meeting the right person with a lot of patience.
FloraPoste
This is nice, and now I feel nice
throwawaydonger
I wish. I only damn wish.
ProbablyNotWhatYouWantedToHearBut
Bullshit. Half the fathers I know are deadbeats.
Mcpoopyface
Fuck I cried a bit is that what it's like to have a dad
goingtochipotlewitharistotle
That’s what it’s like to have a good parent. Moms can fill this role too.
ARobertHarrison
I think this is what it’s like to have parents, not just a dad, who are trying their best to provide for their children when the world seems
ARobertHarrison
... to be conspiring against them.
ImHereToGetDownvotes
Agreed. My dad was a pretty big piece of shit, but my mom would do literally anything for her kids.
QuartzPigeon
Not if they're a piece of shit, or even a mediocre one
edissick
Mostly, no
thattheologyguy
Yes. My dad has given up so much of himself for me. I hope you find a good father figure, man.
ImThatThingOverThere
This makes me miss my dad even more. Coming up on a year since I lost him
CatBlaster5000
unless your dad fuckin sucks
dullguava
Yeah, not all fathers are like this. This post probably makes some people feel a little uncomfortable because it wasn't true in their case.
Athferion
It always makes me feel a bit jealous to be honest. Especially when it's christmas and people ask me why I'm not at my parent's house.
Morkboosic
This honestly hurts me. This is what a dad should be. My dad was abusive and violent. Not asking for sympathy, just enjoy what you have kids
Aathole
#4 speaks to me
BB3warrior
I'm too immature to have children, if I'm gonna be honest with myself.
FrederikKaareandersen
Dude i feel the same way. i can easily take care of my sisters childeren but if it was my own child i would be scared.
thosebahsturds86
That’s ok. I’m too selfish to be a mom. My parents were in a shit marriage. I raised THEM. As far as I’m concerned, I’ve already raised kids
BB3warrior
It's not okay, I need to grow up in so many ways. But it is a fight internally. I'd say sorry for your childhood but that would be pity.
BB3warrior
And I try not to pity people. It is rude as hell.
thosebahsturds86
No pity or apologies needed. It gave me an example of how marriage shouldn’t be. Im happy to report Im in a good, healthy relationship now.
[deleted]
[deleted]
thosebahsturds86
Thx for that. I suffer w/ depression a bit, just like my mom. I’m medicated but she wasn’t back then. It was no picnic taking care of 1/2
thosebahsturds86
her when she was crying all the time. I may be medicated but I know me. I won’t handle a kid well. So it’s for the best and I don’t regret.
[deleted]
[deleted]
AcuteDivergency
Trust me this isn’t representative of all fathers just the good ones.
Illyriel
People who have good fathers - appreciate them, a lot. Not all of us do.
Noob3rts
My father and mother do this. All they want to do is retire and travel the world, but the kids stopped their lives. They love us, but fuck
wutaanc
Even if your kids put your “own” life on a pause it really doesn’t matter. Wouldn’t trade it.
Icujle
You wouldn't, personally, but that really is a huge risk to take. Imagine being the exception to the "rule", and how awful that would feel.
Doolally
I believe one can live a life and have kids too, it's more like a requirement than an obstacle. Kids are fun and adaptable if you are.
PaulNewmansGhost
Well said.
Noob3rts
(2) they clearly have missed out on so many things that they would have loved to do just together.
PolishPancakeWithCanadianMapleSyrup
That happened to us at 19. As much as I want to travel and live reckless after my kids are gone I cant help think about future grand kids!
ikapelsin
As a mom, sure kids put ur life on pause but they're also the love of ur life!
PaulNewmansGhost
Sometimes I think this way and am jealous of the DINK couples (Double Income No Kids) out there. But when I think of all my accomplishments>
PaulNewmansGhost
Before having my son (and there are many), they seem pretty worthless in comparison. Kids are a sacrifice, but man it is worth it.
PaulNewmansGhost
Not to over simplify, of course. I am just speaking generally.
SQUIRRLYJOE
Hang on I gotta call somebody
nouseforaheart
Dennis DeYoung?
nouseforaheart
Blondie?
LanceCorporalBadger
Who is it? Is it Batman??
ILikeSciFi
Definetly not bat mans dad
RulesOfImgur
Papa John's?
MasterKif
IT WAS ME, DIO
GamesDeen
Your mom?
FixinYou
I wish I had somebody to call.
Bubblerocket
you can call me Daddy
HooskerDuuude
Is it your dad? (The down votes are coming)
mike94551
Ghost Busters?
shmekie
Yep! They can prob help me connect with my dad
TheyCallMeMrPigeonCuzImJustSoCoo
Domino's?
LapisSea
I’ll have two number 9s, a number 9 large, a number 6 with extra dip, a number 7, two number 45s, one with cheese, and a large soda.
HungryFurBurger
Gurablashta
It's 2 for tuesday, my dude
RepresentativeOfNorway
Never 2 late for Tuesday tunes, my dude
bigdog838
Who you're gonna call?!
MissinLynx
Ghostbustersss!!
bigdog838
drBunny88
And even more important to state is that sometimes a father is NOT the same as a Dad all the time. The sperm donor my mom married opted to
drBunny88
divorce my mom when I was a senior in high school. Okay, fine. Had an affair with one of my friends mom. Less fine. Whole social circle
drBunny88
knew and gossiped but they denied denied denied. Then the divorce. But the guy didn't hurt divorce my mom. He also essentially divorced me.
drBunny88
Bc he ended up choosing the new wife and her two grown daughters over his two actual grown daughters. Vacations, holidays, etc. So the man
drBunny88
who legally and scientifically is my father is no more than sperm in my eyes. The man my mom ended up marrying? HE is a dad. Unfortunately
drBunny88
he was ill when they met. Their romantic adventure lasted less than 2 years between meeting, marrying, and his passing. Sorry for the rant!
FuccTheDevil
I'm far too selfish to have kids.
TheSpeakerOfTheHouse
Less self aware people than you are having kids. Have them anyway, improve the situation before it gets any worse.
Prionalurus
Ditto
Nettlebat
This is what scares me. I want kids but I am very selfish for one. My wife and I love our kid free time, and not sure if we could handle it.
IFartMoreThanHim
I am too. But when i become more selfless, I will be an amazing dad. I promised myself that when i was little because my father was in jail.
LifeEaterVirus
FYI if you're thinking like that already you're at least partly ready. Your heart is no longer in your body, it's in baby form babbling.
NorwegianHorseSlong
Same my dude. Selfish and full of hate.
ILoveTomHiddleston
I feel u
Dorkypanda
Hey, at least you know yourself well enough to admit that. You'd be a good uncle or aunt i bet!
LiamNeesonOfficial
That's bullshit. Having kids is the selfish thing to do.
Cresset
That's bullshit as well. Countries with declining birth rates have a bad time.
awolwally
As a father myself I feel many people don't truly want kids. Don't cave to pressures of society. If kids aren't 4 U that's completely fine.
JaWannaKnow
I feel that way to, but I never really wanted kids, but now I have em. I have never loved anything more in my life. Never loved this much
K1ltu
I feel we as a civilization have fucked this planet/society hard enough that having kids is now a moral dilemma
iampandahearmeroar
Yea I keep going back and forth on whether I want kids or not. I do love them but the world is kind of shit and they are so expensive.
LilandraNeramani
This.
WrongUn
Also the last thing this planet need atm is more humans.
vyze
Don't worry. Could be worse. I'm far too hungry to have pets.
Doolally
You eat them?
vyze
Snakes, ostriches, Buffalo, frogs, snails, grasshoppers, or any other animal that I've eaten. Would I eat a dog or cat? Yes.
vyze
Yes, I kill animals and eat them. I don't have an emotional attachment to towards fish, turkeys, chickens, deer, coww, pigs, sheep,
Doolally
K.
DrLove039
You too?
GeorgieBru
The definition of a truly good dad.
Gavener
Same here really, also the whole having to raise a kid that goes through i hate you phase, i was a shitty kid so never wanted any
ChilledBikerDude
I'm getting a vasectomy this year for that reason alone.
arachnoides
How old are you? If you don't mind me asking...
ChilledBikerDude
25
GrouchyMarx
I envy you. I'd get one, but in my country you can't unless you're at least 30 or have 2 children already.
ChilledBikerDude
Damn man, sorry to hear that. Here it's $700 for scalpel free procedure + care and after testing.
ChilledBikerDude
Furthermore they ask no questions as long as you're 25 or over, otherwise they offer a free consultation for younger men.
DeadArcadian
No shame in not having kids, not everyone is meant for it
Doolally
Yes, some specialize on it and raise many good humans, some do other things with their lives, it's normal. Not everyone must have 2,1 kids.
12GaPoopRockets
Me too.....and I found that out 3 months too late.
WorcestshireWorshiper
I am too, but I can't have them so I'm good
decoyyy
This is what I tell people
DoublevBomb
Here's a card for your deck, if it applies.
I find it a very effective core.
quattroformaggix4
Good on ya. Better to know before rather than after procreating.
ceephour
I used to be as well. It all changed in one second. Never thought I was capable. It wasn't/isn't even a decision. It just is.
pajamallamadrama
I thought that too. Then my sister abandoned my nephew for drugs and I had to step up. Now I want a little hellyan of my own.
WrongUn
Same!!!
yourCleverUsername10
It's true your whole world would change the moment you held your first child, but it can change back. It's incredibly self aware to know >
yourCleverUsername10
-yourself and your limits
ChilledBikerDude
I'd rather regret not having kids than have one and regret having it.
spaznur
same
AndrewBalderrama
That all changes when you have them
ILoveTomHiddleston
I get that. But i don't want it to change. I like it how it is.
Shahor
I never understood what selfishness has to do with not having kids.
chromofoam
Not wanting to have less time and money for yourself because you have to spend time and money raising a child?
ILoveTomHiddleston
I really appreciate my sleep. And no cute mini human is going to take that away from me. Also i want to spend my money on shit for myself.
Shahor
How is that selfish? It's not like the baby is here. You're focusing on your well-being. I don't get it
ILoveTomHiddleston
Being selfish is looking out for yourself first.
Shahor
Of course, but it's when you do it at the cost of other's feelings/time. You're deciding not to invest in something you can't invest in.
sadsquatch
That’s a brave and sometimes hard thing to admit my friend
IllegalDuckling
I just hate kids.
MsDifficulty
I got yelled at and told I'm an uncaring cunt for saying something similar
Cresset
Often people take it personally. You don't want kids = you don't like kids = you don't like THEIR kids or their decision to have kids.
CasualBoulder
The way I look at it, at least you're not an ignorant cunt, you can face your own truth, and that's brave, because peeps will berate you 4it
MsDifficulty
right? people have their demons.. I don't have younger siblings and never babysat so I'm not too fond of kids. idk why is get shit for
MsDifficulty
saying something, I'm not a parent for that reason so why am I so bad
wiresnake
Look at it this way, you have the time and the resources to help your extended family who may be overburdened by their kid-related expenses.
fishwrecker
Same here.
CryptBeast
Having kids is the most selfish thing you could do.
panicoliveira
Yeah, I'm with you, my friend.
WrongUn
A friend pointed out he couldn't think of a selfless reason to have kids. Ask anyone their reasons and they'll say 'I want kids because...'
kindakinda
Parents can enable the joy of being. If your parents were bad, or you turned out shitty regardless, that doesn't mean no one should exist.
WrongUn
im not saying it does. not at all.
kindakinda
Then you can think of selfless reasons to have kids, right?
ExodusDei
Same. But apparently owning a vagina + working with kids = YOU MUST PROCREATE.
soggybottoms3
Same
GrouchyMarx
I'm not. I'm just too poor, too overworked, have too little time and so on. Oh, also, I just don't want them. Should be enough of a reason.
whoisqaz
You very quickly become selfless
BoozeHound001
not me, the wife would be telling me to share the legos with the kids
kenmoslice
CasualBoulder
Some do, some don't. The world is not so rosey.
RaveningWendigo
But not always. Some folks never do get that. My ex's mum was only about herself. Never supported my ex. Sad.
caffeinatedbeingbean
This right here. Seeing my little boy happy is compared to no other selfish feeling I've experienced.
SweetDeesSurrogateBaby
That promise isn't enough to justify having kids. Some people wouldn't be good parents, myself included. Some just don't have that skill.
dazuk85
I never wanted kids and thought it was game over when it happened but im soft as shit now. Love it
RandomActOfConfusion
Once you're on the ride you can't get off. It's up to you to decide how you're going to handle it at that point.
MyFavouriteHoodie
First comment - me 6 years ago +. Your comment me ever since
bwchronos
MrC0uch
I have 2 kids and I'm not selfless... I do make sacrifices here and there but selflessness does not apply.
DonnaNobleInTheLibrary
I wouldn't say that. Not everyone is made for family. Friend gave her kids into foster care a while ago - she doesn't want them back at all.
RackhamTheRed
unless those bonding hormons say "no, not today my friend.... not today"
dontsayretarded0itsgay
That's not how they work though.. unless you're a sociopath. Do you find you don't have strong feelings for anyone at all?
idiotcube
Some people don't love their kids.
dontsayretarded0itsgay
I call them sociopaths
ElbowDeepInStudentDebt
I only love two things. My bed, and my Llama.
Mattwer3
Drake quote.
dontsayretarded0itsgay
We have a misunderstanding. I took it to mean the hormones didn't help form an attachment with their offspring
ILoveTomHiddleston
Same i really hope my bf understands. I would be the worst mother.
AManisNotACamel
So is my father! Except the part about having kids, of course.
SirStrongBad
It all changes the first time you hold them...things are never the same after that...
peoplearetheproblem
That's when you say "Oh fuck, what have I done?!"
WardSharlow
Nah. My dad is selfish as fuck and has kids all over the place.
cpnbeeb
Same, and I outright refuse to subject a child to what I went through growing up.
TobiOfTheAkatsuki
Too young to worry about having kids, but I'd rather not potentially pass down my Aspergers, Asthma, and Ehlers Danlos.
TorSverre
Having kids is a pretty selfish idea, so maybe you're just not be selfish enough?
iampandahearmeroar
I think that it's actually a good thing then because people wanting kids is necessary for the species to keep going. Even w/ the shitty ones
arachnoides
I also think it is a very selfish idea.
sometimesipostsockshere
It's hard to ask this without seeming to be an asshole. But how is it selfish? I think it's the total opposite.
TorSverre
Thinking "my genes deserve to live on"? While thousands upon thousands of children suffer in poverty, foster care, etc?
[deleted]
[deleted]
tehboomer
Not everyone wanted to, you know. Sometimes shit happens and you just have to kind of deal with it.
arachnoides
I have an unusual opinion but it seems selfish to take something happily non-existing and then make them go through the bullshit of life.
7thor8thcaw
I told both my son's when they were born I was proud of them and they were going to change the world.
[deleted]
[deleted]
sometimesipostsockshere
I think that it's selfless to give your time and all you have for your kid. I'm not ready for that and maybe never will be.
eyebagsfordayyys
I feel the same. People bash me all of the time because I'm a woman, it's what I'm "supposed" to want. It sucks. But I feel you.
notalreadyamember
I decided when I was 25 I never wanted kids. Got my tubes tied. Never regretted it for a second. I have cats instead.
imhoots
Wife and I don't have kids and never will. It's just the way it is. There are plenty of breeders out there so I don't need to do that.
diazy
My husbands mother is like this she openly admit she only had children for her husband and she is an awesome lady just no motherly instincts
NoTalentForNames
That's some bullshit. You do you.
Lori123456
I don’t want kids & don’t feel like I should have to justify. People tell me I’d make a great Mum. I say I can’t have kids. They leave me be
dirtymartiniextrafilthy
Yeah everyone has the baby bug and I’m just like..
Icujle
I know! I barely have time for myself, let alone taking care of someone else.
Huldra
Yep. I am on the fence about ever having kids. For me its never been the ultimate thing in life.
eyebagsfordayyys
Same here. For me, it's a cycle ending thing. My mom was abusive,and still is in all ways except physically. I'm terrified to become that
LifeEaterVirus
For those of us in that arena to start you won't always feel the huge rush others do at childbirth. But your child will bring you to life.
Huldra
I love kids. I would be a great mom. But I have one genetic illness, and chronic pain. So a pregnancy could be risky. Also I never wanted+
Huldra
Kids so bad it hurts. Im on the fence. I got other prios now. My health is one.
idontlikehats
Eh I don't want to bring a child into a ruined world where they will probably have to fave challenges we couldn't dream of. Plus $$ & time:)
7thor8thcaw
Be careful, you said something positive about having children. That doesn't sit well in some of these "I ain't having no kids threads. "
eyebagsfordayyys
I hate that your getting downvotes for your comment. If it was a great experience for you, then that's great! I just barely have control of
eyebagsfordayyys
...my life. I can't imagine being responsible for another. And I love kids.. I just don't think I'm nurturing enough to be a mother.
ILoveTomHiddleston
You aren't supposed to do shit. Do what you want. Your life is yours. Fuck others.
mjso23
Let me tell ya, the “you’ll change your mind” comments never end
fancyass
You're 42, don't want any kids, and have been saying so since the age if 16? You'll change your mind
GrouchyMarx
They really don't. I'm pushing 30's and people around me still talk as if me being childfree is just youthful rebellion and naivete.
GeneTheAwkward
That's it. You've discovered the secret to eternal youth. lol
Rebockymeow
I get the most shit from my mom when I tell her I'm never getting pregnant. She always follows up with "you'll change your mind!"
GrouchyMarx
Better to regret not having kids than regret having them. I could very well change my mind after having children. It happens.
samrevem
How old are you? Not saying you WILL change your mind, but I swore up and down I wasn't having kids and now I have 5 of the best ever.
dirtymartiniextrafilthy
5 of the best ever what? Potatoes? Years of your life w/o kids? Lava crunch cakes from dominoes? Hours to yourself without interruption?
samrevem
Lmao. Ran out of characters. Best kids ever.
Rebockymeow
27 now. The first time I said I didn't want kids I was 15 years old.
Rebockymeow
Both my husband and I enjoy not having children too much, haha.
eyebagsfordayyys
I'm 28, I had to babysit my mom's drunks ass friends kids since I was about 9. So I started thinking the same at a very young age
chicagochick
32 here i was also 15 when i realized i wanted to be childfree, mother still pushes it :/
dbstoo
All you have to do is to get past the teenage rants of "I hate you" and it gets sooooo much better.
purgethefilthyheretics
I found out my dad went to jail yesterday for the 2nd time in about 6 months. I don't hate him, but it never got any better for that.
Santorrr
The "Anakin Skywalker phase"
MeatballManWithAddedSauce
Or you could be a mean enough cunt that they don't dare to rant. Then it's quiet until it gets better.
soejmud
I still wonder why that never happened with me. I was at best a bit rude at times. Well, maybe it was just really stretched out.
DinaRaven
I said that only once at ~11yrs of age as I left for school. Got home, mom acted like I wasn't there. I apologized, and instantly - normal.
astrangehop
"When I was a boy of 14, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be 21,
astrangehop
I was astonished at how much he had learned in 7 years."
disappointedunicorn
Thank you for sharing this, it means alot to me.
faelmist
Growing up, I was surprised to hear that was a thing. It's something I never said, ever. I thought it was TV show behaviour only.
MAN9000
One of my kids does this. My wife and are not like that and it's tough to deal with, to hear him struggle with it.
Ninoue
I was like it, I had an awful relationship with my parents at that time. I was insulting them constantly and lacking a shoulder to say 1/...
Ninoue
"it's ok to be angry, but we love you and we do what we do for you". They never took time to sit down and talk, it was just conflict 2/...
Ninoue
All the time. I wish they did like @taroman24thid. It could have changed everything. Makes me sad that it never happened :'( 3/3
MAN9000
We tell him that it's ok to be angry. We try to sit down a talk with him. Often he doesn't want to talk about it, makes him more angry.
Ninoue
At least you try and aren't resentful. You do your best and you stay cold blooded. That's the best you can do.
rooik14
Some teenagers get hit harder with mood swings than others. It doesn't justify the behavior, but does explain why it happens.
randomfan276
I had awful mood swings as a teenager. The worst part was that I would feel guilty for shouting things even as they happened, but I felt 1
randomfan276
like I had no control over myself at all when the moods hit. I was so grateful when they eventually settled down, and have a great 2
randomfan276
relationship with my (very patient) parents now. 3/3
wrekemrobbie
That isn't normal though. If you raise your kids to be respectful of everyone they will never go through that phase. At least not to ur face
TheonlypeoplewhocallmeLeRoyaretheauthorities
Hey guys, I found the childless person.
disappointedunicorn
Wow Holy shit are you wrong
wrekemrobbie
If your kids screams at you that they hate you. You've fucked up somewhere buddy.
wrekemrobbie
Seriously, my mind is fuking blown that my friends kids scream at them. That shit will not be tolerated.
DoublevBomb
Teen brain sucks, but it's hard to blame them when every mental system that would add stability is basically liquid for years.
purgethefilthyheretics
Yeah, but its hard to go from being a baby to growing cognitive functions and becoming a reliable citizen of society. It's kinda their fault
purgethefilthyheretics
"I didn't ask to be born" is something thrown around a lot I'd think
DoublevBomb
They've very annoying, but not really, no. https://youtu.be/hiduiTq1ei8
Mrdubfox
DoublevBomb
APieceOfFuckingShit
I wish I didn't hate my dad.
KaineZilla
same
purgethefilthyheretics
Why do you hate him?
APieceOfFuckingShit
He yelled at me, my brother, and my mom a lot for a lot of my life, making a big deal out of everything, and just made the house unpleasant.
APieceOfFuckingShit
He was the main factor in making my depression significantly worse than it would have been otherwise, and never let me explain my side of
APieceOfFuckingShit
the argument. The one time I tried to write down what I wanted to say to him (because he wouldn't listen) he tore it up after reading the