GenuinePope
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Ok. Story time. I go to my job tonight (I'm a trivia host) and I'm talking with several of the players. We were exchanging nsfw stories and I mentioned one about hooking up with a guy. I am an out gay man and I don't hide it. As the night goes on, this one guy is talking with me a lot. To me, it seems like he is interested. So my show is done and I pack up and head out. I get a Facebook request from him. So I say yes. He immediately messages me. We chat. We start to text. At this point, I'm 99% sure this guy is in to me. So I check his Facebook. It says he is interested in women. So I straight up ask him (pun intended) "hey, just curious, please don't be offended, but are you gay?" And bam. He calls me. He is definitely gay and in to me. Here's the ringer. He is not out to anyone. He wants to date, but not tell anyone. What should I do imgur?? Should I date him and hope he comes to terms with his own sexuality? Or say no and tell him to come back when he is comfortable with himself?
TL;DR Got hit on by a dude who is not out to anyone. Wants to date, but doesn't want to tell anyone. What do???
SecureTheHatch
Maybe you will be his reason to come out and y'all love happy ever after?
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GenuinePope
Please tell me you're joking?
SereniteeF
Nope. No need to broadcast if he doesn't wish to, but secret is never healthy and will only get you thrown under the bus to protect his rep
GenuinePope
Ugh. I really want to though....
MyRegularAcctIsntAnonymousEnough
touch his penis
GenuinePope
Omg, I really want to!!!
MyRegularAcctIsntAnonymousEnough
most guys enjoy that sort of thing
migsan
I could manage dating someone discreetly, I don't have a lot of people how pry into my life. If your life is busy and there are many 1/2
migsan
other people that you'd have to keep a secret from, then it might be a stressful task to keep his secrets, since word can spread quite fast.
GenuinePope
I wouldn't have to keep a secret in my circle of friends, but would in his circle. It is a conundrum.
Cypheri
Just make sure he's clean before you do anything intimate. If he's hiding his own sexuality, there's no telling what else he's hiding.
GenuinePope
I get tested with every partner, just in case!
Cypheri
Not a bad policy. Good luck!
GenuinePope
Thanks!
McSmug
How about you don't pressure him about personal decisions. If you can't do that then leave him alone since drama is no good for anyone.
McSmug
ALSO, make sure you know what is what since no one wants to be a side bitch. Just sayin'
GenuinePope
Very true. If I found out he has a girlfriend, I would legit knock him out
McSmug
You never know and more information never hurts. I would be super leery of anyone who wanted me to be a secret no matter their reasons!
GenuinePope
True. I'll talk with him more.
GenuinePope
I never said I would pressure him in to anything. If I decide to date him, I would let him come out on his own terms. I'm not an asshole.
McSmug
Lol, I wasn't implying it. That statement was meant to have a question mark at the end making it just a suggestion. :/
McSmug
Still, being someones secret person is a lot of pressure and resentment is bound to build up so keep that in mind!
GenuinePope
Oh, ok, sorry I was a little snappy!
McSmug
Haha, I see how it sounded due to a typo, it's all good.
GenuinePope
Lol cool cool cool
oggyswe
Date him worst case it dont work out best case new boyfriend ;)
GenuinePope
I'm liking your logic...
oggyswe
Thank you pope ^_^ do god like that logic to or did i sin again?
GenuinePope
Oh, you totally sinned again. But don't worry! For only 5 easy installments of $3.99, I can cleanse your soul over the Internet!
oggyswe
Okay do you take checks or should i send you a brick of gold?
GenuinePope
A brick of gold works, or if you can't do that, a box of Cap'n Crunch also works.