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killerofthesky
*looks down at her rugby shirt and jeans* I think I got the wrong cocktail of hormones. Someone want to switch?
Thesinlesssinner
*looks down at giant puffy sweater and sweatpants* Don't worry I think I've got the same cocktail of hormones going on here too.
GridCube
as a dude that actually loves more seeing women dressed up than naked :( this makes me sad
Blergbot
As a lady. Me too.
baneinadress
It's not that hard. We want to dress sexy and not get stalked, felt up, sexually assaulted or hit on by every guy. All has happened to me.
dantemirror
But it seems unfair to declare its every man's fault. I dont make myself responsible for every asshole that does not know common courtesy.
shellshock3d
This post is literally the whole reason everyone dresses 'slutty' on Halloween. Cause it's the one time we can without getting shit for it.
CaptainHanderpants
As a guy, it's a double standard that "sexy" has to be considered "slutty". If you look good, you look good!
Roundsington
My female friend informs me that looking is expected; staring is rude.
Toxicempanada
That seems fair.
Lamplovesme
As a guy, I think a girl looks best in a nice summer dress. But it is also never okay to be obscene to a stranger.
FightingEvilbyMoonlight
Okay, but you do realize what you think looks best is irrelevant; it only matters what she thinks look best -- within public decency laws.
PaperCl1p
You gals are never going to get anywhere w_/ dis. Men can't fathom dressing to 'feel good about yourself' dressing is completely utilitarian
QueenFang21496
This. Exactly. I don't care what some dude fancy. If I want to wear a low cut top or a turtle neck it's my choice. I'm not doing it for you.
Lamplovesme
I dress to impress nobody, so I completely agree. But if an SO thinks I look best in something, you bet your ass I'll wear it. But that's me
shaoren
As a girl I wish guys would understand women aren't dressing to please YOU
Lamplovesme
That is not what I said at all. However, that is not always the case, usually when you dress up you dress to impress others. Usually.
lokkebo
Disagree. I definitely dress up and check myself out wayyy more than anyone else does. Goddamn I'm sexy.
Lamplovesme
Whatever makes you happy :)
itwasalltaken
I want that leather garter belt
cawcawmotherfuckers
http://blackmilkclothing.com/collections/suspenders enjoy :)
iendandubegin
IKR!?
cawcawmotherfuckers
http://blackmilkclothing.com/collections/suspenders :)
NotAgainRichard
Suspender Lace Leggings made by BlackMilk, $99AUD. Theyre Lycra not leather. Made in Australia. it wont let me post the link.
cawcawmotherfuckers
I know they're not leather, but still really nice and so worth the price.
kydn
I'm a guy and want to wear stuff like that out and about too...
PhauxTheFox
well do it anyways
sildraug
REPEATED BOLDED STATEMENT IN ALL CAPS INSTEAD
ShutUpImWorking
*INSTEAD*
ATFAgentlol
"The size you wish your dick was." General statements insulting a gender are only sexist if men do it.
sinala
who says so?
albatross17
Finally I found someone else on here who realizes this simple fact. "If men weren't such fucking animals..." is also a sexist generalization
BeezelPony
Yay, another good post ruined by the comments. Once again, I hate everyone.
sinala
:D hehe
TonyGarbanzo
Clothes suck #nudistrevolution
88mixy
Wahoo! The only reason I wear clothes is to not make others uncomfortable and for weather reasons. Go nakedness!
DeansCas
I know! I wore a belly shirt once in public and had random guys touching my belly! I went from feeling fabulous to rushing home to change.
Monarchist
thats extremely wrong you should have alerted the authorities as well because I get glancing accidentally not groping someones stomach..
DeansCas
I didn't think it was worth reporting that guys kept touching my belly. I was sixteen and freaked out.
Monarchist
now that your saying u were 16 that just makes me think wow this is even less alright then it was before somehow.
MrROFLKNIFE
Generally when people touch you without consent you lop their hands off
jackbos
Male here: If I could sexually arouse women just by wearing man-slut clothing I would totally do it every day.
UtterlyImpossible
Fuck yes. What we wear is not the problem, what they do/say about it is.
odysseus
Hmm. I want to disagree, because I like looking at "fabulous looking women" however I agree, because I'd probably wear heels, too. I'm male.
takingthehobbitstoisengard
What do you like about heels? (just curious)
BLVT
Makes your calves look fan-fucking-tastic, is what they do. Also your butt. If you're into that sort of thing.
odysseus
Actually, thinking about that, probably not heels, but definitely something in the lower area. Having said that, I could try a kilt.
NexiKuro
personally? Being slightly taller would be kinda nice I guess. And wedges are the coolest things.
dubhgradh
bothers me that i can't dress "too flamboyantly" or else "i'll look gay." (shrug) we all got problems.
thewhereiankelly
my bio of sex class taught that women oppress the sexuality of other woman because they feel in competition,it's not just men that stop sexy
namecrisis
Yes
88mixy
From what I've read, societally speaking the pressure from women is much larger. But men reinforce by touching/being inappropriate
StupidMouth
See, I just do what I want and maintain a strict "you can look but if you try to touch I will cut your sex organs from your body" policy.
Kompi
We have a winner!
underyourbreath
ah yes, and then they tout the old song and dance of "such a crazy bitch! what does she expect wearing that skirt?"
quintusfontane
If they're shouting that, you didn't cut them enough.
Sturbinator
Sounds like these ladies are more worried about other women telling them to dress appropriately instead of men hitting on them.
theblackcanaryyy
replace women with society
badapparu
If only we could.
diabolicaljazz
There's both.
Sturbinator
I guess I don't understand. I'm not an attractive man so I've never had people drooling over me. Is it a "right kind of mood" thing? 1/2
Sturbinator
Aren't there days where women dress "sexy" and they're looking for that attention, but there's also days where they want to left alone? 2/2
diabolicaljazz
I think there's a certain kind of attention that is desired. Women don't want to be harassed; they want to be respected. If you hit on them
Sturbinator
As much as I want to get into this conversation, I probably shouldn't. It will come out being very "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"
diabolicaljazz
in a respectful way, generally they aren't going to respond negatively, even if they're not interested. And even when they do respond
WorldsFirstAnalrapist
Those woman sound like people I would not enjoy spending time with. Young 20 somethings that have little perspective of the world. Meh.
FfonyPony
everything is relative. Whilst ~20s don't get what it's like to jerk off to home appliances, you, sir (1/2)
FfonyPony
do not understand how painful unwanted attention from strangers is. esp from <5'9" men. w/ facial hair. who congregate outside of my apt 2/2
misterplasma
Have an up vote
ZekeWildfire
Welcome to Tumblr... *siiigh*
luposlipaphobia
hi. Perfectly normal woman here, but I like to do this as well. I love high heels short dresses, lace and so on. I just feel comfy in it.(1)
luposlipaphobia
But I wouldnt wear that outside because it's not appropriate, but still I do love wearing it, and I dont have some kind of messed uo mind.
theflathead
The best insight on this post is from the world's first anal rapist. Gonna go ahead and leave now.
WorldsFirstAnalrapist
Don't worry. I got this.
StuckInBetweeen
As a 19 year old male, I would hate being around them too.
RabbitoftheMoon
Thank you. It's one thing to have a little self confidence/self respect, but this post is pure narcissism.
lokkebo
Does being the worlds first anal rapist give you a whole lot of options with whom you spend your time?
MagicDerp
As a woman, THANK YOU.
Mshine
As a man, thank YOU.
Mitte
you have a place in our hearts, kind lady
MagicDerp
d'aww, (blush) you're just a nice person, you!
sowetoninja
These are a bunch of self-obsessed teens that think the world revolves around their vaginas. I just described 75% of Tumblr for you.
TDWPTWD
THANK YOU
takingthehobbitstoisengard
From your username, I gather they probably wouldn't enjoy spending time with you either.
WorldsFirstAnalrapist
My point exactly. You judge me via my username on here and in the real world you'll be judged by how you dress.
takingthehobbitstoisengard
Yep. And? I wasn't disputing that in the least.
WorldsFirstAnalrapist
Word to your mother.
kickinballs
I feel sexy wearing sweatpants and a hoodie. It may sound bitchy, but I love my body no matter what I'm wearing.
BiteTheHandsThatThieve
I wish I could feel sexy. I have no idea what that's even like. You're fucking lucky.
HoneymoonChild
I feel sexy in the color red and when I wear tight jeans. Because I have lovely hips. Everyone should just feel sexy in whatever they want.
umbreon26
I envy you.
kickinballs
I started being able to appreciate myself more when I began practicing yoga.
HardSalami
I feel hood when I wear my khakis, but I also feel good when I wear my sweats. Confidence is the real key.
malditadesgraciada
i snorted when i read you feel hood in khakis. thank you
HardSalami
Lol, I didn't even realize I said hood. I meant good, but I'm sticking with hood, chyea.
MagicDerp
That's the spirit. :) I like it. It doesn't sound bitchy. (As a female, I high five you.)
varbeam
You, kickinballs, could be either gender and you seem pretty real. Thank you. Aggressive screen name though.... ow
andreyhimself
Hoodie.. you stole from a boy! :D
BigFatFae
Wearing revealing clothes isn't inherently liberating. Wearing conservative clothes isn't inherently liberating. It's the choice that is. :)
ShadyPuppy
there is nothing more attractive to me then a chill girl wearing a hoodie and sweatpants.
catcatcatcatcatcatcat
I like your attitude :) I'm not mad about wearing tracksuit bottoms but i feel great in leggings and a ma-hoosive jumper :)
Snoweh
Yeah... Wearing 'sexy' clothes is NOT my thing AT ALL. I actually hate it. I'd rather wear hoodies or whatever. Each to their own.
Canneverthinkofagoodname
Doesn't sound bitchy , you sound chill as fuck.
kickinballs
That's everyone's impression of me lol
pigeonheart
It's only bitchy if you're trying to imply that people who like to dress differently do it because they have low self esteem.
sinala
my new rolemodel
LurkersGottaLurk
Let's eat junkfood and play videogames.
franklymydearidontgiveadamnaboutmakingyoursammich
....Can we be best friends? Cause this sounds AWESOME.
LurkersGottaLurk
Sure. What kind of soda do you want? There is also a 7-11 nearby.
franklymydearidontgiveadamnaboutmakingyoursammich
Dr. Pepper por favor! What kind of junk food? I'll grab allllllls the junk foods.
LurkersGottaLurk
I was thinking... Nachos prepped in the oven, a bag of M&Ms, and a bucket of Twizzlers to be used a straws. Maybe some cookies.
dontbeadebbydownvoter
As a lady I just wanna be comfy. Wear whatever makes you comfy too.
MorganMcJiggleson
I definitely value comfy as well.
leftypride
I am currently in leggings and a tank top. COZY AS FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK!
mwppmarauders
With me, depends on the day. Some days I wanna rock a corset, some days I wanna rock sweatpants. It's fun :)
soukmania
tion, comfort as you said, and fashion. And fashion is only related to social codes. If they feel beautiful, it's only because of those
stephaluffagus
Idk I was happiest when wearing wildly beautiful things must of my peers did not approve of. I think fashion can be intensely personal.
Fierfly
Ill take a cute girl in a hoodie and jeans over a girl in a tight short skirt and heels any day TYVM.
redheadnurse
Sign me up!
JessThe2ndBestt
Yoga pants are the shiiiiiiit haha
sanguinecupcake
What if what is most comfortable is men's clothes? I have a boxy body and women's clothes are always cut too tight and wrong.
Mokoni
As a lady...HOW THE FUCK DO YOU GET COMFORTABLE IN 5" STILETTOS? I like jeans and a tee.
Chirri
Probably by wearing nothing by 5" heels for years, and then discovering you have Barbie feet and your doctor tells you to stop that shit 1/x
Chirri
because you are now incapable of walking flat footed without experiencing a great deal of pain. Yes, some women do this. Yes, THAT STUPID.
snapesnapeseverussnapeDUMBLEDORE
YES. I'll stick with my sweatpants and tshirts.
SweetMotherOfHades
And no bra.
tiger68
you are goddamn right, sister.
Cp3hoe
wear the hell whatever you like.
soukmania
social codes they condemn in other's people point of view.
Thesinlesssinner
As another lady, I agree. They can have their heels and corsets, I'll stick with my Adventure Time footy jammies thank you.
soukmania
Many girls feel beautiful in provocative clothes. But it's not their style, and they just end up being trashy in the end.
soukmania
To many wear stilettos heels and can't even walk with them.
iloveyousushi
Sorry, I love my heels. To each their own
Thesinlesssinner
I can't wear heels, because I will literally fall and break my ankles, but you should be able to wear the fuck out of them & not be ogled.
cluelessnameless
But if that's what makes you happy, then go for it. c: You're very right, to each their own. I just tend to die in heels.
dontbeadebbydownvoter
Why are you apologizing to me?
iloveyousushi
I'm Canadian
takingthehobbitstoisengard
I'm really glad leggings and long jumpers are in fashion because I'm never wearing pants again. FREEDOM!
Monarchist
I have no clue what long jumpers are but Awwww yis on the leggings please proceed ;D
takingthehobbitstoisengard
Jumpers are sweaters! To me a sweater is a very specific type of material, so I hate using the word for knitted things.
Monarchist
*gasp* that sounds awesome! you may borrow my sweater if you wish but I'm 6'7 so its like a small dress if your not that tall xD
overwerk
THIS. FIGHT THE SKINNY JEANS. -engages fist thwashing-
Monarchist
as a man I agree plz wear whatever yah like <3
Monarchist
as a man I agree plz wear whatever yah like <3
JessThe2ndBestt
I wanna try out jeggings, you can be comfy without looking comfy!
MustachedSloth
As a guy who confused people by wearing jeans in the middle of summer. this.
ishallhaveanarmyofpekingese
As a girl - Black jeans and a t-shirt = summer attire.. people ask if it's like melting
MustachedSloth
and do you just tell them that your audacious as fuck?
ishallhaveanarmyofpekingese
Indeed I do
MustachedSloth
Then you are now going on my list of heroes.
ChakkaMofo
But if I wore that skirt, my balls would hang out.
LurkersGottaLurk
Free ballin'
phopenguin
Let 'em sway in the cool gentle breeze~
soukmania
I think what is said above (not your comment, the tumblr post) is utter hypocrisy. There are only 3 aspects in clothes: environmental protec
QueenFang21496
The comments on this post is giving me a head ache... I want to dress the way I want and not be harrased. Is that so hard to understand?
Roundsington
No. No, it isn't difficult to understand at all.
danvolodar
I want to go undressed, but the police arrests me over public nudity. Why is the society forcing its norms upon me?!
afrofrycook
Yet some dress to get attention. So males are often confused and we just end up doing what we want as well.
hempfandango
That's great and everything, but the folks in this tumblr post are being sexist shitbaskets.
supersloo
Yeah... I agree with the point of their posts, but not with how they're saying it.
ConfusedFlareon
Because they're saying they love their slutty clothes for themselves but don 't feel comfortable wearing them because people comment? Um
albatross17
No, because of statements like "if men weren't such fucking animals"
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kenton
It's like racism. If you don't experience it firsthand, it can be difficult to understand just how pervasive it is.
TheBigLemeowski
I wish I could upvoye you a million time. The amout of whore and slut cements are disturbing. Why call someone that for an outfit?+1 to you
TheBigLemeowski
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Killerby
A cam girl is not the same as a prostitute.
larry3000
to also be fair, she is no more deserving of a sexual assault than any other woman.
Leninghola
I want to wear a clownsuit and a sock over my penis, but people would comment, so I don't.
crazyfrancoamerican
Im all about not caring what ppl think, but its hard to randomly put glitter on ur face or wear high boots while getting judgy looks :/
Derpentine
Welcome to reality. It doesn't obey your idiosyncracies. It simply is. Deal with it
wonkus
I want to wear a vest made out of $100 bills and not get robbed. Is that so hard to understand?
SmexyFish452
As a male who wears heels, this.
Monarchist
well you go m8
Bodi
"...like 90 % of my fucking wardrobe now is just for cam.." CAM show? So you want to dress sexy in public w/the same clothes you want ppl to
theblackcanaryyy
pretty sure her boyfriend's name is cam
Berrypickerasfuck
Yeah, as someone who used to do that sort of thing? No... it's for camera.
sumowoman
Maybe his boyfriend's name is Camera.
sumowoman
Oh dear... her.
Voldemort930
I thought it was short for Cameron
albatross17
Actually, this person's tumblr page has a lot of pictures and gifs of her stripping in front of a camera. So cam might be short for camera
Voldemort930
Nice investigative reporting
albatross17
Technically not stripping, more like sexy dancing
SacreDoom
No. It's not something else just because you call it something else. An elephant is still an elephant, even if you call it a giraffe.
lokitheinane
and your fucking point is?
Bodi
Guess it was over your head? here, simplified for you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J7QNw1LRJv4
lokitheinane
I guess I just think that when a comedian says it on a stage as part of an act, I assume it's a joke
Bodi
It is a joke based on observation of the real world. Because its a joke does not invalidate the point being made.
lokitheinane
ok. maybe dave chappelle isn't right. what about that? maybe his observation is founded on incorrect assumptions?
Bodi
see you take off online?
OriginalWadjet
No, she means camera. Selfies.
Bodi
does she mean camera or does she mean cam shows? From popular vernacular I would bet on the latter.
OriginalWadjet
No, that's not the popular venacular on tumblr.
Bodi
I think we're splitting hairs here; cam shows involve cameras so not sure exactly what we're on about out.
BowlingForQuatloos
I'm glad I'm not the only one that noticed that cam statement. That alone negates their argument for me.
Futhington
Welcome to the wonderful world of women who want to wear a whore's uniform but not be treated like one.
sirenx8
As a woman, I like wearing things that show skin. But I completely agree that if you dress like a whore then expect to be treated like one.
helagos
Mother Fuckin Dave Chapelle ladies and gentlemen!
witchzenka
You really never get to treat someone badly based on how they're dressed and be considered a functioning adult to me.
witchzenka
This is a shit argument. Doesn't matter if she's naked, doesn't mean people like you get to touch her or be shits.
SalsaOreos
Thiss.
TheBigLemeowski
please tell me- what is your definition of a whore and how should a whore be treated? Gonna smack her around for dressing risqué ?
wolffe1166
I was not aware that "whore" was a profession that had a standardized uniform...I assume you're wearing your asshole's uniform?
AncalagontheBlack
It's from a Chapelle Show gag where Dave points out that if women dress like they're easy, people are going to treat them like their easy.
sirenx8
"Whore" meaning prostitute. And even though they don't wear a uniform, there's a reason they dress the way they do.
HorseMeatHeaven
But... But... She said nothing about taking them off. Just "cam". As in camera.
SmeesNotVeryGoodTwin
She's still wearing them with the intent to show off, but somehow doing it in real life is completely different?
OriginalWadjet
Yes. She doesn't have to worry about assault online.
Bodi
or cam-shows?
HereticsAllOfYou
Ladies, I don't wear a full suit for your attention either. It goes both ways. I'm serious.
RobinoftheHood
No you're not, he died in the 5th book.
jacqylfrost
As a male, please tell me this was sarcasm.
Mooniverse
Doubt it. There can't be anything about women on the internet without some MRA trying to turn it into a double standard.
jacqylfrost
There are plenty of things that are actually a double standard, but this is not one of them.
TheNearsightedWatchmaker
Yea I got a nice confidence boost when I started dressing properly. I've always worn dickeys shorts and tshirts now I wear suits.
TerrorTheory
Well said. A neat talored suit doesn't mean rape me
Belvedere86
I do, but that's because I look good in a suit.
ichhablafrenchiefrench
Well, if you go out at night in a tux, don't be surprised when a chick drugs your drink. I mean, come on, you were asking for it. (Sarcasm)
TerrorTheory
(Sexiest)
LegoMyEggoLas
Maybe some of us aren't farmers, so we wear tuxedos after 6:00 p.m.
BeardKhan
Or don't complain about how many gold-diggers throw themselves at you either (Irony)
imshibagel
Suits don't imply sex, though. Those other things do.
glocksout
No. They don't. You know what implies sex? "Yes."
blessthefaithless
you're not wearing the right suits then
spicymolly
you need more upvotes
imshibagel
I literally wear them daily for my job. I know plenty about suits. You have to as a bank manager.
MinorSeventh
You missed the joke.
Whenyoufallinabottomlesspityoudieofstarvation
Yea I'm pretty sure I've never asked a guy in a suit which way he'd like his ass pounded because his tie is too hot.
YodasLeftEar
you definately should have
HereticsAllOfYou
I've had similar things asked of me by drunk older women, actually.
wonkus
So they toss it and leave it, and I pull up quick to retrieve it. http://imgur.com/r/cougars/
LurkersGottaLurk
Older women are creepers. "You're older then my Mom, please stop. pleasepleaseplease."
afrofrycook
I'd hope you're not asking guys that regardless of the situation. Most dudes aren't into being penetrated.
glocksout
Maybe you should.
Whenyoufallinabottomlesspityoudieofstarvation
http://segafans.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/mother-of-god.jpg
Whenyoufallinabottomlesspityoudieofstarvation
But seriously...it would be nice if all people could wear whatever they wanted without judgement. Starting with leggings as pants, dammit!
glocksout
That's a bridge too far.
TwerkOnThatShark
Agreed, but at the same time, when men you dress up, they don't typically worry about being assaulted over their fashion choices.
BeardKhan
Nope, you worry about the wrong women wanting to take advantage of you only for your money.
jmeyers1983
I don't have the numbers in front of me, but I doubt outfits are the causes of assaults. Assaults happen because there are deviants.
TheThingNoNotThatOne
Except these girls (other than the "'smash'" one) are just complaining about the attention they get.
you8mycracker
Its not the "attention" they are complaining about. Its the fact that most of the time they simply wont take No for an answer & keep pushing
shadowex3
Which is interesting considering statistically a man is more likely to die than a woman is to be assaulted, chalk it up to culture.
sirenx8
Men are also statistically more aggressive. Causing more fights and acting on anger which can lead to death.
shadowex3
That statistic comes from the refusal to arrest, indict, or convict female offenders. Your argument about "anger" is also sexist.
sirenx8
Explain the sexism. Men are evolutionarily more overtly aggressive (not always the case, of course). I'm not trying to bring them down.
cossettetape
I think you have to be more specific
katinthehat
okay, what stat are you pulling though, because comparing overall death of men to women who are sexually assaulted is a statistical stretch.
shadowex3
Only if you buy into the 300% underreporting nonsense. Ever notice how as the crime rate drops the underreporting claims rise?
potshot
I think the point is that while it's true that clothing contributes to sexual assault, it also contributes to violent muggings.
katinthehat
Actually, I'd say that clothing does not contribute at all to sexual assault - instead, it is used as a convenient blaming mechanism.
randomsnarfle
But this point has nothing to do with people being accused of "asking for it" based on their fashion choices...
shadowex3
ever see signs telling you to hide your valuables, lock your car, don't wear a suit or show wealth...
randomsnarfle
But that still have nothing to do with gender! Women get told these same things as well.
redberen
Well, he has a point. Men have a 100% probability of dying. Can't really top that.
shadowex3
WE ALL DO EVENTUALLY 0_O
OracleForCheap
A very valid point, thank you for bringing it up. People just need to be more respectful.
HereticsAllOfYou
People do not commit sexual assault because of clothing. They commit it because they believe they can get away with it.
BigFatFae
In 140 characters or less, it can be tough to decipher intent, so just in case: While true, people use this defense all the time. It's dumb.
TheThiefLord
Cause you get cat-called and honked at when you wear suits? You get treated disrespectfully because of it? I'm so sorry that happens to you
RobertDanger
This doesn't happen. You are not a 1940's cartoon vixen.
metaleaf
Just because you haven't experienced something, or perpetrated it on others, doesn't mean it doesn't happen.
FfonyPony
oh you take 20 mins extra to avoid an employee at a local business who you fear after verbally degrading you will follow you home? Suits :(
pistolshrimppumponmylapatalltimes
Actually, yes. I get salivating stares when I wear a suit. I've also been honked at multiple times while out running with my workout gear.
complimentpin
I don't wear a suit because all these bitches are like 'then why wear it if you don't want attentions' urgh.
ImVeronicaCorningstone
I AM NEVER AS TURNED ON AS I AM WHEN I SEE A WELL DRESSED MAN IN A WELL TAILORED SUIT SERIOUSLY COME AT ME BUSINESSBROS!
FfonyPony
OH HEYY WHATCHU UP TO IM TALKING TO YOU IN THAT SUIT HELLO WHERE THE PARTY LATER COME HERE IM ONLY TRYNA TALK WHY YOU LIKE THAT I LOVE SUITS
ImVeronicaCorningstone
DO YOU THINK IF I SAY THAT TO A GUY HE WILL FOLLOW ME HOME? (IN A SEX WAY, NOT A RAPEY STALKER WAY)
FfonyPony
IT ALWAYS WORKS ON ME WHEN IM WALKING HOME FROM WORK!!! I'm typing this from that delivery guy's bike right now! I HAVENT FELT SHAME ALL DAY
shaoren
Yeah but no one will tell you you deserved to be raped for wearing a suit either
qoppaphi
So you want to dress sexy ... and feel sexy ... but you don't want other people to think you're sexy.
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TheRarispy
It's okay for people to think that, just not act on it obnoxiously, like slapping her ass as they're walking past her.
Canneverthinkofagoodname
Don't want to be sexually harassed or chased , yes i have actually been chased in the fucking mall cus some freak thought that was okay
Rhannigan
They don't want people to tell them they are so sexy that 'I'd fuck you seven ways to sunday'. That's just rude.
shaoren
Yeah man not wanting to be harassed is asking for soooooo much
Catodactyl
This is why I have so few female friends because even I don't understand my own species.
zeshoopuf
More like "it's okay to think they're sexy but if you feel like they owe you a quick fuck in the alley because of how they dress, get bent".
tangybreath
Not at all. Think I am sexy all you want, but do NOT use it as an excuse to sexually harrass me and tell me that I must want your attention.
PrfctDrk
That's such fuzzy logic I think it just grew cat tails and kitty ears.
DeadGodJess
I once went to a party with a short dress and lacey fishnets. Guys thought that meant I wanted them to describe their dicks to me.
aselfdefeatingattitude
I think everyone wants me to describe my dick to them. If I met the president I'd be all "Let me tell you about my dick..."
HorseshoeCrab
Go on...
HansBlixOhNo
Dave Chappelle has some words of wisdom on this. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J7QNw1LRJv4
Whydopeoplekeepcallingmethat
*Your definition of wisdom may vary.
YodasLeftEar
don't forget the part where: "but I want that one cute guy at the bar to approach me and ask for my number"
lokkebo
Differences between compliments and harassment are so subtle, it's a really fine line. So very hard to understand.
riffifi
Yeah and sometimes the line is simply how good a guy looks to the girl
lokkebo
That was sarcasm. The line is a mile wide. And what you said is false, any stranger treating me like that, idc how attractive, is wrong
Konoton
It's pretty hypocritical to want to dress so you look attractive but not be treated like you look attractive.
plantbiologist
Telling someone you want to fuck them so hard they can't walk straight the next day is not a way to treat someone you think is attractive.
Konoton
I can agree with you on that. Is that something that happened to you?
slothsfordays
Speaking as a female..It happens a lot.
Konoton
I understand and empathize with that, but is it as a direct result of exclusively how you're dressed?
HughLaurie
<-- Male. If I had a perfect body and dressed to show it somehow, I would get a huge boost if women told me how much they wanted to bang me.
emilyrunnes
They can think I'm sexy, they just can't verbally assault me with inappropriate sexual advances
NotWelcomehere
...what about appropriate ones?
emilyrunnes
Those are fine, but lewd comments are not acceptable.
TheThingNoNotThatOne
But these girls (except for the last one) don't seem to mention anything inappropriate. Just that they get "comments" and attention. 1/2
TheThingNoNotThatOne
I'm not saying guys can say whatever, but people will look at things they like to see, and maybe give a poorly worded/delivered compliment.
johnvictor
That kind of dress draws men's attention because it trips all those little instincts for procreation that has us going 24/7. /1
johnvictor
And it can be REALLY hard to outright ignore the equivalent of your mind screaming "SEX!" at you.
SecretlyFiveCatsInAHumanSuit
I don't care if people think I am sexy, but I can't say I'm too keen on the assgrabs from strangers who think I am public property.
DVSBSTrD
What a bunch of entitled misogynistic jerks, I promise I would only grab your ass once I got to know you ;)
SecretlyFiveCatsInAHumanSuit
uh... this comment is from three months ago...
DVSBSTrD
Yeah but I felt a need to let you know my opinion on the matter.
CommandOrConquer
PLEASE SOMEONE EXPLAIN!!! if your goal is to dress sexy, you want to increase your sex appeal BUT you don't want others to point that out1/2
CommandOrConquer
to you... I DON'T GET IT some may point it out is worse fashions than others but they are noticing it. (i get the harassment part but this?)
CommandOrConquer
I mean... i understand the line between compliment/harassment but i just... AAAAAAHHH i don't get it...
javaMakesMeAnxious
sometimes it might be about just liking some outfit and not trying to state anything by wearing it. you might like some outfit that shows...
javaMakesMeAnxious
...some skin, but that might not be the reason WHY you like it. you can like whatever you want, not just what covers everything.
SarahStumbleBee
I want to be able to walk down the street w/out getting whistled at like I'm a dog. That's all. Not that complicated...
diabolicaljazz
They want people to respect them. Whether or not they are found to be sexy is not the point.
hardytardigrade
They want to look sexy, just not be treated like they look sexy. Since "sexy" is defined by whether people want to sex you, makes no sense.
diabolicaljazz
They want to look sexy and they want people to treat them like people with opinions and feelings.
hardytardigrade
I agree. But that's not what they said. They said they want to look sexy and it's annoying when people think they look sexy.
diabolicaljazz
That's not what they said at all.
gingertrain
The people in this post are all talking purely about looking good, but only to themselves. Respect is never mentioned.
TheThingNoNotThatOne
Except they like those clothes for being sexy (which makes them confident). One even mentions how she only wears some stuff "for cam".
kati8r
I'm a cam girl. If anybody disrespects me in my room, I ban them.
WeedlordBonerLover69
RESPECT ME *dresses like a whore*
31415926535897932384626433832795028841971
Not really. Historically he most profitable "whores" have been ones who dress very conservatively in their daily lives.
Awhaleandabowlofpetunias
How about respecting their right to wear what they damn well please and not get called a whore?
WeedlordBonerLover69
how about respecting my right to call people whores? also i never said i would call them a whore to their face.
Awhaleandabowlofpetunias
I respect your right to freedom of speech, but I don't have to respect what you say. I suppose it's the same with clothing. Respect (1)
Awhaleandabowlofpetunias
their freedom to wear what they choose even if you don't respect their personal choice. (2)
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nobodyinparticular
downvoted for grammar
diabolicaljazz
I don't have any trouble respecting people. Sounds like a personal problem.
FallenTurtles
Hard to respect the opinion of someone whose username is "ponkeydunch." See the problems in this type of argument?
lumpypumpkin
why does someone deserve more or less respect because of how they dress? That's the whole point.
driveslikejamesmay
In a work setting or certain social settings, there are standards of what is acceptable and not acceptable. For example, I would honestly 1
driveslikejamesmay
think less of someone who showed up at the opera dressed like Ke$ha or in a t-shirt and shorts. 2
randomsnarfle
There's a difference between guys thinking a girl is hot and having your ass slapped by a stranger. This post is obviously about the latter.
balkingtowinnie
that's harassment no?
Falyyn
Yes, but if you don't know his name, what's the point of pursuing it?
Mozaralio
I saw a girl walking around once with "Slap my ass" written in black on the back of her jeans in big letters, I did and she got mad, wtf?
wonkus
You must be ugly.
Mozaralio
Good point.
wonkus
Starving kids should smile politely when I wave filet mignon under their noses. They have no right to touch it.
JessThe2ndBestt
You sound REALLY rapey dude, like a man is so starved of sex, it's his right to jump on any meat he sees? Poor helpless man starving for sex
randomsnarfle
Did you really just compare living breathing humans to a hunk of meat meant to be devoured? Seriously?
wonkus
You're pretty slow. Unable to comprehend a simple comparison. I compared the biological urge to eat to the biological urge to procreate.
randomsnarfle
By your logic then, men should just be excused for whatever sexual advances they put towards women because it's "biological".
wonkus
By your logic I can put words in your mouth to justify my opinion.
OhGodImHorribleAtNames
Does that actually happen?
TheRarispy
Extremely often.
TickleMeFlymo
Yes, but not to Tumblr foghorns who like to pretend it happens to them.
IamMelonLordeYaYaYa
Often. Very.
Karilyn
Yes
MissSyn
Once had a guy stick his hand up my skirt for a feel of my bum. :/ I was alone and there were several of them so I let it go...
randomsnarfle
It was more like a general example. I'm in the cosplay community, and have heard horror stories from many of my friends 1/x
randomsnarfle
who've been groped or harassed while taking photos just because of the costume they decided to wear. Some people even try to 2/x
randomsnarfle
take photos up skirts or down their shirts without them knowing. Some were even underage at the time. People can be gross. 3/3
Monarchist
Doesn't help that the cosplay community has a fuck ton of extra pervy people in it I say this with love as a somewhat pervy person.
chattypeacock
Once I was out for a jog and a guy yelled he wanted to fuck me in the back of his truck and said, "Come on, baby, what's wrong?" when I ran.
overwerk
Just today a man in a truck made the sign for "eating a girl out" at me while I waited for the bus, and I was in full winter clothing... =/
gameaddikt
You see I would feel awesome if I knew random strangers on the street wanted to have sex with me...sigh...but I'm an ugly man.
Ninjafrog
Doesn't stop some people. Hope springs eternal.
overwerk
It is disgusting, especially since I am only 19, and look younger at that. It is unwanted attention in an inappropriate setting.
NosferMarki
Even if it were a dude twice your size?
gameaddikt
Absolutely, such a huge boost to the ego.
morgrimmoon
Yes. Unfortunately there is a vocal segment of the male population that thinks all women should be sexy and exist for them.
TheNastyNate
they don't?
ThaBlink
As a male rape victim, go fuck yourself.
randomsnarfle
"Vocal segment" does not mean "All men everywhere ever." I'm sorry that happened to you, but this is misdirected.
youkillemwegrillem
someone pointing out some men are shitty, some how has an relevancy to you being raped? Get off it.
metaleaf
. . . What? I'm sorry you were raped, but . . . what . . . ?
gabbyrob21
How is that relevant at all to morgrimmoon's comment?
Taalen
Commonly known as "morons".
JustAHumanist
I know women who get catcalls in public while wearing a fucking raincoat. There are lots of peeps who objectify the shit of of peeps.
Necropants
That has happened to me. Wearing a loose rain coat, slacks, and a frigging turtleneck sweater while pumping gas one day after work and 1/2
Necropants
2/ a truck full of guys pulled up in front of my car and were whistling/yelling at me and when I didn't respond pulled their truck closer
chattypeacock
I was wearing a big coat and baggy jeans and some guys yelled at my boyfriend to "get some!" Then they got mad when I flipped them off.
chattypeacock
I should mention my boyfriend flipped them off as well.
MagicDerp
I'm sorry. As a woman, I'm trying to understand this viewpoint and I just don't.
aplomb
I don't totally...but there are many current fashions that I love, because I like fashion, but I am wary to wear because they stand out.
OhhhOkay
yurp, on this college campus i have to save my fabulous outfits for the weekend unless i want to be the center of attention lol which i dont
aplomb
A lot of fashion can look attention seeking, but is just beautiful. I guess these women just like that style, and it looks good on them.
MagicDerp
(nodding agreement)
OhhhOkay
i like looking gooooooooooooooodddddd, and feeling awwwwweeseome
MagicDerp
Do ya thang. (and damn the rest! :p)
OhhhOkay
oh look i found my new motto
Monarchist
Then work it being fabulous ain't a crime.
Snoweh
Neither do I. It just baffles me. They want to dress sexy but don't want people to find them sexy? As a woman, I do not understand women.
JustAHumanist
It's just "I want to dress how I want, look good, and not get verbally/physically harassed for it," imo
eggwig
Right. They say "if men weren't such animals..." but if our culture didn't fetishize this clothing, would they still feel sexy in it?
sinala
its the same with clothing that stands out which isnt part of a trend. people would also look +maybe say something (but for other reasons)
SacreDoom
That's probably the best argument I've read here.
thatshowyougetantsithink
OMG SUCH A GOOD POINT.
JustAHumanist
The problem isn't people *appreciating* the clothing, it's how people choose to show that appreciation.
eggwig
Super delayed reply here. I didn't understand this distinction then, but now I do, after 2 more years of being a woman and being harassed.
MagicDerp
Also I am HIGHLY against women saying "men are such animals." :s
IamMelonLordeYaYaYa
"women are such attention whores" = your comments
cowgba
I agree. I wish people would stop trying to combat sexist generalizations with more sexist generalizations. No sense of irony.
cowgba
Case in point, I'm a straight man but have never cat called anyone in my entire life. Clearly I am such an animal though, because testicles.
MagicDerp
Yes, a great point. Note she says she can only wear some of it "on cam," as in webcam sexy times. So... it's obviously fulfilling fantasy.
Shoura
Ooooor maybe on cam is camera and it's for photos? Some of my clothes or for friends with similar interest and photos.
cowgba
I've never seen or heard anyone describe being in photos as being "on cam," have you?
Shoura
Not that specifically. There's always possibility of non-native speaker.
NotAKorean
As a woman, I think it's because we want to wear sexy clothes that we like without being called sluts, or have men think we want sex.
MagicDerp
I can agree with this, though would you agree that there's a difference between, say, a short skirt, and wearing fully visible lingerie?
NotAKorean
There is a difference, but sometimes it's just fashion. Corsets can be worn over or under clothes, etc.
MagicDerp
Touche. Hm. This is clearly a complex and delicate issue.
SacreDoom
But isn't this really about finding yourself desirable? Call me a retard, but wearing clothes you, yourself, find sexy and expecting 1/2
SacreDoom
other people to not also find you sexually attractive is honestly kinda odd. I agree that others touching you uncalled is unacceptable, tho.
riffifi
This. I agree with it.
FuzzyX
Many women are into exhibitionism & so want to appear sexy & desirable but that of course has a down-side, being seen as an easy lay.
Mogmai
As a woman, I do understand, but all the same I prefer wearing sweatpants and hoodies everywhere.
MagicDerp
By the way, I enjoy the civil discussion of controversial issues, so I appreciate everyone's cordial replies! Stay classy, internet.
MagicDerp
In conclusion, the whole thing bothers me so much because they're calling men "animals" in an insulting way and that's unfair.
sinala
it's a generalization, i think it should only be meant for the guys that harassed them
MagicDerp
Honestly, some people like to feel "objectified", whether or not that's the term they're using.
MagicDerp
Also, the .gif up there shows a girl pressing the skirt between her legs... But no, she's not trying to send a message that she wants sex?
rocketshooter
It isn't about one way being the right way. It's ok if you don't feel the same way but you should still support her opinion.
MagicDerp
I support her right to have an opinion... I'm not trying to be snarky, I'm just trying to understand the thought process.
aLonerDottieArebel
I agree. Seems like too much time and effort for me
veelafleur
So you're lucky enough to have your taste match everyone else's, so you've never gotten nasty comments about the way you look. Good on you.
MagicDerp
Meh. Whether or not my taste matches everyone else's, I can't say. I have gotten nasty comments about the way I look. (shrug) That's life.
LonLonRanchDressing
who said her taste matches everyone else's just because she doesn't precisely agree with 4 girls on tumblr?
veelafleur
Agreeing is one thing, understanding their point is another. She said she didn't get it.
LonLonRanchDressing
but that isn't what I was referring to.
Momof2needsabreak
Its about wearing what makes you feel good or sexy for yourself. But a lot of it is considered "attention wanting" so we cant.
hardytardigrade
Harassment/assault are criminal of course, but you can't ignore that "looking good" and "sexy" are defined by what other people think+see.
sinala
yes but if you have the same taste like these people?
MagicDerp
I see. ... Well, I can understand not wanting to be harassed.
MagicDerp
... But, yeah, if you walk around in lace thigh highs, people are going to notice. Unfortunately, people are not always tactful...
shaoren
That's the problem
YoMTVRapz
Protip: Fuck what everybody else thinks. Who am I(are we) to judge. Do you. If the world wasn't.so judgemental it'd be a much happier place.
soukmania
As much as I can understand what they try to say about their own pleasure, I still think judging yourself beautiful is about vanity
aquarine
Its not how I look but how I feel. When I wear high heels I feel taller which gives me an extra confidence boost.
FlamboyantTitans
I never understood high heels- confidence boost and height or whatever, but it ruins your feet and hurts your tendons.
soukmania
Confidence is not a magic fluid you have in yourself :) If you work it a bit, you could feel even more confident without anything.
soukmania
Yes, but why do you feel more confident? It's all about social judgment, and what you expect from other people.
riffifi
No homo, but I very often agree with what you're saying. I was looking for a comment with the "social judgment" idea
ChuckKarma
Whew. I'm glad for fabulous people, but I guessed that different people get off on their own appearance to different degrees.
truelovelies
As a woman, I don't understand it either. I have a "nice" body but I like to wear fitted clothes that isn't too revealing....
IamMelonLordeYaYaYa
Imagine the clothes you like to wear got this reaction and because of it you were scorned for wearing them. That's the idea.
MagicDerp
Yes, me too! Don't get me wrong. I like to feel sexy. That's why I wear sexy underwear... Underneath my clothes.
truelovelies
DAMN RIGHT! I like bright neon colors, and I told my friends once, business on top, party underneath! hahaha!
MagicDerp
Haha, I like that phrase! :D
ILoveTomHiddleston
you never feel extra sexy and confident when you wear sexy lingerie under your normal clothes? it's like that, but with aall clothes
MagicDerp
No, I do! But that's the beauty of it. You see, it's Under my clothes, so I don't get unwanted advances... see? (Also I LOVE your username)
ILoveTomHiddleston
yes but if i get to wear MORE of the stuff that makes me feel extra confident i do it.about the unwanted advances, i've learned to deal with
MagicDerp
Good for you! Confidence in itself is sexy. "knock 'em dead!"
ILoveTomHiddleston
(thanks btw) also,it would be maybe better if the guys i reject wouldn't call me a whore for not wanting them (talking about being in clubs)
MagicDerp
That IS dickish. What assholes! I'm sorry that happened to you! :(
ILoveTomHiddleston
no worries, i really know how to deal with it. once i got a guy kicked out of the club