Freedom is bittersweet

Apr 23, 2023 6:39 PM

Shazoozle

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As the title says, I ended 7 years with my now ex fiancé due to the fact that my apartment became what could be compared to a nightmare episode of hoarders. Not even going to touch on the other things that led me to this decision but I know deep down it was the right choice to make. The biggest downside? She took my cat with her, it was pretty much a condition for her to leave. In just about one hour of work I removed 8 30 gallon trash bags of junk, garbage, and more junk, cleaned my bathroom, and I finally saw the carpet again for the first time in years. Still a lot of work to do, and then I’m going to adopt two adult fur babies who need a loving home. Wish me luck!

Cat tax, miss you little one. Most viral edit: please donate to your local humane society, ASPCA, or animal shelter with good ethics. Thank you!

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"'I'm gonna wash that jerk right outta my hair"

3 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I dont want to generalize, but we need to end this ex girlfriends get to steal men's cats BS.

3 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

your ex sounds like my ex. only he took all the furniture and the cat. but now i have my own cat. she is very stupid and my precious baby

3 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

8 bags of junk in an hour and there's still more to do? I shudder to even imagine.

3 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Id have gotten in touch with the landlord, taken ex off the lease then got the law to have ex removed and kept the cat. The only guarantee the cat is safe was with you.

3 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0

I get how painful it is to lose a cat but that situation sounded nightmarish.

3 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

If she was a true hoarder, I would seek some therapy before entering another relationship. People aren't perfect, and if your next partner is a little bit messy, you might become triggered and react irrationally to a normal amount of mess.

3 years ago | Likes 9 Dislikes 0

The feeling of relief when I dumped my 1st husband a hoarder, I discovered freedom from constant cleaning

3 years ago | Likes 58 Dislikes 0

So the.. cat lives with a horrible hoarder now?

3 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 1

You sure giving her the cat was the humane thing to do, she obviously had mental health issues. Is she going to clean the litter boxes every day?

3 years ago | Likes 17 Dislikes 1

The main reason I got divorced also.

3 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 0

Good luck, hope youll find hapiness again soon.

3 years ago | Likes 23 Dislikes 0

No! Not the kitty. Still, I'm sure given all the hoarder boxes everywhere, the kitty will be happy enough.

3 years ago | Likes 162 Dislikes 0

Lucky! I'm stuck in my relationship with a messy home for at least 13 more years. I'm hoping my kids clean up when they are a few years older but that's wishful thinking.

3 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 1

Sorry bout the kitty. Don’t let your former use it as an excuse to come back in your life. X2 new kitties yip

3 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Former loser of a loved kitter; you’re doing -wonderful- by adopting kitters. Don’t be deterred from the older ones please, they are predictable, calm and deserve all the love <3

3 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

I want to give an adult cat a home, at least 1 year old or more.

3 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Awwww. Such a gorgeous kitty. I hope you find a new one.

3 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Y'know, if this was your cat from before you met her, the cat IS yours. I'm sure hypothetically you'd have plenty of volunteers for a rescue mission

3 years ago | Likes 11 Dislikes 1

Living with a hoarder, I feel this pain. Feels like I can't clean anything up because she'll just wreck it again.

3 years ago | Likes 12 Dislikes 0

Duck yes. I know this feeling well. Chase it.

3 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

Dude no get your cat back if she’s a hoarder then the cat will have to live in that too. (not pegging blame just in case, but an fyi in case you didn’t realize it at first. If the living conditions are bad in her place you can probably use that as a legal reason to get your buddy.

3 years ago | Likes 49 Dislikes 1

** first.) <- meant to put that there

3 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 0

Where she’s going, that won’t be a possibility anymore, thankfully. If I had even a shred of doubt that my cat would go to a home that didn’t love her unconditionally, I’d have kept her here.

3 years ago | Likes 40 Dislikes 0

Ok hope for the best for you and your buddy

3 years ago | Likes 3 Dislikes 0

The cat is the victim :(

3 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Glad for your freedom. Sounds like ex may be suffering from major depression

3 years ago | Likes 6 Dislikes 1

Maybe. Hoarding can grow from other issues, though, usually unresolved trauma along with a mental illness. Either way, OP is lucky to get away from it. (Source: married into a family with hoarders.)

3 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

@OP you got this!

3 years ago | Likes 67 Dislikes 1

Please get the cat back. It doesn't deserve to die in a dirty hoard.

3 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

My friend had an ex who was like that. Not a hoarder but a lazy slob with two cats who she let puke and piss everywhere. It was disgusting. I feel bad for the cats though. If you ex is that unsanitary you should consider reporting her for animal abuse in the future.

3 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

Going through divorce myself, I've hit over 30 bags of trash from her and her kids, haven't even got to one of the kid's old rooms yet, that'll be another dozen bags. I couldn't keep up cleaning it all and she didn't help cleaning at all, so it just accumulated. It sucks, but youre making it yours again.

3 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

This is fantastic.

3 years ago | Likes 2 Dislikes 0

8 30 gallon ≈ 3140 liters or 691 imperial gallons

3 years ago | Likes 4 Dislikes 1

Don't think so, bot

3 years ago | Likes 1 Dislikes 0

Good luck!

3 years ago | Likes 8 Dislikes 0