Feb 3, 2018 11:30 PM
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Kanatatina
Watched my sis call both her kids assholes in front of our parents tonight haha
FNHuskys
My kids are too lazy to switch Netflix profiles to their own. Now I have Sam and Cat and the like as part of my recommendations. ASSHOLES.
Heimy
Mine used to do this too, they no longer have an xbox in their room.
mollison
Go to Account -> Viewing Activity and you can delete those from your account's memory, should help
kythorn
sillysalmon
One of OP's children obviously.
kalvious
What the fuck is this from
woobeeee
Eddy Murphy movie called Coming to America... Fuck
PulpFreeNonFiction
To*
blahblahghost
be
Tredgy
Some of those nursery rhymes are legit catchy and adorable tho... "Baaaabyyyy shark boo booboo boo boo ba booboo baby shark!"
PoliticalWanderer
"Kids are just like any other group of people. A few winners, a WHOLE lot of losers!" - George Carlin
Shawnthegirl
Just because you call someone an asshole doesn't mean you don't love them and treat them well.
baoTohdakaMeow
Im in favour of you teaching those assholes to be decent people
NobodyJustBrad
Why do I immediately hate peoole who say "dead ass"?
markman2001
my dad called me a bastard today and i just laughed, more of an insult to him
TGWolf
Their attitude is a reflection on the way you raised them. So you have to call yourself an asshole as well.
spartantalk
I always hated "kids will be kids." Assholes thrive in environments that don't stop them. Kids don't grow up because parents don't help em
peakbleak
Children are people. Sometimes people are dicks.
evilpsych
Kids are assholes.
PoeKneeTa
Deadass assholes.
True statement..
DickPicEnthusiast
People are assholes
LebenderGeist
It's because nobody cares to disapline them anymore.
PepsiIsBetterThanCocaCola
*discipline
I've messed up but thank you for future reference. ????
miniape115
Ouchies, sorry lad.
Wyldkat80
Truth! I’ve seen so many little asshole stray I’ve opted out!! No assholes for me!!
You do that buddy.
Knazoo
^ This
I find it funny how in this comment I'm getting praised for calling out how children are little shits but on another it triggers people.
ShakeAndBake2865
“Dumbass” -Red Forman, refer to that 70’s show for any parenting advice
EyesLikeTheSky
I'm surprised with how many imgur users were beat as children
GreenYawgmoth
I'm not. Imgur's practically a population study on its effects.
HaryTheVII
I learnt what's right and what's wrong because my parents were not pussies.
Willis073
I wouldn't say calling your children names good parenting.
BellaMiaSerraPlz
Makes you an asshole parent for raising asshole kids. Js
synspyder
I've had kindergarteners do that to me before. Kids look for boundaries. It doesn't make them assholes. It makes them unfinished adults.
Nccbgf
"By the age of four your child should be desirable or else." Some genius
Fachera
Mate NO!!! I just say No. There was a period of revolt but by now 3yo crotch goblin knows I won’t budge and we have 0 drama.
mirrelle
My kid is an asshole. He purposefully wakes his baby brothers up when he's having a tantrum. Will always move to their doorway.
ChickensAreGoodPets
hey the wiggles are the shit
Limnic
People here are saying "teach them not to be assholes" but then I wonder, how? Surely, giving them a good old beating is no longer accepted?
4254
It is not a binary choice of either beat your child or have your child be an asshole. There are other options. Many assholes were beaten.
becauseurwrong
Who's gonna tell them their kid is a cat?
MadLogTheGr8
Well if your kids don’t treat u with respect u probably don’t deserve it either! U r in charge - stop whining
PrinceMoheezy
Yeah, im in favor of calling your kids assholes
Benegesseritwitch75
I have absolutely called my kids names, when they we're too little to know what I was saying, now old enough to understand how I mean it.
I will allow it (:
Poisonspit
Just like your parents' friends did.
ConveyEmotionsViaGifs
I prefer little shits
Corgishavedisproportionatelysmalllegs
All in favor, say aye
Tionki
Though when I call them; I just get shitty reception.
Mikeiller
Yes, just not to their face.
IntergalacticCinematic
I said to my 15 year olds face last week. He’s 6’2 230 and thinks he’s hot Shit. If a Dad can’t tell his son he’s being an ass, than who can
ComicUpgrade
My mom calls me a sonofa bitch sometimes
tdvideo
So... she called herself a bitch??
SinisterScienceLesbian
She called his dad a bitch
DomCarIndustries
Well...
LogicalUpset
Damn that’s a good loop
Fishkeeper
Don't insult your children to their faces, just teach them better.
Vercci
Fuck that call cunts cunts.
Nerdygasm
I playfully call them buttheads but they know I'm serious when my voice goes deep and I just say "Hey!"
justThisPerson
Okay, just balance it out at other times with encouragement though. It's all about balance. And love.
PuhTater
That is what spanking is for. Disciplining your child is not abuse
Nullvoid919
But don't you worry it might cause a bad relationship between you two and eventually make your child do worse things? It can go right though
flapperfemmefatale
i think it's more effective to emulate real-world consequences. i stopped listening to my dad once i realized that he was too old to spank
*me
Killertortilla
literally the definition but ok.
AGremlinWithALicoriceDispenser
That doesn't work for me. Take away Wi-Fi? Works every time.
SpaghettoRaviolo
Hit them harder. On the bare ass
incrediblyordinary
Sorry mate, Harder isn't always the answer. But I believe you're trying to raise good kids, so for that I commend you.
My mom used to use a metal spatula
TypicalGayMan
Wow, what class. Some people got hit with a wooden spoon.
My dad beat me with jumper cables
EdmundDPython
As long as people remember there is a line between discipline and abuse. The use of Belts, canes or a closed hand for example equates abuse
Rips4w
And hitting your child is a lazy fucking way to parent.
DushBid911
I'm sure you have a family at home, right? Have you ever familied?
TehStoner
realfakedoorssss
Dude wtf why is this getting downvoted?
imgur's cretin brigade is out in full force. Might makes right! Gotta teach 'em early that fear = respect and you're never safe, you know.
Lickenziedickens
Because discipline creates week rounded adults. And discipline =/= abuse. Spare the rod spoil the child.
Sigh... Well* not week or weak
Is everyone on imgur a right wing retard
RatchetTheWusky
I actually liked my dad hitting me. Taught me not to mess with him if he uses a certain tone. Also helps when I am driving. He gets worried,
Rapiecage
so he beat you, and tamed you like a puppy...for life? That's not an argument for hitting kids
Uses that tone and we avoid a crash...
sekkor4
And how are you going to discipline once they don't care what you take away and realise you are all bark and no bite?
ydwyrd
How are you going to discipline once they're big enough to hit back?
How do you plan to discipline your kids once they get big enough to hit back?
Once they are old enough to hit back.... they will not need to be hit. Because they will have been raised right.
That's extremely naive, "It won't be a problem because it will totally work and there won't be any negative side effects."
AuburnTiger91
if my kids were throwing a fit or about to do something dangerous I smacked them to get their attention. Not lazy. Effective.
Penguin90
Not every child responds to time out or taking away things. I'd rather my kids be mad at me for a while than be assholes for life.
May not last just a little while. My dad's choice to spank me definitely affected our relationship permanently. I don't respect him 1
Every parent is different and maybe he didn't do things right but that doesn't mean that all parents who spank their children are abusive.
i disagree. to me, hitting is hitting. if you can't do it to an adult for punishment, what gives you the right to do it to a child?
2 or trust him the way I do my mother.
Then he should have hit you harder
with you teaching them that violence is the way to settle every little thing, they'll prolly be assholes for life
I don't spank them for "every little thing". They get spanked for hitting or biting. Otherwise they simply get privileges taken away.
it's making you look pretty desperate. answering after 2 weeks, and then again 6h later
Looking your parent in the face and openly defying them is not "every little thing"
You're not in my home so you don't have any idea what you're talking about.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
Not abuse, but still has effects: http://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/04/spanking.aspx
I understand that it has negative effects. But so does yelling, having experienced both id say yelling is worse that a spank. 1/2
The situation in the post is worthy of a spank. Im willing to bet that the kid wouldnt pour things on the floor again 2/2
Where did I advocate yelling?
Never said you did. It is an example of disciplining. But im guessing that the child in the situation has had its fair share of talking to's
thanksfoenothing
Every one has their own opinions. My daughter was seven she called me a bitch and I smacked her mouth and she never disrespected me again.
bongles
cmererightmeow
*to your face
ITryToOnlyRespondInGifs
I remember the time I told my mom to shut up...got a smack in the face. Let’s just say I never told her to shut up ever again! I deserved it
JustSomeGuyNamedScott
Kid racka disaprin
TheRenegadeSpud
I lol’d. +1.
EVERYTHINGFUCKINGZEUS
Apparently not any more.
gingertrain
Vocally or at all? Everyone I've met that was mostly raised through punishment is very compliant in person but not talking to others.
That's not to say punishment doesn't work, but from my experience if it's your main approach all it does is train people not to get caught.
MountainYankee
Omg, that explains a lot about myself. I live on my own and I still get scared if my mom finds out that I bought another gun.
SmallHandsBigPenis
Me too! My mother’s since passed but my aunt took me in as a teen, I lie about the dumbest shit just in case. I’m 29.
ThroughTheLookingGlass
serious question... did u feel bad after?
Bad as in guilty? No. Upset that it happened? Of course.
Bad as in ashamed. Ashamed of yourself and of what happened.
I just know i was and this is coming from someone who was raised in a spanking home n uses spanking.
arkthan
I spanked each of my kids once. They knew i would do it so when i threatened them, they believed me and stopped acting up.
Ah yes, you struck your child and now she's afraid of misbehaving. Such great parenting.
limongrass
my dad used to hit me and grab my hair when i was a kid. i now keep all conversation with him minimal
MechanusIncarnate
It works as a good summary of most legal systems as well.
Isn’t that what society as a whole is? “Don’t do this or you’ll be punished”? Isn’t it good to teach your kids that?
No, you teach your kids "don't do this because it's bad for you/other people". The point of laws are to keep people safe, not to keep 1/
people from doing fun things. Things are illegal for reasons. Teach your children the reasons, not "don't do this OR ELSE". 2/2
Problem is, that teaches "attack people physically to get your way" which is not at all good to teach your kids.
humbledham
Only if you do it regularly.
frozendairybeverage
I said a curse at my mother when I was really young, she stuffed a bar of soap in my mouth to "wash it out." Never cursed around her again
MrMagoobar
Maybe that makes you a bitch?
AliBarber
Never had the urge to hit a kid after they pissed you off, huh.
I’m guessing they don’t have kids yep
I've had the urge. I just don't do it. Because I'm an adult.
Well. She was a little bit that earned her ch that day huh?
BritishBatman
You hit her in the face? Wtf. Spanking is one thing, what is wrong with you.
Spanking is the same as any other kind of physical assault on a child, actually.
JDtheAmazzzing
The split between upvotes and downvotes is really something here
EIonMusk
Well maybe her daughter shouldn't have called her own mother a bitch
therealoculus
Called my mum a bitch twice in my life. Once when i was 17 and once when i was 22. Got hit in the face both times. But you know what?
She was being a bitch and she deserved it. Shes called me a bitch before and I didn't feel the need to hit her, I apologised instead
Just gonna inject some non-anecdotal evidence: http://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/04/spanking.aspx
Blessed be thy name
mijo
Thanks for source. Interesting read on the subject
ColonelColon
From your source, “You get worse outcomes from corporal punishment than from alternative disciplinary techniques only when it is used 1)
more severely or as the primary discipline tactic.”
Kamasu0Tra
People will take that to mean that if you physically punish your child in any manner, you are making them into a murder.
It is true that previous generations probably received too much physical punishment, but getting rid of it entirely is just as bad.
why did she call you a bitch?
technicolorgirls
Because they're clearly a bitch. Who the fuck smacks a 7 year old? Kids are defenseless, christ.
She wanted a sleep over. I said no and she threw a fit. I told her to go to her room. She called be a bitch. So I slapped her mouth.
I would have too to be honest.
Dudeeronomy
A seven year old is just trying out words. They know they have power, they just don't know how to use them.
I understand why a child says sassy words. i was asking the mother what happened.
What happened is that a child was trying out words. You can't impose an adult paradigm on 7 yr old behavior.
I found out what happened!
CelestialApollo
I'm in favor of physical discipline. That's how I was raised and im perfectly fine. Never been in trouble with the law. And have a 1/?
"I'm fine, I just think that abuse is totally okay if you get mad!" -a psychopath.
Perfect relationship with my parents. You can't say or do anything these days without upsetting the soft ears of the public. If I were 2/?
Hopsnscotch
You say that as though you’re not also a part of “the public.”
Well I mean the majority I guess. Everyone is afraid to speak their minds nowadays because they feel they'll get backlash in my opinion
To say that to my parents to this day I'd get popped in the mouth. If anything society is becoming a bunch of soft ass bitch niggas
The end
GetRealSrsly
Sometimes parenrs take it too far. My mom used to choke me out.. I am.never ever laying a finger on my children.
ZimGenzko
Thing is: it’s kind of okay for smacking your child if it calls you a bitch or simulcast cases. Otherwise violence doesn’t lead anywhere.
consider yourself lucky. my dad physically disciplined me, my mom didn't. it definitely influenced which parent i thought i could trust, 1
Greatdane1231
I’m going to assume your from the USA where most adults feel it’s acceptable. But the real harm is done if the child feels it’s done out of
> im perfectly fine
emileeeeeee
As a mom of 4 kids (3 girls 1 boy), I’ve only used the above form of discipline for that exact reason and I have only had to do it once 1/2
For two of them. Not a hard smack, but more of a firm tap on the mouth. Not to hurt them, more as a way to stop them in their tracks, or 2/3
I guess to have it be known that it crosses a line that should not be crossed no matter how angry they are at me. Like my own mother, 4/?
I have never used physical discipline, I’ve always used timeouts, reward charts, etc. but I can honestly say the 2 times I got the smack 5/5
AlcoholicsAnonymousBYO
... I was secretly thrilled, and sparked an enduring fascination with kink that burns brightly to this day. ?/6
5/5 cont... I deserved it, and to this day would never disrespect my mom that way. It also taught me to use my words & think before I speak.
YoGabbaGabby
I only condone hitting when the child has done something unbelievably rude. My stepdad when I was 6 beat my bare ass because I left some 1/?
Trash out in the backyard when I was asked to clean it I had never been beat before then and it was the most humiliating thing that had 2/?
Ever happened to me it didn’t teach me a lesson all it did is teach me to hate my stepdads guts for 14 years. Then he sobered up and 3/4
Became my dad instead of my stepdad. So I never want my kids to feel that way about me ever. So I’ll only hit them in extreme circumstances
ShadowScorch
Looking at the replies in this thread like
Right.. so, I'm going to try to be reasonable here. What this guy did is wrong. For any younger kids on this site, don't learn from him >
Obviously, there's many ways to discipline. Not popular, but spanking is easily the most effective if done right. Unfortunately, many don't
Too many people discipline out of anger, without clear reasons, and w/out love as the motivation. This ends up in abuse and resentment.
Other end of the spectrum, there's others who let their children grow up without any real discipline. Taking things or grounding only works>
Fuck it's depressing that people are upvoting this shit.
The votes are because a lot of people were beat when they grew up and they don't want to believe there's anything wrong with it because 1/2
They think that means something is now wrong with them. But there are better ways to discipline than hitting; it's lazy and harmful. 2/2
It’s not lazy, and it’s certainly not harmful. It teaches the kid that their actions have consequences.Only the fucked up feel good about it
Right, I was spanked and hated it. Someone explained it well, if you can’t legally hit an adult for being an asshole why can you hit a kid?
Or 'if I were to hit your kid it's a crime, but if I hit my kid, it's ok?'
I say spanked, but it was mostly being whacked with wooden spoons and plastic spatulas.
fireinthebarrel
Please don't have kids
Wait,... what? Ur saying the person that doesn't wanna smack children shouldn't have kids? Or am i high?
yes, we need more parents who get off on hitting kids
I see, well i better start doing my part.
It really is to be honest. I've even spanked my son n i still think this shit is sad. Why would a 7 year old call her momma a bitch?
She probably is a giant bitch, she slapped a 7 yo. At least we know she has a smart kid.
You take care of shit like that in your everyday life? Or do you reserve hitting just for your tiny, defenseless offspring?
Fighting is hardly that. It teaches respect...
LemonLymanDotCom1
caramia8
Sorry you’re getting downvotes to hell. As a child who grew up getting hit for disrespect, I’ve had this thought too.
The downvotes say more about them than they do about me. I'll survive, lol.
Doubt your parents enjoyed it. And I’d bet you’re a whole lot more respectful than you would have been.
upvoted you because i agree. my dad once hit me in the face, when i was 2 y/o. mom said if he ever did it again, she'd kill him.
ndndndndndnd42
Wow you fighting every person lol
Lol, nah. Just trying to put a spin on that shit that might make them realize how fucking stupid it is.
Well she is 27 now: well adjusted college educated employed happily married successfull upper middle class never done drugs or arrested. So.
Still doesn't make it right. Still makes you an asshole for hitting a child. I don't give a flying fuck who you are, if you go and hit >>
NotWrenP
Damn you didn't have to burn him to death from that roast
Kanatatina
Watched my sis call both her kids assholes in front of our parents tonight haha
FNHuskys
My kids are too lazy to switch Netflix profiles to their own. Now I have Sam and Cat and the like as part of my recommendations. ASSHOLES.
Heimy
Mine used to do this too, they no longer have an xbox in their room.
mollison
Go to Account -> Viewing Activity and you can delete those from your account's memory, should help
kythorn
sillysalmon
One of OP's children obviously.
kalvious
What the fuck is this from
woobeeee
Eddy Murphy movie called Coming to America... Fuck
PulpFreeNonFiction
To*
blahblahghost
be
Tredgy
Some of those nursery rhymes are legit catchy and adorable tho... "Baaaabyyyy shark boo booboo boo boo ba booboo baby shark!"
PoliticalWanderer
"Kids are just like any other group of people. A few winners, a WHOLE lot of losers!" - George Carlin
Shawnthegirl
Just because you call someone an asshole doesn't mean you don't love them and treat them well.
baoTohdakaMeow
Im in favour of you teaching those assholes to be decent people
NobodyJustBrad
Why do I immediately hate peoole who say "dead ass"?
markman2001
my dad called me a bastard today and i just laughed, more of an insult to him
TGWolf
Their attitude is a reflection on the way you raised them. So you have to call yourself an asshole as well.
spartantalk
I always hated "kids will be kids." Assholes thrive in environments that don't stop them. Kids don't grow up because parents don't help em
peakbleak
Children are people. Sometimes people are dicks.
evilpsych
Kids are assholes.
PoeKneeTa
Deadass assholes.
libraGiraffePoster
True statement..
DickPicEnthusiast
People are assholes
LebenderGeist
It's because nobody cares to disapline them anymore.
PepsiIsBetterThanCocaCola
*discipline
LebenderGeist
I've messed up but thank you for future reference. ????
miniape115
*discipline
LebenderGeist
Ouchies, sorry lad.
Wyldkat80
Truth! I’ve seen so many little asshole stray I’ve opted out!! No assholes for me!!
LebenderGeist
You do that buddy.
Knazoo
^ This
LebenderGeist
I find it funny how in this comment I'm getting praised for calling out how children are little shits but on another it triggers people.
ShakeAndBake2865
“Dumbass” -Red Forman, refer to that 70’s show for any parenting advice
EyesLikeTheSky
I'm surprised with how many imgur users were beat as children
GreenYawgmoth
I'm not. Imgur's practically a population study on its effects.
HaryTheVII
I learnt what's right and what's wrong because my parents were not pussies.
Willis073
I wouldn't say calling your children names good parenting.
BellaMiaSerraPlz
Makes you an asshole parent for raising asshole kids. Js
synspyder
I've had kindergarteners do that to me before. Kids look for boundaries. It doesn't make them assholes. It makes them unfinished adults.
Nccbgf
"By the age of four your child should be desirable or else." Some genius
Fachera
Mate NO!!! I just say No. There was a period of revolt but by now 3yo crotch goblin knows I won’t budge and we have 0 drama.
mirrelle
My kid is an asshole. He purposefully wakes his baby brothers up when he's having a tantrum. Will always move to their doorway.
ChickensAreGoodPets
hey the wiggles are the shit
Limnic
People here are saying "teach them not to be assholes" but then I wonder, how? Surely, giving them a good old beating is no longer accepted?
4254
It is not a binary choice of either beat your child or have your child be an asshole. There are other options. Many assholes were beaten.
becauseurwrong
Who's gonna tell them their kid is a cat?
MadLogTheGr8
Well if your kids don’t treat u with respect u probably don’t deserve it either! U r in charge - stop whining
PrinceMoheezy
Yeah, im in favor of calling your kids assholes
Benegesseritwitch75
I have absolutely called my kids names, when they we're too little to know what I was saying, now old enough to understand how I mean it.
libraGiraffePoster
I will allow it (:
Poisonspit
Just like your parents' friends did.
ConveyEmotionsViaGifs
I prefer little shits
Corgishavedisproportionatelysmalllegs
All in favor, say aye
Tionki
Though when I call them; I just get shitty reception.
Mikeiller
Yes, just not to their face.
IntergalacticCinematic
I said to my 15 year olds face last week. He’s 6’2 230 and thinks he’s hot Shit. If a Dad can’t tell his son he’s being an ass, than who can
ComicUpgrade
My mom calls me a sonofa bitch sometimes
tdvideo
So... she called herself a bitch??
SinisterScienceLesbian
She called his dad a bitch
DomCarIndustries
Well...
LogicalUpset
Damn that’s a good loop
Fishkeeper
Don't insult your children to their faces, just teach them better.
Vercci
Fuck that call cunts cunts.
Nerdygasm
I playfully call them buttheads but they know I'm serious when my voice goes deep and I just say "Hey!"
justThisPerson
Okay, just balance it out at other times with encouragement though. It's all about balance. And love.
PuhTater
That is what spanking is for. Disciplining your child is not abuse
Nullvoid919
But don't you worry it might cause a bad relationship between you two and eventually make your child do worse things? It can go right though
flapperfemmefatale
i think it's more effective to emulate real-world consequences. i stopped listening to my dad once i realized that he was too old to spank
flapperfemmefatale
*me
Killertortilla
literally the definition but ok.
AGremlinWithALicoriceDispenser
That doesn't work for me. Take away Wi-Fi? Works every time.
SpaghettoRaviolo
Hit them harder. On the bare ass
incrediblyordinary
Sorry mate, Harder isn't always the answer. But I believe you're trying to raise good kids, so for that I commend you.
SpaghettoRaviolo
My mom used to use a metal spatula
TypicalGayMan
Wow, what class. Some people got hit with a wooden spoon.
SpaghettoRaviolo
My dad beat me with jumper cables
EdmundDPython
As long as people remember there is a line between discipline and abuse. The use of Belts, canes or a closed hand for example equates abuse
Rips4w
And hitting your child is a lazy fucking way to parent.
DushBid911
I'm sure you have a family at home, right? Have you ever familied?
TehStoner
realfakedoorssss
Dude wtf why is this getting downvoted?
GreenYawgmoth
imgur's cretin brigade is out in full force. Might makes right! Gotta teach 'em early that fear = respect and you're never safe, you know.
Lickenziedickens
Because discipline creates week rounded adults. And discipline =/= abuse. Spare the rod spoil the child.
Lickenziedickens
Sigh... Well* not week or weak
realfakedoorssss
Is everyone on imgur a right wing retard
RatchetTheWusky
I actually liked my dad hitting me. Taught me not to mess with him if he uses a certain tone. Also helps when I am driving. He gets worried,
Rapiecage
so he beat you, and tamed you like a puppy...for life? That's not an argument for hitting kids
RatchetTheWusky
Uses that tone and we avoid a crash...
sekkor4
And how are you going to discipline once they don't care what you take away and realise you are all bark and no bite?
ydwyrd
How are you going to discipline once they're big enough to hit back?
flapperfemmefatale
How do you plan to discipline your kids once they get big enough to hit back?
sekkor4
Once they are old enough to hit back.... they will not need to be hit. Because they will have been raised right.
ydwyrd
That's extremely naive, "It won't be a problem because it will totally work and there won't be any negative side effects."
AuburnTiger91
if my kids were throwing a fit or about to do something dangerous I smacked them to get their attention. Not lazy. Effective.
Penguin90
Not every child responds to time out or taking away things. I'd rather my kids be mad at me for a while than be assholes for life.
flapperfemmefatale
May not last just a little while. My dad's choice to spank me definitely affected our relationship permanently. I don't respect him 1
Penguin90
Every parent is different and maybe he didn't do things right but that doesn't mean that all parents who spank their children are abusive.
flapperfemmefatale
i disagree. to me, hitting is hitting. if you can't do it to an adult for punishment, what gives you the right to do it to a child?
flapperfemmefatale
2 or trust him the way I do my mother.
Lickenziedickens
Then he should have hit you harder
Rapiecage
with you teaching them that violence is the way to settle every little thing, they'll prolly be assholes for life
Penguin90
I don't spank them for "every little thing". They get spanked for hitting or biting. Otherwise they simply get privileges taken away.
Rapiecage
it's making you look pretty desperate. answering after 2 weeks, and then again 6h later
PuhTater
Looking your parent in the face and openly defying them is not "every little thing"
Penguin90
You're not in my home so you don't have any idea what you're talking about.
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
Not abuse, but still has effects: http://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/04/spanking.aspx
PuhTater
I understand that it has negative effects. But so does yelling, having experienced both id say yelling is worse that a spank. 1/2
PuhTater
The situation in the post is worthy of a spank. Im willing to bet that the kid wouldnt pour things on the floor again 2/2
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
Where did I advocate yelling?
PuhTater
Never said you did. It is an example of disciplining. But im guessing that the child in the situation has had its fair share of talking to's
thanksfoenothing
Every one has their own opinions. My daughter was seven she called me a bitch and I smacked her mouth and she never disrespected me again.
bongles
cmererightmeow
*to your face
ITryToOnlyRespondInGifs
I remember the time I told my mom to shut up...got a smack in the face. Let’s just say I never told her to shut up ever again! I deserved it
JustSomeGuyNamedScott
Kid racka disaprin
TheRenegadeSpud
I lol’d. +1.
EVERYTHINGFUCKINGZEUS
Apparently not any more.
gingertrain
Vocally or at all? Everyone I've met that was mostly raised through punishment is very compliant in person but not talking to others.
gingertrain
That's not to say punishment doesn't work, but from my experience if it's your main approach all it does is train people not to get caught.
MountainYankee
Omg, that explains a lot about myself. I live on my own and I still get scared if my mom finds out that I bought another gun.
SmallHandsBigPenis
Me too! My mother’s since passed but my aunt took me in as a teen, I lie about the dumbest shit just in case. I’m 29.
ThroughTheLookingGlass
serious question... did u feel bad after?
thanksfoenothing
Bad as in guilty? No. Upset that it happened? Of course.
ThroughTheLookingGlass
Bad as in ashamed. Ashamed of yourself and of what happened.
ThroughTheLookingGlass
I just know i was and this is coming from someone who was raised in a spanking home n uses spanking.
arkthan
I spanked each of my kids once. They knew i would do it so when i threatened them, they believed me and stopped acting up.
Fishkeeper
Ah yes, you struck your child and now she's afraid of misbehaving. Such great parenting.
limongrass
my dad used to hit me and grab my hair when i was a kid. i now keep all conversation with him minimal
MechanusIncarnate
It works as a good summary of most legal systems as well.
TypicalGayMan
Isn’t that what society as a whole is? “Don’t do this or you’ll be punished”? Isn’t it good to teach your kids that?
Fishkeeper
No, you teach your kids "don't do this because it's bad for you/other people". The point of laws are to keep people safe, not to keep 1/
Fishkeeper
people from doing fun things. Things are illegal for reasons. Teach your children the reasons, not "don't do this OR ELSE". 2/2
GreenYawgmoth
Problem is, that teaches "attack people physically to get your way" which is not at all good to teach your kids.
humbledham
Only if you do it regularly.
frozendairybeverage
I said a curse at my mother when I was really young, she stuffed a bar of soap in my mouth to "wash it out." Never cursed around her again
MrMagoobar
Maybe that makes you a bitch?
AliBarber
Never had the urge to hit a kid after they pissed you off, huh.
evilpsych
I’m guessing they don’t have kids yep
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
I've had the urge. I just don't do it. Because I'm an adult.
cmererightmeow
evilpsych
Well. She was a little bit that earned her ch that day huh?
BritishBatman
You hit her in the face? Wtf. Spanking is one thing, what is wrong with you.
GreenYawgmoth
Spanking is the same as any other kind of physical assault on a child, actually.
JDtheAmazzzing
The split between upvotes and downvotes is really something here
EIonMusk
Well maybe her daughter shouldn't have called her own mother a bitch
therealoculus
Called my mum a bitch twice in my life. Once when i was 17 and once when i was 22. Got hit in the face both times. But you know what?
therealoculus
She was being a bitch and she deserved it. Shes called me a bitch before and I didn't feel the need to hit her, I apologised instead
InkyBlinkyPinkyAndClyde
Just gonna inject some non-anecdotal evidence: http://www.apa.org/monitor/2012/04/spanking.aspx
EyesLikeTheSky
Blessed be thy name
mijo
Thanks for source. Interesting read on the subject
ColonelColon
From your source, “You get worse outcomes from corporal punishment than from alternative disciplinary techniques only when it is used 1)
ColonelColon
more severely or as the primary discipline tactic.”
Kamasu0Tra
People will take that to mean that if you physically punish your child in any manner, you are making them into a murder.
Kamasu0Tra
It is true that previous generations probably received too much physical punishment, but getting rid of it entirely is just as bad.
ThroughTheLookingGlass
why did she call you a bitch?
technicolorgirls
Because they're clearly a bitch. Who the fuck smacks a 7 year old? Kids are defenseless, christ.
thanksfoenothing
She wanted a sleep over. I said no and she threw a fit. I told her to go to her room. She called be a bitch. So I slapped her mouth.
ThroughTheLookingGlass
I would have too to be honest.
Dudeeronomy
A seven year old is just trying out words. They know they have power, they just don't know how to use them.
ThroughTheLookingGlass
I understand why a child says sassy words. i was asking the mother what happened.
Dudeeronomy
What happened is that a child was trying out words. You can't impose an adult paradigm on 7 yr old behavior.
ThroughTheLookingGlass
I found out what happened!
CelestialApollo
I'm in favor of physical discipline. That's how I was raised and im perfectly fine. Never been in trouble with the law. And have a 1/?
GreenYawgmoth
"I'm fine, I just think that abuse is totally okay if you get mad!" -a psychopath.
CelestialApollo
Perfect relationship with my parents. You can't say or do anything these days without upsetting the soft ears of the public. If I were 2/?
Hopsnscotch
You say that as though you’re not also a part of “the public.”
CelestialApollo
Well I mean the majority I guess. Everyone is afraid to speak their minds nowadays because they feel they'll get backlash in my opinion
CelestialApollo
To say that to my parents to this day I'd get popped in the mouth. If anything society is becoming a bunch of soft ass bitch niggas
CelestialApollo
The end
GetRealSrsly
Sometimes parenrs take it too far. My mom used to choke me out.. I am.never ever laying a finger on my children.
ZimGenzko
Thing is: it’s kind of okay for smacking your child if it calls you a bitch or simulcast cases. Otherwise violence doesn’t lead anywhere.
flapperfemmefatale
consider yourself lucky. my dad physically disciplined me, my mom didn't. it definitely influenced which parent i thought i could trust, 1
Greatdane1231
I’m going to assume your from the USA where most adults feel it’s acceptable. But the real harm is done if the child feels it’s done out of
Dudeeronomy
> im perfectly fine
emileeeeeee
As a mom of 4 kids (3 girls 1 boy), I’ve only used the above form of discipline for that exact reason and I have only had to do it once 1/2
emileeeeeee
For two of them. Not a hard smack, but more of a firm tap on the mouth. Not to hurt them, more as a way to stop them in their tracks, or 2/3
emileeeeeee
I guess to have it be known that it crosses a line that should not be crossed no matter how angry they are at me. Like my own mother, 4/?
emileeeeeee
I have never used physical discipline, I’ve always used timeouts, reward charts, etc. but I can honestly say the 2 times I got the smack 5/5
AlcoholicsAnonymousBYO
... I was secretly thrilled, and sparked an enduring fascination with kink that burns brightly to this day. ?/6
emileeeeeee
5/5 cont... I deserved it, and to this day would never disrespect my mom that way. It also taught me to use my words & think before I speak.
YoGabbaGabby
I only condone hitting when the child has done something unbelievably rude. My stepdad when I was 6 beat my bare ass because I left some 1/?
YoGabbaGabby
Trash out in the backyard when I was asked to clean it I had never been beat before then and it was the most humiliating thing that had 2/?
YoGabbaGabby
Ever happened to me it didn’t teach me a lesson all it did is teach me to hate my stepdads guts for 14 years. Then he sobered up and 3/4
YoGabbaGabby
Became my dad instead of my stepdad. So I never want my kids to feel that way about me ever. So I’ll only hit them in extreme circumstances
ShadowScorch
Looking at the replies in this thread like
incrediblyordinary
Right.. so, I'm going to try to be reasonable here. What this guy did is wrong. For any younger kids on this site, don't learn from him >
incrediblyordinary
Obviously, there's many ways to discipline. Not popular, but spanking is easily the most effective if done right. Unfortunately, many don't
incrediblyordinary
Too many people discipline out of anger, without clear reasons, and w/out love as the motivation. This ends up in abuse and resentment.
incrediblyordinary
Other end of the spectrum, there's others who let their children grow up without any real discipline. Taking things or grounding only works>
Rips4w
Fuck it's depressing that people are upvoting this shit.
EyesLikeTheSky
The votes are because a lot of people were beat when they grew up and they don't want to believe there's anything wrong with it because 1/2
EyesLikeTheSky
They think that means something is now wrong with them. But there are better ways to discipline than hitting; it's lazy and harmful. 2/2
TypicalGayMan
It’s not lazy, and it’s certainly not harmful. It teaches the kid that their actions have consequences.Only the fucked up feel good about it
SmallHandsBigPenis
Right, I was spanked and hated it. Someone explained it well, if you can’t legally hit an adult for being an asshole why can you hit a kid?
TehStoner
Or 'if I were to hit your kid it's a crime, but if I hit my kid, it's ok?'
SmallHandsBigPenis
I say spanked, but it was mostly being whacked with wooden spoons and plastic spatulas.
fireinthebarrel
Please don't have kids
ThroughTheLookingGlass
Wait,... what? Ur saying the person that doesn't wanna smack children shouldn't have kids? Or am i high?
Rapiecage
yes, we need more parents who get off on hitting kids
ThroughTheLookingGlass
I see, well i better start doing my part.
ThroughTheLookingGlass
It really is to be honest. I've even spanked my son n i still think this shit is sad. Why would a 7 year old call her momma a bitch?
SmallHandsBigPenis
She probably is a giant bitch, she slapped a 7 yo. At least we know she has a smart kid.
Rips4w
You take care of shit like that in your everyday life? Or do you reserve hitting just for your tiny, defenseless offspring?
TypicalGayMan
Fighting is hardly that. It teaches respect...
LemonLymanDotCom1
caramia8
Sorry you’re getting downvotes to hell. As a child who grew up getting hit for disrespect, I’ve had this thought too.
Rips4w
The downvotes say more about them than they do about me. I'll survive, lol.
TypicalGayMan
Doubt your parents enjoyed it. And I’d bet you’re a whole lot more respectful than you would have been.
flapperfemmefatale
upvoted you because i agree. my dad once hit me in the face, when i was 2 y/o. mom said if he ever did it again, she'd kill him.
ndndndndndnd42
Wow you fighting every person lol
Rips4w
Lol, nah. Just trying to put a spin on that shit that might make them realize how fucking stupid it is.
thanksfoenothing
Well she is 27 now: well adjusted college educated employed happily married successfull upper middle class never done drugs or arrested. So.
TehStoner
Still doesn't make it right. Still makes you an asshole for hitting a child. I don't give a flying fuck who you are, if you go and hit >>
NotWrenP
Damn you didn't have to burn him to death from that roast