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But this time, I hit submit and turned off my computer...
It is 4 am. I am a 22 year old guy. I plan on coming out to one of my best friends tonight (7pm-ish). I have not told anyone that I am gay, nor does anyone know that I am gay (to my knowledge). Quite frankly, I am freaking the fuck out.
I plan on coming out to my roommate on Sunday, and my family very shortly after that. I am fucking terrified to tell my dad, who I know is homophobic.
I needed to tell someone before I went to bed, and maybe even wake up to a pep talk from a friendly imgurian. That is all. Good night.
P.S. If all goes well and I don't chicken out, I will update anyone interested in hearing about my friends/family's reactions.
wolffyre
Good luck OP! I will be here if you need to talk when you get back!
AuntieMeat
Stay strong, OP! Be proud of who you really are, and I sincerely hope it goes well with your parents & makes them re-think their own issues.
ItsCaptain0bvious
As a straight man, I hope one day everyone will be able to just "be" who they are, without having to hide it or get pressure from society.
Mattador701
Best of luck to you bro, it'll all be fine. =)
Qbert
Those people who truly care about you will not judge you and will support you, trust me on this one. Good luck OP
MrPredator
Don't understand the hate for gays/lesbians myself. It's trivial to hate on them for being different. Just be yourself OP and GL.
emmylou1985
Well if any time is the right time to come out I'd say it's 7pm-ish. Good luck though, don't hide who you are!
JakeRichmond
UPDATES! I are wanting them. Pleese.
Emiliegoyourownway
Good luck :D
IShavedMyBallsForThis
GOOD LUCK OP! i hope your father's love outweighs his fear
ireadthenewstodayohboy
Good luck buddy. I hope it goes really well, and you are pleasantly surprised by how accepting and great people can be. Love & support.
peoniesinkittylitter
It'll be ok OP. I wish you all the best! Good luck!
Geowyn
The very best of luck to you, you have lots of people behind you on here. Let us know how it goes. Love and hugs to you xxxx
shadowfallen
Op is fabulous.
snarkybat
The best of luck to you, OP! I hope your father will accept and love you still :)
Mustachedinosaurs
Please update!
lizwb
You GO, OP! You rock.
MeAnd2Bs
Cousin told me he was gay, I said, "I know." He said, "That's what everyone said!" Chances are some of them have figured it out already!
MissedLink
It's a brave decision whatever happens the best thing you can be is true to yourself
IOPsyGuy
Best of luck! While this moment may dramatically change your life, it will only end up changing for the best, no matter how it results.
hihellohowdoyoudo
As a mom....I think parents kind of know...and you know what? We love you anyway.
FXLVIII
So true. My mom had her suspicions for a very long time, but just waited for me to say something and when I did she said, "I love you." :')
hihellohowdoyoudo
It's scary to think what your kid will say if you're wrong! So...it's easier to make them come out with it.
AllTheTurtles
Since a lot of people have asked about me letting them know how it goes, I will tell you the follow up post will probably be next weekend(1)
AllTheTurtles
I am telling my friend tonight, my roommate tomorrow, some other friends at college during the week, and my family next weekend when i (2)
BonzuPippinpaddleOppsokopolis
ALSO WATCH THIS FOR ENCOURAGMENT/HELP http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5iC742nvMhc
AllTheTurtles
go home to visit. That way I don't need to make multiple posts bothering people with my drama. Haha. (selfie and pet pics may be included)
BonzuPippinpaddleOppsokopolis
DUDE YOU GOT THIS!! YOU FEEL MUCH BETTER AFTER!! I TOLD ALL MY SISTERS AND THEY JUST CIRED AND HUGGED ME TELLING ME HOW MUCH THE LOVE ME :D
mariemcd
By the time you get ot your parents next weekend, someone will already let them know. Let them know earlier from you. Good luck- a Grandma
Ehehebottom
Good luck OP! Tell us about their reaction
platinumlyon
I hope it goes well for you OP
WOOPWOOPthatsthesoundofthepolice
odds are someone knows. sometimes they just know.
ironwolf6896
Seems parents can see it coming a mile away sometimes.
AllTheTurtles
If anyone does, it would be my mom.. who once said "I don't see you ever getting married" Because I never date anyone... heh
TrixiHobbitz
Apparently I was the last to know in my family. My mom's side at least. Feel free to message if you want anyone to talk to.
beezelbubbles
We all knew well before a very religious friend of ours realized it himself. It was adorable.
RoxieRevolver
Good luck OP!!!! It may be difficult at first, but it will feel a lot better to let your true feelings out, no matter what people say you(1)
RoxieRevolver
are still you, and no one can change that :) Message me if you need a friend, I'm here <3 (2)
atleasteight
best of luck OP!! From experience I can't begin to describe how great it feels to have that pressure off your back.
AssafMedickswecksler
your family will love you for who you are, it should not matter if you're gay, straight or a parrot. 1/2
AssafMedickswecksler
it will take them time to cope, but they will come around and support you, even if it will be a rough start.
bbbslayer
I came out to my parents about being a rapist and they weren't accepting AT ALL. They even called the cops! (This is a joke, don't be dumb.)
NewCreatures
My parents love their parrot and refer to him as my "brother". They have only had him for a few months, but they are obsessed with him.
emmylou1985
Tell that to my parents. Told them I was a parrot, instantly disowned.
baronridiculous
Then your sister started dating white guys, and your dad was like "Why does everyone around here suddenly want a cracker?"
shadowfallen
I laughed :)
alansugar
nice for ya mate!
CrispSandwiches
What kind of sick person are you?! Prejudiced against parrots is no laughing matter.
GlobaldyneInc
From personal experience I thought my father would be the worst about it, however when I finally came out to him, his only response was (1/2
rexetimperator
Same here. I thought my dad would flip out, but he took it fine and if anyone questions it, tells them where to get off!
ironwolf6896
My boyfriends dad, who is a manly man, just said "youre my only son, and i love you no matter what."
HylianOak
This, 1000 times this.
banz111
Despite all the horror stories out there, it often plays out worse in your mind than reality. Coming out is liberating.
banz111
...and you should never deny yourself the opportunity to be true to yourself. Never. Absolutely no one in the world is worth doing that for.
Somefagfromcanada
This. People will surprise you. My 85 y/o grandmother sent me a note that made me cry when she couldn't make my wedding.
Somefagfromcanada
She was the one person I never really told because I was afraid of the generational gap.
TrixiHobbitz
My grandma and I make jokes all the time. She has been one of my biggest supporters.
GlobaldyneInc
(2/2) "If anyone gives you shit for it
GlobaldyneInc
(goddammit I hit enter) "You tell me who they are, and I'll fix the problem" He never once questioned my partner, and accepted him wholy
FrankReshman
"Holey" I'm sorry, but i had to xD
overfedlonghairedleapinggnome
Can't tell if you're being sarcastic. It's "Wholly."
loxus
It was a gay joke...
FrankReshman
His boyfriend's gay. The joke has to do with his pooper.
nuclearwaffle121
I think you mean "wholly".
loxus
it was a gay joke...
FrankReshman
His boyfriend's gay. The joke has to do with his pooper.
AllTheTurtles
Thanks so much for sharing that with me. That helps a ton. I am still scared, but yea, it helped :)
YouKnowWhatMrBag
Tbh even if his reaction is less than ideal it doesn't mean he won't come around. My dad had a difficult time with my brother coming out 1/2
YouKnowWhatMrBag
But last year he proudly sat and watched my brother get married to the love of his life and couldn't be happier for them. Good luck :) 2/2
daegon789
(1/2) I say screw that. If I have a son or daughter who is gay once I meet their partner I will look them straight in the eye and tell them
NewCreatures
Tell them?! Tell them what?!?! Ahhh cliff hanger.
daegon789
Look in my replies you should see it there.
daegon789
(2/2) "If you break his/her heart, I am going to break you. Do I make myself clear?"
TrixiHobbitz
(stone-faced) Yes, sir!
SunPatch
My husband has big plans to reenact the scene from Bad Boys 2 with his best friend for my daughters first date "You ever been with a man...
AllTheTurtles
That.. That is actually really sweet. :)
esclavamente
I plussed one cuz I hate it when I hit enter, too. Thanks for sharing your story and making me smile.
AllTheTurtles
Thank you everyone! Holy hell, I posted this at such a strange hour, didn't think i would get more than ten replies. Y'all are the best. :)
JumpingBalogna
You can do it OP! Dont doubt yourself! You are not living life unless you're living it being who you truly are.
kiako
Good luck OP! I hope all goes well! We are cheering you on! <3
CrispSandwiches
Good luck OP. Don't let anyone stop you from being who you truly are, and I'm sure all the turtles feel the same way. <3
momantra
We believe in you, OP. Good luck!
ThisNameIsMaybeTaken
http://static4.fjcdn.com/comments/3082291+_702b4ad4a03acdc8a87f9f79f59c7977.jpg
filltininwithwords
I know you're gay! You're shit at secrets. But seriously, best of luck.
kalitheclown
no matter how it goes, you know that there are more people than not in the world that will love the crap outta you no matter what you are
downofathistle
If they don't accept who you are, they don't deserve to be in your life. <3 My heart is with ya, brother.
Tankdoggy
I never post replies, but as a gay married guy, if you need anything, let me know.
valerium
I think I can talk on behalf of everybody here when I'm saying:
kosmoshot
Especially if you give them an orange peanute :)
valerium
"An orange peanut? For me?"
wifeaggro
*hugs* *hugs again*
quantacostacerveza
You go girl!
TrixiHobbitz
You go, Glen Coco!
anser11
we're waiting for good news
AsAnAmerican
Choo Choo motherfucker
hipbonejars
The first person I told just laughed at me. You'll be fine
TrixiHobbitz
I got several simultaneous "Called it!"
Jenova26
This made me laugh far too hard. I was definitely "that guy" for a few of my buddies who came out
TrixiHobbitz
After the last of my friends and family were confirmed all I could think was I was the LAST person to know
TrixiHobbitz
(2) just like...Damn! I wish someone had told me! This was the source of many a panic attack for me and you already knew?! Fuck!
TheFrenchAvenger
Best of luck OP! And even if your dad doesn't react in the most supportive way, we're all here for you with our imgurian hugsy hugs!
totallyawesomesweetalabamaliquidsnake
Welcome to the family. :) We're happy to have you.
pacey5714
OP, if you would like to talk to someone about coming out from someone who has come out, feel free to contact me if you need to
legilimens
hugs and love to you, darling! you can do it :)
metztlix
Hope all goes well for you! :)
Huckingfell
Good luck! I am sending you all the internet hugs I can!
booshy992
Good luck, OP! No matter their initial reactions, they love you and that's all that matters. :) Keep me posted on how everything turns out!
Momof2needsabreak
Please let us know how it all turns out! We're all here for you- Imgur family unite!
mungbean
wishing you the best of luck, OP!
BigJu
I'm sure your friends will react quite good at this revelation. Hence, they are friends!
opad
Good Luck. Remember it might take time with some people to get used to the idea. That isn't on you, give them time and many will surprise U
LordEnglish
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E-WHW-QNswE
AllTheTurtles
Bahahahaha thanks. xD
ireadthenewstodayohboy
I really hope the reception this post has got is indicative of how your friends and family react. I've been following this all day (1/2)...
ireadthenewstodayohboy
(2/2) and am really routing for you.
DapperPirate
We really like gays.
xenathewarriorprincesswashot
Best of luck mate! Can't imagine what you are going thru, but stay strong! :) your friendly random imgur lurker
WOOPWOOPthatsthesoundofthepolice
just checking back in to see if all went well.
AllTheTurtles
Everything went well with my friend! But I have yet to talk to my dad or mom. I will see them Thursday/Friday. I will update everyone after!
CannabalisticSpaceRapArtist
I hope your life is turning out for the better. Enjoy as much as you can.
src70
Your friends and family will love you no matter what your sexuality is. We all love you! Let us(/me) know how it goes!
CatsPitBullsAndBooksOhMy
Hey! What happened! Is everything alright? We love you!
AllTheTurtles
Everything went well with my friend! But I have yet to talk to my dad or mom. I will see them Thursday/Friday. I will update everyone after!
CatsPitBullsAndBooksOhMy
Oh that's great! Best of luck! :)