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I never wanted kids, and after years of doctors telling me that I didn't know what I wanted, that I had to take my future husband's wishes into account, that I should be psychologically evaluated, that I was too young to make a life altering decision, I finally found a doctor that would sterilize me. To lessen chances of ovarian cancer, they actually just took out both of my fallopian tubes.
Apparently, while I was in the recovery room and pretty out of it I demanded that the nurses prescribe me a cat. Good times!
Had to wait until I was at home to cuddle up with this little monster, though.
wellthatsacoconut
Happy spay day!!!! That's what me and my friends call her sterilization day
aelleb
Congrats! I get the same reactions whenever I tell someone I don't want kids "oh you'll come to your senses" how dare I decide for myself?
SergeantOldSchool
Wife has fibro, wants hysterectomy, docs say no, that "she'll want kids later", and ignore us when we mention I had vasectomy 15yrs ago.
marzipanties
But somehow boob jobs for 16 year olds is totally OK
marody
Just because it was in the news once doesn't mean it's widespread practice.
marody
No ones actually saying that okay. Ethically it's probably not. Most physicians would agree that's not ethical practice.
PrincipalOShaghennesey
If you know you know. And there is anyways adoption of you change your mind. You do what you gotta do.
sixhoursinacarwithmymotherinlaw
I had my vasectomy before I was married. Choose the non-reversible kind. Was warned, then cut. No guilt trip. Should be save for women.
sovietracism
There has been at least one successful lawsuit of a woman suing and winning a doctor that sterilized her since she didn't want any children.
AccountCreatedToUpdogVotes
I fucking hate frivolous lawsuit. Why are doctors required to protect people from their own decisions? People shouldn't be coddled.
vexxed14
Because it's their job to know better
ChucklePuss
I don't think that should be the case though.
Comet260
The subreddit r/childfree has a list of docs that are not assholes.
toraty
So how do I find a doctor willing to give a 30 yr old with no kids a hysterectomy or tunes tied?
HasaDigaEbawai
If you live in Seattle I can recommend one!
Fachera
Wishing you a speedy recovery OP! It sucks that you had to go trough such hurdles. It's mind boggling. Which country are you based?
derpyfins
Thank you! I'm in the US.
Fachera
Wow, I guess the standards of "freedom" are very different state by state? Anyway, kudos girl. Your body, your choice.
derpyfins
Sad thing is, I'm in the NY area, it's better here than it is elsewhere.
Deathclock24
Same with being in NY area so it doesn't surprise me.
Randersuarus
My friend had to turn 30 before they would. They didn't want her second guessing it, which I get as a dr but that must have sucked.
binaballerina86
Wow, I'm so sorry. I was so lucky that the first doctor I saw OKed me immediately, even though I'm CF and was 27. It feels so damn good tho!
derpyfins
Awesome!!!
SlightlyRacistUnbannableComment
Nurse, 50cc's of cat stat
dickable
I mean, there's something to be said for a psychological evaluation before major elective surgery, but FIFTEEN YEARS of fighting? Jesus.
Spongybunny
Do we require it for other elective surgeries? Plenty of boob jobs and nose jobs done without a second thought by the doctors.
dickable
Those don't generally have life-altering consequences, though. Also, they're easily reversed. Not exactly comparable...
Spongybunny
You only specified elective, and I wasn't saying you were wrong btw. I'd rather sign away my rights to sue, however, and get things done.
dickable
I said MAJOR elective surgery, which would exclude non-reconstructive cosmetic shit. Besides, doctors have a burden of care, legally, 1/2
dickable
2/2 that even a signed and notarized waiver can't totally erase, if a lawyer's aggressive enough.
philliplovesall
I always upvote and favorite cats. He's soooo cute!!!!
derpyfins
Thank you!
somethingep1c
Do want. Take the uterus and all. If I change my mind like every person on the planet tells me I will I'll adopt.
guerillagirl
You don't want them to take it all out. You need he hormones those parts of your body produces or bad things can happen. Taking them in 1/?
guerillagirl
Shots is no fun. My mom had a historectomy (?) for cancer reasons and it has caused all kinds of issues for her in ways you wouldn't 2/?
guerillagirl
Expect. You do need to keep them if at all possible to regulate your body. Get sterilized, but know the risks to your health 3/3
DeadOnionSaysWhat
Had partial hyst in late 20s, never looked back.
walterthehedgehog
Speaking as an infertile person; there's plenty of kids who need love, why limit that to genes.
binaballerina86
I know! I was like "yo, take it all out while you're in there anyway" but they wouldn't.
iwanttomountndewya
I shouldn't look down on ppl who want "their own kids" but seriously what's wrong with adopting? Just because they don't share your dna?
curseofold
This. I was adopted and it saved my life
WarDragon1984
As an adopted person, you're absolutely right. Family is the people who loved and raised you.
highestoffives
Carrying your genes to next generation is biological desire and instinctive to us
critterfluffy
By that logic lots of very immoral behavior is justified. Commenting on the argument that we should follow instincts for instinct sake.
highestoffives
So it's natural to have that notion without any other reasoning but adoption is great too!
iwanttomountndewya
I believe it is BUT a lot of society pressures us to as well.
gusblack1
The line musn't fail, only a true born male can continue the line and inherit the seat of my house.
iwanttomountndewya
Hey look a troll! Aint he cute?! Tryin to start shit :D Go back to your lil bridge ok buddy? Therell be some billy goats nearby i promise.
gusblack1
I'm not a troll just been watching a lot of game of thrones. You sure are very quick to jump to conclusions.
iwanttomountndewya
Well this is a bad thread to be saying this w/o reference
iwanttomountndewya
(btw normally the first born carries the same blood type as the mother....so we have that)
gusblack1
How does this correlate at all to what I was saying.
iwanttomountndewya
Because a lot of those families have their first born become the heir, but first borns are more of their mother than father. I find it funny
JoshLeijs
As someone with an adopter sister and adopted aunts, I think adoption is an awesome tool for good in this world. Too much work for me though
SoftypantsMcHuggable
Oh my God, I read "adopted anus" instead of "adopted aunts"...
iwanttomountndewya
Over the course of my life the whole "blood is blood" thing has been devalued a great extent. A bond is a bond imo
JoshLeijs
With adopted children bonds are not the same as biological. I'm in no way saying adoption is bad and that you shouldn't do it. It's just dif
iwanttomountndewya
i understand the bond is born by different means, but over the course of my life the bond by blood has been devalued to 1/2
AlexanderFieldisnotmyrealname
Well,yeah women should totally consider the wishes of theorethical future men.I guess that is why shopping takes so long
ChucklePuss
Why should they consider anyone's wishes but their own?
TheGhostofElizabethShue
MilanDarlingRoma
Holy shit. That was good
OnlyWantToSayOneThing
Because she might want a kid in 5 years and see the doctors for not warning that the procedure was predominant.They were protecting themself
OnlyWantToSayOneThing
Sue* the doctors* both men and women get the "future partner" talk so they understand the full consequences. 2/3
OnlyWantToSayOneThing
Men get the same exact talk about thinking for a future wife. Even though vasectomys can reverse, many of them are permanent.
OnlyWantToSayOneThing
Holy cow autocorrect ate my sentence* people sue doctors for not warning them about the consequences. Sexism doesn't even come into play.
Spongybunny
So we just add in a legal document stating the implications and have women sign acknowledgement and sign away their rights to sue.
OnlyWantToSayOneThing
Then you go to jail for not explaining the legal document good enough.
Spongybunny
Idk, it seems like they should be able to require patients to have an attorney go over the document with them and sign assent.
Spongybunny
It's not perfect, but if someone is intent on being sterilized there should be an avenue that protects docs and gets the procedure done.
Jaketorious
I'm sorry your rights to control your own body are less important than your right to bear arms.
DeathtyOneDeathtyTwoDeathtyThree
It's because the doctor doesn't want to get sued later down the line if she changes her mind.
junkhacker
pro 2nd amendment guy here. she should have the right to do as she wishes with her body. not sure what your point is, i wasn't in her way.
Jaketorious
I'm saying both are important but for whatever reason one is taken more seriously then the other.
junkhacker
count the people own guns, count the number of women that attempted to be sterilized and been refused. guess which one is bigger.
junkhacker
it's just a matter of numbers
Jaketorious
And that's what my original statement said... I'm sorry her rights are less important...
insertacleverusername
I feel your pain. @ 30 my original OB told me she refused to tie my tubes after my 2nd kid was born. She also said I was too young to make
insertacleverusername
that kind of decision. I found a new OB. He asked me if I was sure several times during the pregnancy, and again the day I delivered and had
insertacleverusername
the tubal ligation. But he did say it was my decision to make. It's beyond frustrating that the female OB gave me flack while the male OB
akki14
in my limited experience, as a woman i get more flack in general from woman doctors on just about everything.
insertacleverusername
was ultimately fine with it.
DaisyFaye
Mother found out, asked 'what will you do if the man of your dreams wants kids?' I said 'he's not the man of my dreams then' No regrets, OP!
bambulina
I've had the same conversation. :)
ImSynnical
I don't want kids, on the off chance I ever change my mind I'll adopt, I wouldn't spread my gene
StabbyMcMurder
I made that decision when I was 7. My family is very prone to illnesses and pretty much all of us are gingers. I hate that.the suns my enemy
ImSynnical
ah, well my family is prone to heart disease and a few have kicked the bucket to cancer, none of us overachievers i'd try some fresh gene
Ringshadow
Preach!
WeirdyMcCreeperson
All of this!!!
phukerstone
neat, can i come too?
EmyLightsaber
not anymore
paulpounder
I see what I did there.
YallNeedMises
Certainly. No need to dread the prospect of eighteen years of child support afterward either.
derpyfins
Sure thing!
phukerstone
sweet. i can bring rum and some fragile lamps.
derpyfins
Sounds like my kind of party!
phukerstone
we're gonna get drunk and break stuff, right?
thetoshjosh
junkhacker
it's insane how difficult it can be for a woman to get this done
itsybitsyspider
Just as difficult for men from what I hear.
derpyfins
Yep. It's crazy.
pukeachew
My mom had 5 unwanted pregnancies before they would! (3 kids same dad) it is getting better, but still sucks
anarkos
Perhaps she should have kept her goddamn legs closed. Kids these days.
pukeachew
Ummm she was married. This is weird
Dwaynethejockronson
Not just women. I can't get one either, and I already have a child.
MistressLyda
Whereabouts do you live?
Dwaynethejockronson
England. NHS Won't consider it and a private doctor told me to come back in a few years.
MistressLyda
Give MarieStopes a call or a mail or ten, I think it is also banks around in UK, and if you have some stored it should be easier.
Dwaynethejockronson
I'm male. I think that was implied. But it's good to be clear.
Stupidpeoplearestpid
I mean I get why
junkhacker
i don't. why should decisions about what you want to do to your body be hindered by a doctor, without a legit medical reason for objection?
Stupidpeoplearestpid
Some doctors just aren't comfortable doing somethings and I don't expect them to either
junkhacker
if a doctor isn't personally comfortable with it, they should refer the patient to someone who is. it's the patient's decision.
Stupidpeoplearestpid
They should, but they don't. Morality is strange
SneakySloth
I get why they want to make sure you understand and have thought it through, it most likely can't be undone. But 15 year is excesive.
junkhacker
i mean, are we adults in charge of our own lives, or what?
SneakySloth
I totally agree, but people do things when they are depressed or scared of pregnancies or what not. So making sure they 100% know is good.
junkhacker
if you're seeking out a doctor to do it for you, you've probably thought it through. if not, tough shit. personal accountability.
GoodCat51
Its a little nuts for both sexes. Im 33 and my doctors finally gave me the go ahead. With all the kids in foster care i kinda think this 1/2
GoodCat51
Should be an easier choice for everyone.
junkhacker
it's nuts that it's difficult at all for either sex, but it's more difficult for women because the men's is seen as more reversible
OnlyWantToSayOneThing
NO. It is seen as reversible by laymen. All vasectomys are considered predominant by doctors. It should be harder for men because of that1/?
OnlyWantToSayOneThing
Permanent, not predominant* autocorrect pls. You should never assume a vasectomy is temporary.
GunstarHero
Ive gone back and forth on whether I want kids over the years. I can see why doctors would hesitate to make a permanent move...
GunstarHero
but this certainly is an extreme case. 15 years!
itsacarpediemkindofday
going back and forth is one thing, but there are some people who just know it's not for them. Or it could also be for health reasons
HasaDigaEbawai
If it was the same for men and women I might be ok with it, but it's not.
GunstarHero
For men isnt there at least some probability that the procedure is reversible. Does that play into this?
GunstarHero
I guess this is also the first I've heard of someone having issues. I didnt know it was commonplace
HasaDigaEbawai
Some can be but if you go for the cut cauterize option it's not likely. But I haven't done a ton of research for vasectomies specifically.
ChucklePuss
But the decision would be yours when it came to the day of surgery. It's not up to a doctor to protect yourself from yourself.
GunstarHero
Thats not really true. Doctors dont generally perform unnecessary surgeries because they dont like to create risks.
ChucklePuss
That is probably the case. But in this instance I do not believe it should be.
GunstarHero
Considering the other option is taking hormones/birth control the surgery should be A LOT safer
GunstarHero
If I asked a doctor to remove my heart I dont think I could find one who would agree. Or chop off a limb thats in good health
GunstarHero
Now that doesnt apply directly to this case but doctors dont have to do surgeries just because we want them done
ChucklePuss
That is a completely different scenario though. You can see that, can't you?
GunstarHero
You painted with a broad brush saying "its not up to a doctor to protect yourself from yourself"
WScarlet
Fifteen years. Seriously? There are a lot of doctors out there that need a pavement facial.
Marteen
Plot twist: OP is 15
Spongybunny
OP said she started asking at 18. Add the 15 years it took and OP is now 33.
IAlwaysPost140Characters
Depends on when this 15 year clock started for her... Most Doctors will do this fine for women >18 so I'm guessing she decided very early...
marody
Then the pt comes back and sues you when they can't have babies. No shit. It happens. We don't (shouldn't) do surgery just "cause"
IHateApostrophes
Part of it is because they're afraid of being sued over it. Doctors have been sued for stupider things and obgyn's get sued the most.
prettyredhibiscus
Not surprised. I've doctors refuse to prescribe me an IUD under the outdated belief that it can cause sterilization.
fufuwewe
The procedure can be pretty dangerous and the possible future lawsuits are not worth to any doctor.
anicyril
I had to fight ten years for mine. The idea that women need to breed to be happy needs to fucking die already.
Kizsurian
I agree soooo much. Pretty sure 90% of us who go in asking to be sterilized know what we're getting into. Those who don't probs need it too
Pixi3Dust
Here you need to be 30 years old before they'll even consider. And even then it's a hell of a fight.
mithiwithi
It's pretty common for docs to refuse to do tubal ligation on younger women, in the manner @OP describes. 1/2
mithiwithi
Actually, I thought better of posting my 2/2 comment. Carry on.
sburky
Fair enough
ZzzombieeZ
It's a liability issue. We're a culture of lawsuits sadly, and doctors have to protect themselves.
MistressLyda
1/? It would be interesting if someone that had asked, repeatedly, for a sterilization got pregnant, and had complications due to that.
MistressLyda
2/2 With a ballsy enough lawyer, it could at least stir things up a bit. Maybe not in US, but this is a issue in a lot of countries.
Spongybunny
So why can't we just implement legal documents where the women sign their acknowledgement of the implications and give up rights to sue?
ZzzombieeZ
If only the legal system were that simple :/
Minariku
You'd be surprised. Around here you have to be over 25 and have 5 or 6 kids before the area doctors will think about it.
Spongybunny
I wonder if they respond better to women with genetic diseases that shouldn't be passed on.
Pixi3Dust
Not here at least. Only if a pregnancy could prove fatal do they make exceptions.
Minariku
Nope. Schizophrenia and dementia run heavily in my family. They still wouldn't do it. I also had very high stress/high risk pregnancies.
nopo
It's probably not their choice. Not saying it isn't fair, but not everything is the fault of the people in the front lines.
byohzzrd
Took 72 hours as a guy. Went to urologist, said snip em, he said how about Monday? Sure. WTF 15 years?
LooseyGooseyBrett
Op is only 18
thiswillonlyhurtabit
Due to several lawsuits previously most doctors will not do it. Also some insurances will not pay for it if there is no "clear need"
derpyfins
If I had wanted a kid they would have made sure that happened. If I don't? I'm out of my mind and have no clue what I'm doing. It sucked.
Craizie
You don't think it could possibly be women changing their minds after having it done?
DocCinnanym
Having tubes tied is a pretty serious procedure, and kind of close to permanent birth control. 1/2
DocCinnanym
For a lot of women, the ability to bear children is near and dear to their identity. Such procedures may be emotionally scarring.
Spongybunny
Trans ppl can get their procedures done after 6mo-1yr of living as the opposite gender. I shouldn't have to wait a decade to tie tubes.
DocCinnanym
You might feel that way. But, your experience demonstraites Docs generally agree THEY don'
Ringshadow
As another female who had to fight tooth and nail and change doctors to make it happen, GOOD ON YOU! Congratulations!
APersonWhoUsesImgur
Just curious, so you live in the bible belt?
CommanderRatBoy
Do you live in a predominately Christian area?
jmeyers1983
It's not always peachy for dudes either. I have two kids, but I had to get counseled and a permission slip from my wife. It didn't (1/?)
governmentgavemeagun
WHAT?! Wife?! That's messed up...
governmentgavemeagun
As in, needing your wife's permission is messed up. Not as in, having a wife being messed up. Sheeet, you know what I'm trying to say
jmeyers1983
take the amount of time yours did, but it felt demeaning like I don't have control over my body. Definitely felt judged for no reason (2/2)
DocCinnanym
<.< You have all the control over your body. You can't force a Doc to perform medical procedures on anyone. That's their choice.
NCRMadness50
I think it's the fact that he had to go through somebody other than himself and a physician.
DeviousRaptor
They said you needed a physiological evaluation for not wanting kids? What kind dick faced fuck ball says that?
schmooster
the social construct requires fresh participants regularly to nourish itself
Brainsplosion
When my fiancee got pregnant while on birth control the nurses and doctors all acted overjoyed and tried to get us to keep it. Like wtf...
Fahargo
Eh
IrishBITS
My mom was fighting for 30 yrs til this June. She had such bad endometriosis that her ovaries were frozen in place w/ blood & scar tissue.
derpyfins
I'm so sorry for her. It's awful what they'll make women endure because they *might* have a child someday.
IrishBITS
I'm so sorry for you as well. She was told she would not be able to have anymore kids after me and they Still wouldn't do it. It's a pain (1
IrishBITS
and beyond stupid. I'm 30 now, don't plan on kids & because of my mom's condition I am going to be asking for one as well. I won't take (2
FindYourChillMate
Well to be fair. Not wanting kids is flying the face of 2 billion years of evolution...
PentagramDreams
Just curious where you're located op? I want to get mine done and am afraid I'm going to encounter similar issues.
derpyfins
I'm in the NYC area and will happily recommend my dr to you if you're around here.
PentagramDreams
I'm in Toronto so probably not lol.
WScarlet
It's bullshit. They're bullshit. The system is bullshit. I'm sorry about the bullshit.
hothotpapa
You're bullshit! Kidding - you're absolutely right.
DocCinnanym
NO. The ability to have children is highly prized. A mark of quality health care is reluctance to perform elective permanent procedures.
governmentgavemeagun
"Reluctance" is not the same as "refusal when the patient is determined". And plenty of elective nose/boob/lipo/etc procedures happen.
DocCinnanym
None of those are teh same as sterilization. If one won't make that connection, it's arguable they dont know what their talking about.
derpyfins
It's ok. I found a great doctor who listened to me! A nurse got bent out of shape about it but it was done in the end. It all worked out :)
Pandamoniyum
May I ask how old you are? I'm 32 and am debating having it done myself.
keyonne
I hate it when people impose their beliefs. "I can't have kids, you should count yourself lucky. You're squandering a gift!"
WScarlet
A nurse can go insert a cheese grater rectally.
SideEffectsOfJuice
Lets not give them any ideas, I'm sure that's somebody's fetish
derpyfins
Agreed!
LetsBucketListThisBitch
One of the main reasons that doctors are hesitant for younger men and women to have sterilization because research shows that 1/?
LetsBucketListThisBitch
biggest risk factor for regretting sterilization is young age. I want to say 25-30% of women under the age of 26 that had a tubal 2/?
DemonsRun
Studies range from .9% to 26% regretting the decision for females, <5% for males. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2492586/
DemonsRun
The largest studies of sterilization seem to fall between 5-8% for women, and similar 5-7% rates of regret for men.
LetsBucketListThisBitch
ligation regretted this decision. One the other hand, many doctors (especially older ones) believe that all women should want 3/
LetsBucketListThisBitch
to have children. Which isn't a fair, or true, thought process. But the newer docs are moving away from it.
im0nmyway0ut
And even if you did change your mind at like 26 or 30 or whenever, you could always adopt! Getting pregnant is not the only way to have a
Atria
This! Thank you!
im0nmyway0ut
family!! Doctors are fucking infuriating sometimes.
marody
It's not doctors. It's patients. We're following national protocol. And we're Covering our asses against lawsuits
marody
You do the same thing for vasectomies but since procedure is less invasive/less complications, it's not that hard
im0nmyway0ut
My moms situation was pretty specific and her doctor didn't give her any reason at all that she shouldn't have a hysterectomy aside from her
kurtist04
How old were you when you first asked?
derpyfins
18.
ANdeePanda
A doc who gave an 18 yo a tubal and was later sued by that person for malpractice would lose in a heartbeat.They were protecting themselves.
DocCinnanym
And patients. How many people regret tattoos?
Yakeshinu
I requested a vasectomy (for exactly the same reason!) and was scheduled for the next week. What you went through is ridiculous.
DocCinnanym
vasectomies are Significantly less risky, and are significantly more reversible.
Yakeshinu
I also had to wait until I got home for cat cuddles, though. :)
BlahBlahMeatEater
My bro got a vasectomy, no questions asked. I've been asking for tubal ligation 10+ yrs. I'm 37 now and still can't get one.
periwinklepanda
Even at 37?! Ugh. That's ridiculous. I'm sorry.
Itekisan
When I got my vasectomy, my wife had to sign a permission slip. It is probably because of silly litigation that it's required at all.
critterfluffy
I already told my wife I am not getting her signature. I will find another doctor. My wife doesn't control my body.
DocCinnanym
for men, it's more easily reversed, and significantly less risky.
critterfluffy
If this was the reason then we wouldn't have breast augmentation, nose jobs, botox, and other cosmetic surgury. Many of these are worse.
DocCinnanym
No, man. Messing with a guys junk is crazy rife with personal and legal stuff. Just like messing with a womans fertility.
lifeisshortsoshutthehellup
My fiancé is going through the same shit. Neither of us want kids, been together 14 years, best any doctor would do is an IUD. Bastards.
Ringshadow
If you're in Michigan I can get you my doc's details for Grand Rapids, he was amazing.
Comet260
Go to r/childfree on reddit. They have a list of docs that are not assholes.
errigal
Any in Canada..guess I'll go look for myself. :'D
Comet260
I thought that bullshit was only in America.
derpyfins
Ugh, I'm sorry :( If you're in the NYC area I'll shoot you over my doc's details.
antillesw
I'm in NYC!!! We shouldn't hangout or anything but yay NYC!
AccountCreatedToUpdogVotes
You're in that liberal of an area and still had that much trouble? Wow. So much for body autonomy, huh?
mioelnir
My guess is that somewhen a doctor was successfully sued by a client that changed her mind, making it a potential insurance minefield.
itsakidsbooksantiago
I can't get an ablation which would cure my monster periods. I'm 35 and they insist that I can't compromise my fertility like that.
Ringshadow
Change doctors! Novasure ablation cut my periods by 90%!
Akumabunny
I got an ablation at 28... but only after 10 years documented in my chart that i didnt want kids and was of sound mind. same monster periods
WScarlet
Yep, because "pro-life" only applies to life that doesn't actually exist. Once you're here, you have no rights.
WScarlet
You're just a brood mare for the state.
Itekisan
LOL oh my gosh the drama.
itsakidsbooksantiago
The irony is that at this point the scarring is bad enough I probably can't have kids without IVF anyway.
derpyfins
I have a couple of friends going through the same situation, and it's awful.
lilbillydartos
35 is the threshold for a "high-risk pregnancy" You need to find a new doctor.
itsakidsbooksantiago
Most insurances won't pay for it before 40, so it's less the doctor and more that. Plus that is based on older studies, so it's not as
itsakidsbooksantiago
Bad of a risk as it used to be. A lot of the risks can be prevented even at this age. I don't really want a pregnancy tho. I'll adopt maybe.
derpyfins
I'm so sorry :(
itsakidsbooksantiago
It's controlled decently by a pill, but yeah. The second I hit 40 this sucker is outta here.
derpyfins
I wish you the best of luck getting it taken care of!
josethemailman
My mom got a hysterectomy when I was 6. I think she was 42 at the time. Same issue as you. Fight like hell for it, someone will help.
itsakidsbooksantiago
I fully intend on it after I finish my PhD. I can't take time off for surgery anyway & it's reasonably controlled. It's just frustrating.
josethemailman
I hear ya. Only person I know who was able to get the surgery under 30 almost died b/c of pregnancy. Something about her migraines.
josethemailman
Vasectomy's are easy to get it seems, should be that way for women.
itsakidsbooksantiago
Bodies really are such ridiculous things, but insurance and silly ideas can make them so much stupider.
staypuftostrich
Moms doc wouldn't give her the pill any more. She ok i want an ablation. Granted she was 45 and had 2 almost grown kids
ITalkAboutGoats
Well that makes sense, the pill can cause cancer for extended use.
im0nmyway0ut
My mom had issues with this for years and finally went to a hospital and told them she wanted a hysterectomy to end the painful periods and
im0nmyway0ut
at 36 they finally gave her one. Her doctor was a dick to her after for "going behind his back and against his treatment plan."
itsakidsbooksantiago
I'm 35, but about to start my PhD so I haven't looked for a doctor to do it. I'm on the NHS right now so it'd be extra hard. (Phrasing.)
im0nmyway0ut
Ugh that sucks. I mean congrats tho about NHS if it means what I think it means haha