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(originally posted by @MrPuckett on 2018-08-04 05:07:01)
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(originally posted by @MrPuckett on 2018-08-04 05:07:01)
karlmalowned
My dad would say it's good and say the things he likes until halfway done. Then "I think if you added this, it would be even better"
SyeedAli
You know what would improve his cooking? Help.
lecrinkle
yeah let's just perpetuate terrible habits and all live in terrible relationships where we can't be honest with with our spouses. Thanks!
LordoftheStarsduh
He gave the worst advice which is why his show got cancelled. Yes lets ignore our problems and create more communication issues.
JoannaLovebody
Maybe people should talk about it, instead of suffering in silence
Nerdyohyoumeanawesome
My hubs and I have the "pizza rule." If either of us cooks something that's bad, we're honest about it and we go get pizza. No judgement.
Nerdyohyoumeanawesome
We've each done it once in 4 years together. Usually when we're trying recipes that are out of our comfort zone.
claven666
honesty is the best policy. i was a professional, my GF was just starting out. i critiqued her. 8 years later and she blows me away
DucksAreGood
Cooking is a lot like sex. If you don't tell your patner what they're doing wrong, they'll never get better at it.
ImBoredouttamyskull
Well...being quiet and just eating it can work pretty well in sex
CrouchingVaginaHiddenPenis
Only if you’re good at it ;)
ImBoredouttamyskull
Well, that's why you were always told to eat everything on your plate....practice ;-)
zaxes1231337
Oh I don’t like when people lie. If it’s bad I know it’s bad and we can miserably eat it together if we have to. Generational difference?
MeFirstThanYou
What a fucking idiot.
owlwise
Steve Harvey is just full of sh*t.
gerogeunderscore
Steve Harvey is such an asshole
Joomuk
He truly grad A asshole but this a good advice. If someone were to do something nice and thoughtful, don’t criticize them for it. :)
SomethingTittyWitty
These married couples really fuck my head up. Do they only talk with each other for sex and complain?? Honestly how do they even got married
FancyPantlessTeaParties
She did say boyfriend and not husband, but yeah I get you.
SomethingTittyWitty
I must've gotten it wrong then, although if they are living the together is not really that different.
Spiffytown
Or maybe cook together. That's what we do for fun, and we learn what we like.
NotWelcomehere
No, I'm too controlling and I learned to cook from really angry people....you know chefs...so I am that way, I either leave her alon or cook
PuppyDontCare
Sounds like you could use it too as a learning experience
NotWelcomehere
Nope, I just stay in my lane while she cooks, easier that way. Not ever character flaw is the end of the world. We have great communication.
Zodi
Steve harvey shouldn't be giving out advice. fuck you steve. go check your "moral barometer".
Benchimo00
Stupid people that rather go on tv to talk about there problems, now everyone knows, then sit and talk to each other. I hate society now
Bludclotjungletechno
that advice is so fuckin dumb and of course it came from steve harvey
apercent
Shit advice
ApparentlyImaPsychopath
Is that Rachel Ray?
Obecny75
No
IWillGetOffendedAtAnything
Just a quick reminder that Steve Harvey is a Garbage Human Being.
narniasreal
Steve Harvey is such an enormous moron.
ComradeSnowball
Always downvote Steve Harvey.
SodaSamtg
He is vile but I believe he is correct. That being said I too downvoted.
LoquaciousDude
He isn’t correct here, that is terrible advice, you’re an adult, act like it.
SodaSamtg
She should be honest with him but at the same time shouldn’t discourage him. He is obviously excited about cooking now.
LoquaciousDude
I understood what he said as bullshit "you asked for it now you got it" and a weird kind of revenge on behalf of men who are also >
LoquaciousDude
incapable for acting their age, not anything he said(in the post) indicates to me that he thinks honest criticism and communication is >
Kirah32
That's the problem with today's world. taking advice from a man who is a terrible husband. i wouldn't listen to Steve Harvey to save my life
blairsette
My husband always tells me he loves my food. Now I’m questioning my entire marriage...
Crabsforeveryone
There's a huge difference between constructive criticism and being a twat.
spiderqueendemon
Book a cooking class together. Municipal rec and community centers have them for $5 a person. $10 date night. That's so cheap!
spiderqueendemon
If the class is great and you both learn something new, you've both learned. If it's hilariously crap, you'll laugh about it for years.
spiderqueendemon
That, or do Strip Cooking Lessons. Every time you show him a cooking skill, like dicing, browning onions, etc., and he does it right?
spiderqueendemon
Off comes an article of clothing. (Best for recipes that involve a lot of prep, then putting the whole thing into the oven for some time.)
spiderqueendemon
Oh, and get a really good apron, ideally leather or canvas with a soft lining.
reversebacon1
It’s funny but maybe don’t perpetuate lack of communication in relationships. It’s important to tell your partner how you feel. I ain’t
crazyfitasian
Can confirm. Communication issues tore my last relationship to pieces.
nesurame
Steve Harvey wasn't condemned to Family Feud for the rest of eternity because of his good judgement.
reversebacon1
Eating bad shit. Forget that. I’ll let them know! Life’s too long to eat bad food and lie about it
My2Spence
Good luck with that.
ChevyNova1973
Life's to damn short to eat bad food
imguriandownunder
I do agree 100% but it's also important to be constructive and helpful in criticizing someone. Just being told the food was bad is useless
wadatahmydamie
And shit, if you’re the better cook, teach them. If you both suck, watch Good Eats
immoral0
Even if you don't suck, watch Good Eats.
seanrus16OG
The thing is, I think the reason that he went off on her like this is because it very much sounds like she demanded that he start cooking,
seanrus16OG
And now that he's cooking, she's going to tell him that it's no good and he should do better in this activity that she demanded of him.
minuteye
It depends a bit on how she said it, but fundamentally... adults should know how to feed themselves? Asking him to learn isn't ridiculous.
Raguleader
Honestly, I prefer when my wife gives me feedback if she doesn't like how I cook something. Gimme a chance to fix it and make it better.
Freakscar
While you're technically 100% correct, that is neither the core problem with her attitude, nor the point he tries to convey.
ZLOK
Only the squeaky wheel gets greased.
iloveisla
Exactly. Steve Harvey is a friggan idiot by the way
Cthoniki
My bf practically *begs* for feedback but idk, I’m just not that picky... it was good, babe, what else do you want me to say?
MJGreen
Sure and its mesnt to work the other way too. A man shouldn’t be afraid to give *reasonable* feedback to a woman as long as its constructive
bigbootybigfoot
I wish my husband would, I like what I cook but it could be completely garbage
TroelsyTwo
Yeah. This here is dumb advice. Even if it's just a dish made right but you don't like it. Then SAY it or you'll get it again. And even /1
TroelsyTwo
worse is I would have wasted my time making it over and over again. Say something. But don't be disrespectful about it. /2
breezybriv
Hell yes but just not while you’re eating, I don’t know why but that’s always the worst, just like damn I wasted my time.
2graves
Yeah sure, but my girlfriend hates vegetables. So. I don't listen
wonderlandrage
Yeah same here but it can also make me feel a little bad at the same time
BatmanOSX
Home food deliveries.... That's a thing.. Right?
chief660
But that just doesn't get as much applause when you shout it on a shitty tv show.
Sjp770
Kinda like sex. Feedback is good
rocklemycockle
Talk it out after! What you liked and what you didn't like.
OddOod
Exactly. Clear, open and honest communication. The trick is to phrase it nicely
Mandarinduckmama
Jesus??? Is it you????
genepoolboy
But you are a man. Of course you are able to receive feedback.
S4RPe4R
I applaud u to accept direct criticism. Many don’t like it, get offended, or plain avoid it. I bet u cook well! & I bet ur wife eats it.
S4RPe4R
... eats it all!!!
Criscartersfallguys
My wife told me I over seasoned meat one day. She was right. I’ve enjoyed my own grilling and such more since.
CuteLukePatoot
This, oh my god this!
Noblesix66
Giving feedback is different than being an ungrateful person though. That guy is probably trying hard to cook, and just needs practice.
ZarkFury
Nah just eat ir
BeardBass
As with all things in a relationship, if you stay quiet about what isn’t working, it’ll never improve: Cooking, sex, household habits, etc.
INeedAnUserNameButNoneIsFree
I like when people give me honest feedback on my food too. Once I over-salted and they told it was good.
RogerSmithIsMySpiritAnimal
Same. My wife is pregnant and can cook, & does a good job at it but I really like to. But our tastes differ so I ask for honest input.
Retromorphic
Eat it! Eat allllll of it!
GCRust
Preach. Communication is key to a successful marriage.
Livingexistence
The key word here is feedback... dont just say it's bad, give a reason or solution... was it texture? Taste? Seasoning? What was wrong
prtfvr
If you don’t nicely tell the person that you don’t like that particular meal and why, they’ll never get better. I hate wasting my time.
defaulted
My boyfriend refuses to cook cause he said it pissed him off when I critique his food. I’ve been cooking for 10 yrs so that makes me sad.
fartingsparrow
Whoa. 10 years is too long to hold a grudge like that. Say you won’t criticize next time and ask him to cook. If not, stop cooking for him
defaulted
Oh no we’ve been dating for 4. I just meant I’ve been cooking long enough to know how to make things easier but he won’t listen to my advice
fartingsparrow
Ahhh. I found it a little hard to take criticism when I was starting to cook too, bc I felt like I tried so hard. I had a friend that just
fartingsparrow
made me her sous chef when she was cooking (cutting with some instruction) and being in the kitchen with her, and it made learning positive
Rehvenge
No no, this country was built with a blatant lack of communication built in and I expect each of you to uphold that tradition
TargetedAdBot
My wife gives me feedback, but I can't give her feedback on cooking if I want to sustain peace at the house.
TroelsyTwo
Maybe she's just fed up with you saying everything needs bacon? lol
probablylisteningtokpop
That’s horseshit. Sorry man. Hope she grows up soon.
TroelsyTwo
It couldn't possibly be his delivery of the critique?
TrustmeIamdutch
Ugh. I want to know if he likes something. If not I can improve. I like seeing him enjoy. ?
10Ts
Don’t talk about it during dinner, bring it up while you’re giving her a foot rub or something
paragraph
*head
Ransbear
That's asking for a kick in the face.
12GaPoopRockets
Sounds like a cunt
capitainechips
Double standard
cavymeister
Peoples is peoples. He wants to make his cooking better, she doesn't care to improve that part of her life. It's not the end of the world
MastaFnog
AlkeneThiol
Welcome to real life relationships.
capitainechips
Nah, I've been through that once, now I've learnt my lesson and have a healthy relationship
BadDragon1193
If my (future) wife didn't allow me to offer feedback, and it being a two-way street, I'd divorce her. I won't put up with that shit.
koops
Why did your future self marry her in the first place? Your present self needs to put a condom in your wallet just in case that’s the reason
BadDragon1193
Present me is a dumbass.
jon3219
I do all the cooking in our home, but that's mostly because my wife nearly set the house on fire trying to boil white rice
TheatreStreet
Aww
TrustmeIamdutch
Husband can make perfect eggs cooked, sunnyside up, scrambled.. I can't. But I can make his favourite dinners. :)
cfranko83
Something about this really touched me.
xanius
Yep. I'm the master of breakfast. Any time my wife cooks eggs my girls won't eat them. Even when they don't know who cooked it. >>
xanius
She's just not a breakfast person. But I suck at cooking. She's the artist of cooking and I'm the mad scientist. Breakfast is chemistry.
TroelsyTwo
I'm a bit of a potato snob. I grew my own baby potatoes of delicatessen varieties. I'm not the best at boiling them to perfection, so /1
TroelsyTwo
usually that is my dad's job. I can handle the rest. Best cooking is when you share it. Even if you're dumb in the kitchen and just on /2
TroelsyTwo
chopping duty. Bet it could fix some marriages if they cooked together as a rule. 3/3
HarrisHomestead
Same at my house. My wife cant cook breakfast to save her life, I cant cook dinner. It works out
TrustmeIamdutch
My idea of a succesful breakfast is honey loops where I didn't spill the milk. not a morning person. ?
HarrisHomestead
Oh that's no good. Gotta have eggs, bacon, sausage, toast, jelly, milk, oj, coffee. We go all out
gypsyspot
What's his favorite dinner? What is yours?
TrustmeIamdutch
He has so much, rather standard Dutch foods. But also pasta's, as long as it has several flavours. He's not a fan of bland food
gypsyspot
I love Mexican, lengua tacos are my favorite.
imguriandownunder
Dude that sounds like a real red flag. Maybe you two might need some professional counseling?
makeSX
Thats a norm in any relationship. The subject May change, but the BS is the same. For me and my wife its tantrums/being tired ->
makeSX
She seems to be allowed to complain how tired she is for watching the kids all day, but when I do it its whining since she does it every day
margaretolson
I’m an (almost) wife (getting married in Oct) and feel the same way. I ask my fiancé for honest feedback so I can improve!
burninatingthepeoples
I don’t drink coffee but, I’m the first one up. Spent the first three years of our marriage making coffee my wife hates. Came up in a (1/?)
burninatingthepeoples
Conversation with someone else and we had a convo later about how I’d rather get the feedback than make shit. I now put a normal (2/?)
burninatingthepeoples
Quantity of grounds in the coffee pot and make some real good gourmet shit. (3/3)
probablylisteningtokpop
Same I ask my husband each meal- how is it? And he answers honestly. What’s it missing? How can I make it better?
LoveShovel
"Hey some salt would make this way better" "Oh, word! Good idea!" Bada bing.
MrPingouin29
Tha'ts the major point of a well functionning couple. Gz to both of you
reineseele
That is why you get two wives.
degenerator
wife + waifu
Raguleader
I would like to have seen Montana...
LearnToCook
All I want is criticism when I cook because I want to be better. Don't tell me it's good, tell me it's perfect or tell me what's wrong.
FoodAndQuestions
That’s very nice for both partners! But that woman was like I wanna throw it away.That is just ungrateful. She should feedback like you said
Nimafox
Right? My husband used to always undercook rice, let him know and now I can't even compared to how well he cooks it.
TheCrustyMustard
It's about the approach. They are less likely to give up if you say "this is good, could use a bit more salt tho" than "omg gross *retch*"
JoeT85
approach is critical.... find something good to say, to soften the hit of constructive criticism.
keyonne
Compliment sandwich! Say something good, bad, then good!
StanleyTucciSaysOHSHlT
My wife and I do this with outfits, food, everything...
oprahslovechild
I agree. I ask my husband if it looks like I've put on a couple and he says yes, i just know it's apparent and time to reign in my habits. 1
oprahslovechild
I appreciate his honesty and I know he does mine. We aren't afraid that criticism means that we love each other any less.
wabitgirl
My wife and I constantly critique each other's cooking, although we're WAY harder on ourselves than each other.
wabitgirl
We're also both pretty competent cooks, particularly in the realm of "Season to taste"
laestrella
Or have a talk with him and try to help him. Why don't people talk to each other
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laestrella
I dont think I am
JoannaLovebody
LoadedBakedPotatoes
But then marriage counselors would have to find new line of work. Don’t be silly!
Thisismyusernamenotyoursitsmine
Because people don’t have healthy adult relationships
TheWombatStrikesAgain
Or be subtle and supportive at the same time and buy him a cookbook for the kind of food you'd like.
laestrella
Yeah that's nice
GGCrono
Open and honest communication with your SO solves 90% of relationship problems.
magmufbtheness
I would add empathetic to this list also. No reason to be rude.
PicassoCT
Because we identify to damn much with what we produce. This software is my code, my thoughts, it is... me. Critizizing is to want a vendetta
bemurray814
Conflict to some people triggers them to behave negatively instead of resolving.
laestrella
I understand that. People should try to work on themselves too
bemurray814
Yarrr, matey.
GayPeacock
Because social norms didn't include having heart to hearts back in the 40's and its still perpetuated today
mudstew
I've wondered this recently...did people in the past communicate better? Like how long ago and what cultures practiced it more... etc
GayPeacock
I feel a lot of it comes from the belief that if you just shut up, you can ignore each other's issues because divorce was "bad"
mudstew
That would explain my grandparents, and then my mom's generation's inability to communicate either, and passing that dysfunction down
ThroughTheLookingGlass
Or how about cook together!
kmtne384
Yes!
GlowGreen
EAT IT
Neurisko
Honesty with compassion. Break the news gently so they don't get discouraged.
chaoticnote
My mom hates being criticized. She can't take it, so I see no point telling it to her straight. I'd rather order take-out until she gets it
magmufbtheness
My mom is the same way. It made out relationship so difficult that we barely talk now.
ThePastmaster
"But that's HARD. I want things to be simple and easy!"
Zenislav
Why talk to each other when you can talk to some tv show host about problems in front of millions of people?
ChoovaMonster
Exactly! This applies to any relationship. My roommates stopped bitching to me about one another because they knew I'd try and fix it.
mrmayortheiv
Well, she sounds like she consistently hates everything he makes. This makes her kind of an ass. Asses don't speak.
Heisanevilgenius
Hell yes
islander311
The biggest cause of relationship problems is they don't talk to each other. A little communication and honesty, no matter how embarrassing.
islander311
Goes a long long way. Saved my marriage, just talking. Realizing we want the same things, then taking steps to provide them.
LafluerMusic
Jokes
jimmyhowlett
Because they get their relationship advice from celebrities who say "don't say anything about it"
OneNeoEon
Or advice from older women who seem to think that "a man should just KNOW" and tell them to be passive aggressive if he doesn't.
ThelmaTidwell
Because some people are extremely sensitive and anything other than praise is taken as criticism, and not in a constructive way.
tarataqa
Talk to my spouse? Ain't nobody got time for that. I'm going on Steve Harvey to complain.
ClassicRand0
Site this in the separation
mycousinthewifebeater
ThePerro
Because they’re mouths are full
WhatzzSoup
Pffff talking, like that has ever worked before
DorianBlack
We're so conditioned by consumerism to chain ego to self identify and place it above objective reality that it ingrains all relationships
CuteLukePatoot
Or get involved in the kitchen together. Plan meals and cook them as a team!
imakesoap
Or cook together?
Jimmyb3121
Feelings.
WyrmsWorks
I did. A lot. I was nice and constructive. Usually improvement still didn't happen. Hyper frustrating.
BadderBob
*bECaUsE COnFroNtAtIoN iS UNcOmFOrTaBlE* no for real... people have no conflict resolution skills so they avoid conflict
pigsearsandtwirlytails
My boyfriend and I had this talk. He can really only cook two things, and I love it when he cooks them for me. Otherwise I cook lol
CorydorasAfavorplease
I hate cooking, my husband is often too tired to cook but loves experimenting, but we are both decent cooks- im just much more hit and miss.
pigsearsandtwirlytails
We tried once, see if he could cook something else. It was a disaster and we laughed about it over the pizza he ordered.
pigsearsandtwirlytails
For the record, I would have eaten every bite of that disaster and not complained. He was the one who got the pizza
Thephedora
Sigh communication is much better than stupidity.
funkgasm
Youre not in a long term relationship are you
abacab87
If the shoe was on the other foot, how would that work?
fartingsparrow
Exactly the same way.
creechville
Because people want their spouse to be able to read their mind and just know. My mom is that way towards her fiance and my husband and i 1/2
creechville
Aren't that way so i dont understand why she does thungs she does to her fiance. And why he deals with it. But eh adults are weird
Raikupath
I don't think that is what adults do. Adults are able to talk to each other about their problems.
creechville
Well true. As i do with my husband. I guess just people are weird. Idk what word im looking for. Ridiculous? Ya that fits i suppose
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MyBallsAreAsSmoothAsEggs
I think the word you’re looking for is “my mom is a manipulative cunt, and has no reason to be”.
sirinigo
and say "thank you" and wash the dishes afterwards
LetsGiveItATry
Yeah you would.
JustARandomStrangerOnTheInternet
https://youtu.be/YnP5oid8fD8
HurricaneShade
My wife washes I dry and put them away.
DagothUr2ElectricDwemerCube
Jawesome19
This! The cook cooks, the waters clean
spermy1
If i cook i get stuck doing the dishes. My gf won't cook. My solution: peanut butter and fluff and make your own damn food
PersephoneGoddessOfSpring
This! It's the ideal solution. I'd be the dishwasher because I can't cook savory stuffs
TwoBadMiloshDead
"Cook cooks, waters clean" sounds way more phylosophical.
Cerripede
I'd be more of a fan of this if my boyfriend would ALLOW me to cook for him. He's so picky, he has to cook it. So I end up cleaning it all.
Jawesome19
Eaters*
SeeYaLaterMethamphetaGator
Or cook together clean together ?
phantomIimb
You think I'm in this relationship to spend time together or something?