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Peachcappuccino
Straight men make up a huge proportion of anti gay and anti trans comments and im very very tired
testzero
I just don't like making others feel like they wasted their time.
bippityboppitybuttsex
I don't mind getting hit on, I just can't stand the wardrobe critique...
Archeus01
But women never take the first initative?
kadaeux
I'm not homophobic and I don't want a random guy hitting on me, or woman for that matter. I don't need people with that kind of judgement...
LordNergal
To avoid getting hit on was why I used to frequent a lesbian bar. Regulars were weirded out at first until they realized I just didn't 1/
LordNergal
want to be bothered and had no interest in bothering them. Was great until the college crowd found out about it. 2/2
JStengah
Homophobia is the fear that a man will treat them like they treat women.
artofthehidden7
Do hetero men not realize that they only deign to interact with women they want to fuck AND WE KNOW. "HI, I want to fuck you." Yay?
artofthehidden7
"I wanna use you like a sex toy" is not a compliment - NEWSFLASH. Men trying to POKE us daily is exhausting. Try, "You're fun/bright/witty"
circlebreaker
I thought that the problem was tone-deaf people who don't know when to take a hint and fuck off. Are people annoyed/threatened by flirting?
Sabertron14
Tone-deaf is definitely the prob but from experience the time and place is very important too.
Copperbrat
Depends on the definition of flirting.
Senninha
Homophobic men are just terrified that men might treat them the way they treat women.
Kladrupquib
https://imgur.com/o2xyBCK.jpg
redsmerf
Shit, is that where I went wrong?
whitebbwolf
as a guy getting hit on by a guy is not the problem. The problem is when they wont take "No" for an answer. Same problem women have.
unfamiliarHorse
You guys have guys hitting on you?
sandpirate
I've been hit on by other guys before. Like other people have said, as long as they dont take it too far, I just take it as a compliment
CaptSchmidtGaming
men hit on men the same way men hit on women. all aggressive and not understand the lack of connection. its a sobering experience
SilverHornet
Until women change by hitting on men too, you force a shotgun approach to dating; men can only know if a woman is interested, by trying.
ThatRandomCanadian
It's not necessarily that they don't, it just that a lot of time the guys that don't hit on women assume that the women are just being nice.
IWasACatAllAlong
There's also a lot to take into consideration. While she's with friends and is looking sad? Don't. While shes giving birth? Definitely not.
astrangehop
Friend of mine got a girls number while she was in labor in his ambulance. They were married for 7 years.
SilverHornet
That would go without saying, especially in 140 characters! Also, my free cat please?
IWasACatAllAlong
I do feel like some aren't the best at judging a situation. :P Some anime eyes for you.
SilverHornet
Good lord those things are huge! Looks like a shorthair on catnip
AntiProtonBoy
Well, here’s the thing. Most men dont have women falling into their laps & hardly any women hit on them. So men usually take the initiative.
Sabertron14
Taking initiative is a funny way of saying it's ok to make a woman you dont know feel uncomfortable.
AntiProtonBoy
There is a difference between hitting on someone vs harassment.
Sabertron14
Not many seem to know the difference. Taking initiative can be considered harrassment. It all depends.
AntiProtonBoy
Nothing wrong with flirting. If she’s not interested,you acknowledge that and move on. Anything beyond that can be considered as harassment.
Sabertron14
Time and place are important but otherwise yes, nothing wrong with flirting as long as they move on when the person is uninterested.
Lauseypants
I recently had a male friend describe himself and his friend being sexually assaulted. They were too unsure and upset to report to anyone
Lauseypants
Being Australian males working in the country and drinking with the boys they didn't want to cause a bother. He didn't realise it was
Lauseypants
assault until I listened and supported him. It was his first experience with a proper predator... poor dude
Lauseypants
(Perpetrator was a much older guy)
Youhavinagiraffe
A lot of male homophobia is about men being worried that other men will treat them as badly as they treat women
skyfangx
For it to be the same shouldn't it be random women for well women?
NomDeImguerre
Right. What's weird, though, is that men aren't used to being the one approached. Maybe that should change?
SilverHornet
I'm sorry to say Imgur does not allow discussion of this topic properly.
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storebrandproductmascot
When they're slowly backing away from you, and giving one-word answers, and making sure the exits are clear, they're not interested.
SilverHornet
Oddly enough that goes without saying. I'm not sure that people appreciate the level of subtlety I'm referring to here.
DiscoveredByTheGermansIn1904
Yikes.
Drunkablancas
Lol maybe they don't want to take the first, or any step. Maybe they don't want you period. There is no "must" involved.
NomDeImguerre
And maybe she does. The problem is that in a patriarchal society, there is no clear way to tell the difference.
NomDeImguerre
Even IF the woman is interested, it's still expected that the man initiates and escalates. That's begging for trouble.
SilverHornet
So you want men to just always assume that a woman is purely platonic? That doesn't work in reality, women very rarely initiate.I'm talking>
SilverHornet
in general terms not personal; my experiences are irrelevant.
Drunkablancas
Yes, until proven otherwise. Women don't exist for you to hit on. You don't HAVE to impose yourself. Gross to say you're being forced to.
SilverHornet
And how is 'proven otherwise' done? Women don't wave a flag when they may be receptive to advances.
NomDeImguerre
I agree, until proven otherwise. That does mean the burden to "proof otherwise" is with the ladies. They have to initiate and escalate.
seakoos
Not gay. Flirty is OK a little. Being pushy is what gets people mad. Get touchy and that will get the cops called or HR if at work.
BodybuildingCPA
I agree. I hate being touched. Dudes in the gym seem to think it's OK to get handsy and that grosses me out.
Aforaseem
TIL I learned, HR is office cops. This must be the Friday motivation emails from corporate HR.
LordNergal
HR is there to protect the company, not you. Like how cops are there to protect America's rich people, not you.
KatInTheCorner
I think a lot of folks don't understand the difference between a benevolent complement and "hitting on someone with expectations" like 1/2
MeanMisterClean
Hey, some don't even understand the difference between a complement and a compliment
KatInTheCorner
You're right! Damn voice to text.
KatInTheCorner
A lot of women experience. A complement can be ended with thanks and you move on. The latter can turn into insults and threats. 2/2
koboshi
There's a difference between a compliment and obnoxious comment, we hardly ever get the first one from random guys.
storebrandproductmascot
"HEY BABY LEMMEE LICK DEM TITTIES! Why are you mad? It was a compliment! Bitch!"
Excludos
If it's any consolation, guys don't ever get compliments from girls either.
koboshi
Once I’m in relationship I compliment very often but if it’s random guy I don’t know then complimenting may make him think I’m interested
koboshi
Tried this once or twice just because I felt like being nice and it ended badly
koboshi
Although I like complimenting guys in relationships, like my janitor, because I know he won’t take it the wrong way
koboshi
“You repaired the thing so well, your wife must be lucky to have you” also makes him happy doing his job. Win win situation.
Sabertron14
Speaking just from experience, compliments have been taken as leading them on. Did my best to make it as platonic as possible but
Sabertron14
was still the bad guy for "making them believe I was interested".
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WowSoSparkly
Nope. If some Chris Evans style hunk acts like a douche, his hotness instantly vanishes forever.
SeriousSeamstress
No. I've talked to guys who were attractive until they started talking. It kills any interest right away.
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TigerThong
This isn't the argument you think it is. Most guys i know would be happy to be hit on by either sex cause its a compliment
Sabertron14
The argument is the womans perspective vs homophobia, not if the guys you know are ok with being hit on.
J3lek
A compliment is a compliment. I don't get enough compliments.
spaceisnotthathard
100%
bemxuu
You are awesome! :)
attentivebooby
You're great. We're glad you're here.
calamarifrittali
I like your Christmas sweater!
StripTheFleshSaltTheWound
I like your dimple.
redsmerf
LordNergal
I once got a knife pulled on me because I was seen as competition for another guy's attention. Needing to kill me to have a chance at the 1/
LordNergal
guy is a pretty major compliment. Though, doctor didn't seem to agree as they stitched up the knife wound (I got out alive, which I'm 2/
LordNergal
counting as a victory even if the other person was unharmed). 3/3
redsmerf
...that's a bit psychotic, and I'm sure it went over well with whoever they were interested in
LordNergal
I dunno. I didn't stick around to get stabbed again and haven't been back since.
fartalert
You're a wonderful person and I appreciate your existence :) I hope you have a lovely day, you beautiful beast
J3lek
Thanks uh *reads name* fart alert.?
fartalert
No pffftroblemo ye olde lick
MissyWentMissing
I LOVE your dinosaur-sweater!
WeatherWiz
I’m all about getting hit on
Dragon10449
*Chris Brown wants to know your location*
MastrBaker
Not gonna lie, Ive been hit on by guys before, and it makes me wonder if it would be so bad to switch teams. I do not get enough compliments
Mnementh613
Just as with women, I would have no idea the guy was hitting on me. I would just think “wow this guy thinks I’m funny, awesome!”
rockuhard
As a straight dude, it's always flattering getting hit on by gay men.
floxsyu
"Dude said he liked my hat, fuck yeah this is a nice hat"
Shroomslapz
Most of the time gay dudes make it PAINFULLY obvious that they’re hitting on me. I don’t mind it though. It’s a compliment hahaha
MadeYouLookAgain
I live getting hit on by other guys. Until they cross the line. Why the fuck do they have to tell me at brunch thud blow me out back rn
thatsecondweirdguy
Yeah, several times I've made some new friends in a club and did not suspect a thing until they tried to kiss me... Apparently I'm a tease.
UnstableProductions
Gay guys let you directly know what they want.
Iowyn
A lot of the time, if a gay guy does hit in you, it's a lot more direct. It does depend on where you are of course. A gay bar for example.
Excludos
A gay bar is the only place I've ever been asked the cliché "So, you come here often?"
ThomasHarris111
I met these gay dudes in cancun a while back and we all lived in Vancouver at the time so we hung out a bit afterwards. One day they invite
ThomasHarris111
To a birthday party and we meet at what was, in hindsight, obviously a gay bar. Posters of leather clad gentlemen all over the place. So
ThomasHarris111
I'm having a drink, shooting the shit, dancing with all the girls and the whole time there's this dude fucking staring at me like the scene
ThomasHarris111
In LOTR where aragorn is watching the Hobbits. For hours. Finally he comes up to me and I'm like "this mother fuckers gonna take a swing."
ThomasHarris111
Nope, thought I was cute, wanted to be me a drink. That possibility never occurred to me. In a gay bar.
JustARandomStrangerOnTheInternet
1) Ok, now pretend it's some creep "hitting" on you that won't take no for answer.
JustARandomStrangerOnTheInternet
2) Still wouldn't know he was hitting on you but instead of thinking you're being really funny you fear for your life.
KrakedUp
Normally people show that by laughing instead of grabbing your ass.
GrandPoobahDeDoinkOfAllOfThisAndThat
"Hey there teddybear why don't you take me back to your place and let me fuck you unconscious" an actual 'pickup line' i got in the castro>
GrandPoobahDeDoinkOfAllOfThisAndThat
>once when i was working construction there. Can't possibly imagine why a lot of women are put off by random dudes being dicks
ThatJerkYouKnow
I flat out got taken on a date by a gay guy once, didn’t even REALIZE what had happened until like months later lmao, I asked him about it—
ThatJerkYouKnow
a couple years later, he was like “uh yeah, but I figured out pretty quickly that you’re VERY straight... and also oblivious AF.” We’re —
ThatJerkYouKnow
still friends to this day, super bummed I had to move before his wedding :((((
PimpinKen
Wait, so this is how you meet friends!? I've been doing it all wrong!
EccentricNut
Homophobia is the fear that gay men will treat you the way you treat women
Dislex1a
this comment is so dumb, some of the most homophobic ppl I know are woman..
tooomanystevesgotbanned
THIS.
Eramik
I think it has more to do with their insecurities with their own sexuality
shadysocks
Fear of being the willing “bitch”
zeiji
if you change it to "homophobes are afraid that" instead of "Homophobia is", it wont be a factually wrong definition.
OrangeFlavours
That's... not really true? Like I get what you're going with this, but that's incorrect.
WowSoSparkly
Then explain the obsession of homophobic men with gay sex and the fact that men might become "receivers"
OrangeFlavours
I can't, that might be some of them, but not all of them.
fusselwurm
I really don't get homophobia. What's your explanation?
OrangeFlavours
I'm not homophobic, I'm just saying that's not entirely true. True, it's terrible, but you shouldn't just say X terrible means Y terrible
GoliathSkittles
It varies from person to person, every homophobe has their own "reason" for hate, it might be repressed homosexual feelings in themselves >
GoliathSkittles
< or they don't understand something that is different to how they are and it comes out as hate, or maybe it was implanted in their mind >
GoliathSkittles
< from their parents or their god that it was just plain wrong to be or do.
blueyedwineaux
This and that it isn’t considered as culturally sexy for men to like men as it is women to like women.
WowSoSparkly
A man who is a bit too sexy will be seen as gay. Men must be attractive by basically just standing there, or maybe doing sports.
redzero700
0% gay, but a guy hitting on me is still a compliment. Obviously him taking it too far would be an issue.
MephitmpH
Tell that to dudes who don’t understand “NO”
redzero700
We all agree those dudes are problems, straight or gay
redgiantcreative
Totally agreed. I was hit on once by a good looking dude and I said "if I was gay, I'd say yes" I think that was the wrong thing to say. :-(
FlyingButtPliers
I usually feel flattered but sad for them. Ooh no, sorry but I appreciate it.
Flooferdoof
Please see original image
Pfhunkie
50% gay, but how you doin’, sweet stuff.
mousing
By leaving "too far" ambiguous it translates to "stop being gay around me when I get uncomfortable." Dude, nobody likes creepy/rapey people.
redzero700
It isn't being gay, it's about your advances continuing when unwanted, or crossing a line that makes me uncomfortable.
mousing
Sooo what I said?
redzero700
Eh, I disagree. I'm fine with them being gay around me. I dont consider being gay and making advances directed at me the same thing.
mousing
Again, nobody likes creepy/rapey people and everyone needs boundaries. TBC nobody with good intention will balk at "no," and by lumping ..1
shadysocks
Well you know how men are.
TheAnswerWasAlwaysMoreLube
I got oogled by a group of gay guys quite a few years ago. Still one of my biggest sources of confidence in my physical attractiveness.
the3th
even if you don't want to go to the party, it's nice to be invited.
messierthirtyone
I didn't know gay could be measured in percentage. If I like pink color am I 0.6% more gay?
redzero700
Pink used to be a male color so I don't think so. .6 is like, have you ever found yourself wanting to hold your bro's hand while walking
Copdecella
Every bit couts!
ChelVanin
I’ve been hit on by a gay guy who took it too far and he also happened to be a 275 pound bodybuilder. Boy oh boy did that open my eyes (1/2)
ChelVanin
(2/2) being on the other side of that physical power dynamic with someone who just wasn’t taking no for an answer.
JG87
A swift kick to the nuts!
ransomjelly
Yeah it’s a scary place to be, especially for women or any smaller person in the situation
MoonFaceinc
Ugh, that feeling when they are ignoring your boundaries and your sense of security starts to slip away…
artofthehidden7
*Laughs in 36 years of female being steamrolled by men* *has guilt* I feel you, man.
annoyingsandfly
As a 34 year old woman, I feel *you* @artofthehidden7.
messierthirtyone
Wear a right wing tshirt "God made Adam and Eve, not Adam and steve", it repells the gay. After you've warded him away burn the tshirt
artofthehidden7
Nah. Just put yourself in a trashcan. You belong there and is excellent repellent.
LordNergal
Nah. Just whisper to him, "Do you want to wear the MAGA hat or the orange face paint?" First time I've ever heard a bodybuilder scream 1/
LordNergal
like a little girl before they literally ran away. 100% guaranteed to work. 2/2
artofthehidden7
Nah, bro. Just live in a trashcan. Where you belong. Chüs!
mihaiborcan
sounds like at least 5% gay
redzero700
Can safely say I've never stared into my bro's eyes "a little too long"
mihaiborcan
just long enough then? 6% !
TheIsopod
I've changed my mind on this as I got older. Use to say the same as meme, until realizing how great compliments are. Even compliment men now
TheAnswerWasAlwaysMoreLube
TheAnswerWasAlwaysMoreLube
ThisIsTheBestICanDo
Compliments are not the same as getting hit on.
UncleMeaty
People generally don't hit on someone they don't find attractive.
Sabertron14
People use compliments TO hit on others....
ProppaGanda
30% gay and if somebody thinks gays hit on random people outside of gay bars... Yeah, keep dreaming.
redzero700
In my experiences gay people are humans and don't follow a set of strict rules. The hitting on I mentioned was in highschool anyway. No bars
ilhares
As the recipient of a few advances, I assure you that they do. Almost, crazy as it sounds, as if they're just normal people.
andrathor
Dumbest thing I've ever read. I get hit on all the time by dudes at work, at a straight bar, doesn't matter. I'm 100% straight, and yet.
joshcrimson
Sorry, I’m a little unclear on what you mean. How about we take this back to my place and you can help me understand how far we’d go?
PocketVist
We got a smoothe dude here
MadOatmeal
ColouredLife
Damn, that was so smooth, the 'line' just shiftet a few more meters towards 2. base.
BigTex1
Wait. This isn’t tennis! This is anal sex!
ElbowDeepInAJedi
Take it out of the box first!
ElbowDeepInAJedi
I'm not going to fall for that again Josh. That's the third time this week!
IDontKnowTHIRDBASE
https://youtu.be/BdiMdlVKgM8
Hextator
I'm pretty sure that's not Josh Vinson Jr., the One True Josh, Lord of All Things Josh. You don't even have to dignify them with a response!
saxon2060
Although I guess you're joking, this would be an example of too far. I've been hit on by gay guys and politely declined, saying that I'm >
saxon2060
straight. Usually there's a follow up like "are you sure?" Or "how do you know of you've never tried?" I would never ever say something >
saxon2060
like that if I hit on a woman and she said she was a lesbian. It's not "cheeky" or cute or going to work. It's annoying.
redzero700
Thanks man, I'm an introvert and dont really do the people thing. I'll see if I can find a link to explain it for ya though.
Deadmanwalkn
Y'know, I think he might have a link of his own in mind
Perdvert
Like a sausage link? Hell yea, breakfast food rocks!
MaadMaanMaatt
Here’s that link
Ultemus
Still waiting on that link...