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Just venting imgur.. Posting here is somewhat therapeutic for me
*Wow! Thanks for getting me to the front page guys! Most of all, thank you all for the different advice. You Imgurians definitely help me keep going when the times are tough. Hmu and maybe we play some ps4 online (I know... PC master race but a PC is on my to buy list)
theBurroughs
Volunteer! Not only is it a great way to meet new people. Generally speaking, people who volunteer are very good hearted people as well.
TidecallerAlpha
I stayed at home. Played video games. Met my wife that way strangely enough. Been together 6 years, married 4.
Dersce
I don't go to bars to meet new people, but to enjoy the company of friends in an environment I tolerate.
SmexyLibrarian
In the same boat, OP. I started volunteering at an animal shelter. It took almost a year, but the network I grew from it has helped (1/?)
SmexyLibrarian
Me build a nice little social group. Also, Reddit has subs that you can post to for social activities in your area. (2/?)
SmexyLibrarian
And the Meetup app can be a good option as well. (3/3)
WeatherWiz
You gotta have a wingman
marsgoose
Don't go to a bar unless you want to pick up an alcoholic. Join some other kind of activity that's an interest to you.
marsgoose
Don't focus on finding someone, focus on making yourself attractive, which doesn't just mean looks but includes looks.
NeroApollo
I’ve noticed it’s really difficult to find friends as an adult
Hikash
Going out is tough for a lot of people. I have anxiety and don't drink. Makes bars pretty rough.
RoombaTheAssaultVacuum
Being lonely isn't bad. Being around people who make you feel alone is.
Crimx42
You're not wrong. I suggest next time to go with 1 friend.
etopsirhc
what is this "friend" thing?
Crimx42
A person you pay to spend time near you.
etopsirhc
oh, so something like a weird prostitute, ok.
Greenarrowforyou
Maybe talk to someone at the bar?
MikeMcAwesome91
Nah that couldn't be the answer
AxelYamanaka
But who would want to talk at the bar? Especially to "me"
Vexilaris
Hey I go to the bar, john at the bar is a freind of mine!
BobbalishBobbus
I also know john! He gets me my drinks for free.
Vexilaris
John is a pretty cool guy, he's quick with a joke, or to light up your smoke!
BobbalishBobbus
And don't forget about Davey, who's still in the Navy.
Rdalf
I've met more people online than I ever have "outside." Long time friendships, some as long as 7+ years have started out online... 1/3
Rdalf
None of them girls, mind you, but still. I've actually gone on trips to various parts of the US just to hang out with some of these guys 2/3
Rdalf
and I'm genuinely happy speaking with them every day. My "real" friends typically treat me like a backup guy when everyone else is busy...
JohnSnot
More expensive as well
Brutsarge
Get a dog. Go to dog parks.
Flamesonthesideofmyface
ONLINE DATING. This is how hubs and I both felt until we found each others' profiles
lywinis
Dude, I feel that. I moved away from all my friends and live in Alaska now. I hardly know what to do with myself.
ozzy890
dont go to the bar..worst place to meet people..try Meetup instead
tomatopancake
My mother just had this conversation with me; she’s afraid both my brother and me are going to die alone.
bestofallpossibleworlds
I feel that should be entirely blue.
GuW69
Try going to the movies alone, first times it was awful, but now I enjoy it
IsoPropylPotatene
Your meme colors are backwards.
OblivionArcAngel
One day they will learn. Today is not that day.
Crimx42
It should probably just both be negative...
IsoPropylPotatene
Yeah.
lenomdeplume
Also yep.
TwoHobosOneBox
I contemplated "how the shit does this go again?" for 30 mins before posting. Forgive me..
mattihase
Nah I'd say you got it right. More reason to stay at home, right?
Rebockymeow
Red is rad, blue is bad :)
bleakertron
Red is rad. Blue is bad
trapdoorogre
Red is bread, blue is a confused dolphin.
justbeingjessica
I find bars terrible places to meet anyone. Just me?
cptoblivious
The problem with meeting people in bars, is that they're bar people.
SpaceForceCowboy
It's great if you are looking to rent a hot pocket for the night, but you certainly don't keep it around after
matyles
Fucking yikes bro
SpaceForceCowboy
billdozer86
Try meetup.com for Meetup groups. Great way to meet people.
Southbird85
More expensive, too. A good drunk saves money.
LeftBrainTrain
Do what matters to you. Scrape up any motivation you can & do that. Outdoors, indoors, sporting events, gaming tournaments, workshops (1/2)
LeftBrainTrain
2/2 Loneliness is a side effect of getting to know oneself but it's esp. endemic to a western culture of asocial materialism we're born into
Sapherno11
Exactly right. I can't meet someone if I stay at home. Exactly the point, and why I do so. I've worked retail/public service long enough to
Sapherno11
have an overbearing Hatred for people in general. Fuck people, Fuck society, and FUCK ENTITLED PRICKS. Something got put on a wrong shelf,
Sapherno11
THAT DOES NOT MEAN IT IS FUCKING FREE. ITS NOT FUNNY WHEN YOU HEAR IT 50 TIMES A DAY. YOU ARE NOT CLEVER, YOU ARE NOT THE FIRST TO SAY IT.
Beaverbeaverson
You're lonely because you don't know how to use memes correctly.
Friendo2
Yeah, we’ve all been there friend. The bar is a place to meet drinking buddies, not significant others. Need to do that doing hobbies & such
Friendo2
Tinkrr
The bar is the worst place to meet people. You should go to activities you enjoy, or are related to what you enjoy, and see what comes D:
tumppu
Would not say worst, problem is meeting people while drinking is not necessarily the best way.
krownd
Getting blackout drunk is an activity I enjoy
DemonicCarnage
I find meeting people on hikes in secluded spots is awkward specially when your both trying to bury someone in the same spot
TBreezy21
That's how I met my current gf. Started playing on a softball team
isometimesgetreferences
Not necessarily, just depends on the type of person
Ctiyboy
My local bar does karaoke on fridays, they also do themes with prizes for dress up, this week is memes. It's great fun to hangout with peopl
Myowngrampa
The only places you meet people are work , school and the bar. If you're out of school and dislike your co-workers I see only one solution..
Tinkrr
What can I say, except for
D:
Honeybadger2198
The bar isn't the worst place to meet people. Going to a bar can be an activity you enjoy.
Throwawayaccount2395223
Activities I enjoy cost money
Tinkrr
Activities I enjoy make me money, it's hard finding people who love money D:
BayazTheBenevolent
I enjoy sitting at home. What do I do?
ILiekToCookAndBake
Not alot of women like loud fast cars.
CheeseIsNaturesFudge
Or ride motorcycles, and all the ones that do are taken.
icookfoodandfightfire
i seem to have the opposite problem, i give 0 fucks about cars and i know so few girls that feel the same near me
ILiekToCookAndBake
Where are these girls and I challenge you to a chili cook off
Skizzlesnap
Funny I’ve had plenty of luck at bars.
Cadifohuli
What if you enjoy nothing
solarshado
In that case, you may be depressed and should go out and meet your doctor.
Sunn
Then that should be your priority
gagedlimits
Understand.
Tinkrr
Then invade the never ending story universe or some shit
D:
KingScoots
Kind of hard when your only hobby is masturbating at home.
AgolfHiller
Masturbate in public. It's only scary the first time
Tinkrr
You need more hobbies then
D:
TwoHobosOneBox
It's kind of hard to do that where I live. Not a lot to do besides go to the bar or go to Walmart. I stopped going there for fun back in hs.
Threewisemen
Work on yourself, go run, go lift, go volunteer, love yourself and others will love you too.
TheDogEnd
If you have a vehicle, then you should travel to the nearest place where your hobbies are.
Immaturelmgurlmager
People with your kind of attitude don't care about solutions. You care about effort, meaning you want to put in zero.
BungusAmungus
If you see someone you're attracted to just talk with them/ask for their number. The setting doesn't matter if you don't talk to anyone.
Volcanuz
Create the space for your hobby to be enjoyed by others. Find a public place and make your own meetings using the net or social media.
FightDirty
Said it before, I'll say it again. Cooking classes. At the very least y'all get nice food.
bunduz
If you keep at it you might meet someone at an AA meeting
lenonymes
Wait...people going to walmart...for fun? What kind of white trash wasteland do you live in lol
Abracanawbra
Try sports, gym, car meet ups, cooking classes or groups, board game nights (organize one at a coffee shop before your house)
Tinkrr
Eh, there's also some group or system doing something somewhere. You just need to do some digging D:
Niddhoger
I see you aren't very familiar with rural areas... in butt fucksville, nowhere, you have "some parking lot" and "the church" for groups.
Primotimewaster
Try the app MeetUp.
KarlOkladek
Volunteer work is a fantastic way to meet people
vg8ts
Ugh, but then you meet really nice people.
RhymingEverything
Yeah, fuck those nice people, who do they think they are?!?!
Blud4BludGod
I think that's the idea here
Valfheim
I'd just turn up, do whatever, and then go home. There's got to be a better way of making friends.
belthasarthegreat
No outdoor activities? Running/biking/fishing etc...?
poppywoppy
Curious, where are you located?
TwoHobosOneBox
A small city close to Joplin, MO
Tinkrr
Well I'll give you a hint, but I've been in worse
D:
Illdrawyoulikeafrenchgirl
Try that app/website meetup I think it’s called. It’s completely based on interests and is just people wanting to share interest. Great fun.
Ishalldefenestrateyou
I just looked for my town. One alternative healing group, one Christian book club, and one that teaches me to tap into my intuition (1)
Ishalldefenestrateyou
Nothing else though lol. However I am in a small town.