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I got a few awkward looks from some of her co-workers. I thought I was just being paranoid but now I have a feeling I'm not the only guy that has gone to see her..
Jul 20, 2016 6:18 PM
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I got a few awkward looks from some of her co-workers. I thought I was just being paranoid but now I have a feeling I'm not the only guy that has gone to see her..
JakeHoskins
Yeah, I feel like we're not getting a full story from you or her.
gregorclegane
TomtheVisionary
Because he is also you Ross. She's on the phone, cool it with the fresh ground pepper
TchallaVII
I would not want a picnic outside my job. you better drive me to a park or something
B0bsburger
I wouldn't appreciate my SO undermining me at work, however long we'd been dating. It's my job, not a Nicholas Sparks novel.
superstarlisag
Or some people don't want to mix their personal and work lives. I am a different person at work than I am at home. Not that crazy.
Skezatchi
Unannounced picnic where she works? Cringe. You clearly took a note out of the Ross Geller hand book. It's weird and creepy.
cocodonut
What is her job? I've held positions where I wouldn't want an S.O. wandering through making me look like a big softie.
B0bsburger
Ikr, the thought of colleagues gossiping about it for the rest of the day makes me cringe. Its so unprofessional.
qcxv
Can you believe she had lunch, outside? OMG, inorite!
notme222
Depends how long you've been together. A year? Her problem. A week? Yours.
supermariosunshine
its called respecting boundaries
everettscott
It's more-so communication than anything.
Lisforinductance
Ross Geller?
princessvaliant
If I was super busy at work, it'd be pretty annoying of the significant other showed up, especially if it was a new relationship.
CptRobotNinja
Some jobs dont accomidate that sort of thing. You likely would not get a good response from me in that regard
humanmeatburger
You showed up at the girl's work ... for picnic ... during work hours? You wonder why you got awkward looks?
TakeMyWorfPlease
Bet you were getting weird looks because you brought her a surprise picnic at work. It's nice and all but weird.
minabear
Unfortunately, not everyone feels the same way. Half of the time I wouldn't be able to see my bf if he dropped in unannounced at my office.
tangybreath
Exactly. I work in a research lab. The time I decide to take my lunch is completely dependent on the timing of my experiments that day.
iPutTheBSinBSc
What kinda lab?
tangybreath
Developmental biology
iPutTheBSinBSc
Not sure what such lab does (im not one for biology). Is that a career thing or a grad/postdoc/idk thing?
tangybreath
I'm starting my 5th year in a phd program. Hopefully graduating in a year. My lab specifically looks at eye development. What genes are 1
ILikeToCallItLostWages
GF of how long, exactly?
jenlovesmemes
You don't bring a picnic basket to someone's work unless maybe they were a park ranger!
tangybreath
Haha, nice reference
DontNeedAWeatherManToKnowWhichWayTheWindBlows
Depends where you are in the relationship. Some people don't appreciate having their work life intruded upon, at least not w/o warning.
DSNAKE
I have to keep my personal and work lives separate. Have to.
isTechnique
I'm curious why this isn't top comment. This is absolutely correct
radassamber
I agree. As a young female is a field dominated by middle aged men any showing of personal life gets harped on relentlessly.
willtroll4nudes
Wow! You're a whole field? That must be rough.
tangybreath
I had a guy send flowers to my work as an apology. I was not happy. It made me seem very unprofessional and brought my personal life to work
iPutTheBSinBSc
Why are american workplaces so formal and uptight?! Nobody gives a shit about these kinda things or how i dress as long as i do my job...
transientarchitect
Its possible you just imagine everyone around you considers it unprofessional, because you're socially anxious. Or not, just speculating.
stoploggingmeoutImgurIfuckingswear
Regardless, some people like to keep the spheres separate, and a SO should be considerate of that.
stoploggingmeoutImgurIfuckingswear
I would dislike that too. We aren't a laid back enough company for that to be appropriate. I am happy that my SO asks first.
makemepancakes
I find this so strange! Everywhere I've worked there are empty vases on hand for employee flower deliveries. Even at retail locations.
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finallystoppedlurkingonimgur
As a wife it's not considered bad. Don't stop,unless she says so.
tangybreath
People have different work environments. If she hasnt told you to stop, dont. But gauging the kind of work enviroment beforehand is advised
AsAGayFellow
My guy was having a shit day, so I sent him a massive chocolate fruit basket. It was enough for him and his co-workers. He loved.
freegiant
What kind of work views delivered flowers as unprofessional?
57Teddy
I'd be very annoyed to be sent flowers at work. Attracts unwanted attention and you've a mess to eventually clean up. Dumb.
BrisketandBeans
I would not want my gf to show up at my work unannounced
freegiant
Neither would I, but having flowers delivered for some occasion seems pretty mild in the grand scheme of things.
BrisketandBeans
True. Though not sure if I'd like it if I was a girl. Also forgot which comment I was replying to. So, my reply was a bit out of place lol
princessvaliant
Pretty much every kind of work. If you're going to send flowers send them to their home.
freegiant
Offices in general seem like a pretty ideal flower delivery location. Professionally delivered, not personally, of course.
TaylorLately
As a florist I'll tell you that the women we deliver too would much rather have flowers delivered to work. Just to show off.
princessvaliant
I work on a mine site. If someone sent flowers there I'd get a written warning.
bigbootybigfoot
I work with only men in a male trade, I was so embarrassed to get flowers. My boss and the lot of em teased me and made me open the package.
iPutTheBSinBSc
Wut trade?
wintercoat
Good natured tease or "I need to get HR on this" tease?
ApsychicRat
sometimes even good natured teasing can be bad depending on the topic of the teasing and the subject of the tease
bigbootybigfoot
Emily and whomever sitting in a tree... Not bad just embarrassing
AstralMarmot
This. The workplace might not welcome it either. Know these things before you make a grand gesture.
Conflict
A picnic outside is not a grand gesture. Its a cute lunch date. Not like be brought a band and proposed.
57Teddy
Save it for the weekend. I'd have dumped the clueless guy, too.
Conflict
Well I would put you in the same boat as the spoil sport in the post. Guy tries to be nice and cute and gets shit on. You must be a sad sad
Conflict
(2) person. Learn to live a little.
tangybreath
It would be acceptable if he knew my lunch hour, left the picnic in the car and came up to just ask if I was free for lunch.
Conflict
I would assume the bf would know his gf's lunch hour. Its a reasonable assumption. Guess I hadn't met a girl that wouldn't be on with what
tangybreath
If it's a dependable lunch hour. Mine isn't. Thats why if I want to spend lunch with someone, we need to set a time so i can work around it
Conflict
(2) he did. I know a lot of women who would absolutely love it.
tangybreath
Sure :) but not all women are the same and not all women have the same job.
ApsychicRat
its really awkward, your having romantic interactions in front of coworkers, i personally would tell them to go home
Conflict
A picnic is romantic interactions? I have never seen so many people be so against a simple surprise lunch.
tangybreath
Smack in the middle of doing qPCR. Sometimes im in the quarantined mouse room. Or in the middle of a mouse dissection. Or a bradford assay 2
tangybreath
You don't seem to understand. Not everyone is the same. I work in a lab. My lunchtime fluctuates around my experiements. Sometimes I'm 1
tangybreath
Things that are time sensitive or that I cant leave in the middle of. I would NOT be happy if my SO came by expecting me to be free END
stoploggingmeoutImgurIfuckingswear
Where I work, drop-ins are discouraged unless you are meeting outside the building. It's just not in the work culture to have SOs pop in.
LadyPeppercornthethird
Also he did a picnic outside of the building, if it's not a park or a picnic bench that might really bother her employers
Nize426
Yeh I wouldn't mind if they txted me to meet outside of the building, but suddenly showing up inside of my office is mildly creepy.
Nize426
That's as a guy. If that matters at all.
buffalosnowcrash
Picnics in the strip bar parking lot are frowned upon during working hours.
KingBifurious
She didn't appreciate the insinuation that she'd put a sausage in her mouth, she's a stripper not a whore.
WarpedSense
Why the fuck would you have a picnic outside of her work building. Amateur move. Horrible idea. Extremely embarrassing for her
Dickbuttsmom
If your self esteem is that low for something like a surprise visit from your SO and a picnic to be embarrassing. Then you have issues.
WarpedSense
All of her coworkers probably laughed behind her back. Welcome to the real world kid
thelightinchains
Yeah that's a boundary violation.
azazyel
Why do people think surprises are fun? If my wife came by my work for lunch uninvited I'd be annoyed too
azazyel
Um, no I can't I in the middle of this and I have a meeting in 20 mins.
freegiant
I have always held the belief that one should never show up to their SO's workplace unannounced. Call ahead. They'll still think it's sweet.
ListenHereYouLittleShirt
A friend of mine did this for her boyfriend. Went to his work, saw him in car with another girl. She figured "Okay, I won't jump to (1/?)
ListenHereYouLittleShirt
conclusions. Maybe it's just a friend." He sees her and walks up to her car, looking scared as shit. She asks him who the girl is, (2/?)
ListenHereYouLittleShirt
and he says "Uh... my girlfriend." Turns out the guy had been with this girl for years, they have a son together, live together, and (3/?)
ListenHereYouLittleShirt
my friend was the mistress, basically. So what does my friend do? She walks up to the girlfriend's car, opens the door, and says (4/?)
Curiousone545
WHAT DID SHE SSAYYYYY
ListenHereYouLittleShirt
I couldn't help myself, lol. I finished the story now.
ListenHereYouLittleShirt
"Hi, I'm Corey's OTHER girlfriend." and the girl started sobbing. Fun stuff. (5/5)
ErwinFletcher
"GF" in this case is "girl I've stalked for 3 months"
AliBarber
Hahahaha PLOT TWIST
breakfastburner
My thoughts exactly.
imjusttoowhite
And by "brought her a nice picnic" he meant "ran up to her, opened his trenchcoat, and wagged his penis at her"
valkrez
"Two dates, I think I want her to meet my mom."
Fawin
For the best if you ask me. Find someone who appreciates that kind of thing.
xXShadowWarriorXx
Plot twist, gf works at an abortion clinic
MyLifeisaComplicatedDrinkingGame
Nobody knows the circumstances. If a girl did this to me like a month or two after dating id be pretty freaked out.
Roxxy
Not to one up OP but I'm in a long distance with my WIFE. I came up to Toronto with little notice and she is not happy at my dropping in.
azazyel
I'd probably be the same way. I fucking hate surprises and my wife knows this.
WeAllLiveInAUserSubmarine
You're married Azazyel? I figured you were about 25
azazyel
nope 39
Shylo132
25 for the 14th time mate.
MorganFreemanIsGod
Yeah fuck that if she isn't happy to see you something is wrong
SizzleMeThis
Yea I'd be upset especially if I had made plans or was looking forward to a relaxing weekend alone then got surprised.
TraitorousTrump3
By your SPOUSE. Who seems to live out of town?
minabear
A) alone time is healthy B) I almost always have plans of some kind. Surprises mean I have to change everything
TraitorousTrump3
They LIVE alone time. Surprises should always be welcome in this situation.
RumbleBum
I gotta say you. Changed my mind.
minabear
My boyfriend and I don't do surprises because we know it's not easy to drop everything.
IAmTheBadW01f
I pulled a surprise on my fiancé, but I plotted with her mom, her boss, and the lady she was living with at the time, who let it slip..oops
oneofthecalled
But see, you apparently talked this out..you didn't just dump one another instead of sharing preferences
minabear
There's no background to the story. For all we know, she made it perfectly clear to him that she didn't like surprises.
justiina
Tbh it also depends on the job. There are jobs where it wouldn't seem very professional to have picnic just outside the office.
END3RW1GGIN
Yeah she definitely has a work "friend".
Nize426
Could just be that the relationship was already headed downhill and he drove it off the cliff by suddenly showing up to her workplace.
justforthefakepoints
F that he was doing right. She scared of something
OblivionsBloodhound
Mmm no. If I was going slow and steady with someone this would be a really weird thing to do. I wouldn't enjoy it. Awkward as fuck.
OblivionsBloodhound
Also, check out some of the other comments in the thread. Most people tend to agree that it's a nuisance to show up unannounced.
justforthefakepoints
Well people are different
Lycrus
"Is this about mark?" -Ross
OneZebraInAHerdOfWildebeests
WE WERE ON A BREAK!!!!
AlmostScientist
AliBarber
Hahahaha Wtf is that from
DataTrekker
The Room. It's a classic, watch it
AlmostScientist
classically terrible movie. Good watch if you like making fun of films or cringing.
hideakikarate
I used to surprise my wife with coffee. I thought the font desk lady hated me. One day she says I can't go back anymore without escort.
EmmitWest
So the coffee is for the wife, and the hooker is for... the front desk lady?
isTechnique
Am I the only one who would be annoyed? Dude work is supposed to be strictly professional. She will probably talked about now.
justiina
Me too. In many jobs women already have tough time to been taken seriously at work - cute picnic at the yard of the office does not help.
flapperfemmefatale
yeah, i'd be super annoyed. when i'm at work, i have shit to do. interrupting that would piss me off.
Misora
I'd be annoyed (as if he could get past security at my building) but that he then goes OMG She must cheating?! Run, honey. Run!
isTechnique
My mentality is exactly like yours, haha. You and me are the same.
Lugh314159
Well... I actually totally get not liking you showing up unannounced. But if she broke up with you for it, there had to be other issues.
jp221
Thats the thing with these kind of posts. We have no clue what actually happened.
Lifestyleoftheridgeandthefamous
He brought a boom box and threw pebbles at the window til she came outside.
Lugh314159
...or she just cray. (I feel this should be a given and the end of any conversation discussing why women do things.)
KitsunesFire
You don't really interact with women much, huh?
GnarlyVomit
Just because you can't understand something doesn't mean others can't
AwesomeName
Plot twist: she didn't know she was his girlfriend.
AverageTortilla
Omg I've had someone who told everyone me and him were together when I was just recently single. No way I was jumping into a relationship
Zzzinthevalley
I think a lot of people don't dig the showing up at your work thing, but if it was a solid relationship, not a reason to break up.
Nize426
Yeah, it was probably not working out well to begin with and it was the tipping point for his gf.
thelionsays
Punny. She was probably hooking up with someone at work.
aznanimality
TIL Cute surprises can be a tipping point.
TheJonatron
Well, if she wasn't all that keen on him making a show of himself to her coworkers would be awful.
BattleMercy
it kinda depends on the person i guess, my girlfriend is super shy, so if i just randomly showed up with a picnic, she'd probably be super
BattleMercy
embarassed, and might cry (slightly socially anxious) so i just make sure to not do things that might surprise her infront of others
Opportunist
That's very thoughtful, thank you!
BarfingMonkey
I bet the main issue was op.
Lobsterfest10k
They probably had their first date the night before.
thejerzydevil
Anyone who isn't happy to see you unexpectedly, doesn't deserve you, period.
TrappedInTheLocker
Haha how selfish. No.
Abomb2933andstuff
Unless you're in the middle of buying drugs.
Abomb2933andstuff
Or prostitutes.
flapperfemmefatale
personally, i'm not a fan of surprises. especially at work. all i'd think about is how this is going to fuck up the rest of my schedule
isTechnique
Certainly. Although showing up unannounced and doing that at work is weird. Have you had a job? Don't mean to be condescending but there
ScaryScarab
I had an employee once upon a time where his Gf would come for things like this, it always annoyed me as his boss..but it annoyed him worse.
CherryEmpress
I mean... I've been with my husband happily and faithfully for 10 years, I'd still rather he told me he was coming.
SluttyToast
Ayyy <3
Boopbeepbeep
I agree. Going on 17 yrs with my husband. I just prefer to keep work separate from personal and he respects that.
CherryEmpress
Exactly. Honestly I think the fact that both of us still respect each other's privacy and boundaries is one of the best things about (1)
CherryEmpress
our relationship. I would find it stifling otherwise. (2)
Curiousone545
Uh.. within reason though. @op sounds like a sweet romantic gesture. But there def is too far.. (stalkers, obsession.. ya know).
Pahqman
Then the advice is still sound - they should move on...
Curiousone545
Well, except, in this case, the "Deserving" part would be in question. No one deserves a stalker, right?
oshytnouga
Yea but this was sweet as hell! I would die if someone did this for me! And then we'd laugh at all the lonely, bitter bitches at my office
ILikeToCallItLostWages
Yeah, but imagine you just met the person. Now how would you feel about it. No context here
Curiousone545
Are there many bitter lonely bitches at your office? :/
oshytnouga
Yea
Sanosky
So you're saying they're single? ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
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TheCraicHoor
Surely OP arrived for lunchtime though... Picnic n'all.
tangybreath
As someone that works in a research lab. My lunch resolves around the timing of my experiments and my work is time sensitive. Dont drop by
minabear
You'd be surprised. My last several jobs, I only got to enjoy lunch once every two weeks. It's just how it goes.
deadpoolsunicorn
I think your gesture was cute, I think something else was there- move on please
StayingDistracted
Yea ouch
justiina
I bet many men wouldn't like it either if they had to have cute romantic picnic outside the work building, with work buddies watching.
verminlord12
I would fucking love that
imgurane
Gotta say, if my gf showed up at lunchtime with a surprise picnic, I would be ecstatic.
aznanimality
I would suck a dick if my GF showed up with food for me at work, shove it my coworkers face: "Yeah that's my hot GF"
DeltaSniper
You might be gay, and hiding that fact by wanting to suck dick while saying thats your hot gf.
aznanimality
BewareTheCrocigator
Personally if my gf showed up at work I wouldn't suck a dick, but you do you man
aznanimality
How about I suck yours bro?
BewareTheCrocigator
Gonna have to pass, but thanks for the offer. No-one takes the time to suck a stranger's dick these days, what has this generation come to?